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My best friend is perfect and I really like him but I can't tell him!
I really like my best friend. He is perfect..I think so atleast =). I think he likes me too. But I'm really shy and I have decided to tell him how i feel. B/C not tellin him isnt an option nemore. My feeling are too strong. So..how should I tell him? I'm j/ really worried we wont remain friends if I tell him.. Like if he ends up NOT liking me. Thanks for your help! =)
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There will always be variables you can't control. You can't control the reaction or what he will do next nor the future. All you can control is when and where you tell him and the method.
It's obvious you have known him for a long time based on your question. Therefore, if he truly respects you as a friend you can bring up any topic at all. Even if he doesn't want to pursue a relationship of a romantic type I would bet the farm on him still being a close friend. It may even the bond tighter.
So, wallflower you have to move away from the wall behind you and let it stand on its own. The best thing to do is tell him "We've known each other for a long time and can say pretty much anything to one another. For a long time I have wondered if it would be a good idea to take our relationship to another level." Just say that.
You really need nothing more than that line and then everything falls into place or it doesn't. If you want something so bad for yourself you have to tell yourself "screw my fears." and just do it as he won't become your boyfriend any other way. Trust your gut instinct about it.
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Haha. I am ALWAYS in this situation and I've found that if the friendship really is strong enough, no matter whether he likes you or not and then you break up or never get together, you remain friends. Anyways, the way that worked the best for me was that I just kind of told him the honest truth. I basically said in every boy girl friendship there comes a time where you have to discuss if you feel anything stronger and if there iss potential for your friendship to go further. If he says he doesn't agree with you then just say that you're disappointed but being friends is the first and foremost important. That will show him there's no pressure on him and take the awkwardness away. Hope I helped! Good luck! Friendships that blossom in relationships are always the ones that I remember the most. :] x
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He won't run away if he doesn't like you as a potential significant other. If he does, then he isn't such a great friend. Just find somewhere relaxing where its comfortable to talk and spill the beans. Maybe if you practiced what you want to say in front of a mirror or with a friend it would help you be more comfortable. He might be as nervous as you are. Just take a deep breath and do it.
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obviously if hes ur best friend... hes been over ya house or vice versa to chill or what not... invite him over just like any other day and pop in a movie or somethin... then bring up the convo with a joke or somethin... be like "so hypethetically speaking... if i were to ask u on a date as partners and not friends... what would u say... play around with it and by the end of the night make sure u state that u really do likke him and that u would like to try somethin new with ur relationship... if he turns u down... he knos hes got somethin good between u and if he accepts... make sure u got some fresh rubbers near by (jp)... peace peace!
-Jon :-b
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Just kiss him... that will tell how u feel just do it like then hell know and if u kiss him ull see if u really like him or not if the "sparks r there" or not and there r really sparks~! hope it works out sorry i couldnt be of more help but im me some time, mrdotjones.
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well juss by expirence i kno its not the greatest thing to go out with ur best friend.. but u got nothin to lose! i think u should juss tell him u kinda think of him as more of a friend! if he freaks out hes prolly juss not ready for it (guys are immature =D) orrr i dunno. i think u should tell him tho, i always tell a guy when i like them, seems to work out for me!!!
*jesikuh
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Hi Darling,
I understand the difficult Situation your in: do nothing and you'll never know what could have been, do something and risk spoiling your friendship. In this case I say: go for it! Tell him how you feel. I get the impression your going to go mad if you don't and if you think he likes you too all the more reason. Sometimes in life you have to take risks and this is a fairly safe one, I'd say. As for how to tell him, its never easy, especially if your shy but he's your friend so you should find him easy to talk to. I'm not saying you won't be nervous - you' l probably be as nervous as hell! But this is part of life - can't be avoided.
Best of Luck
Derfel
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well yes you are making the right move to say something...just tell him how you feel. Tell him you want a relationship. Or what you could do is kiss him when he doesn't expect it. Im sure if you have the feeling that he likes you then he does but he's just to shy or nervous to do anything with you. So make the move and i hope it all goes well
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Hey. i feel so speical that ur asking me! lol anyways okay call him or however you can get him to come over to your house or ask him to hang out just be you and him and tell him over the phone that you want to tell him something and that you have to do it now...i perfer somewhere quite like maybe if you live near a harbor/dock...someplace romantic and quite too..and be like [lets call him jim] jim i was just wondering...as friends...if i told you that i liked you how would you react? [dont say it like your nervous so it wont be obvious is you can okay?] and see what he says. and if he likes you back then congrats and you guys can kiss lol and if not then just be like ohh okay cuz i was just wondering...and see what he does then..if you need anything else let me kno. i'm forever here for yah! Take Care..I hope I helped x3 SweetStar.
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