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Hi! I'm Tiffany and I am a 19 year old college student in Florida. I have had an older accounton advicenators before, and was actually a moderator, but I forgot the password. :(
I believe that there aren't any 'stupid questions' out there and that everyone deserves the right to know whatever it is they want to know. I'm very open minded and like most people, I have underwent my share of tribulations in life. I'm aware that things happen and consequences are unbearable and sometimes people just want to vent about it in frustration of not knowing what to do.
I can be very helpful so ask me whatever is on your mind :)
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19 female.
will doing exercise that emphasizes the butt area make them look smother eventually? for some reason i have some cellulite and my butt/legs are are not smooth at all and i'm actually quite skinny... i'm 5'6 and weigh 118 pounds and i've always been skinny. i dont know what i can do to make it look better, so i was thinking exercises but didn't know if it would work?? (link)
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They have cream for that! To make your skin smoother and reduce cellulite. (That's the easiest, but most expensive way) sold at Walgreens :) Simple running up escalated regions (stairs, hills, ect.) can help too!
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Here's the thing. My friend is 13, her boyfriend is 18 (Don;t judge they were cute together -plus I know this is wrong-) And my friend's parents were ok with her going out with this dude, as long as nothing physical happened. Well, she had sex with him and texted me telling me all about it(as she does) and her dad read out Outbox messages on her phone and found out. So, now she is GROUNDED, she is forbidden to see her boyfriend ever again, I think they are moving her to another school so they can't be together there. She's not allowed out of the house, she's not allowed the internet... she just has to sit at home and do nothing. I want to see her, her parents wont let me talk to her on the phone because they think I'm just going to put her boyfriend on the phone.
I'm also friends with her boyfriend. They are both so heartbroken about this, and the boyfriend wants to leave her, just until she's a little older, he knows that the age difference is too much right now, so her wants to wait for her... but he can't even tell her it's over.
I feel so bad for my friends and I want them to be happy, but I don't know if my friend's parents will let her out of the house ever again. ):
What do I do? I just want to talk to my friend. How can I convince her parents to let me see her for at least five minuets???
PLEASE HELP. (link)
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This is a sad situation that I would hate to be in. The advice I have for you is that, you may want to stay out of it before her parents put you completely out of the picture too. It is their relationship anyway and he is old enough to realize that the matter needs to be handled in a mature civil way. I guess the only time you have to talk to her is at school, any other way is devious and could get her into more trouble.
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last night i had a dream i ate a candle, it was gross. i thought it was white chocolate but when i ate it, it was obviously a candle. i havent felt good all day, and it's putting a toll on my academics today. i havent been able to concentrate all day. also, i had a dream my brother texted me and told me he was going to buy me a car. AND i had a dream the car alarm went off twice but i didnt get up to look and see what happened.
please interpret this..i dont know what the meaning of this is. (link)
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dreammoods.com
put in every symbol
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13/m
does anyone know some things i could get my girlfriend for christmas? we're both 13, turning 14 next year, and i kinda have a budget, probably under $60 would be good, like maybe a necklace, or some flowers? umm her favourite colours are red and black... if anyone needs to know more about what she likes.. ill add it.
thanks (link)
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Aw, young love. This is sweet :) I think that flowers aren't a great present. Being a girl, I like things that last more than a couple days when it's coming rom my boyfriend. A necklace/bracelet/earrings is a really good idea! Many stores have sales on 100 dollar jewelry for just around $50! If you decide not to, mybe a gift certificate to her favorite store would be your best bet :) and go with her to pick out what she gets!
