Hey everyone, Sporkster here. I logged on Advicenators today to discover that I've somehow been deranked. Not just from Level 2 Mod to Level 1: Now I'm not even a Level 1 Mod. What's up with that? I've answered 103 questions and I'm ranked as a 4.71.
Yo, spork. Don't worry. I am about to get really busy and might get downgraded in a few weeks. I am seriously thinking about doing it voluntarily.
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First of all, i think that you give really good advice, but their is one thing that I desagree with. A couple of the girls asked if they should shave down there and you say shave, I think that if they want to shave the should but, if they are shaving for their boyfriends they shouldn't if their boyfriends truly love them they won't care if they shave or not. That is just my opinion but u kno. Anyway I am a 14 year old female,and I need to know sumthing, I am goin out wit a drug dealer, he gets himself in trouble everyday n has almost got himself killed acouple times. I love him tho and I know that he loves me. The only problem is I'm scared that one of these days hes gonna get me involved n then I will be the one almost killed. I want to kno if I should stay with him or not? I have another guy who likes me too. He is not into drugs but he lives 4 hours away, he loves me with all of his heart, we were together once but the distance was just to much we rarely got to see each otha, i mean once or twice a year and we only love 4 hours apart. I feel the same about the two fo them. They both want me to lose my virginity to them. I know u think I am too young but I have been wanting to lose my virginity (to the guy 4 hours away) for a long time but now I am goin out with the drug dealer and I really don't want to dohim cuz hes had so many sexual partners n u don't knwo what he has/might have.I really love the drug dealer but I was with the otha guy for longer. Who do I choose and should I lose my virginity to either one? Thanx for the advice beforehand. Lata Dayz!
Thanks. Shaving is totally up to the shaver. Its kinda fun the first time, but anyway.
Drugs and guys who take them are bad news. They break your heart. You could get into trouble too, and it can permanantly screw up your life.
The worst part is when they get thrown in jail, and you have no idea what happened to them. You go visit them, and you feel like a heel. You can care for them all you want, but they care more for the drug than a relationship. You can try to change them, but its very hard.
The guy four hours away. He seems nice. Remember that you won't see him as much as a usual couple, and it will take extra energy to keep it going.
And now for the big V speech. Having sex just to lose your virginity is not as fun as you think. There is the worry of STDs that can kill you or hurt your ability to have children later. The pressure is huge, I know. You have to be prepared for the worst. If you were pregnant, what would you do? Do you have the money to support a child and the care you both will need? Even an abortion costs money, and may affect your health. You will feel connected to whoever you have sex with, and it will be much harder to leave. This could leave you open for mental and physical abuse.
If this doesn't change your mind, please get all of the facts from your doctor or and some protection. The doctor can't run to your parents unless you are having an abortion.
Please wait at least until you are in a committed relationship because they may just get what they want and leave you with the consequences. I hope this helps.
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I'm not to sure what this falls under but I wanted peoples thoughts. I love kids, honest to God they are the best thing that has happened in my life (I don't have any). This lady at my church is having a baby in Oct. and has a 10 month old who is smaller for his size, anyways he will be staying with us more then likely. I have a two story house along with basement stairs and breakable stuff. Our house is not by any means baby-proof. Does anyone have any good ideas that don't cost a ton of money because this is probably only going to happen once and I don't expect on having children for another 15 years...LOL THANKS!
Megan
The outlet plugs can be gotten at the dollar store and usually come two to a pack. In addition to what every one else is saying, be sure that all of your dangerous chemicals are out of reach.
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i am 17 and i have been dating my bf for 11 months at 8 months he asked me to marry him i said yes..then we talked about moving in a place i was thrilled..1 week before our 11 months we broke up(not seen eachother in 3 weeks) . he said he wanted to be single.two days later we got back together and that same day talked about our place again? whats wrong with him???who does that! isnt that wierd??advice
Well, maybe he jumped in a little too soon. I wouldn't dump him for being scared. You are a little young yet to be engaged. Definitely sit down and talk to him. Probably all you two need is a little time and planning. You need some money to get married and have a life together. He may not have all of his ducks in a row like he thought. Just be patient with him and tell him how you feel.
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Hey, well all girls know you should only have your period like every 28 days or something, well ive had my period since i was 11 and now im 14, well its usually pretty on schedule other than maybe a few days, and i have a long period sometimes but no big problems, well inthe past 6 weeks, and now 7 i have had my period 3 times. the first time it was just a little and last about 4 days. then the second time was 2 weeks after and i got the worst cramps like ever, and i usually dont get cramps and it lasted about 5 days and was a regular flow. well then 3 weeks later i have started again and im on still and its lasted about 8 days now, and the first 6 were ALL HEAVY like really really bad, and then i thought it was over and then when i woke up... nope and so now its back and its just a little but what should i do? should i go to the doctor? or what? thanx bunches!
