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So, I've liked a lot of guys before but never did I expect to come across one like this. He's smart. He knows that true love overlooks the little flaws. He's intelligent, witty, and very thoughtful. We've been talking every day for the past two weeks and I hear he likes to talk to me. I'm really scared though. He knows that I'm scared of getting hurt in any relationship, which is why I don't put myself out there. He's very optimistic about life while I tend to be somewhat on the negative side.
What should I do? I'm scared to like him. What if he's just being nice? What if he doesn't like me? I think I'm way in over my head?
I think I wanna cry.
Sorry for sounding so choppy. :/ (link)
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It sounds like you've had some good conversations during the last couple of weeks! It sounds like you know a lot about each other.
First of all, you don't need to "hear" he enjoys talking to you. You know it already, right? Guys just do not waste time talking to girls about feelings & stuff if they aren't interested in you.
He's not just acting nice. He likes you. :)
I know you must have been hurt in the past. You may be hurt again in the future. BUT, we can't live in the past. If you want to find love and happiness, we have to take the risk and put ourselves out there.
My advice to you is to stop looking for bad signs.
Look hard enough and you will talk yourself out of any relationship. Give yourself permission to be happy. With luck you'll become more optimistic!
Stop worrying about what will happen later. Give the guy a chance if you like him, take it slow.
Good luck.
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So, just recently I found out that my boyfriend of a month is a compulsively lying player, horrible, I know. One of my best guy friends, "David" gave me insight. I know you're not supposed to listen to he say she say but, I always suspected that something was off about him. Everything that David told me seemed to add up about him. Apparently before we became an item, he was messing around with a lot of girls at one time (including me). And David told me that it was all because of our physical attributes. When I asked my boyfriend about it, it seemed like he was leaving stuff out. So, I decided that I want to leave him. Do you think it's wrong for me to want to dump him? Also,I wouldn't know how to go about "dumping" someone...I could use some advice on that please and thank you. (link)
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Am I understanding this right? You want to dump him because of something he did BEFORE you started dating?
I hate to tell you this but most guys are attracted to a girls "physical attributes". Unless you are leaving something out, I don't see that as a reason for ending a relationship.
Now, if you just want out because you don't have strong feelings for the guy, break up. You don't need an excuse other than you just don't want to be attached to him anymore.
Does David like you and want to date you? If so, beware of the possibility he is trying to break you and your current boyfriend up.
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im a senior and i went to school with this boy for all highschool.
hes extremly popular inside and outside my school and is just really cool.
i really wanted to get with him so i started flirting and whatever with him but just as i started doing that a sophmore girl did to and they were talking like 24/7 and they hooked up. i essentionaly "lost" even though he never really knew i wanted him.
this sophmore is really ugly (im not saying this out of spite- i would be honest, expecially here where no one even knows me) and just not in his leage and im just so angry that they are like togetherish now and i dont know what to do.
what you think?
how do i get him!
why was she chosen over me? (link)
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Ugly or not, she must have said something he liked. Get over it and move on. I'm guessing if he were interested you'd be with him now instead of her. That doesn't mean you wouldn't make some guy a great girlfriend, just not this particular guy.
Maybe you need to tone down the flirting? Thats all I can suggest. Not all guys go for that sort of thing.
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Ok so there is this guy that I was flirting with at a party and we connected like it was amazing. I had such a good time. I dont think I've ever talked to a guy like him. There's just one problem...he has a girlfriend. They've been going out for a few years. However I hear that they dont even really like each other anymore since its been so long. They're seniors and I'm a junior. She tells him he can hook up with other girls...nice relationship? Its really weird and I would never go out of my way for someone else's guy but I seriously think us together would be soo good.I could tell he was so into me and I thought it was strange considering he has a gf so he had to really like me. Any tips? What should I do? Thaaanks. (link)
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Don't believe a word of it. Going out with a girl for a few years usually means they have a good strong relationship, NOT that they are tired of each other.
A lot of teen boys, not all but a lot of them, will say & act like they are into you just to get a little action on the side. Heck, not just teen boys, men do the same thing. A girl does not give permission for her boyfriend to "hook up" with other girls. If that's coming from him, its a line.
Don't get involved. Not until he is free of all other relationships.
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Ok so me and my mom have a great relationship an all but there is one huge problem. I can't trust her she says oh you can trust me but when I tell her something she gets mad at me. If I tell her I want to do something she says no. So if I mess something up or feel down. I cant tell her. Once u told her I felt sad because of a guy and she made a huge deal out f it and told my dad and stuff. Oh and please don't tell me to talk about it with her because she is a hard person to talk to. She thinks it's her way or the high way. :( what can I do? (link)
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Unfortunatley, unless you tell her how you feel, nothing is going to change.
