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I'm Johanna. I'll Come and Go. What can I say? I try.

One thing I LOVE to do is to analyze dreams. Just tell me about a dream you had, and I'll help you understand what it means. :)

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Ok, there is this guy that I like. My friend found out that he liked me too. He was mad about me knowing I liked him. I told him it wasn't a big deal because I like him too. So now we both know about our 'secret' crushes. It's just weird because he was acting different. I don't want to ask him out right now though because I'm going on vacation Sun. and I won't get to talk to him. So don't tell me to just ask him out. Does anyone know why he's acting different? Or what to do in a situation like this?

Thanks!

p.s. I'm 13/f.

Hes acting like this because hes a boy. lol Well hes just nervous, yes, even boys get nervous. Hes probably worrying about the exact same thing you are- if he should ask you out or not. I would wait a little while to see what happens, then if nothing happens, make a move! :) Good Luck!

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ok there is this guy on myspace thats wants me to hang out with him. i don't know if i should. i know my mother wouldn't agree with it, so what should i do?? is it good to meet someone from online??

No, probably not. You don't know who he really is and I wouldn't want you to get hurt! If you've ever seen the show Degrassi, you know what I mean. (because theres an episode about a girl meeting someone off the internet and then almost getting kidnapped) You can still talk to the guy though, obviously... Just don't give out personal information like your adress or anything. Good Luck. :)

Much Love, Johanna

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i have an eating disorder caused by extreme emetophobia, ive hardly eaten for 3 years. in this time i have only eat my "safe foods" which are tuna paste sandwhichs, toast, breakaways (chocolate buiscuits) and only drink fresh orange juice.
This has caused me to feel ill all the time, i'm always in pain and discomfort and regualry feel light headed and sick.
I know my eating disorder has caused damage to my body and has weakened my teeth and causing me to feel ill but my boyfriend and i are really worried about the long term effects this is doing to my body and if it will have any serious effects?
please reply, thank you

Ofcourse the effects are serious. By not eating enough, your body will get used to not eating so you'll never be hungry anymore and your body might just shut down all together. You also might be weak and tired all the time because you have no food to get energy from. Please try to eat some more even if you have to force yourself. It makes me sad to read these things.
:(

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hi, i really like doing creative writing exercises and stuff to help me get ideas. i've been on the internet looking and was just wondering if anyone had any they could share with me? Thank you

I was so excited when I saw this question because I love to write! Before I write, I usually read so I get to see writing techniques of other authors. (similes, metaphors, etc.) Then I just brainstorm a bunch of good words or ideas to put in my story or writing piece. Even before I start it I think of sentences that would be good for it. I don't know if I really helped you or not, but it was kind of nice to share this with another writer.

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I was just wondering what to say to my boyfriend he is 18, to compliment him. Without making him feel weird. Like he always says im beautiful and things like that, but I always wonder how I can make him feel as special as he makes me feel but without making him feel like less of a man or somthing like that...any idea? thank you

I think just by saying "I love you" is a compliment. But also some other times, you can tell him he looks nice. :) much love,

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Im a 15/f and im having a party this coming week. I was wondering if anyone had any favorite songs that kids my age like to listen to? My friends are from all differnt groups so any types of music would be apreciated. Thanx a bunch! ~*MeGaN*~

It depends on what kind of music your friends like. Try some of these Categories


ROCK
My Chemical Romance-I'm not Okay
My Chemical Romance -Helena
Grease Soundtrack- Summer Lovin
Eiffel 65- Move your body
Eiffel 65- I'm Blue
Green Day- Holiday
Green Day- American idiot
Weezer- Beverly Hills
Ramones- Blistkrede Bop (or however you spell it)

RAP n R&B
Kanye West- Work it Out
Eminem- Just Lose it
Ciara- 1, 2 step
Ciara- Oh

^and I don't know much more because I really don't like rap

COUNTRY
Gretchen Wilson- Here for the Party
Gretchen Wilson- Red Neck Woman
Dixie Chicks- Long time Gone

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Hey guys!! Okay I have a really confusing conflict! I am going out with this guy and I like him a lot and he is a great kisser! but I just found out he cheated on me. and he is the kinda guy that doesnt seem like he cares so I dont know if he cares about me. ok I like his friend, we have talked a lot and I know he cares and I know he wouldnt cheat on me....I dont know if I want to break up with My boyfriend and go out with his friend or if I should stay with my boyfriend and see how things go?! PLEASE HELP!! I need all the help I can get!!

