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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
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i missed my periods it was supposed to start on 2nd but today i saw very few spots of blood after the intercourse but the periods dint start please suggest me what action should i take.
Given all the festivities of the holidays it is quite possible you could have thrown your cycle of, not uncommon no matter how regular your period is. Give yourself a few days before you start to worry.
Do you guys have any advice for a newcomer on the site? Like how to rate, how to give good advice. I've already answered a few on here but I'm worried that my advice might be bad.
Denabella
(PS. I added my username for a reason so that you guys can give me a nice feedback and fully informed advice)
I took a look at your site and I would say so far so good.
Giving advice is a learned experience which comes mostly through our own experiences. You said in your column that you wish to give advice to teenagers as you are one yourself. This is a good starting place as you are giving advice based on your own life experience.
As you get more comfortable giving advice you may want to venture further a field. Have you ever heard the expression that someone can't see the forest for the trees. What it means is they are too close to the problem to see the solution. We get a lot of these questions in the form of; "How do I find?" If you are good at doing research or using search engines then you may want to answer some of these questions.
We also see a lot of questions asking for help with what looks like homework questions. Most of us will not answer these questions. Some may steer them to where they can find the answer if it looks like it may require research to answer the question. Use your own good judgement with these questions.
Most of all as you answer more question your confidence will grow.
So, I went to a small house party about two months ago. It was fun, and I got wasted. Like, pretty bad. The next morning I vomited about five times and felt terrible until late into the afternoon. That was the first time I had gotten that bad. Though it was really fun to be drunk, my body now cannot do alcohol. Any time I try to drink, I feel nauseous just from the taste. Now that I know my limits, I'd like to drink again, but I can't! How do I get over this? It seems like classical conditioning, but the extinction process is taking way too long. Some help would be appreciated!
It would really help to know your age on this question. I'm not asking to know if you are of legal drinking age or not.
Sometimes what you are experiencing is the bodies own protection mechanism kicking in. Another advisor called aversion, which it is. There are real reasons for this mechanism to occur and in many cases it is age triggered. Your body just may not and may never be able to properly tolerate alcohol. Looking at the big picture not tolerating alcohol is really not all that bad. There are plenty of non alcoholic beverages on the market that will give you the taste of the alcoholic beverage without the reaction.
You didn't mention if you are or were on any type of medications. Medications for ADHD, or depression do not mix well with alcohol. Which would cause some of the reaction you had. Hence the aversion reaction you are getting.
If you are not on medication and you are young then it is possible your body may learn to tolerate alcohol. To do that moderation is the by-word. You could try wines which have lover alcohol content than beer or whiskey and see how your body handles that. They also have less of an alcohol smell to them.
You could also talk with your doctor if you get violently ill from, as you say, even a taste. But beware if you are under 21 your doctor may not be very sympathetic.
Okay, so I need advice on how to deal with my parents' extreame aggression.
Here is the thing, I am not a perfect child, and I know I can do wrong sometimes, but sometimes my parents get mad for littlest things. Their way of dealing with situations is not pleasent. Whether I deserve the trouble or not, this is usually their dealing process.
1. Extreamly loud shouting (not bothering to listen to explanation)
2.Hit me/Throw stuff at me (they have punched me, pulled my hair, whipped me with a cord, slapped me, etc. I wouldn't considerit child ABUSE, but rather excessive force.)
3.Threatening to kick me out/police station (I've been taken their, and kicked out of the house on a cold night)
What should I do? I don't know how to deal with their anger rages, and all the hurt...
Everything you listed is a form of child abuse:
1. Excessive yelling - Mental Abuse
2. Hitting you,throwing stuff at you, punching, pulling hair, whipped with an object, slapping about the face or body. - Child Abuse.
Parents are allowed to discipline a child within reason and would include a hand spanking within reason.
3. Putting you out of the house. Child abuse also Mental abuse.
I know you love your parents and in their own way they you. They may be trying something called tuff love as a form of discipline. Problem with tuff love is it is abusive which makes it illegal.
