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Friends parents.
Here's the thing. My friend is 13, her boyfriend is 18 (Don;t judge they were cute together -plus I know this is wrong-) And my friend's parents were ok with her going out with this dude, as long as nothing physical happened. Well, she had sex with him and texted me telling me all about it(as she does) and her dad read out Outbox messages on her phone and found out. So, now she is GROUNDED, she is forbidden to see her boyfriend ever again, I think they are moving her to another school so they can't be together there. She's not allowed out of the house, she's not allowed the internet... she just has to sit at home and do nothing. I want to see her, her parents wont let me talk to her on the phone because they think I'm just going to put her boyfriend on the phone.
I'm also friends with her boyfriend. They are both so heartbroken about this, and the boyfriend wants to leave her, just until she's a little older, he knows that the age difference is too much right now, so her wants to wait for her... but he can't even tell her it's over.
I feel so bad for my friends and I want them to be happy, but I don't know if my friend's parents will let her out of the house ever again. ):
What do I do? I just want to talk to my friend. How can I convince her parents to let me see her for at least five minuets???
PLEASE HELP.
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This is really something. The parents stupidly allow their 13 year old to date ANYONE, regardless of age & then punish her for doing what teens do.
They need to take some responsibility for this whole thing. I guess they think that's what they are doing.
Here is the deal. The 18 year old friend has some problems. 18 year old's have no business at all dating or even hanging out with a 13 year old. If he doesn't go to jail for this time, he will in the future.
Your only hope of getting to talk to her will be to have a talk with her parents about it. Do not under any circumstances tell them you approve of your friend dating someone that much older than her. If they let you talk to her, do not pass along messages or get in the middle between her and the 18 year old. Remove yourself from that role right up front.
They will both get over being heartbroken. A relationship started at 13 would not have lasted.
She is better off not seeing him again, regardless of how you may feel about it now. It was just a big accident waiting to happen.
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It's sad to see such a bad thing happen to your friend. And you being a good friend want to help her but right now in order to be a good friend you have to let her parents deal with it. The reason why her parents are freaking out so much is because her boyfriend commited statutory rape which is very serious because your friends parents now have every right to charge her boyfriend with those charges and they would win. He could go to jail if they choose to prosecute. Usually relationships like this at such a young age difference don't last because now that he had sex with her. And how convenient he wants to leave her now that te got what he wanted and wants to moves on. One of my friends who was a freshman dated a senior guy and she ended up with STD's 3 times and she got pregnant. Let's hope this doesn't happen to her. And don't worry her parents can't keep her in her house forever. You will probably be able to see her in a few weeks so for now just give it time!
Hope this helps!
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This is a sad situation that I would hate to be in. The advice I have for you is that, you may want to stay out of it before her parents put you completely out of the picture too. It is their relationship anyway and he is old enough to realize that the matter needs to be handled in a mature civil way. I guess the only time you have to talk to her is at school, any other way is devious and could get her into more trouble.
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