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I mostly prefer to answer questions about relationships whether they are the romantic sort or about friendships, however I also know a lot about books, music and sports. Do not ask me questions about cars or computers as I will most likely refer you to someone else's column. Other than that I love to answer questions and help people. Please rate fairly and honestly. :] Good luck to all you puzzled people out there.
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is it possible to be in love with some one after only knowing them for a couple of weeks?
I don't think so. Being in love with them is a bit too much, especially after a few weeks. It's not that I'm cynical but I just think that you can't possibly KNOW them after a couple weeks so how can you be in love with them you know? You might have really strong feelings and want to stay with them to get to know them more but what you love is only what you've been exposed to and so I don't believe you can really say you love them. It's just my opinion though. Go with what you feel and take a risk. Good luck! Hope I helped x.
Is the clarisonic mia a good purchase? I have read every single review and watched every video on youtube about it hand heard maybe 2 bad reviews. I want it really badly but I don't want to get it and have it not work on my face at all. If you have it, please tell me about it! Thanks!
Hello! WELL I LOVE MY CLARISONIC MIA! I got it in that pastel-ish yellow and I have combination oily/normal skin. I rarely got pimples before but during Senior year I suddenly had a ton on my cheeks and forehead. I used the Clarisonic Mia and now my face is FLAWLESS. People have told me my skin is glowing. I'm really happy because to be honest its not cheap but its worth it. Call me vain but I FEEL SO MUCH MORE CONFIDENT AGAIN. BUY IT! Also its much easier to carry than bottles like proactive. :) The only thing I could say is that it might now work much if you already have good skin with occasional pimples or if you have really dry skin! Good luck! Hope I helped :D x
I'm in a long distant relationship. I will be meeting my girlfriend in December on holiday. I would like to propose to her. I would prefer to buy the ring before I travel but I don't know her size. What can I do?
You can just buy the ring you think will be the right size and get it resized after which is what most people do, or if she has a room mate or relative you trust, you can get them to find out for you. If you have any large pictures of her hand, the staff are normally pretty good about getting one thats really close or perfectly fits. Good luck! Hope I helped. :/ x
i love to sing. not in public or anything like that haha just along to the radio and stuff but i know that i'm HORRIBLE at it. i've tried to look up some tips online so that if someone ever heard me sing, i wouldn't make their ears bleed too much, but i don't really understand this concept of head voice and chest voice and how you differentiate between them. and like when people talk about singing out of their nose. i just don't get it. can anyone break this down in a simple version and help me out?
Head voice is like more of the light and airy notes whereas chest voice is more of the deep richer notes. So think Mariah Carey high notes for head voice and Aretha franklin or Christina Aguilera for chest voice. Chest voice comes from pushing air from your stomach and using your ab muscles. Singing out of your nose is unappealing to the ears because is sounds like you've got a blocked nose and a sore throat haha! You know you're doing this when you can feel a pressure in the back top part of your throat or obviously your nose. If you want to sing better I would find songs in your range first and perfect them by recording yourself and listening back and then you can see where you go out of tune and pay special attention to those areas. Also make sure to go on youtube and find some warm up videos before you start to sing so that you don't strain your voice since it is a muscle! Good luck!!! Hope I helped :/ x
I've always had a bit of a problem with my posture. I slouch all the time and no matter how often people remind me to stand up straight, I just fall back into the habit. My mom always tells me that "I'm so pretty and I'd be prettier if I stood up straight." I really want to fix this and I've tried many times in the past. Does anyone have any good tips? I've heard that a habit can be broken in 3 weeks. Thanks.
Ok if you really want to cure this habit use a back straightener. It fixed my back but it was really uncomfortable and distracting. The pros however is I did lose some weight and I became more of an hour glass and the obvious I now walk like a model!! LOL :P Damn straight! To be honest I've tried everything but you slouch your back unconsciously and so it really is sort of impossible to do it without something propping you up. They're inexpensive and they are quite fast and they're easy to find. You can order online, etc. I'm sure your mom will get you will since she's been encouraging you to get it sorted. Good luck!!! Hope I helped :/ x
18 female, hes 19 male.
ok so me and this guy (lets call me jack) got really really close to dating in year 10, i confessed that i liked him, he told me he didn't feel the same so i got over him. So i decided to pursue another guy and move on. One night, Jack wanted to video chat, but i was already video chatting with the guy i was pursuing. so i told him that i was already on with this other guy. anyway years passed and i found out that jack did like me too, but was to scared to confess he liked me back. I also found out that when i told him i was video chatting with someone else that was the moment that he got over me and stopped liking me.
this isnt an exaggeration but every single girl he has dated or liked has an uncanny resemblance to me. They have all had the exact same hair as i do.
anyway so i was over his house last night just hanging out with him and another one of my friends, and he told us that he broke up with his most recent girlfriend. He kept looking at me the entire night. Then towards the end of the night he goes
"I think i need to stop dating girls that..." and just stared at me. The rest of us were waiting for him to finish off the sentence. And he goes "i cant say the rest" and he couldnt because i was there.
