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my bf turns me off
The guy that I'm seeing is a real pig. He has a beer guy because he'll go out drinking all the time with his friends and down 12 beers. He farts all the time and has bad breath and body odor. He has red veigns on his nose from all his drinking. Also he dresses like he's thin, he'll wear tight jeans and t shirts but it looks ridicuous because he's about 30 pounds overweight.
It's really hard for me to get turned on by him. It's not just the way he looks sometimes he can be a real jerk. The last straw was when I phoned him on his cell on he told me to only phone him if it was after 6.
I want to dump him but I don't know how to go about it. Should I tell him that his appearance turns me off or would that be too mean?
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You could go with the
It's not you, it's me
and in all technicality you're not lying.
It's not him. it's your interpretation of him
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Well, if you really REALLY don't like him, it doesn't matter how you dump him. Tell him that you think he is a pig and you don't think you could go out w/ someone w/ that kind of behavior.
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Why would you want to be nice?
It isn't just his body that turns you off. It is the entire personality and priorities that he has. For example, I imagine you consider bathing and being sober important things in your life. Well, he clearly doesn't!
Tell him you are annoyed and disgusted with the way he spends his time and the way he has decided to look. You don't like it so you are leaving. That is plenty good enough.
If you respect his decisions and just happen to disagree with some of his choices I can see trying to be nice. But if you think he is being a pig, go ahead and tell him so. It might be the nicest thing you can do for him.
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it seems like its not only his appearance that turns you off, but his personality and his lifestyle
just tell him how you feel
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I wouldn't be as personal as to say that he was ugly. But, break it to him gently. Say that you're not ready for this type of commitment, you need space and live like a free human being!
Best of luck, I know it's not easy!
x Steph x
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Eewwyy what did you ever find in this guy in the first place.. Damn he sounds like really NASTY!
I`d tell him he don`t turn you on.. And i don`t think thats mean maybe because i`m a bitch haha.. But he should get the hint after that.. And no female deserves a guy like that go find you something better.. ♥ Dez
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If i were you, i wouldnt tell him all his bad points, it's cruel and unnessesary.
Just tell him that your feelings for him have changed and you think it would be best if you broke up before you start to hate eachother.
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Just tell him that bestiality isn't working out for you and you have figured out that dating pigs just isn't kosher (ha! ha!). You would like to try dating a human male. That rules him out, so let him know that his fat, smelly, gaseous, beer guzzling self doesn't have to worry about his phone ringing before 6 anymore. In his case, I think he is de-evolving. Enough reason alone to dump him.
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Hi There,
Well there are a few options you could chooses from.
Face to Face
Upside: Shows respect, honesty, understanding. Good chance of staying friends, too.
Downside:Depending on the dumpee, you may be faced with tears or tantrums. They also might try and change your mind.
Over the phone
Upside: If you're lucky, you'll get the answer machine. No chance of being physically assaulted. You also won't have to see the sad, sad look in their eyes as you break the news.
Downside: If you were relying on the answer machine, there's always the chance they may pick up before you've finished. Also the problem of them shouting or weeping down the line.
By post
Upside: No chance of fluffing your words, or losing your bottle.
Downside: Letter can be shown to friends and used as evidence against you. Lengthens the whole process as you wait for them to receive your message.
By email
Upside: It's swift and sure, and there's no room for misinterpretation.
Downside: It's as cold and heartless as the technology itself. Also risk getting into an email dialogue about the whole thing.
By friend
Upside: All you have to do is relax and wait for your mate to deliver the news
Downside: You'll be classed as a coward until the day you die. Also could backfire if that so-called-friend of yours takes advantage of the situation. A sympathetic hug can lead to anything.
By ignoring the person altogether
Upside: Involves least amount of effort. Just a question of holding your nerve.
Downside: Again, you'll be labelled a coward. Creates most amount of grief and can go on for a long, long time. Just think how you would feel in their shoes.
By getting off with someone else
Upside: Sends out clear message.
Downside: There goes your credibility. You're risking a socially-humiliating situation and serious retribution from the ex.
So there are a few you could choose from so have a think and be brave
Goodluck
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Yea its not the same as when you met him so just tell him you dont feel the same anymore and be off. I just got dumpped a week ago because I became too sweet of a person lol. So thats a change and she just left me and thats all you have to do. Good luck and someday you will find a better man. Lots out there and im sure some are right for you.
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Hiya,
It doesn't sound like it just his appearance that bugs you. It sounds like everything about him irritates you.
I would get out of there! You don't have to give him a reason for wanting to end it, just explain that you don't feel the same about him anymore and don't want to continue seeing him anymore.
Then get yourself out there and find a bloke who does treat you right and looks good with it!!
Good Luck!
Mel xx
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oh wow. Its not just his appearance its his whole lifestyle isn't it?
Sounds to me like you're fed up with the whole thing and I can't say I blame you any. I think I would just tell him it isn't working out for you.
If that doesn't satisfy him then go ahead and start listing why. It might hurt his feelings but you need to be honest about it.
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