If you go to the doctor, he or she can help you out. They might put you on birth control because it helps control an irregular period.
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Ok well theres a fair in town.ive been goin every nite. Well Neways. Theres this really hot guy that works at the ferris wheel. Whenever im theres hes always staring at me n smiling and talkin to me does he like me?. I wanna tell him that i like him n stuff but i dont wanna sound stupid. Thing is hes also older i heard him talking to his friends and he said he doesnt mind dating younger girls. What should i Do?
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Step away from the carnie. I would watch my step with this one. He works for the fair. He may not even have a home that he lives in. He has no
"roots." When he leaves town, you will be left with whatever consquences should something go wrong. And he may be way too old for you. If you go out with him, have a friend nearby and a phone.
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okay ive had discharge for a while now and i styll havin gotn mah period where the hell is it? ... im turn 14 in april! what the fuckin hell! help me out people
thanx bye
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By the time you reach 20, you are going to wish there was no such thing as a period. It makes it harder to plan trips to the beach. It will come, probably really soon. Maybe next week if you are truly PMSing here.
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hey...this is gonna be pretty long im guessing so ill rate 5's to whoever takes the time to answer this..thanks.
Okay..so i met this guy who i fell totaly inlove for and cared about him sooo much. he knew that i was moving to a different country soon, and it started affecting our relationship badly. one night we got in a fight and were on the verge of a break up after i found out he told people he dindt like me anymore. i called him up and told him im comming to him as a source of it all and i need to know if he still likes me or not, and that i dont want him to lie to me , or fuck with me, just tell me the truth. well that night he never gave me a straight out answer if he still liked me or not, he was really quiet, and every time id cuss he would ask me to stop cussing. but i jsut kept on yellin and crying and tellin him i cared a lot, and i just need the truth, then ill leave him alone if thats what he wants. well he said he had a lot to say but he needs to figure it out nad he'll call me back. i said okay. this was around 11 at night or so. but he dindt call for like 2 hours, and i got worn out and tired so i went to bed. he called around 5, but i dindt pick up cuase i was sleepin and my phone was on silent so i missed it. i keep thinking to waht if that was the call that would fix my relationship with him. the next day, i called him back but he wasnt home. I called my "bst friend" and aksed her what she was up 2, and if she wasnt busy i needed to talk to her (i wanted to tell her hwat happened) and she goes "oh actually im just with ur boyfriend right now nad we're just chillin with some other people" I had NO problem with that whatsoever caust i trusted her completely with everything i had..and it takes a long time to gain trust with me cuase i been backstabbed way too many times..so this gurl had my trust completely, and i trusted my boyfriend and i understood that maybe he needded some time to think things over and stuff..well my best friend, all the guys think shes one of the hottest girls ever, and pretty and perfect and eveyrthing..blah. anyways, my boyfriend calls me from my best friends cellphone later on that night and i pick up and he talks to me and hes like "hey....im really sorry but i dont think we shuld be together anymore..u cna hate me if u want, u hvae every right to, but i still wanna be friends. i really dont want to..i just think this is comming to end.." and i was just like "alright, bye" cause i was really upset!! i mean i loved this boi!! and he broke my heart in thousand pieces!! and so i knew hed be with my best friend for the next few hours, so i called him around 12 am, and i was like "hey..i think i deserve to know why" and he was like "know why i broke up with u" and i said yes so he tells me all this crap about hwo he thought i was somebody else who i wasnt and how he met someone special who is so perfect and amazing and how i deserve better than him and it ended and that he has unrealistic expections of ppl. basically a bunch of BS and he never gave me a real answer. so w/e. it NEVER evven crossed my mind that my best friend was his new special someone!!!!! I found out that she hooked up with him the night we broke up! she gave him head, he fingered her, and ate her out and she gave him a hand job!! ON the FREAKING night we broke up1!!!!!!!! i was like omg r u kidding me.. but when i told her i was hurt she freaked out on me and told my ex that she cant like him cause of me! and so my ex freaked out on me and got pissed cuase supposebly hes in love with my slutty ex best friend..and i still cared a lot about my ex, like damn i care so much for him.so i told her she can do whatever she wants, and to not involve me in it..but i couldnt really get mad at her and let her know how much anger i have, and how betrayed i felt and how i would never trust her again..so i reminaed silent, which was