What can you do to protect yourself. You can call the hotline the other advicer gave you; 1-800-4-a-child. Or in the morning when you go to school you can talk to a trusted teacher or school principal.
If as you have said you are being slapped or punched these have left bruises the teachers may have noticed and wondered about. Your telling them about what is going on at home and how you came by these bruises will help then get you the help and protection you need.
Every state has child protection laws. By telling a teacher they are required by those laws to make the proper notifications that activate the protections within those laws to protect you from abuse.
You can do both. You can call the child protective hotline today and in the morning talk with a teacher and or your school principal.
If as you say you are not the perfect child, you also do not deserve to be abused as you have told us either. So make the call or tell a teacher.
If dad smacks you around before you can do either call 911. Scream help into the phone. Dad may tell them nothing is wrong but they will have to send someone anyway to check. This will include demanding to see who dialed the phone.
NOTE: This seriously is NOT my personal question.
One of my closest friend was talking to me about a problem she has been having lately. She admits she is bisexual (attracted to both sexes) but says she does not want to be that way. She knows her parents won't accept the fact that she is bisexual, as it is FORBIDDEN in her house. She wishes she could just come out and expose the real her, but fears judgement, and her parents. Note: She has had a secret relationship with a girl. What advice should I give her? Should she tell her parents? Expose the real her? Please, I really don't know what to tell her.
This is a really hard question to give advice on. One thing that would help to know would be her age.
First the age question. If your friend is between the ages of 14 and 18 I'm more inclined to believe she is more into experimenting with her sexuality than being truly bisexual. During these years, puberty and the hormones released play tricks on a persons sexual make up. This can cause some confusion in just who we are sexually. This does not mean that a 16 year old does not know who they are sexually. It just means they are more the exception than the rule.
If your friend is 18 or older then we are looking at a different view. At this age she is more mature and possible more sexually aware and experienced. She is more confident in her sexuality. Given these facts it is very possible that she now knows who she is sexually.
In college I knew girls that you could almost label lesbians they were so into same sex, sex. Once we all graduated these girls went straight heterosexual. The reason; lesbian sex was more available, safer and relieved the sexual tension the were under. How would you or would you place a label on them.
I don't like labels to begin with. Once you pin a label on something or someone it is extremely hard to remove. I also believe we are also entitled to our own sexuality and there is nothing wrong with being gay or bisexual as long as whatever you do sexually is consenting between you and your partner.
So to answer your question: My advice is if you friend is between 14 and 18 she should not tell anyone. Not because there is anything wrong with being bisexual but because others, mainly kids at school will have problems with her being bisexual and she does not need that problem. There are times when labeling is more of a problem than it is a solution and this is one of them.
As for telling her parents? I would say given her parents feelings towards bisexual-ism she should not tell them. They really have no need to know right now while she is living under their roof. I realize this may be a bit of a problem for her now, though telling them may be a bigger problem. Frankly her sexuality is her business and not her parents. They have no need to know.
When she moves out of her parents home if she feels the need to tell them that would be the appropriate time to do so.
I get horny a lot and nothing can help my needs...there's guys I like and I know they like me or are attracted to me but they won't make a move they stay as friends even though they're single. I know I haven't had a boyfriend before but I do know how to treat a guy right (sexually and non sexually). What do I do?
P.s. I don't want to make the first move.
The best advice given so far is that of Erinn_the_bamf. You are way to young to be thinking of having sex and certainly not mature enough to handle the adult consequences of a sex life.
But let me focus on the teenage consequences of having sex. The one thing that has not changed in the decades since I was a teenager is that boys cannot keep a secret. If a boy has sex with their girlfriend they are going to tell someone. Usually their best friend. That friend tells someone else who tells someone else. Before you know it you have a reputation around school for being easy. This is not a reputation you want as it is one that is extremely hard to live down.