I think you should break up with your boyfriend. Try to ask out his friend but keep in mind: it might make your ex really mad (even though he desserves it) The thing I'm worried about though is that by going out with your boyfriends friend, you will ruin their friendship. Maybe you should break up with your boyfriend and then wait to see what happens. Good Luck!

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does anyone think its bad to bring your bible to school or stuff like that? I mean my friend does and i want to but am scared someone might hurt me because of it! but i really LOVE god and want to like spread him with people but am scared to! thanks!

Well, I think that you can bring your bible to school if you want, but just keep in mind that there are other religions than Christianity and you should be open to diversity of other people. I am religious too, but I don't go to church because my family isn't really religious. For me, my religion is just a quiet personal thing that I do alone. Everyone has their own way of worshipping God so basically you can't make someone like God but you can share your ideas, religion, and beliefs to other people and maybe they will like the idea of it and want to try it.

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whaT DO you do if u hear your parents ummm..... doing it. they're like 48 and i think its wrong. They were both making sounds and i don't want to confront either one. please help me i dont no y but it bothers me.




ill rate high for good answers

They're your parents, how do you think you were made? Just try to accept it, you might understand when you're older. Yeah, it does sound gross but I guess its just the way of life.

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i met this rele hot kid on buddypic. and i talked to him for a while. hes rele cute, nice, funny, hot, blah blah blah. but he hasnt been online and he hasnt replied to n e thing on buddypic. whta would u suggest is his reasoning?

I think that maybe hes just busy. During the summer, some people have alot of plans or they go on vacation or they go to the beach for like a whole day. He might not have alot of time for buddypic because hes out doing things with other friends. definitely stay in contact!

Hope I helped

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Does anyone know of any summer-type songs, besides the Beach Boys and Jimmy Buffet? Thanks!

Summer lovin from the Grease Soundtrack
California Dreamin by the momas and tha papas
California by Phantom Planet
Rock Lobster by the B52's
pretty much the whole grease soundtrack...

glad I could help!

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My dad died when I was ten and I acted wierd. I didn't cry very much at all. I only cried once or twice. Now I'm 13 and I don't cry about it still. It makes me feel guilty, and I don't know why I can't cry. It also makes me mad because everybody thinks I'm over it, but I'm really not. The last time I cryed about it was last night. But the wierd thing is, is about a month ago I whent to these family riunons, and just started crying for no reason. So here is my question: Am I a freak because I don't cry, and how can I make it so that I don't have the sudden outbursts? Can you help?

Since you didn't cry when your dad died, it means your feelings are being held inside because maybe your afraid to let them out. Maybe your afraid people will think you're a baby or something. But you're not. So other times, just random times you cry to let out the emotions you forgot to let out when your dad died. Its confusing but a thing that could help it is writing down your feelings in a journal.

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Alright, I've been bulimic for like 8 months...throwin up about 3 times a week...how long do i have to not throw up to not be considered bulimic?
I RATE!!!

To not be bulimic, you just have to stop. Theres no limit...You don't even have to tell anyone that you were. You are not bulimic anymore just because you stopped.
P.S.>I'm glad you stopped! Doing that can be dangerous!

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well... i like this kid and he gives me mixed signs..sometimes he acts like he likes me sometimes not...what do i do?

Well, sometimes boys act mean to hide their true feelings for you so don't judge him so quickly. I would wait a little longer to see what happens next and then take a chance and tell him how you feel!

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there's this kid taht's 2 years older than me that i really really like. how am i supoosed to figure out if he likes me ask a BFF, or like a freind, or really like me as mush as i like him, withougt embarassing myself? Help me Johanna!

Well anonymus, (lol)
I think that when you feel comfortable enough, you should talk to him. Just say: I think I have some feelings for you. You don't have to look him in the eye if it makes you feel awkward. You can even send him an email or an IM message if you are REALLY scared. If he likes you, he will probably let you know as soon as he knows that you like him.If he doesn't, its okay, there are tons more guys out there for you. Keep in mind that it might be hard to have a relationship with someone older than you, but you definitely shouldnt keep your feelings locked inside you. If you are so nervous that you can't even talk to him about your feelings at all, than you are probably not ready for a relationship with him. Definitely give him some sign or some hints that you like him!!! Good Luck!!