Next time she asks, whats wrong? Say I would love to talk to you about it but you just get upset & tell dad etc.
Her telling you no about something isn't so much a matter of trust as it is her just being a mom. There isn't a lot you can do to change that.
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Okay well my Boyfriend takes drugs..Sometimes he does ecstasy but he usually just does Prescription drugs like Oxycontin and Valium. I know they aren't dangerous if you're taking them for valid reasons, but most of the time his reasons aren't valid.
He's only ever taken them as a pill but now he thinks snorting them would be fun and he's stubborn so no matter what I tell him about the drug, he doesn't think it's dangerous. He also gets strong pain relief drugs and he takes up to 24 of them in one night. And that's only because only 24 comes in 1 packet, so if he had more he'd take them..And most of the time, he gets the drugs from his mother because she too likes to make up pain symptoms to the doctor to get them.
I know the doctor who gives them to him or his mother, because I have the same doctor but he doesn't know who my boyfriend is.
I don't know what to do. I've heard so much about people taking presciption drugs and getting addicted to them and I'm worried my boyfriend will overdose without realizing it. (link)
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I know this isn't something you want to hear, but if he won't stop, and he won't, you need to get out of this relationship now. It is not going to end good. He is already addicted.
The Oxy drugs, and probably others he is taking are known as schedule II drugs. They are addictive.
Here is a list of schedule II drugs.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Schedule_II_drugs_%28US%29
I worked for a doctor who thought she was doing her patients a favor by giving them these drugs. ALL of those people are now dead. They were given this rx by a doctor. Not all doctors are good doctors. MOST doctors know very little about the drugs they prescribe. They rely on a drug rep, with little or no medical knowledge for most of their information. I am happy to report that the doctor I worked for lost her license to practice in my state. She is now in another state, working under another doctor.
Staying with this guy amounts to watching him die a slow painful death.Just being honest with you.
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Okay well i am 14 yrs old i am an 8th grader and i love a guy. yah sounds simple but its not.here it goes i need help.
Okay well in february i met this guy and we i guess hit it off and we went out for like two days we didn't know each other so it was stupid.anyhoo he live(d) up the street from me so every weekend we would hang out he would touch my boobs and butt and stuff and i kinda really liked it anyway,,anyway he is a big player but really sweet and always could put a smile on my face anyway we liked each other on and off lots of times over this year of knowing each other. anyway he moved so we don't hang anymore i don't see him anymore i should just move on? I cant i love him so much nobody knows so what exactly should i do? get over him..how? (link)
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What would be the point in loving someone you don't see anymore? Moving on is your only option.
It sounds a little to simple, but the only way to get over one person is to get out there and see others. Believe it or not you will soon find someone else to think about all the time, and this other guy will just become a pleasant memory. :)
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on my left foot, you know the knob below your pinky toe on the outside side? well i broke that, haha, dont ask how. well it was a fracture because the tendon pulled the bone apart.
i was excersizing and all of a sudden i got a real bad cramp right there and had to stop. then we got a really cold week (im in south florida so it was only that week) and my foot was really hurting.
i didnt occur to me until later that the place it was hurting was wear i broke it almost 6 years ago. but now, the cold weather is gone but its still hurting! its not constant, but some days it just hurts so bad and others its fine.
im 8 months pregnant, could this have any weird affect on my foot? should i go get it checked out by a doctor? thanks! (link)
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By all means see your doctor about it. Old breaks can sometimes cause arthritis to set in. I imagine your pregnancy is contributing to it hurting. you are carrying extra weight on that foot right now!
Talk to your doctor about it, ask what you can take for the pain that won't affect your baby.
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Hey,
If you have herpes on your lip, like a cold-sore... and you give somebody oral, do they get genital herpes?? (link)
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Canker sores...those on the INSIDE of your mouth are not contagious. Cold sores are on the outside of
your mouth or on your lips.
Cold sores are extremely contagious and are most often caused by the Herpes Simplex virus type 1 (HSV-1). More importantly, when oral herpes lesions and/or its contents come into direct contact with the genital area through oral-genital sex, genital herpes most likely will develop.
Do not have oral sex without using a condom if you have a cold sore.
Because of the answer you got previously, I feel the need to tell you that I am an adult. I have a medical background.