I'm not saying this may happen I'm saying it very well will happen. It happened when I was in school and we didn't have the social medias we have today. You can become extremely popular for all the wrong reasons. Not only in your school but in other schools as well.
My advice for now is to keep your clothes on and your hands to yourself. Stick to kissing boys for the next few years and keep that to boys you really like.
Im 14 and I was raped one day ago and while being raped I started to bleed heavily and the boy who did it didn't wear a condom. So I would like to what I should do? And what are the risk factors of me contracting an std and of getting pregnant? What could the bleeding mean?
You have very valid concerns but first things first. You are not responsible for being raped. Even if you know the boy if you said stop and he did not stop he raped you. This is all on him.
You need to report this rape to the police, even if you know the boy. Yes he will be in trouble. But he deserves to be in trouble. If he raped you has he raped others? Will he rape again?
He can say whatever he wants to say. If you did not consent to having sex and by law you are not old enough to consent, that is rape. You need to tell your parents and together you need to go to a hospital emergency room. You need to bring the clothes you were wearing and as well as the panties you were wearing, have mom put them in a plastic bag, and take them all with you to the Emergency room. The doctors there will examine you, treat you for possible pregnancy and test and treat you for STD exposure. They will by law also notify the police.
After reporting the rape and being seen at the hospital there is a group I would like you to call. The organization is called RAINN. This stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They can help you with finding people in your home town to help you deal with what happened. This is not something you can just push to the back of your mind and hope it goes away. If treated properly with the help of professionals you can overcome this and go on to lead a normal life and have a normal sex life later on when you are ready. Their number is 1-800-656-HOPE. Please call them they can and they will help you.
Please, please remember you have done nothing wrong. Expect mom and dad to get upset when you tell them and you need to tell them. Their anger is not and will not be directed at you. That I can assure you of so do not misinterpret it. It may sound that way but it is really their attempt to find out the who, what and where so they can take the appropriate action against the boy who violate their daughter. Try not to get upset and start screaming at them for they are as upset and scared as you are.
Write me back in a private message if I can be of any more help and to let me know you are doing okay.
Hi!
I need help. I have been told that the sooner to you submit your FAFSA the more money you get. Is it possible to submit your FAFSA with taxes from last year and then go back when you file taxes this year and edit the FAFSA?
Someone told me it was possible, but I just wanted to make sure.
Thank you!
The following was taken directly from the instruction sheet for filling out the FAFSA form. You can file now and then update your form with completed tax information after your parents have filed their tax returns. Instructions for doing so are on the FAFSA application instructions
"If you (or your parents) need to file a 2011 income tax return with the Internal Revenue Service (IRS), we recommend that you complete it before filling out the FAFSA. If you have not completed your return yet, you can submit your FAFSA now using estimated tax information, and then correct that information after you file your return.
The easiest way to complete or correct your FAFSA with accurate tax information is by using the IRS Data Retrieval Tool through www.fafsa.gov. In a few simple steps, you may be able to view your tax return information and transfer it directly into your FAFSA."
My brother hits me and all kinds of stuff I still feel it but I'm feeling numb in my heart my mom does nothing about it and my brother always denies it. With feeling numb is that I don't feel a lot anymore and I have thought about suicide since I was 9 ans I still think about it even thoufh I'm 12 now. Me and my brother got into it last night and he really hurt me even though I put him on his butt but he still hits, kicks, punches,bites, and smacks me I need help. Any advice?
It would help to know how old you brother is. If he is much older than you then this is abuse that requires intervention from agencies outside your home. Since you say mom is unwilling to put a stop to it.
The reason I say much older than you is that at some point it this be looked at as normal sibling rivalry. Something mom should stop or at the very least attempt to control and protect you from. When does it turn from sibling rivalry to abuse is a question I cannot answer; as it is subjective rather than objective.
If mom is not willing or unable to protect you; then when school opens tomorrow go to a trusted teacher or your school principal and explain to them just as you have explained to us. Tell them about your suicidal thoughts.