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15f. i eat five meals a day usually which i know is very bad but im always hungry. iv latley been only eating healthy stuff for almost every meal so that is a little better? im 5'6'' n 125lbs though, but i do mma training almost every day and also try and workout if i ever have time which is barley ever though. n i feel so fat in school because i eat a very big breakfast then eat during class some then lunch then right when i get home then again later n again at like midnight. is there any foods that will fill me up alot without having to eat so much? am i unhealthy? and what can i do to eat less without my stomach growling or is it ok to eat this much, even though i workout alot n most of the food is healthy and i dont look to fat.. the food is usually bread bananas salad n chocolate stuff n fast food once a day. any advice on this subject is perfect, thanks! (link)
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Hi! first of all, I want you to know that it's VERY normal for a girl- no matter who she is- to feel concerned about her weight. I know I am! You're not unhealthy, you're a teenager, new things are happening, hormones and stress and environmental aspects all affect the way you eat, gain or lose weight. Now 125 isn't a bad weight at all! I am 5'4 and I weigh 135! I don't think I look half bad so I doubt that you don't have a nice slim, sexy body!
I see that you told me you eat fast food once a DAY. now, you might want to slow it down a little bit on that part. Fast food is fast for a reason. It is just dipped in a pool of oils and grease for a couple minutes, fried and calorie-pumped to perfection. Don't get me wrong, I'm a fast food fanatic but sadly, the big mac is something I had to sacrifice to keep getting into my favorite jeans.
What you want to eat to keep that "full" feeling is high fiber foods
"research shows that high-fiber foods are processed slower and last longer in the stomach, resulting in a feeling of fullness long after they have been eaten."
This is almost all fruits, (your bananas are perfect), vegetables, cereals, beans, and seeds (I know that doesn't sound too appealing...) but looing great is worth losing the weight!
Bread isn't really too good, and very fattening unless it is WHEAT. well, I hope I helped you out at least a little bit. :) Good luck!
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my boyfriends wnat me to give him head but ive never done that before so what exactly do u do and are there any tips to making it a better experience for him. (link)
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Actually, contrary to popular belief, sucking isn't all it's about. Tounge action and using your hand to give him a tighter grip, while not completely sucking your jawbone out will make any guy go crazy. Let him know it's your first time and you want to try different things out to pleasure him the best way you can and fit his style. Don't feel pressures or awkward just stray away from your teeth and you'll be fine :)
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hey guys.
im kelly and i recently turned 17. im homeschooled right now becuase i had some problems at my old shool back in jr high so my parents decided to home school me. anyway i wanna go 2 college like a public one or private one and i heard that we need to write essays. can you guys give me some topics on what essays i can write about? and how i can start it? id appreciate it so much. tanks God bless, kelly (link)
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All really prominent schools and universities want a scholarly,analytical topic to be supported by a well-developed thesis. You have to be completely knowledgable about what you are writing, and make your opinions/statements stand out from the thousands of other students.
I understand you are homeschooled and might have a disadvantage over other people that have learned the tricks of the trade but all you need to know is the outlines and structure of how to write an essay, and you can find examples online.
Find a topic that you can argue well. It can be something personal, political, or social.
Right now, I'm writing a topic on how Advertising influences American culture. By using provokative images, slang, appealing people, advertisements can manipulate what consumers do with their money and time. I added my opinions on it and how it affects my life.
With topics such as this, you demonstrate research, experience, and knowledge and put it into a well thought out paper. Colleges love this.
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my boyfriend and i were laying in bed together, and i gave him a handjob. he didn't ejaculate, but he almost did.. soon after, i was laying in the same spot where he was with no underwear or anything. also, he fingered me after. i've heard of something called "pre-cum" and how it could get you pregnant, so is it possible that he could have "pre-came" and it could have gotten on me from the sheets or his fingers, and i could have gotten pregnant? (link)
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Negative. This only happens on television drama shows, if that. lol.