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Here's the thing. My friend is 13, her boyfriend is 18 (Don;t judge they were cute together -plus I know this is wrong-) And my friend's parents were ok with her going out with this dude, as long as nothing physical happened. Well, she had sex with him and texted me telling me all about it(as she does) and her dad read out Outbox messages on her phone and found out. So, now she is GROUNDED, she is forbidden to see her boyfriend ever again, I think they are moving her to another school so they can't be together there. She's not allowed out of the house, she's not allowed the internet... she just has to sit at home and do nothing. I want to see her, her parents wont let me talk to her on the phone because they think I'm just going to put her boyfriend on the phone.
I'm also friends with her boyfriend. They are both so heartbroken about this, and the boyfriend wants to leave her, just until she's a little older, he knows that the age difference is too much right now, so her wants to wait for her... but he can't even tell her it's over.
I feel so bad for my friends and I want them to be happy, but I don't know if my friend's parents will let her out of the house ever again. ):
What do I do? I just want to talk to my friend. How can I convince her parents to let me see her for at least five minuets???
PLEASE HELP. (link)
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This is really something. The parents stupidly allow their 13 year old to date ANYONE, regardless of age & then punish her for doing what teens do.
They need to take some responsibility for this whole thing. I guess they think that's what they are doing.
Here is the deal. The 18 year old friend has some problems. 18 year old's have no business at all dating or even hanging out with a 13 year old. If he doesn't go to jail for this time, he will in the future.
Your only hope of getting to talk to her will be to have a talk with her parents about it. Do not under any circumstances tell them you approve of your friend dating someone that much older than her. If they let you talk to her, do not pass along messages or get in the middle between her and the 18 year old. Remove yourself from that role right up front.
They will both get over being heartbroken. A relationship started at 13 would not have lasted.
She is better off not seeing him again, regardless of how you may feel about it now. It was just a big accident waiting to happen.
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Here's my info.
I am 14,5'6", about 115 pounds. As you will probably say, I'm not fat. And I know that. I'm actually on the skinny side.
My goal is to BE skinny. Especially in the leg area. That's basically the only body part that I'm not happy with. My thighs and calves. They're definitely not fat, but I want them to be skinny.
I want to thin out my legs without gaining too much muscle. So basically, I don't want them to be stronger (which will make them look thicker, which is the opposite of what I want), but to look thinner.
But my problem is my eating habit. I have a MAJOR sweet tooth. I can't control myself when it comes to food. But I've been wanting to fix that. I'm trying to eat less junk and more fruits and vegetables and water.
So any advice on how to get really thin legs (without pills or surgery)? As soon as possible please, and tell me how long.
Thank you so much! (link)
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Its not possible. Unfortunatley we don't lose weight in one spot and not others, there is no way to just diet and make your legs skinny. With or without pills and surgery, it just is not possible.
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I was reading your response to a girl that was talking about her sepate hymen and i had a few questions. Im going to be 19 in a month and im still a virgin. I would like to have sex one day, but im a little nerbous about it because of my septate hymen. I found out about my certain hymen a bout a month or so ago because i was trying to figure out why my tampon kept getting caught when i tried to remove it. I was wondering if a female with this hymen HAS to get surgery to remove it before they have sex? If not, would u recommend this? I just looking for the least painful first time with minimal blood due to my nervousness already. (link)
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Surgery isn't always necessary. However it can be painful the first time if it isn't surgically removed. If it were me & I knew I had one, I think I would personally opt for the surgery. My thinking being that would I really want to start a sexual relationship & "wait & see" if it would even break.
I suggest you talk to your doctor about it. He/she may be able to let you know if it would be a problem without surgery. Don't be afraid to go to the doctor armed with a list of questions.
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So my middle finger on my right hand has been callous since I was in like 8 years old. I'm 15 now. On the skin at the back of my finger. Imagine an Eastern and Western hemisphere. Only the Western hemisphere is like 75% of the space. The Western Hemisphere can be compared to my callous thing, and the Eastern to the regular skin of my finger. So, on the callous part for years I've been kinda biting at it and peeling off the skin cause it was so easy to and no blood came out. blood only came out when i peeled too far up the skin, cause the callous ended not much after the first knuckle in my finger after my fingernail. Other than that, my fingernail is discolored. It used to be darker and have a darker line going down the middle, but now its lightened slightly but its a lot darker than my other nails and grows slower than my other nails. even the nail that grows is thick. So the lunula of my nail is pretty big. Maybe its cause when I was younger i'd peel back the nail, and now its not really growing back. or does it mean that i have heart issues? but all the other lunulas on my other fingers are very small or not even present. The lunula on the middle finger takes up like 1/4 of my entire fingernail.