Your teacher or principal will know what they need to do and by law must take action to protect you and keep you safe.
Do not follow the advice of Retry32 and get or use any type of weapon. This will only get you in trouble. Follow the advice of myself and the others and tell another trusted adult or school official how you feel and what your home life is like. This is where you will find the help you need.
17/f
So I know you give good advice about this kind of stuff. Me and my boyfriend want to have sex but I want to be prepared. We both decided we won't do it until I can get on birth control. He'll also use condoms of course.
Anyways, my parents wouldn't go for this at all. I live in California and I don't know if I can get birth control for free or if my parents will find out about it somehow or how much it'll cost if I do go.
I looked online at planned parenthood but it's not close by. I'm not sure if regular doctors office or a hospital would do the same?
Thanks!
Thank you for the compliment.
Lets start with your concerns about your parents: Their is a Federal Law called HIPPA which stands for: Health Information Personal Privacy Act. Under this law since you are over the age of 14 you have medical privacy. This means you can visit a doctor in complete privacy confident in the fact that anything discussed with the doctor; any examination and treatment given, remains completely confidential.
Only you can release your medical information and this must be in writing. If anyone in the employ of your doctor were to release information about your medical treatment they are subject to a $10,000 fine and 5 years in prison. This includes the doctor. This also includes fire fighters and paramedics who might treat you in the event of an accident. You might want to carry a note in your purse allowing for the contact of your parents in the event of an accident.
To the best of my knowledge birth control is not distributed free by your regular doctor but is covered under most medical insurance plans. Of course any prescription copay would apply.
You are 17 and in most states you are above the age of consent. Meaning you can consent to have sex as long as your boyfriend is not more than 3 to 4 years older than you. No one will get into trouble with the law. You should look this fact up on line to make sure as the age of consent varies from state to state.
Should mom find your birth control pills, if that is the method you and your doctor decide upon. Just tell mom your doctor gave them to you to regulate your period as this is the primary method to do that.
Even though you may be covered under your parents health insurance, with the exception of that which may require parental permission, such as certain operations, you now control your medical being, not your parents. Mom cannot insist on being in the exam room with you if you do not want her there. The doctor must abide by your instructions in those instances and keep your medical confidentiality.
So, if you are covered under your parents insurance go see your GYN. Get a script for birth control and have it filled at your local pharmacy as you would any other prescription.
Me and my partner have a very complicated relationship,we are constantly quarreling bc we don't agree in almost anything,but we work things out with sex,I know this is not healthy,though,but it has become our perfect remedy,we just forget about everything,don't talk at all and just have sex,but the next day things usually are the same,what could I do about this??thanks!!
I have to say that a relationship built entirely on sex is a relationship built on quicksand. At some point the uniqueness of the sex will dull and even the sex will become routine. Then you have nothing in common.
If sex is the only thing the two of you can have together without fighting; my advice is for the two of you to part company.
Probably not the answer you want to hear but I believe it is the correct answer. Beauty and sexual attraction is what may be needed to start a relationship. For a relationship to grow and be nurtured their must be more. Common interest or activities. The desire to learn about similar things are what is needed to develop a healthy relationship. I don't see this in your writing to us.
Which is the least awkward way of telling your protective parents you would like to date. Im a 14 yr old girl btw.
To start with you are going about this in the right way. By asking your parents rather than trying to do this behind their back you are showing them your maturity. Even over protective parents are going to take note of this.
To continue along the mature path means you must remain calm when talking to them about this subject. I have to tell you that as a parent myself I am somewhat opposed to a 14 year old dating in the true sense of the word. Your maturity shown in how you asked and worded your question is why I have chosen to help you.
To help yourself remain calm, before you sit down to talk to mom and dad. Sit down with pen and paper an make a list of talking points. This is a salesman's trick we use when talking to a customer who is good at getting you off subject.
The first thing I think, given my belief in dating age, that I would want to hear is what your definition of dating is. Is it group mall type dating, double dating, or individual dating. Next what places do you think you and the boy you are interested in might go on a date.