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F/16 (almost 17)
Last night I spent Halloween at a friends house with a bunch of other friends, and I had a great time until everyone decided they wanted to watch Nightmare on Elm Street. Now I've never liked scary movies. Ever since I was little particular scary images would upset me and linger in my mind for several days or a couple of weeks. I barely was even watching the movie , I had my eyes covered almost the whole time. I don't care that I'm still afraid of scary movies, I hate them and I try not to see them at all. My problem is that certain images from the movie that I did see bothered me last night and I couldn't fall asleep. I slept on my parents bedroom floor last night, until 3 am when I woke up and decided to go back into my own room. But I'm almost 17 years old, it was completely ridiculouse for it to have to come to that. I know scary movies aren't real and I know that nothing wold happen. But even thinking things like that don't help. The images continue to upset me and when I accidentally start thinking of them it's hard for me to think of something else that easily. I go on gigantic rollercoasters at Six Flags with barely any hesitation, but I can't handle these stupid scary images popping into my head? I don't know what to do to block it from my mind and to stop it from upsetting me, and telling myself that it isn't real doesn't help as much as it should. What can I do to make the movie stop bothering me in the next few days? (link)
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Maybe there's a deeper meaning behind the reasoning as to WHY you're so startled and upset over these images. I hate to sound too much like a psychologist, but I think maybe you should talk to someone about it. Like dreams, there may be a whole different interpretation of things.
If you don't want to go that far and think it's probably something simple, it might just be a phobia of yours that you have. Some people just have a low tolerance for what "scares" them. There's nothing wrong with that!
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Im a17 year old guy living in South Africa and my dads having an affair. Most nights he sneeks out and when I look out the window I see him going to the womans house ( she lives practically across the street). The thing is this woman is a family friend to my family and my parents work with her plus to top it all off she's a teacher at my school! My dad doesnt know that I know about the affair. What should I do?! This is really tearing of apart and some advice will be greatly appreciated. (link)
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You could blackmail your dad into admitting his morally inappropriate behavior, but if you're anything like me-that's hard to do because you love him and you don't want your mother and family to suffer the consequences. I do think you should talk to him and suggest that his actions are wrong.
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Ok, i have been talking to this girl since the beginning of the semester this year at college. We met in our english class. I have developed feelings for this girl. We hung out last week and had a really good time. I want to hangout with her again this week. If we hangout do you think that it would be appropriate for me to try and kiss her? Why or why not.
Thank you. (link)
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I think you should try to find clues to see if she feels the same way about you. You don't want to try and kiss her when she sees you only as a friend. Make sure you are out of that zone and that she carries the same emotions about you. You are both grown and adults so I think you could just tell her how you feel straight up and expect an answer. If the answer is what you hoped for, then yes, kiss her.
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i'm going to get light brown highlights on thursday. my hair is very dark brown. when i'm in the light i can see the brown a little bit but otherwise it looks completely black. will the light brown show? will it turn my hair a different color? (link)
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My hair is the same exact color and I got blondish highlights. The first time you get your hair done, depending on how much of your hair that gets streaked, it will still look kind of the same- but with a little lighter tint. If you get it re done and touched up- it will turn ur hair many shades lighter and your dark hair will look like lowlights.
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Ok so i'm 15 and i like love ........sex...........lol but only had it when i wasl ike 9...when would be a good age for me to have it? (link)
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I can't believe you actually say "lol" so casually, like it's funny. In my opinion, you don't know if you 'love' sex...because you were only 9 years old. I don't even know if I believe that! A good age for someone as misguided as you are, is----never?
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Well my boyfriend and I have been dating for a month. The thing is we hardly ever talk and we don't hang out a lot either. When we do hang out we just sit there or drive around, we never hold hands, cuddle etc. He's 19 and I'm 17. Anyways, I kinda wanna break up because its a pointless relationship. What's your opinion? Thanks! (link)
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Well, if you already know the game and it's not what you like, then give up your turn! I don't think you need to deal with that. Skip the drama, emotions, and stupid arguements and let it go. Just say you want to be friends, that's how it seems like anyway. It's only been a month, so try to break it off before you get too familiar with him as your "pointless" boyfriend. :)
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should i got to a community college for my first year. or should i go to a university? my mom says that its cheaper to go to a community college first and then transfer my credits to a university after i take all the basic courses. but all my older friends that are already in college said that is way more fun to go away to a university and live on campus. im really torn between the two. any advice?? thanks :D (link)
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In this economy? Community college is your best bet. Not to sound too motherish but college is the learning experience not how much fun you will have- which...you will still have as much fun as you make of it. Community colleges and universities all teach the SAME EXACT THING. They have to follow the same cirrculum, with the same standards, and sometimes have the same teachers teaching at both. You can save your money, and still have a good time. Your friends are probably having "fun" OUTSIDE of class, not in it. So join in with them after school. It's your education, money, and future.