Anyways, so I got medicine when I was 10 for it.. I mean it just appeared out of nowhere.. I was thinking that perhaps it was cause I held my pencils and pens too hard (and still do) or it could be from the monkey bars which I went on a lot as a kid. The medicine didnt really help.. they thought it was a fungus. and it was a medicine you put on your finger, not orally. after i stopped applying the medicine it was still tempting to peel back the skin. it would improve, then go back to normal again. ugh. cause its so addicting, like how its fun to peel skin from your feet sometimes cause its all hard and it wont bleed. but the finger is ugly and i dont want to like have a boyfriend and feel self conscious about the ugly part of my finger. i always feel kinda self conscious about it if im doing something where someone will clearly see my hand, or if they feel it and feel the difference in that 1 finger. from smooth to just.. a different texture.
so I was thinking about taking medicine orally. Idk.. I want to be serious about it before I go tell my mom cause its hard w/ the economy and everything. but recently like sometimes i'd only get frostbite in that 1 tip of the finger.. I mean it would go away but its kind of weird. sometimes i'd just be in the house and i'd get it. its only happened like 3-4 times in the past like month though. maybe its cause its just winter or something? idk. when I bend my fingers like im a cat about to scratch but all the way down, it becomes really yellow at the skin on my middle finger ive been talking about, too. and im black so it kinda stands out..
and i have to point out that the skin never came totally back to normal after i'd go through times of not peeling it.. like months. it would only get slightly better but around the edges, not like all over and everything. its just weird and im sick of it! help me! please dont just say go to the doctor, i want to know something first! thankyou! (link)
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I have one myself. It is getting smaller now because I use the computer more than I actually write. But, writing is what caused mine.
Don't mess with it. If anything that will just make it worse. If you can't leave it alone, see the doctor for that problem. The callus will probably not go away completely if you are one who likes to write.
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Ok so me and My friend are planning to run away!
anyone got any tips on places to go && ways to make money etc. ? I just need running away tips! Thnx!
I live in oregon (link)
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Well, you need to be prepared to be hauled back home by the cops. You need to understand that when you get back, your parents will no longer trust you. You probably will not be allowed to associate with your runaway friend when you get back. You will probably not get to just go hang out with friends for quite some time.
Actually, as far as real tips for running away...you won't get any from here. Anyone giving such tips could easily be removed from the site.
Giving illegal advice is strictly prohibited.
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Hello im 19 and my boyfriend who is 21 wants to join the army/military. Not full blown army but like working with computers and such. He asked me what i thought yesterday and it was kind of a shock. He said him and one of his friends were talking about joining and he convinced him to go. He basically is just waiting my "approval" but i want him to do what makes him happy. He said after he goes for basic training he will only have to leave one weekend out of the month for like 2 years. Im not really sure how anything works. He just brought this upon me yesterday. The only downfall is that he will be gone for 10 months touring afghanistan or something. We've been together for about 2 years now and 10 months is a long time and i dont think we can go without seeing each other that long. He is basically only going into the army for the money. We are very serious and he said when he comes back he'll have money so we can plan a wedding and maybe some other big stuff. If he goes i dont know how im going to cope with him being gone we see each other every day! Any ideas or suggestions? I do rate!
-Thanks (link)
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It would be hard for sure, but many women do it and get along just fine. I have a friend who is an army wife. She told me there are groups for wives and girlfriends of men in the military. They sort of support one another & help each other deal with it all. Perhaps you can find out if there is such a group & check it out. I'm sure you could find someone to ask questions of who would be more helpful than we could ever be.
I think if it is something he wants to do, you have to let him do it. Its a very big life decision & one I don't feel one person should make for another. The decision needs to be his alone. You need to tell him that & support whatever decision he makes. You should not feel responsible for anything that happens after he signs those papers. It has to be him making that decision. That is my personal opinion.
If your love is strong it will survive whatever happens. I do think you need to BOTH realize that there is no such thing as just being in the army and working on computers. If he is in the army it is "full blown" these days. 10 months in Afghanistan will not be a walk in the park.
Best of luck to you both.
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Hi,
I'm asking this on behalf of a friend who is unsure of what to do.
He's getting a divorce from a woman who cheated on him and carried a baby for nine months saying it was his before kicking him out of their house and telling him it isn't.