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Hey guys. Well.. tonight I went to a club for the first time, and met this really great guy. He asked to dance with me, and we did for a while, and attempted to talk a bit (but the music was so loud, so we went and sat down) He introduced me to some of his friends too. Anyway, I had to leave early.. and out of nowhere I asked for his number. This is TOTALLY out of character for me. I'm usually shy around guys, but hey. He gave it to me and then I gave him mine, and then he walked me to the door. I may be being paranoid, but was this coming across a little too eager or forward? I had a feeling he wanted to ask, but I could be wrong. Also, should I contact him first or let him contact me? I'm just totally new to this kinda thing and lost.

Thank you!

Well obviously you really like him since you asked for his number. My advice is to call him! You don't have to wait for him to call you! This is the 21st century. Girls can call boys. So go for it because I think hes really into you!

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Ok, so my hair is really REALLY dark brown and i was wondering -- do yall think if i got like, auburn highlights -- would it look good?

i need suggestions -- because i dont like how dark my hair is now -- its almost black! and i want to change it up a lil bit


if you need pix go to my myspace:
www.myspace.com/baybgrl


thanks -- & i rate high 4 GOOD answers..

yes, i think it would look good. Make sure you don't get like blonde ones cuz that is too light and you don't want real dark ones either. I think auburn is perfect and it would look especially cute if you got those two lil strands in the front done. Hope I helped! :)

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i go to the gym everyday for 1hr + 30min. I wanna loose 20lbs in 2 months. (right now im 101lbs...and i know thats not A LOT but im short...) do you know any good diets? is there anything else i can do besides excersise?

thanks

I understand where you are coming from. I weigh 100 pounds and I am very short too. Here are some tips:
1. Drink lots of water. Don't drink pop.
2. Theres the salad diet- eating just leafy greens, (I'm on that one)
3. Theres the smoothie diet- Drink a low fat smoothie to replace meals. Or you can buy one of those slimfast shakes. This way, you're not really eating whole meals, but you're still getting the nutrients you need.
4. I sugguest drinking and eating lots of liquids such as soup because it fills you up, but usually there aren't that many calories in soup.
5.Whatever you do, Don't try the Atkins diet..(low carb)It does NOT work! Neither do crash diets. (where you don't eat anything)
6. Read labels on everything before you eat it to search for hidden calories and fat.
7. Theres not much else you can do but excersize. Excersize Every Day. Situps work the best for me, but you need to create a personalized workout plan just for your body. I sugguest reading Seventeen Magazine because they usually have good workouts.

..Now if I only could get Myself to do everything I just sugguested to you. Lol..Good Luck!!

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Has anyone tried, I think Jergen's makes that lotion that gives you some color just by using their lotion? Its not really a self-tanner since its supposed to moisturize the skin but also give you a glow after a week of use.

I was just wondering if anyone has tried it & if they have, did it work for you? I have very fair skin & I try anything to get some color. Thanks!

I tried it, it wasn't that great. I would sugguest using a regular mosturizer with out the tanner. real tans are the best anyways. And as for your face, try a foundation a couple shades darker than your complexion.
P.S> its better to look natural than fake.

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er... well. here goes.

theres a guy I like. He goes to my school. Is in my grade, two of my classes, ect. ect.

I talk to him on AIM, we kinda talk at school, and best of all, he doesn't think I'm fat. (long story. Let's just say I wasn't eating anything and my friends are odd)

But, he knows I like him, and doesn't like me back. He's told me multiple times. (again, my friends are odd) But lately, he's been acting like I'm okay. Usually he acts like he hates me. He even IMed me first on AIM (I know its odd, but hey, I guess I blend in with my friends) which is like, a first. Ever. We've been able to talk more, and we're getting along pretty well.

The bad side is, well, I've liked him for so long, now that he's finally maybe liking me, I don't feel exactly the same. I'm in this odd stage where, I do and don't like him. I mean, he's hurt me so much, but I feel like I love him. I can't control my feelings.

So what I want to know is:
Do you think he likes me?
What should I do if he asks me out?
and
Should I take action?(ME asking him out)

I have NO idea what to do.
(13/f)

Well, sometimes when boys act like they hate you, it means they like you. They act like they hate you, because they are hiding their real feelings for you.Sometimes it is true, sometimes not but I know it was true for someone I liked. My sgguestion is just go ahead and ask him if he likes you, before he changes his mind. Good luck!

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