Next I would want to hear about anyone in particular that you might be interested in. His name, how old he is, what school does he go to as well as anything else you know about him.
This next thing and this is the clincher, as the saying goes you save the best for last. You promise that anyone you date will have to come to the house to meet them when picking you up for a date. I would say this point is very important to any parent but most important to an overprotective parent.
From there you promise to honor any curfew they set. To call home if for some reason your going to be late and explain why. To let them know where you will be and that if plans change you will call first.
If you are allowed to date you have to honor these commitments. For two reasons. First and foremost it is the right thing to do. For the second; failure to honor these commitments will give your parents reason to suspend your dating privileges. Once suspended it will be very hard to regain them.
As I said you sound like a very mature 14 year old. I don't see the need to lecture you on commitment or being respectful of your parents. I see respect in your question and I see the maturity needed to honor your commitments. Just remember not to get so involved as to lose track of time.
A couple or few months ago, I woke up one day and the hearing in my left ear was weird. I noticed that my left ear heard things in a lower pitch, causing my hearing to be a little dissonant. I went to the doctor, but my doctor said my ear didn't have any earwax buildup. I also took a hearing test and the doctor said there were no problems, except for the fact that my left ear heard things in a lower pitch. My doctor said to wait a week, and if things didn't get better, he would send me somewhere else. After a week, my hearing in my left ear went back to normal. A couple of days ago, the hearing in my left hear became funky again! The best I can describe it is that I'm hearing things at a lower pitch again. I don't think it's a full octave lower, but probably a half step lower. I was testing my hearing by listening to music with some ear buds, and I noticed that the hearing in my left ear is a little softer than the right. I also noticed that some sounds/music/taking sounds robotic, like having the effect of speaking into a fan. For example, the person singing sounds MOSTLY normal (depends, some may sound robotic), but if the song has piano in its instrumental, the piano sounds robotic/distorted. I don't know if this helps, but I did another test by pushing the right and left earbuds into my ear, and by doing so to the left one, the music is mostly muffled. If I switch the right earbud into my left ear and push it, the music is not muffled. I currently don't have any sensitivity to loud sounds, nor do I experience a ringing/buzzing/whistling in my left ear. I don't experience nausea or dizziness either. I am not sick either; I don't have any allergies or sinus/congestion problems. I did a lot of searching but all I could find was hearing loss and tinnitus and such. I'm a seventeen year old female if that helps. Does anyone know what is wrong with my ear, or have suggestions on what I should do? I'm really scared that this may be something serious, or that I might lose the hearing in my left ear! :\
I am not a doctor so I can't help you with why you are having a problem. What I can do is save you a trip back to your family doctor, unless you need a referral to see a specialist.
The doctor you need to see is an Eye, Ear, Nose and Throat specialist (ENT). I have had hearing test done in my family doctors office and they are not anything like the hearing test done in an ENT office. To start with they are done in a sound proof room and are much more in depth. The ENT is much better trained to examine the ear and inner ear than the family practitioner. The ENT will also, most likely, order a CT scan to look for soft tissue damage to the sinuses and inner ear. The ENT also has fiber optic cameras they can use to look at your sinuses.
As I said the ENT can do a much more thorough exam and make a more definitive evaluation of your hearing and sinuses. I just went through one and found out things I didn't know I had that my family doctor couldn't diagnose. Like a cleft palate the result of an auto accident.
My advice: Go see an ENT doctor and get a thorough exam to see if there is anything wrong with your hearing. Early detection could mean the difference with living with the condition or having it corrected.
I a few months ago started watching porn which lead to masterbating. I also have cyber sex. I have seen dicks but only through pics and a video (live and not). I have masterbated with alot o things but never had a girl or guy like have sex or finger me or eat me out or butt sex. Am i a virgin?!?
By my definition of the term virgin you are still a virgin.
