Member Since: January 2, 2012
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Last Update: January 2, 2012
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17/F
The other night I had this strange dream and I'm wondering if anybody can maybe tell me what it could mean?
Now recently I've been craving Ritas Ice Pumpkin Pie. So the other night I had a dream that school has just finished (I dropped out back in May) and I walked out and up to a friend of mine (An old best friend who I have no desire to purse more then an in-school friendship with anymore) and asked her if she would go to Ritas with me. She says yes and then she calls her mom and asks for $30 (An Incee would be a maximum of $3) We're suddenly at the bottom of an EXTREMELY steep and long dirt hill. So steep it was almost straight up. My friend gets up the hill and into her house easily, while ocassionally turning around and telling me to hurry up. But I'm still basically at the bottom of the hill because I either keep falling off, or it's just way too steep and I'm having trouble climbing it.
Then I woke up when I was a couple feet up the hill. It seems a little silly, but the dream just stuck out to me for some reason. I remember it perfectly, even after a few days. (link)
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I think it could possibly have a lot to do with you dropping out of school. Your high school friend being at the top of the hill while your stuck at the bottom could be how your thinking subconsciously about the fact she and your school mates are moving on and taking that next step in their lives and your watching them do this. see how you at the bottom her at the top could symbolize her moving forward and you feel stuck at the bottom, stuck in one place. I guess you could say both literally and metaphorically stuck in a rut ;)
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My brother hits me and all kinds of stuff I still feel it but I'm feeling numb in my heart my mom does nothing about it and my brother always denies it. With feeling numb is that I don't feel a lot anymore and I have thought about suicide since I was 9 ans I still think about it even thoufh I'm 12 now. Me and my brother got into it last night and he really hurt me even though I put him on his butt but he still hits, kicks, punches,bites, and smacks me I need help. Any advice? (link)
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If you are experienceing abusive behavior at home and your gaurdian is allowing it to happen, if what is happening at home is really bad enough to the point where at 12years old you are contemplating suicide then maybe it would be a good idea for you to tell another adult you trust (via:another family member, a teacher, your school counsler,etc..) what exactly is going on at home, and also I think you should speak to an adult you trust about how you're currently feeling emotionally. The person below me who said grab a bat... You need to NOT do that. "An eye for an eye makes the world blind"... Basically meaning fighting violence with violence is never the answer.
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Ok, so I been with my fiance for 2 years we.have a family together, he is recently divorced and now wants to start a new life, he never had.friends I didn't know of and.now wants me to except him having girlfriends cause his ex.didn't allow it. so how would you feel r do you.think its okay.for him to start.something new like this. Or guys how would you feel of your girlfriend all of a sudden wanted boyfriends. And your not even.apart of their social life. Example.facebook!
Would you feel shut out? (link)
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If you're talking friends in which are girls, then yes I believe you should. If he hasn't done anything to ruin your trust when it comes to other women I dont see a reason as to why you should condemn him from being able to have friends... until he breaks your trust I think it is more than perfectly reasonable for him to have friends, male or female. As long as it is an apporiate relationship then why not?
A man might automatically take the fact that you dont want him to have female friends as that you do not trust him, and in a relationship.. That HURTS to feel like your partner doesn't trust you and kinda lacks respect for you for thinking he'd even go there.
So yeah long answer short, Unless he has done something to make you question his motives, unless he has mishandled and broke your trust, then you really shouldn't deny him of having friends. period.
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19/f
Okay, so long story short, my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months, but we dated last year for a few month and have known each other since we were kids. He had a REALLY rough childhood and basically has been on his own since he was 12. Over the past year, it has become more and more apparent that he has serious psychological problems. His whole life, he has fought people and that combined with his good looks, it's as if he feels like people owe him something. He has cheated death several times and continues to do bad things. After we got back together, he confessed that he was addicted to crystal meth. He said he wanted me to stay but knew that I had every right to leave. I do love him and I couldn't imagine the thought of leaving him. He promised he would get help as soon as he got a new house and settled in(his job moved closer to me so he got a house about 30 min. away) Well over the past few months, he has actually gotten better and had quit but I wasn't holding my breath because I understand how addictive the drug can be. Everything seemed GREAT. He moved into his new house and I noticed those same weird actions like when he was using (not sleeping, tons of energy, bags under his eyes) He told me a couple days later that he was using again. My first problem is I'm worried that his use of dope will put me in danger (although he never brings it around me) but also because of his drug use, he is constantly depressed with himself and his actions. Although he has an amazing job and can afford drugs plus a nice house and nice truck, he is in no way happy for himself because he knows he is letting me down. Even though he truly cares about me, this drug and his past actions have torn him apart and he takes his depression out on me. Half of the time he picks at me, tells me I'm unappreciative, says I'm a spoiled brat and I don't treat him right. Which I know is completely untrue because I have stayed around when most wouldn't, despite everything he has done. The other half of the time, he apologizes for his actions, says he's sorry for not being the man I deserve. His failure causes him to be more depressed. It's a constant cycle and I feel trapped, but the moment I even contemplate leaving him, I feel horrible. And not because I feel like I HAVE to be with him. I truly WANT to. I know it's not my responsibility to help him, but if you had any ideas how to, that would be great. Also, how do I cope with this myself? Thanks. (link)