The lawyer she hired is a pro bono lawyer and is putting a lot of pressure on him to sign a document before tomorrow at 3 PM.
There's nothing really to fight over, but he's concerned that the lawyer is not making things fair for him.
He makes about $15 an hour, works full time, and is being asked to pay $600 a month in child support plus half of medical and all court costs.
There's no property to fight over. He's been paying money to what they both agreed was fair for child support. He's still paying for a credit card debt she racked up since before they were married. He's been agreeing to pay it off just so his soon to be ex wouldn't pressure more money from him.
He doesn't mind paying money to his kids. He pays more now, but doing it yourself and being forced to on paper and so on makes it feel unfair to him.
I'm not looking to get in the middle (I know I am since I'm asking for advice), but I wanted some tips on if I might suggest calling lawyers or if this sounds fair and it isn't of any use to fight this. He doesn't want to stir the pot and pay more out for a lawyer when it won't do any good. Any tips from divorced dads on this case?
Would just like to get some outside opinions on this situation and maybe what to expect. Thanks! (link)
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First he needs his own lawyer. If he doesn't get one he will get screwed big time. He shouldn't sign ANYTHING, without having a lawyer look it over. Her lawyer will sneak something in there using legal language if not. So first & foremost he needs a lawyer.
He also needs a paternity test for the child she claims isn't his. A lawyer will be able to demand for him that she get one done.
Like it or not, any divorce needs things written out in a legal way on paper. His soon to be ex will probably be held responsible for half of any debt they incurred. She may have agreed to be fair, but she has a lawyer & will be talked into all sorts of things they DIDN'T agree to.
He really needs a lawyer ASAP. Tell him NOT to sign a thing until he has one.
Pro bono..because others don't seem to know what it means, simply means her lawyer is taking her case free of charge. It has nothing to do with the outcome of the divorce. He still needs his own representation.
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Well, I've known this guy for 4 years he'll be 21 in March I'm 17 going on 18 in May. OKAY, here goes: he dated my sister for almost 2 years and they recently broke up in December 2009. He hates her, he wants nothing to do w/ her. She cheated on him 3 times and he knows. But she is the one who dumped him. & after they broke up he was telling me he was butt hurt and stuff like that because he loved her but then I remembered when he found out she cheated, he wanted to dump her, and she was crying and begging him for another chance and all that. But anyway, he knew I liked him I started liking him a couple of months before they broke up like around October 2009 and he knew about it. So when they broke up, we didn't see each other for a week or so and on Christmas he was all lovey-dovey with me and hugging me and holding my hand and I was remembering when I'd always reach out for his hand he would be like "What do you want?" and now he's always doing that stuff. So I guess you could say we're kind of dating but not official. He always calls me, he always wants to see me, and we basically do everything together. But I know he wants to take his time to REALLY get over my sister, but when do you think he's going to ask me to be his girlfriend? I've been waiting for so long! I know it's only been over a month but I felt as if it were much longer. What should I do? (link)
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I think I would ask him exactly what he considers your relationship to be. Good friend or girlfriend?
Unless he is coming to your house, picking you up and paying your way to movies or for dinner, I'd consider him just a friend. Until he says otherwise.
Ask.
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Why am I so gassy the last couple of weeks? I eat the same, exercise but am bloated and gassy which is embrassing t times. what should i do , is there anything i can buy over the counter? thanks (link)
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Gas can be caused from swallowing air too. Eating fast & sometimes even chewing gum can cause it. That might be the problem.
Two options to help avoid gas are to avoid chewing gum and to avoid eating hard candy.
Beano & Gax X are two products that can help. Gas X is available in a store brand at walmart too.
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im a 14 year old girl who is still in middle school n My boyfriend is really sweet but we only see eachother at school n after dat we dont talk or anything!!! On dee other hand my ex who is in high school wants to get back together with me n hes really sensitive n sweet n caring n we talk a lot n hes jus perfect!!! I still like him but i dont want to hurt my boyfriends feelings i dont kno wat to do (link)
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If the ex is just perfect then You should probably be his girlfriend. I don't really consider a couple to be dating when they never see each other except at school. If he never even calls you, he's just a school friend. He may be hurt for a while but he will get over it. Its obvious you like the ex better, so he'll be hurt sooner or later anyway. Don't drag it out.
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What is the song in that movie, where the heart is, where the boyfriend is driving with Novelie in the car and she's sleeping. It goes like "Sometimes I wonder, will I ever make it home?" (link)
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"Ride Like Hell" by Big Sugar
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