The term "VIRGIN", can be interpreted in many different ways. The most strict interpretation is one that means; "pure." By pure it is meant that the virgin, generally female, is not knowledgeable at all to the world of sex. This definition has gone out the window some time ago.
The most popular definition of virgin means non-penetration of penis to vagina. So as long as you are not penetrated by a penis you will remain a virgin by most peoples definition of virgin.
The thing is that i have a boyfriend named matthew and my mom doesnt want me to but i really like him and stuff like that. me an my mother have been argueing about this for over a month now she doesnt trust me to do anything please help me what do i do to gain her trust but also have matthew as my boyfriend still.
Being someone who is old enough to probably be your grandfather. I could probably help you deal with your mother if I knew your age and the age of the boy.
There are many different reasons parents object to their children being in relationships. One of them is age and age difference. This is why I have asked you about your age and the age of the boy.
It is not always a trust issue about you especially when the YOU is the female in the relationship. You may be forgetting we were all once your age and not much has changed since we were your age. Your mom is only trying to protect you, I believe.
It gets a little complicated here and the more I know about you and your boyfriend the more I might understand why your mother is being the ways she is. If I can understand why mom is acting as she is I may be able to give you some suggestions as to helping her to see your side of the equation and coming to a workable solution.
Again I really don't think this is a trust issue on towards you. Write me a private message if you would like more help.
Am 20 yo f and the tot of marriage absolutely irritates me. When i fink about d fact dat i should be married in a few yrs it gives me the creeps. The thing is am an only child so i feel guilty cos dat means my parents wont have any grandkids....
Nothing says you have to be conventional and get married and have babies. This is your life and you must live it as it pleases you, not anyone else. There may come a time where you will change your mind. That is your prerogative; there is no law or convention that says you must marry or give your parents grandchildren. You can also have children without the convention of marriage if you are so entailed to give your parents grandchildren.
I'm big on statistics, so when news reports, report on statistical facts I usually listen. Recently I heard a report that in America conventional households are down, meaning more people are foregoing marriage and living together. Statistically more marriages are ending in divorce, over 50% according to this report.
So if this report is true then the new convention is not to marry but to live together. Which may be what you are talking about. As to whether you decide to give your parents grandchildren that is a singular decision that you alone should make. Not a reaction to begging or cajoling by them or anyone else.
Have a Happy New Year.
I'm a 14 yr old girl and the other day my dad found weed in my sisters jacket he went ballistic. He punched her several times and then choked her. All our mother did was say No, Stop,No. Like wtf is that going to do? My dad is a very big and strong man. When I do something wrong like forget to vacume my dad wraps his hands around my throat like he's about to choke me. It's been like this for me ever since I was About 5 or 6. I just can't continue to live in constant fear. The even that happened recently with my sister I just can't seem to get it out of my mind. I get drunk next day wake up have a hangover still remember. Get high still freaking remember! I just don't know what to do. Please help me
Erinn_the_bamf advice to call the suicide hot line is good information. I will add an organization called RAINN. RAINN stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They also operate a 24/7 hotline that can help you and your sister, your mother too, get away from your father and his abuse. child abuse is illegal in all 50 states and most civilized countries of the world. RAINNS hotline number is: 1-800-656-HOPE.
There is also one other thing you can do. When you return to school on Tuesday seek out a trusted teacher or your school principal. Tell them what you have told us. By law they must take action to protect you and your sister.
If something happens before you can call one of the hot lines or before you go back to school call 911. Tell the call taker what is happening in as calm a voice as possible. The calmer you are the faster help will get to you.
Don't worry about whether you will be believed. From what you have written the marks on you and your sister will tell the police all they need to know.
As for your drinking. I know why you are drinking and it is not good for someone your age to be doing so. Once you get help for the abuse you will have no reason to drink and should stop doing so. If you need help in stopping contact Alcoholics Anonymous. They have programs for teenagers as well as adults.
There is help out there for you. Hurting yourself is not the answer. Call the hot lines we have supplied. Tell you teacher or principal or call the police. These are the ways you can get help for you, your sister and your mom without hurting yourself. By doing so you will also get help for your dad.
