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What should I do?
So, I've liked a lot of guys before but never did I expect to come across one like this. He's smart. He knows that true love overlooks the little flaws. He's intelligent, witty, and very thoughtful. We've been talking every day for the past two weeks and I hear he likes to talk to me. I'm really scared though. He knows that I'm scared of getting hurt in any relationship, which is why I don't put myself out there. He's very optimistic about life while I tend to be somewhat on the negative side.
What should I do? I'm scared to like him. What if he's just being nice? What if he doesn't like me? I think I'm way in over my head?
I think I wanna cry.
Sorry for sounding so choppy. :/
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It sounds like you've had some good conversations during the last couple of weeks! It sounds like you know a lot about each other.
First of all, you don't need to "hear" he enjoys talking to you. You know it already, right? Guys just do not waste time talking to girls about feelings & stuff if they aren't interested in you.
He's not just acting nice. He likes you. :)
I know you must have been hurt in the past. You may be hurt again in the future. BUT, we can't live in the past. If you want to find love and happiness, we have to take the risk and put ourselves out there.
My advice to you is to stop looking for bad signs.
Look hard enough and you will talk yourself out of any relationship. Give yourself permission to be happy. With luck you'll become more optimistic!
Stop worrying about what will happen later. Give the guy a chance if you like him, take it slow.
Good luck.
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You could continue to shelter yourself from getting hurt. Unfortunately, you would also continue to shelter yourself from love. At some point you might think about "taking a risk" and letting someone get close to you. It doesn't have to be all or nothing, though. I would suggest that you just take things slowly and continue to talk to him. Maybe meet with him when there are some other people around at first. if it is right, it will happen. You will eventually begin to feel like it is okay to open up if it is. You must relax and focus on the small (happy) things in your life. Don't over think everything. Maybe you could keep a journal and write down all your feelings. Then, about once a week or more, you could look back and see if things have changed for the better or worse. Seeing it on paper might help to organize your thoughts and help you see any progress that is happening over time. Good luck! I hope this one works out to be the one for you!
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