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Getting stalked
So today I got this message from some random person. I called that number and I found out it was an adult. He started asking me for personal information and I told him fake stuff like my names this and that. Then he started saying I want to start a realationship with you and I just went crazy. I messaged him ssome really rude messages because I want them to leave me alone SO BADLY!!! It really pisses me off to know that I haave stalkers that might.. Who knows what???
Also, I think I know who those guys are. I have a guitar teacher and hes perverted and he loves me. (eew... hes 20 years older then me.)
So I think he gave my number to his friends.. UGh.. What jerks.. Any ideas on how to stop this?? I cant ignore them because they keep on messaging me. I told them that I will call the police if they don't shut up.
Oh and by the way I live in Indonesia where it's really dangerous to just walk outside.
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First of all you shouldn't talk to them, don't say anything at all back to them even if it isn't the like correct information. Stalkers aren't stupid they can track the number to where you live, and then who knows what..its scary. You need to ignore them and call the police and tell them your problem and that you really think they are going to hurt you. This is serious, you should tell the police and your parents...
I've been stalked before and its not like this but this is how it started, and I did the right thing, i called the police and they tracked the number and it turns out he hadn't register when he moved(and you have to if you are a sex offender) so he went to jail for life after his 9th sexual harassament incident. so youi never know...but tell someone
hope i could help at all.
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okay well you definetly cant ignroe them youre right about that. you have to talk to someone though. maybe try a parent or an adult you trust. they can help you through it. it sounds scary and you shouldnt have to deal with this all alone. good luck sweetie! <3
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I'm sorry, that must be very scary! But the right thing to do here is to tell the police, even if it's just prank calling, it's scary and dangerous. Please notify the police and let me know how it turns out!!
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You shouldn't even be threatening them about calling the police. You should have already done it by now! Do you know how serious this could become? You need to tell the police what's going on and get them put behind bars. If not bars, at least charged for harassment ( so then maybe the'll get scared and back off ) and have a restraining order put against them. The quicker, the better. Immediatley tell your parents what's going onand have them call the police. And report ALL of them. Not just the guitar teacher. Him and his perverted friends. =/ I hope I helped.
Love,
MELii
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i`ve had this problem. i told my mom. && she called the cops right then. they caught him. && he is in a bunch of trouble.*
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call the police, this is a serious matter!!!!!!!!!!!
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U HAVE TO TELL YOUR PARENTS!! Telll them everything they said...thats exactly what happened to me except it was with my guest book in my buddy pro. So...Tell your parents immedietly! I hope my advice helped!
xoxox
XSmartieX
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umm tell a parent and call the police and always stay with an adult untill they're caught
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Tell your parents/guardians or someone you trust. If it DOES get really bad, DO tell the police, these people can be locked up for harrassment you know. Next time they text/ring, just say "Thanks for calling/texting, now the police can track you down much more easily!". Scare them!
Best of luck and don't worry too much! :)
x Steph x
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Hi There,
Not all stalkers physically stake out their victims, looking shifty and vaguely unhinged. Any form of persistent harassment can bring fear into your life, from phone calls to unwanted visits and letters. Often the stalker can be someone you know, such as an ex lover or co-worker. They may be focused on a particular aspect of your life, but unaware that their behaviour is a threat to you.
Even so, you have every right to protect yourself and seek help in order to feel safe from harm. Here's how:
Get in touch with your local police: Don't worry if there isn't much to report - so long as you feel you're personal safety is at risk then your complaint will be taken seriously - and the sooner you speak up the easier it'll be for the cops to start building a case.
Start a diary, and record every incident in detail. Also think in terms of evidence, and be sure to get hold of anything that may prove you're being stalked - an answer machine tape with their voice on it, letters they may have sent, even video footage if you can - just don't put yourself in danger to collect it.
Inform friends, family and neighbours of the situation, so they can keep an eye out for you.
Check your home security. Be sure that every door and window in your place has locks, and all keys are accounted for.
Reconsider your daily routines: Try to vary your movements. The less predictable you are the harder it is for anyone to track you down.
Avoid being alone: You'll feel less vulnerable in company, while limiting the opportunity for weird and creepy people to make advances.
Stalker tactics
There are many complex reasons why someone becomes drawn to stalking. Every situation is unique, but whatever motives your personal-botherer may have, aim to keep all contact to a minimum. Any form of communication risks fuelling their conviction that their attention is justified. Even attempting to reason with them could make things worse, which is why the most effective thing you can do is notify the police and let them handle it. If at any time you think you're being followed, head for a public place immediately and call the police. You won't be wasting their time, even if it turns out to be a false alarm.
If you pick up a creepy call, try not to sound startled or alarmed. Simply put the receiver to one side, leave it like that for a couple of minutes before replacing it - that way the caller gets a taste of his/her own medicine without any encouragement from you.
Whether you're receiving threatening mail using letters cut from newspaper headlines, or fabulous gifts in a bid to buy your love, avoid the temptation to return to sender and hope that'll learn 'em. Instead, keep any correspondence/presents, and try not to handle too much as it could be useful as evidence.
Takecare
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Hey there,
What a nightmare!
The first thing I would do is tell my parents. They can then contact the police and your mobile phone service provider who can find out who these people are.
am not sure of the laglities of it but over here if you recieve 3 threatening/obscene messages then you can press charges.
I would also try and get a new guitar teacher, cos even if these messages are nothing to do with him he doesn't sound like the sort of person that should be teaching children!
Take care and I hope it all works out!
MEl xx
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Tell your parents. I am not sure what the laws are in Indonesia. Here the police could be called too because it is against the law. :)
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Talk to your parents about it and the principal. Then if it gets worse tell the police and they will have u call and listen in to catch this guy.
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change phone numbers. switch guitar teacher. tell your parents. make sure you dont go outside alone. learn self defense karate. have pepper spray with you. if they call you again, call the police on them. Let them know that you're serious.
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