I know this is a really simple short answer but it isn't really necessary to drag this on. The signs are all there! If you still like him GO FOR IT. Guys don't just get over girls so suddenly and especially when he missed his chance before. Its obvious that if you've noticed the girls he's dating look like you and yesterday he just kept staring at you and talking about previous girlfriends that looked like you, he's hinting. If you don't like him it really shouldn't matter that he's dating your clones, ignore it and move on. I hope everything works out between you too. Good luck! Hope I helped :/ x
Ok so im 22 and i have been engaged for about 10 months now, and we are always fighting and basically there seems to be no love, for example we dont have sex,( hes muslim) im british so it crosses my mine hes waiting until we are married,but there are no cuddles or kisses i have to ask for them and his tone these days seems to be abit rude, we have a property together and we are not living in it he is still living with my parents with me. I dont know what to do. Also i feel bad because a year before we was engaged he broke up with me we was dating before and in that year i went away to university and met someone else and had passion all the time, and sex and i feel bad and wish that, that never happened, i never told him about the other guy i feel theres no need ater all he broke up with me, Also i cant remember if when we was dating before i was childish and he never showed me affection 2 years ago and im sure that i just met someone else and cheated on him when i was 17. Ive never told him of course but it was probably because he never showed me affection or i never saw him much.
ANYWAY IVE NEVER LOOKED AT ANOTHER MAN SINCE MY ENGAGEMENT BUT THings dont seem to be going well, i mean im feeling lonely he sleeps in a single bed next to me and he never feels he wants to hugg me or anything i mean i dont get the feeling he loves me. What can i do? i feel a slave cooking everyday, cleaning and i have university and i just dont think there is any affection there. Please help
To be honest if I were in your position I would confront him about your feelings and worries and if you still don't get an enthusiastic response I would end the engagement. I know thats so daunting! But lets think about this. You're going to have to spend the rest of your life with this person. Every day wake up to him, every day go to sleep with him. You're not even married yet and you're having problems plus the fact that you felt so neglected you cheated on him. I mean I'm not trying to push the Disney can't live without each other ideal of love onto you, but all I'm saying is that if you're going to marry someone shouldn't you be at least sure that they love you? I use to live in Egypt and I've seen engaged couples and I'll tell you know I've never seen the woman have to ask for affection. If this is a healthy relationship you shouldn't feel like a slave, you should want to do these things for him. Calling off an entire marriage and starting new with someone else might seem so much harder than just seeing how everything turns out after you're married, but once you're married, you're married. What is the point of just trying out a marriage only to have it end badly with financial problems and custody hearings. You're only twenty two and I'm sure there are plenty of men out there with more similarities in all the categories such as religion and PDA and all that stuff. Please don't take this the wrong way and think I'm telling you to end your relationship just because you're having a rough time. All I'm saying is that if you don't feel there is love, then you won't make it through marriage. Some couple who do have love don't even make it so I'm just saying better your chances against the odds. If you don't even feel comfortable approaching him about the problem then you know somethings wrong because you shouldn't feel uncomfortable communicating with someone who you will be doing just that with for the next sixty or more years of your life... Good luck!!! Hope I helped :/ x
19/f there's a guy that sits behind me in english calls. well lol i have dreams about him, and i do talk to him and we're friends. but i mean why am i having these dreams about him? i think i might like him i mean i flirt with him. for example at the end of english class i turned around and i said to him those sunglasses look like something my mother would wear and he started laughing. and when i was leaving he was smiling. and yesterday he saw me and was like hey and he smiled at me. and on monday after i insulted his sunglasses i walked in class and he said your late and i was like umm thanks mom i think i realize that. it's funny. i mean im not sure if he likes me? does he? we do talk outside of class when he sees me, and am i making it obvious that i like him? because im afraid i might be. haha thanks. any answers are appreciated.
