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Asking your parents to date.
Which is the least awkward way of telling your protective parents you would like to date. Im a 14 yr old girl btw.
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To start with you are going about this in the right way. By asking your parents rather than trying to do this behind their back you are showing them your maturity. Even over protective parents are going to take note of this.
To continue along the mature path means you must remain calm when talking to them about this subject. I have to tell you that as a parent myself I am somewhat opposed to a 14 year old dating in the true sense of the word. Your maturity shown in how you asked and worded your question is why I have chosen to help you.
To help yourself remain calm, before you sit down to talk to mom and dad. Sit down with pen and paper an make a list of talking points. This is a salesman's trick we use when talking to a customer who is good at getting you off subject.
The first thing I think, given my belief in dating age, that I would want to hear is what your definition of dating is. Is it group mall type dating, double dating, or individual dating. Next what places do you think you and the boy you are interested in might go on a date.
Next I would want to hear about anyone in particular that you might be interested in. His name, how old he is, what school does he go to as well as anything else you know about him.
This next thing and this is the clincher, as the saying goes you save the best for last. You promise that anyone you date will have to come to the house to meet them when picking you up for a date. I would say this point is very important to any parent but most important to an overprotective parent.
From there you promise to honor any curfew they set. To call home if for some reason your going to be late and explain why. To let them know where you will be and that if plans change you will call first.
If you are allowed to date you have to honor these commitments. For two reasons. First and foremost it is the right thing to do. For the second; failure to honor these commitments will give your parents reason to suspend your dating privileges. Once suspended it will be very hard to regain them.
As I said you sound like a very mature 14 year old. I don't see the need to lecture you on commitment or being respectful of your parents. I see respect in your question and I see the maturity needed to honor your commitments. Just remember not to get so involved as to lose track of time.
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The best way to ask your parents' permission is to go about it the right way. In the past I have had problems with this stuff myself. I didn't even ask permission at times... Boy was that a mistake... Anyways, all you have to do it be calm and to the point with it. Tell them that you may have your eyes on a guy you are starting to have feelings for, or someone wants to go out with you. Whatever the case, just state your points in a clear and calm manner, and I don't see why they would not let you. I suggest asking them to sit down and talk, it might seem weird, but it develops strong communication skills with your parents.
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