a mistake. now them two are fucking going out, and she lost her VIRGINITY to him. i dunno what to do. i cdant say anything now, but i feel so betrayed bt here. should i still let her know that im realy hurt and i have a lot of anger! cuase when she has problems with my ex and is sad she comes to me and tells me about them and i dont wnt to hear it, he was MY ex!! and when he does cute stuff she tells me and im like how much more unsensitive cna u be? but i just sit there and listen..i dunno. shulld i tell her off and break friendship off completely? cuase i have no trust for her. and baout him, what do i do. cuase even after it all i still love this boi like no other and care os much and really dont want to lose him..even as a friend..i hookked up with him one time after we broke up..and i was crying cause i was drunk and i told him evertthing i felt and we stood infront of the mirror and my make up was completly smirred and we were huggin really tightly and he goes look at us, look at the mirror and we both look, and then he turns his head away, kisses my forhead and he syas i cant look at u this way i cant look at us cuase then its gonna hurt more..and i was way drunk and i dindt say anythin just kept crying. and we just stood there..so i duno cuas ei still care lots about him and i duunno if i shold just act like i dont care anymore and eventually stop..or should i still care for him and talk to him and be friends..cause being friends with him hurts me somuch cuase i see him with her and it makes my heart crash to a thousand more pieces evry time. and also his birthday is comming up soon, and i dunno if i should get him something or not? and if i should..what? hes a bab boi skater type..so u cant really get nice things, and i dont want to get it over done to make him think im obsessed with him.
I AM sorry this is soo long!! but i really needed to elt it all out! thanks for whoever replys! ill rate 5!! xoxoxoxoxo thnaks!
I wouldn't even give that guy the time of day. I hope the idiot didn't get your "friend" pregnant. Go out with the money you would have spent on "Mr. Sensitive" and buy yourself a day at the spa or something nice. If you insist on getting him something, black or dead roses would be completely appropriate.
As to whether to talk and make up with your friend, why? She knew that you cared for him. I would spend some time thinking as to why you are attracted to people who hurt you. Maybe you can make a new one that wouldn't stab you in the back.
All I can say is that I am sorry this happened to you, and I am glad you haven't hurt anybody: yourself or someone's property because it isn't worth it.
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I really like my best friend. He is perfect..I think so atleast =). I think he likes me too. But I'm really shy and I have decided to tell him how i feel. B/C not tellin him isnt an option nemore. My feeling are too strong. So..how should I tell him? I'm j/ really worried we wont remain friends if I tell him.. Like if he ends up NOT liking me. Thanks for your help! =)
He won't run away if he doesn't like you as a potential significant other. If he does, then he isn't such a great friend. Just find somewhere relaxing where its comfortable to talk and spill the beans. Maybe if you practiced what you want to say in front of a mirror or with a friend it would help you be more comfortable. He might be as nervous as you are. Just take a deep breath and do it.
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how much more likely are you to get cancer if you drink diet soda??
You have to drink like 100's of sodas a day to have that problem. When they test these things, they sometimes up the dose way more than a human would really consume.
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my eye has been twitching lately!! ts gotton worse!! like its my eyelid, sometimes my eyebrow, and below my eye...not all @ once but its only in my right eye...u cant see it but i can feel it..i told my mom but she didnt really think nothin of it...wat does this mean??
Sometimes that happens to me when I haven't been eating right. Try taking a multivitamin. That helps sometimes.
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my mother is like so evil!!!!!!! Whenevr we r down town in cleveland and we drive past some colored people she locks the doors but she doesnt do that when wer by whites. she is so races. i cant stand her. it hurts me a lot to know that she has a problem with black people. and she yelled at me the other day for wanting a punkish/gothic style and shes like"you do not come from a family of punks or gths so your sticking to aero and other prepy stores" how do i deal with her. sometimes i feel like running away from home. help me!!!!
You aren't going to change your mom. You can tell her that the race thing is bothering you, but I don't think it will help. The best you can do is to teach your children not to act that way.
Running away from home is not a good idea. It's downright frustrating listening to mom or dad, but it is just part of growing up not to want to listen to mom.
You can do some chores and save up some money and buy your own clothes eventually. It's frustrating trying to get your mom to buy the things you want. You will have more control if it's your money and you are driving. Besides, can't you accesorize a little a be a little punkish/gothish if you want?