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I just had sex this past weekend with my boyfriend for the first time. We were both virgins, both had been with other people sexually, and we used protection. Lately, for the past couple of days, I have noticed a very slight burning when I urinate. It hasn't been too bad until just today, when I woke up at 5 am with pain so intense I had to go out and buy some UTI medicine (AZO), assuming it was a UTI from searching symptoms online.
Is there any chance that I have anything other than a UTI? And how can it be caused by protected sex? We used condoms as well as lube, so I'm thinking one of the two things may have caused the infection. Also, is it necessary to get antibiotics to treat a UTI?
Thanks! (link)
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UTIs are very common and can come from a LOT of things. If you didn't clean youself up properly after sex, the fluids could accumulate and cause bacteria to form. UTIs can be VERY painful, and if they exist for more than 2 or 3 days, a doctor should be consulted. The antibiotic called- "Bactrim" is a good medicine to use for this. You can 'flush' UTIs by drinking a lot, a lot, a LOT of fluids. Although this takes a little more time and effort, it is less expensive and you can save a trip to the doctor. If the problem still persist after say- 5 days or a week, chances are something else is going on. Good luck :)
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I do this exercise routine pretty much everyday..
1) 25 sit-ups.
2) 25 "backward" sit-ups. (You know..its like a sit-up but with ur legs moving up and down instead of stomach)
3) 20 of this waist exercise
4) 35 of another waist exercise
5) 15 lunges for each leg
6) 15 squats
7) The plank. I do that 30 seconds twice.
8) I lift 5 lb weights on each arm 20 times.
9) 10 more times of just lifting the 5 lb weight.
Then I'm done..
It get's quite annoying doing this every night..but I feel the need to =/ I don't know why. I'm not fat or anything. I used to be which is why I started exercising in the first place.I just do it every night now. But, I know it's a lot. I just want some advice on whether I should cut down how much I do or what?
Everytime I try to limit myself to 6 days a week..I feel like I'm going to get fat again. I probably have some kind of problem lol I don't know :( Help?!
Thankyou. (link)
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MAN you make me feel lazy! lol, I think it's great that you're keeping youself fit. It's even better that you don't HAVE to do it but you still have the motivation. You can't ever do something that positive "too much".
