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im feeling nothing and my brother abuses me
My brother hits me and all kinds of stuff I still feel it but I'm feeling numb in my heart my mom does nothing about it and my brother always denies it. With feeling numb is that I don't feel a lot anymore and I have thought about suicide since I was 9 ans I still think about it even thoufh I'm 12 now. Me and my brother got into it last night and he really hurt me even though I put him on his butt but he still hits, kicks, punches,bites, and smacks me I need help. Any advice?
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What i would do is sneak and video tape it then show your mom. Also maybe show injuries from it or try to get her to see it. Be her little girl and just cry and maybe she will feel hurt and put a stop to it. Suicide is never the answer. He will be caught someday just wait for that day when the weight it lifted off your shoulders(: You dont deserve any of it!
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It would help to know how old you brother is. If he is much older than you then this is abuse that requires intervention from agencies outside your home. Since you say mom is unwilling to put a stop to it.
The reason I say much older than you is that at some point it this be looked at as normal sibling rivalry. Something mom should stop or at the very least attempt to control and protect you from. When does it turn from sibling rivalry to abuse is a question I cannot answer; as it is subjective rather than objective.
If mom is not willing or unable to protect you; then when school opens tomorrow go to a trusted teacher or your school principal and explain to them just as you have explained to us. Tell them about your suicidal thoughts.
Your teacher or principal will know what they need to do and by law must take action to protect you and keep you safe.
Do not follow the advice of Retry32 and get or use any type of weapon. This will only get you in trouble. Follow the advice of myself and the others and tell another trusted adult or school official how you feel and what your home life is like. This is where you will find the help you need.
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I was in your situation when i was 6 or 7 years old. My brother used to take his anger out on me; luckikly my mother noticed and stopped it.
Your mother seems to be euther unable or unwilling to do anything, so I'd suggest you look for a 'substitute' to take her place. You don't say how old your brother is but I'd guess he's older than you and possibly big enough to intimidate your mother.
I'd suggest talking to your teacher, a family member outside your immediate family, a doctor or a family friend, anyone who will listen, get the information out there as soon as possible.
The numbness you are feeling is the body's reaction to abuse - shutdown to avoid any further pain. Feeling will return when you feel loved again and able to trust people. Once you have someone to talk to, at least you can offload your stress, which might help to ease the numbness.
Whoever you talk to, ask them if they can help you find a way out of this situation, whether it's counselling, family therapy or other therapy.
I really hope this helps, let me know how you get on and keep in touch if you think I can help further? Good luck and stay strong.
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If you are experienceing abusive behavior at home and your gaurdian is allowing it to happen, if what is happening at home is really bad enough to the point where at 12years old you are contemplating suicide then maybe it would be a good idea for you to tell another adult you trust (via:another family member, a teacher, your school counsler,etc..) what exactly is going on at home, and also I think you should speak to an adult you trust about how you're currently feeling emotionally. The person below me who said grab a bat... You need to NOT do that. "An eye for an eye makes the world blind"... Basically meaning fighting violence with violence is never the answer.
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woah... you can do two things
1. Act like you cant walk anymore after you got beaten by your brother (dont walk)
2. Get a weapon (bat (not a really hard one)) and beat the shit outta that brat
But if you look at the impacts on your life i'd go for 1
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