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oK wElL..my room is soo small i have a huge bed and a dresser and chest and a very tiny bit of room to walk in my room looks just so small and i wanted to paint it and get a theme but i dont know what to do to make it bigger and what kind of theme cuz my mom wont let me paint it or gett anything for it cuz we dont have the money plez help!
Home Depot and Lowe's usually has mismatched paint that people don't like for between $2-6. Just keep an eye out for a color that you like. You could go to the thrift store and pick up a mirror to make the room look bigger. Maybe if you you rearrange the furniture, it might feel bigger.
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my room is soo boring! i have a dresser, a big desk for homework and all this other stuff, plus 2 twin beds and a small closet! the walls are white and the landlord wont let me paint them, how can i make my room look better? dont say whatever you want, say real stuff!!! thanks a bunch!
My friends took wrapping paper and covered the walls with it when they were in college. It was pretty neat. You could probably get some cheap at the dollar store or thrift store.
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My mom always complains about me never being home. She says that she thinks that i dont love her and only want to talk to her when i want something. (im sure everyone is gonna say that their mom is like that too), but are there any ways that i can 'hang out' or spend time with my mom with still being able to be as social and hang out with my friends as much as i do? please give me some ideas to have fun with my mom (i know that sounds lame) but i know it would help me to be able to do more stuff.
Ok, I don't live with mom anymore, but we still stay in touch. I talk to her usually once a day on the phone. Once a week we have lunch together (we both work in the same city not far away). Occasionally, we go shopping together. We sometimes go on vacation together for a weekend. You don't have to give up a lot of time to spend time with mom.
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ok here is my problem. I've always loved penguins, but lately I've been feeling a sexual attraction to them. now I think that's as sick as the next person, but there's just something about penguins. what do I do?
Buy penguin underwear for your significant other.
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Hey there everyone! I'm a 16 yr old female and I am a virgin. I am in no way thinking of having sex or asking if i'm too young to or anything, this has to deal more with the future. I am going to wait to have sex until I find a special person, it doesn't really matter if I am married or not. But, I'm afraid that the longer I hold out, it's going to be harder and harder to find a guy that's a virgin also, because it seems like there are none left. So I was wondering if it's silly of me to think that there is a guy out there that is a virgin that I will find somewhere down the road as I get older. Or stop being silly about it and not care?
I am not a virgin, dating a virgin. He's 37. They exist. It would be nice if you could marry or be with another virgin. What's important is that you trust each other in the relationship. Otherwise, I would be alone right now.
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months.... and we met at church camp where i asked jesus into my heart for the first time.. and that totally changed my life.. but then when we got home all reality came back.. i had used to be really bad.. such as have sex and drink... and well now i stopped all that and my boyfriend is really religious... and he found out about all that and he told me that when you ask jesus into your heart the first time all your sins from that past are forgiven... and he told me he loves me for who i am now and my past doesnt matter to him.... but now.... we were like in my pool and he get touchy feely.. and im not like that anymore.. we still didnt do anything or anthing. .but it scares me cuz i think that he might try to do something i dont want to.... and also... people sign his buddy profile guest boook telling him lies about me haveing sex with a 21 year old and stuff like that... and he still worries.. and ill tel lhim they arnt true.. but it still bothers him.. i dont know what to do... and my parents are leaving for a week and ofcourse me n him are ganna hang out... i just dont wanna do anything that we will regret... and i dont know how to tell him that without embarrasing him.... please help me!!!!!
It's hard to practice self control, but at some point you have to trust yourself too. If you are having problems, pray about it.
If your boyfriend is listening to other people's lies, you can't do much of anything except ask him to trust you. If he doesn't trust you, you don't have a relationship.
It is ok to kiss and things, just know when to stop. It will take practice to get used not doing all the bad things you used to. You are human, and you will make mistakes. I have been there, and I have a loving boyfriend who treats me well. We still cuddle, and we still kiss.
Just think about what you are doing before you do it. I would suggest not tempting yourself by having him over when your parents aren't home.
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Im attracted to mr. clean i always have been. and im only 13 idk, theres somthing about a nice, bald shinny head that turns me on. what should i do?
I really like the earring he used to wear. Maybe you'll have one when you grow up. Just don't try to kiss the bottle. Some fellas do like to shave their heads if they aren't bald. So its not out of the question, but I am sure Mr. Clean has a family and children.
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um i have a question . . . I like this guy but hes kinda of what you would call a "nerd" and if i ever went out with him people would laugh at me.Should i go out with him or find someone else?
If you haven't noticed, the nerds are now running the world. Who cares what other people think. Relationships are built on trust and how you feel about one another. If your friends laugh at you, get new friends.
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