He may not have to go to jail but he will have to stay away from you and your mom and sister until he gets help with his anger issues.
I dated this guy in primary(im now in high school) and it was a preety harsh brake up.Days after he ended it I started never coming out of my room. I still stay in my room but now i dont eat or drink and my body goes all tingley. I just need to know why it is. Can you help me???
I'll skip over the why you are feeling as you are since that is already been addressed and go straight to the tingly feeling.
I am not a doctor, none of are that I know of, so I can't be 100% sure what is causing the tingling feeling. What I do know is the body needs certain nourishment to function. Deprive the body of food and water and it is not long before certain things start to happen.
If you have truly not eaten or drank anything in the last few days the tingly feeling is a warning alarm from your body. A body can go without food longer than it can go without water as it can live of the fat the body stores. We do not have a way of storing water so about 3 days without water, not soda or coffee, the body starts to break down.
If you have gone long enough without taking in enough water the tingling you are feeling is the first signs that something is wrong. At this point am not sure you can take in enough water to replace what is missing and might need an IV replacement with balanced electrolyte.
Sounds really dangerous doesn't it, it is. Am I trying to scare you. Just a bit, for if you continue you will get much sicker and could end up in the hospital. Frankly no one is worth getting that sick over. You will meet other guys. As my mother always said; "Their are more fish in the sea, just start fishing again."
Let me tell you something about teenage boys, having been one myself some decades ago. Teenage boys are very fickle. They want what they want and if they don't get it from you they will go someplace else. If they do get it from you they are just as apt to go somewhere else in search of new adventures. What they want is sex. They are hard wired to look for sex from the time they enter puberty. Unlike girls they very much confuse lust and love.
Honestly this young boy is not worth getting so sick over. There will be other loves in your life. What I would like you to do is to start eating and drinking again. Tell mom and dad about the tingling. I believe you need to see a doctor, today even if that means going to a hospital emergency room.
If as I am guessing that the tingling is being caused because you are dehydrated if so just drinking water at home is not enough. You will need some IV fluids to rehydrate you and put your electrolytes back in balance.
In you're opinion, if a high school girl that is 17 and 5'8 weighs 160 pounds, does she need to lose weight? If so, How much weight?
Let's also say this girl doesn't workout as much as she probably should (only goes on walks and plays the wii Zumba game) ...but she eats fairly healthy and used to have an issue severely restricting her calorie intake.
What are you're thoughts?
According to the U.S. army weight chart you are at your maximum weight. This chart does not take into consideration body frame size. It only gives a spread for age and height.
The chart I prefer to use when answering these types of questions is one that uses a persons frame size as well as height:
5'8"
126-139 Small Frame
136-150 Medium Frame
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You also say you workout a lot. This is something else you need to take into consideration when gauging your weight as muscle weighs more than fat.
The best person to ask if you are over weight is your family doctor. He or she knows you the best. The doctor can measure your body fat index and make an educated decision as to whether or not you are over weight.
ive been dating the same guy for a year, i am completly in love with him! i love being with him and everything about him, so my dad got a job offer for brazil! i live in colorado and were moving around august. i told him im moving and it didnt go so well. everytime i think about leaving him i just want to break down and cry tell i cant cry anymore. im im in love with him and i dont think i can just get up and walk oit of his life like this, i dont think its fair for me or him. he was my first everything. first kiss first holding hands first sitting on lap first make out first everything i even lost my v card to him. hes told me he still wants to be with me after i move, i told him we cant see each other or anything and he said he doesnt care he wants to be with me and he would even buy a web cam to speak and just to see my face, what should i do??? im so lost!! everytime i think about leaving my heart breaks more and more
Hard to say as one would have to be there and have it happen. Because of your reason for questioning who ever is at risk needs to get test now and in six months. During that time that person needs to refrain from sex until they have a clean report from the doctor. So as not to put anyone else at risk.