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16/m
Well there is this girl who is my best friend, and she has this boyfriend who she's not so crazy about. Anyway, I hate the fact that she's dating this guy, and I think I would feel the same way about any guy who she dated. I want to se her happy even if that means her dating some guy, but it absolutely tears me appart seeing her enjoy being with a guy that isn't me. I just have no idea how to handle any of this, and just avoiding the situation and not having her in my life would be horrible because she is so nice and fun to be with. Any ideas?? (link)
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Don't go psychotic over it. Please. All you can do right now is be there for her whenever she needs you, but if you REALLY want to achieve a higher status- other then friendship, you need to step up to the plate and tell her. My old guy best friend called me one day and said he was going to kill himself. He made up some bogus reason and I took him to the hospital with me, where my boyfriend works too. While I was in the room with him, my boyfriend came in and talked to me. After he left, my best friend tore out his IV'S and went freakin crazy. I asked what was wrong and he said the whole reason he was going to kill himself was over me and its "bullshit" that I date my boyfriend when he has wanted me this whole time..and he left. He told me to choose who I wanted...I chose and he hasn't talked to me since. I mean- it sounds unbelievable but I think I was more hurt then he was in his neurotic episode...I doubt that you are at this crazy of a level like he was now (lol, I hope not..) but before you end up feeling like you are losing in this battle of love then you need to talk to her. It's very typical for one of the friends to be in love with the other, VERY typical...just don't give her ultimatums and make her choose. No pressure, remember that :)
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Well, ok lets start off by saying I'm 16 female, and my bf is 18. We've been going out for abt 8 months basically...we've broken up three times. U.U Those three times due to my older sister, she's 24 and pure evil! >:T Well my bf and I have done the nasty (lol) ummm...shush I know I'm young and it's considered rape, but we love each other and blah blah, I'm not the only person who's done it I'm sure. So lay off the age thing yes? Well the first time we did it we protected our selves of course, but it broke...>//> So then we were worried the stress probably caused me to be late and he chatted it over with a friend on myspace, since we were both bugging about the chance of me being pregnant. (I wasnt just an f.y.i) Well both of my older sisters were stalking me or should I say us since they added him the minute they found we were together. T^T They were stalking his comments and both saw what had happened, my oldest sister (26) simply asked me if it was true I said yes, she told me I was stupid but she understood and just told me to be safe, then spoke to my bf about being serious and looking out for me. Of course I was ok with that. But now my other sister...(24) The second she found she threatened to tell my dad, my mother knows I told her myself, I tell my mom everything since I know I can count on her and we have a fairly good relationship! She didn't tell my dad since, he'd leave the second he found out...SUPPOSEDLY...U___U So my sister comes out with the insults about me being stupid and that he raped me and took advantage (which he didn't since I had my part in it too, at my own will) and that she was going to tell my dad and she was stuck on telling him until my mom had a firm talk with her on why it was important for her not to say a word to him. Our dad is an a-hole type of man, so yeah. My sister (24) is bipolar, so I guess thats why she acts so rash and angerly toward situations, well we ended up breaking up since she threatened to hurt him if she ever saw him. But I couldn't stand it I loved him and he loved me we missed each other dearly. We ended up getting back but then shortly broke up since problems where still accuring. >.< My sisters never found out up that time when we got back together then broke up again, my mom did and my dad of course he didn't know the reason why but eh. So I dated this other guy for about two weeks, a very close friend actually he was begging me to give him a chance, he very very cute better looking then my actual bf but, I was/am in love with my bf so thigs didnt work out. He knows about the whole deal and is happy the other guy and I ended, I couldn't stay away from him, we eneded up back together, which we are now, my sister (26) knows she doesn't care much I think. But when my other one found out, well she barely fount out like 2 days ago and she called my mom threatning to call my father once again. T____T My mom again...had to convince her to stop, well days have gone by and no one has spoken to her. What can I do? I want to talk to her but I'm scared she won't listen and run off and tell my dad. :/ It's annoying, we have family get togethers and I can't invite my bf just because of my sister (24). >:Y I'm getting sick of it and so is he, any help, ideas? Greatly appriciated! "Don't mind my type-o's I'm to lazy to do corrections. :P" (link)
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From reading this, I can tell you're not too stupid like most little girls; You have a sense of maturity like 20 yr olds. It's really none of your sister's business and I think you should just let her tell your dad. If she's going to be that SUCKY of a sister, then forget it because she will be holding this over your head forever. And once she hears you say, "whatever, just tell dad." She's going to be shocked because you hit her with the unexpected. Whether she really does tell him or not is the thing that probably bothers you. You should have a talk with you dad about the issue. Just use hypothetical questions without making it obvious. Unless you want to lose your relationship again over something so stupid, then you might as well bring it to light. I mean, he had no problem saying it for everyone to see on myspace, he should take credibility for his actions. I hope I helped at least a little...Good luck.
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waht is the best house hold object i can u to masterbate (link)
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Your hand?...
If you are actually serious...then I guess if you're a guy watch American Pie & get some ideas. If you're a girl- practically everything is a toy.
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