To be honest, I think you're thinking about it a little too much. There is a big difference between when a guy just thinks your funny and when he is actually into you. I would stop analyzing every encounter you have with him. If he likes you, he'll make the move. For now just continue flirting with him and having fun! There are tons of guys out there. I find that sometimes I don't like a guy until I start thinking about the way he looked at me third period or how many times he smiles when he sees me, and then I start thinking maybe he likes me so I start liking him. Just take it easy and see how the weeks go. There's no need to rush into a relationship with him. If the chemistry is there, it will do its thing for you. Good luck! Hope everything works out and I helped! x :)
Hey! I volunteered for a pie in the face thing for my school NHS. People will pay like a few dollars to throw pies at me/other people, and they have a choice between just whipped cream on a plate, or with chocolate sauce added, or finally with cherries added. Haha :D
Which outfit do you think I should wear? I usually dress very fashionable/stylish and I don't want to look like I dressed down in rags for a charity, I think that would look selfish. I want to wear something that looks stylish and will contrast well with the pie. :)
Outfit 1) White hollister shirt/hollister jeans/converse. Outfit 2.) Black cowl neck sweater, with hollister jeans, and heel boots. Outfit 3.) Black cowl neck sweater, with matching skirt, tights, and heel boots. Outfit 4.) Red dress with belt, tights, and red heels
Any advice? Those would all be typical outfits I would wear to school, although outfit 1 is really casual. So which outfit would you most want to throw pie at, lol?
I would go with four because A) I would love to ruin someone's dress :P! B) because I associate a dress with looking more tied together and classy and C) because red is a stimulating color which means you could raise a lot of money. That's just my opinion. Good luck! Hope I helped! x
I have asked this question before and got a great answer, that helped me answer half of one of my cooking assignment's pizza, although I need a website for one more part. How was the base of a traditional pizaa made?
PLEASE HELP!
THANKYOU! ♥
http://www.essortment.com/all/historyofpizza_rmgf.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pizza
Hello again! :)
So the first link basically tells you more on the first question but also about the shape and size of the base and the second link if you scroll down the page says Base and baking methods. Whilst cross referencing sites I've found most sites to say that the first pizzas were indeed hand tossed. Good luck! Tell me if you need any additional help. Hope I helped! :/ x
Hi,
For my school cooking assignment we are creating our own pizza. We also have to investigate the background of pizza. There are two questions that I can't find any information on.
1. Describe a traditional pizza- how is the bade mad and what toppings does it have?
2. Describe the traditional toppings for 3 different pizzas
If you have any websites that answer these questions, PLEASE tell me them!
Thankyou :)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_pizza
Just read the first paragraph :) Hope I helped! Good luck! x
i'll try to keep this as short as possible. so there is this girl. we met in high school but it wasnt love at first site. in fact, we had hardly spoken to each other throughout high school until my senior year(her junior year) i hit her up on myspace(she didnt go to the same school anymore). we started going out, not as boyfriend and girlfriend but as just friends. slowly but surely we started to grow feelings for each other. after about the fourth outing, she confesses that she was going to be moving from california to georgia for her senior year and college. i know i probably should have broken it off then but i wouldn't let her go.
time passes and she moves to georgia in the summer of 08. we talk everyday. the next year passes(we've both been in and out of a relationship)and she comes back to cali to visit. we go out a couple times and we have a few conflicts and before she leaves, we stop talking. about a month later she texts me and says she doesn't want us to end that way... we start talking again but its not the same, i felt she was different but didnt really say much about it.
another year passes and she visits again. we plan a kinda 'double date' at the beach. the closer the day got til we went, the more she started acting like a butt hole. the day before the trip, i canceled. i didnt want to drive 100 and something miles to get her and another 50 or so miles to the beach then all the way back if she was going to hold an additude the whole time. this lead to a giant arguement which lead up to my saying somthing like "...oh thats nice, i still dont give a ...." which ended the relationship.
i still care about her, i just know that if i hit her up now after the show i gave, im basicly handing over my manhood and i know she's not going to call me. i had decided to just let it go...
seemingly unrelated, a few months later, i quit my job and a joined the army. it so turns out(i swear that this is a coincidence) that my basic training camp is just over a 100 miles from from her school =/
what now??? should i call or leave it alone. and if i do call, what do i say. i've had a feeling on how i would handle this but im curious as to how it may look from the outside.
can you help me???
To be honest, I think you should just leave it alone. From the outside it looks like you two have always had conflicts from the beginning and although it keeps things interesting, it is not a healthy relationship. Even if you get together again it is not like somehow everything will be perfect and you won't break up. It seems that there may be a conflict in communication or just plain difference in personalities. Plus you've joined the army which complicates it even more because you won't stay near her campus forever. If you really want to call her just to clear everything up and get closure, that is fine but I wouldn't look into continuing any flings you had. Also it is extremely important that you said you felt she changed. You could be (and this is a total assumption) holding on to the memories and experiences of her before she changed and when you were closer before she moved. Its hard to let go of someone when you think of how good things use to be because the hope that it will go back to before is so alive. I mean this is form my experience so I'm really not sure if that is a factor at all. Just look at what you miss and why you like her and see if she still possesses those qualities. Also look at when she has been a "butt hole" and basically think whether or not you could ever really have something with her! Good luck! Sorry this is long :/ Hope I helped! x
I am trying to figure out objectively what I should expect from a man I am in a relationship with, and what are things I might not be able to expect because some men just aren't that way. I am not materialistic or selfish, I am in fact the opposite. So certain things in my relationship I would like to see more of and I want to know if what I want is the same as what other women expect too. What are some things your man or a past boyfriend has done that you loved? And what are some things you wish your boyfriend or previous boyfriend would have done? Did the things you wish he would do effect your relationship negatively?
