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my question is about myself being raped recently
Im 14 and I was raped one day ago and while being raped I started to bleed heavily and the boy who did it didn't wear a condom. So I would like to what I should do? And what are the risk factors of me contracting an std and of getting pregnant? What could the bleeding mean?
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i think you should either call the cops or tell your parents or something but that not okay for you to get raped you should tell one of your families to take you to the doctor and tell the cops that you got raped you might get sick if you don't tell anyone.
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you definately need to tell somebody that you were raped its very important and it should be an adult your close to they can take you to a doctor to find out if your pregnant or have an std you bleed because you were a virgin and it happens to everyone when you first have sex
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You have very valid concerns but first things first. You are not responsible for being raped. Even if you know the boy if you said stop and he did not stop he raped you. This is all on him.
You need to report this rape to the police, even if you know the boy. Yes he will be in trouble. But he deserves to be in trouble. If he raped you has he raped others? Will he rape again?
He can say whatever he wants to say. If you did not consent to having sex and by law you are not old enough to consent, that is rape. You need to tell your parents and together you need to go to a hospital emergency room. You need to bring the clothes you were wearing and as well as the panties you were wearing, have mom put them in a plastic bag, and take them all with you to the Emergency room. The doctors there will examine you, treat you for possible pregnancy and test and treat you for STD exposure. They will by law also notify the police.
After reporting the rape and being seen at the hospital there is a group I would like you to call. The organization is called RAINN. This stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They can help you with finding people in your home town to help you deal with what happened. This is not something you can just push to the back of your mind and hope it goes away. If treated properly with the help of professionals you can overcome this and go on to lead a normal life and have a normal sex life later on when you are ready. Their number is 1-800-656-HOPE. Please call them they can and they will help you.
Please, please remember you have done nothing wrong. Expect mom and dad to get upset when you tell them and you need to tell them. Their anger is not and will not be directed at you. That I can assure you of so do not misinterpret it. It may sound that way but it is really their attempt to find out the who, what and where so they can take the appropriate action against the boy who violate their daughter. Try not to get upset and start screaming at them for they are as upset and scared as you are.
Write me back in a private message if I can be of any more help and to let me know you are doing okay.
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Get yourself to a hospital immediately to take a rape examination. DO NOT SHOWER. Every time you shower, more of this boy's semen will be washed away, erasing evidence. If you've already showered, make sure you don't shower again. It's important to have evidence on file so if you choose to press charges, you can refer back to the sample taken.
Speak to a healthcare provider about your fear of STDs and getting pregnant. Unfortunately, anytime sexual intercourse occurs without a condom, there is a chance the woman might be pregnant or contract an STD if the other person was infected. You might be able to take an STD test on the spot. On the other hand, you will have to wait until a week after you miss a period to take a pregnancy test.
You also need to talk to an adult you trust about what happened to you. Rape is a brutal, traumatic event, but you don't need to go through it alone. There are support groups you can join and you can always see a counselor to speak about what you may be feeling. The most important thing to remember is this is not your fault. You can get through this.
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Firstly, you need to tell your parents what happened. I know you're scared but you are not alone. Don't be afraid to tell them what happened, this was not your fault. Secondly, Do you personally know your attacker? Whether you do or not and I'm sure once you tell your parents they will take you to do this anyways but just for information I'm telling you the next step would be going to the Hospital/Doctors. It is VERY important that you go get the medical attention you need, you need to know that no one is going to judge you, yet again this is not your fault. At the hosptial they will give you a physical exam. Initially the best thing you could have done is gone straight to the hospital, not taken a shower, etc... I say this because the exam they give includes retrieveing physical evidence of your attacker from your body, and being that he didn't wear a condom they could or could have retrieved the semen and therefore have his DNA. Another thing, when you go in bring with you what you were wearing when it happened(ALL of what you wore!!!) All these things would help in the process of taking legal action against your attacker. You asked the risk factor of an STD or Pregnancy, and well there is always a risk of both of those when a condom is not involved. This is another very important reason that I urge you to go seek immediate medical attention. In some places they do have a pill women can take called, "Plan B" that if taken within a certain time frame can prevent pregnancy. Make sure you tell the doctors there was no condom, you can ask them about Plan B and see what they say. Also, I would assume they would do STD testing regardless, if that's not an routine thing they do you yourself can ask and recieve STD testing and go from there. Now as for your bleeding, bleeding heavily.. Well, If you were a virgin it could have been your "cherry" being popped, which is normal and happens. BUT.. It is also very possible that the bleeding you experienced may have been from Vaginal tearing due to the rape. Another reason to consult a doctor. I think it is very important that you recieve medical attention asap, also that you talk to somebody you trust about all of this and not keep it all inside. I hope my advice will help you. In the long run you should of course do whatever you're comfortable with I understand how scary this is, how you can feel embarassed by it all, etc.. All the above on what you should do was just my opinion on the matter what you wanna do is up to you (although regardless I believe it is very important to make a hospital visit&and talk to someone you trust preferably an adult about what has happened!). But more important than anything I want you to remember that what happened to you is NOT your fault in any way shape or form. Nobody is going to judge you in a negative light for what has happened, and I'll bet you'll have people there to help you through this. I'm so sorry this happened to you sweetie. Good luck, and know that there are people praying for you...
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