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My dad died when I was ten and I acted wierd. I didn't cry very much at all. I only cried once or twice. Now I'm 13 and I don't cry about it still. It makes me feel guilty, and I don't know why I can't cry. It also makes me mad because everybody thinks I'm over it, but I'm really not. The last time I cryed about it was last night. But the wierd thing is, is about a month ago I whent to these family riunons, and just started crying for no reason. So here is my question: Am I a freak because I don't cry, and how can I make it so that I don't have the sudden outbursts? Can you help?
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yes i can help. I know what its like to cry out of no where. It's because you hide pain that you only know is there sometimes. Your not a freak bacause you don't cry over his death. I only cried once over my grandma's death and well I never went to her funeral. Maybe it would be a good idea if you serch your mind for some reason to have hatered agenst your dad. That could be the reason that you don't cry all the time. Or it could be in your personality to show your pain in a diffrent way.
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Since you didn't cry when your dad died, it means your feelings are being held inside because maybe your afraid to let them out. Maybe your afraid people will think you're a baby or something. But you're not. So other times, just random times you cry to let out the emotions you forgot to let out when your dad died. Its confusing but a thing that could help it is writing down your feelings in a journal.
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NO !! your not a freak for not crying ..maybe your just a strong person about loosing a parent and doesnt always wanna be depressed by crying ..
and that you know hes in a better place now.. and you can make it without the outburts by telling yourself that your strong about everything and that if you cry you'll just be depressed and you'lll never get better ..im not saying you should hide your emotions about your dad because if you keep your emotions inside it will just build up inside you and come out into anger ..just try and keep it strong ..and a couple crys here and there wont hurt just dont try to do so much where you get sick ...
I really hope ive help you ..im really sorryy about your dad get better hun
Tell me how it goes :)
-Nicole
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No you shouldn't feel guilty. This is just your bodys way of handling your dads death. This is very common.I hope I helped. If you need me leave it int he inbox
claire
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i dont think your a freak. just because everyone else would ruin there life over something terible that happend doesnt mean you have to. maybe its just because your tough and loved your dad. your dad would have wanted you to be happy..not cry over him every min of the day! so keep your head high and dont let ANYONE get you down! hope i helped and feel free to ask me anyother question. cookierat123
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aw your juss like me... sorta lol. you shouldn't feel guilty because youu were young then i mean seriuosly you prolly didn't understand.. when my grandpa died i was like 9 and i feel guilty 2day b/c at his funeral i was laughing and having a great time w/ my cuz's.. i didn't understand and you prolly dont either. and i have outbursts 2 b/c of when i have problems like when i rele do cry i don't i hold it back and then i juss outbreak maybe it's the same with you? well i hope i helped if not sorry i tryed.. `♥//
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its perfectly normal i do the same thing only my grandfather died when i was like seven and i'm 14 and i still not over it.It's hard loseing someone you love but sometimes you just got to let go. and no your not a freak it just happens you can't control it (sorry 2 say) i hope i helped and sorry for your loss good luck:-)
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i dont know if i can help on this one too much...you rnt a freak because you cant cry...maybe you just arent a sensitive person, and maybe you have to face your dads grave, or sumthing and get all your feelings out...on that...no matter wat your dad is still here and watches over you he will listen..
hope i helped
<3
Amber Nicole
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You are definitely not a freak, because if you were a freak, then i would be too, and i'm not. My brother just joined the Navy and he's only 18, and I was REALLY close with him. It's funny cause I hardly cry, but I really miss him. Some people just don't cry to show their emotions, they find other ways. Those outbursts-- I had one too, but the way I deal with it, I just think of it one day at a time. If you think, "I'll just get through this day", and know that he wanted you to not miss him and still be happy, you should do better. I'm sorry, and I hope this helps out.
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Of course you aren't a freak! People deal with death in different ways. Maybe you are choosing to deal with it now instead of when it actually happened. As for the sudden outbursts, don't feel bad about them. If it helps you feel better when you cry, then do it. If you aren't over it, then people should accept that. Over time, you will probably start to get over it. But some people never get over the death or a parent, child or close friend. If this is the case, just try to deal with it best as you can and live your life normally. But don't feel bad about it.
X0C0URT
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No youre not a freak. When i was 11 i lost my greatgrandfather and i was very very very close with him. I bawled my eyes out for a long time when i found out and i was so sad forever. But people deal with their pain differently than others. As long as you know that you love your dad nothing matters, and the reason why you cry now is because your still not over his death, and thats understandable. The family reunion probably made you think of your dad and thats why your were so sad then. Its ok to have sudden outbursts, and only time can heal that. I know that your dad wouldnt want you to feel guilty now, and you dont deserve having everyone tihnk your over it. Everyone handles this faster than other. If you wanna talk just IM me at Sammerz619
Im sorry for your loss, i hope i can help
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No, you're not a freak. You need to do some intraspective searching and try to figure out what it is that has you affected as such. You should also try to embrace these times and let your emotions develop thoughts. You should also talk to a counselor about it.
I haven't cried since I was 5 years old except for periods of extreme stress and anger (about 3 times), and I'm 21 now. This is kind of common among the male's of our generation - society tells us we must be hard and without "emotional weakness". That's a load of carp and crying and experiencing sadness are not a weakness. So embrace it and seek help.
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your not a freak! if you are then i am too! lol i have not cried in 3 years. im jp you are not a freak.
it is hard to get over such a big loss i know, but you have to live in the future not the past, even though it maight be extremly hard. why dont you try talking to your mom about it. and sure she probably feels the same way but mom's are good at comfurting, well most moms are.lol
hope you feel better!
roxy
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You are Not a freak. You are a very strong person who hides how she feels on the inside because you dont want to show the saddness within. But sometimes holding on to that sorrow can cause outbursts from Stress, Anger, Guilt, and depression. You are a very strong person and i Envy You For that. Stay Strong and remember It's Okay to Cry. If you need to talk E-mail Me
You Ask Ill Answer Irishdude
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like mckenzie said of course your not a freak it happens to me all the time at dinner or wen im playing soccer. and you cant stop from braking out just dont hold back just let it all out.
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Aww. =/ This question breaks my heart.
Noooooooooooooo.. you are NOT a freak, please don't think that. Everybody is different, Hun. Everyone has their own way of dealing with things, and just because you may not CRY.. that doesn't mean it doesn't affect you as much as everyone else.. and the people around you will know this, I promise you. And I can see why you would have started crying at the family reunion. It was a time for everybody to gather and catch up and send their love.. yet.. without your father.. it wasn't complete.. something was missing. Please don't feel bad about NOT crying.. there is NOTHING wrong with it.. and if that's how you deal with things that's 110% just FINE!! Whatever works! No one will judge you on it, I promise. And if you feel like you're going to cry.. start thinking of something else. Think of something completely different and unrelated. OR.. if it's better for you.. think of some good old memories of your father. But there's nothing wrong with crying, so if you're at home and feel like letting loose.. don't fight it.
I really DO wish you all the best of luck. Know that I'm *always, *always here if you'd ever like to chat some. ♥ :)
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