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Sure he has enough money for his nice truck, house, and drugs at the moment. But being an addict like that, unless they can get help and stay clean, its a nowhere road. Users go through ups and downs, mentally, physically, financially, you name it. He sounds like your average addict to me. Especially the him getting snappy over things you do. I absolutely believe you when you say its pretty much coming from nowhere. What do you expect from someone whose up for days? I'm sorry if what I'm gonna say isn't much help or isnt what you want to hear.. But honestly, As long as he continues using, this type of behavior is going to continue to be a typical everyday thing. Also, I can really tell that you love him and want to be with him.. However, you putting up with this type of behavior from him is you enabling him. If you want this to stop, you're going to have to eventually put your foot down. I know this would be hard for you, because you love him trust me I know.. But you just sitting by and watching him destroy his life and his health is not going to do anything at all. The sad reality of a drug addict is, if they truly are an addict in most situation the only thing they really care about is getting high. And I truly believe what people say how like, an addict will not stop doing drugs until THEY are READY to stop. Until they get that positive mind set that they are ready to better there lives, there is really nothing anyone can do. Also, depression is another average thing for an addict to experience. I know you love him, but believe me, sooner or later his useing WILL affect you.. It already is!!! You love him enough to submit yourself to his innapropraite behavior, his illegal drug use, how he treats you bad when he is useing, etc.. And are willing to let his misery make you also uphappy, BUT I'm wondering, and ask yourself this aswell, Do you think he loves you enough that if you have him an ultimatum: ("I love you more than anything, dont wanna have to do this but if you wont in my eyes this will be you ending this relationship and not me")"STOP useing, or I'm gone!!!" Do you think he would pick you? Or being able to keep getting high? It might break your heart but you may be suprised what his answer could be, and ya know what though? If his answer would be the drugs, why the hell would you want to be with someone like that anyways, If his answer is you, well then he needs to get his act together, and if not you need to stand your ground and make it clear you wont tollerate it. I really hope he doesnt have it on him when he is around you either. You dont want his mistakes ruining your life too. This is just my, and one opinion though. Just know I have experience with addicts and they may be the nicest most honest well rounded people in the world when they are sober. But when someone becomes an addict they are capable of anything, Stealing, lying to the people they love, etc, etc... I know they are not themselves and you love the person they are sober, and its hard to let it go, but I guess just hold in there if your not ready to let it go... I don't see a way of copeing unless you can just ignore or numb yourself from all of it, but what kind of life is that?? Just if he continues down the road he is going in my opinion things will only keep getting worse. The only REAL answer of how to solve your problem.. Is for him to get clean. If you want to get him help for his addiction, maybe talk to a member of his family you know he trust and respects and maybe a talk from them could help open his eyes a little. Hosting an intervention can be helpful, people who are close to him telling him what has changed in him when he uses, etc.. Maybe even just a serious dit down with you could help, tell him how his useing is affecting you, that it hurts you, how happy you guys could be if he could stop, etc etc...
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Im 14 and I was raped one day ago and while being raped I started to bleed heavily and the boy who did it didn't wear a condom. So I would like to what I should do? And what are the risk factors of me contracting an std and of getting pregnant? What could the bleeding mean? (link)
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Firstly, you need to tell your parents what happened. I know you're scared but you are not alone. Don't be afraid to tell them what happened, this was not your fault. Secondly, Do you personally know your attacker? Whether you do or not and I'm sure once you tell your parents they will take you to do this anyways but just for information I'm telling you the next step would be going to the Hospital/Doctors. It is VERY important that you go get the medical attention you need, you need to know that no one is going to judge you, yet again this is not your fault. At the hosptial they will give you a physical exam. Initially the best thing you could have done is gone straight to the hospital, not taken a shower, etc... I say this because the exam they give includes retrieveing physical evidence of your attacker from your body, and being that he didn't wear a condom they could or could have retrieved the semen and therefore have his DNA. Another thing, when you go in bring with you what you were wearing when it happened(ALL of what you wore!!!) All these things would help in the process of taking legal action against your attacker. You asked the risk factor of an STD or Pregnancy, and well there is always a risk of both of those when a condom is not involved. This is another very important reason that I urge you to go seek immediate medical attention. In some places they do have a pill women can take called, "Plan B" that if taken within a certain time frame can prevent pregnancy. Make sure you tell the doctors there was no condom, you can ask them about Plan B and see what they say. Also, I would assume they would do STD testing regardless, if that's not an routine thing they do you yourself can ask and recieve STD testing and go from there. Now as for your bleeding, bleeding heavily.. Well, If you were a virgin it could have been your "cherry" being popped, which is normal and happens. BUT.. It is also very possible that the bleeding you experienced may have been from Vaginal tearing due to the rape. Another reason to consult a doctor. I think it is very important that you recieve medical attention asap, also that you talk to somebody you trust about all of this and not keep it all inside. I hope my advice will help you. In the long run you should of course do whatever you're comfortable with I understand how scary this is, how you can feel embarassed by it all, etc.. All the above on what you should do was just my opinion on the matter what you wanna do is up to you (although regardless I believe it is very important to make a hospital visit&and talk to someone you trust preferably an adult about what has happened!). But more important than anything I want you to remember that what happened to you is NOT your fault in any way shape or form. Nobody is going to judge you in a negative light for what has happened, and I'll bet you'll have people there to help you through this. I'm so sorry this happened to you sweetie. Good luck, and know that there are people praying for you...
IF you need any other advice on your situation pleaaase feel free to write me in my inbox and I'll try and be as helpfull as possible.
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