In a relationship I always expect the typical three things, obviously trust, honesty and respect. When one of these things are missing in my relationship I find that it definitely has a negative effect on my relationship. I had an ex who would always call me or somehow "happen to meet" me and my girlfriends on our girls nights out and I hated that he always had me on lock down. I also expect that although there is honesty I don't have to tell him everything that is upsetting me because there are some things I just don't want to talk about. My ex use to just hold me when I cried and he'd ask me once if I wanted to talk about it, if I didn't we just sit there and I'd be able to feel the security of him being there without being uncomfortable and having to spill all.
The most important thing I think is that when you do meet a boy, you can't expect him to do the things you want him to do all the time or do all the things. For example, there was a question on here from a girl artist about how to get a boyfriend to paint with her like her ex did. It's unreasonable to expect your boyfriend to share the interests as your ex boyfriend did but not unreasonable to find someone willing to experiment. Just don't expect everything to be the same.
Also I don't believe that affection just depends on the man. In the real relationships that I've been in all the guys have had no problem showing me their affection, none of them forgot anniversaries or couldn't be bothered on my birthday. If a guy really likes you, he'll show you. Hope I helped! Sorry this is long. :/ Good luck! xxx
Okay. I know this is a redundant question, but I haven't been single in nearly 4 years, so I'm totally blind to what I'm supposed to do when I find somebody atractive.
I work with this guy, and he's cute as I don't know what. And although we rarely work the same shift, he often comes in right when I'm leaving. We've never had a really legitimate conversation, but we've talked and joked a few times before. And I try my best to flirt in the short time I've got there, but I'm so desperately bad at it that today, all I was able to say in a flirty way was "oh, you smell really good!" To which he laughed and said thank you. (I'm smooth, I know.) Anyway, I'm shamefully asking for tips on flirting within a short window of time, say like five to ten minutes tops, and how I could ask for his number or give mine without seeming like a total creeper.
I would normally just let this play out as it would, but it's just a Halloween job that ends in a week, and I feel like I just can't let this opportunity pass.
I've just lost some weight, am losing some more, and my confidence is slowly climbing, but I'm not the most confident girl out there, and I'm still awkward and hopeless in front of the "cute boys". I know it's immature, but at least I'm honest about that, right? It's a start. :)
Anyways, any tips would be so greatly appreciated. And as embarrassing as this is to admit, I'm 19/f if that helps at all. Thanks in advance.
I would go for the more casual type of flirting. You don't have to constantly compliment him to flirt with him because you'll come off obvious and desperate. When he walks in just say "Hey name, what's up?" He'll porbably say nothing much and you? Small talk and such. Then casually just say "Hey I found this really good mexican restaurant" or whatever he likes to eat or you like to eat and be like "We should go there sometime yea?" Then give him your number and if he likes you even a bit he'll text or give you his number. If he doesn't then I woudl just move on and try to find another guy because if he's really cute then maybe he has a gf or is a player. The key is just to be really friendly and casual. He'll get it, and this way it won't be uncomfortable if he rejects you because you didn't really ask him anything." Good lcuk! Hope I helped. :]
I'm going to a halloween party as a dead french maid. I want like blood on my face, and on my body, arms etc. But i'm not sure how to do it?! Can anyone please give me some tips and what to do... how to have my hair and everything?! I was going to put bits of blood on my dress too.
Well if you want a REALLY REALISTIC scar with blood I would search on youtube for some tips that use gelatin. You can buy it at any local supermarket. It's basically like jello but it sticks to your skin. I got mine in sheets and microwaved them until it was like a syrup. Then I put a large line on my face not to tall tho and slit a line through the middle of it. After that it's basically just red and brown eyeshadow and red paint. The FOUNDATION. but its so realistic from far away people rly think you're bleeding if its not halloween. I found a lot of grea tutorials on youtube so check on there. Its simple easy and pretty fast. For your hair I'd definitely go with a teased messy bun. Or you if you have the hat I would go for teased wavy hair with tons of hairspray to give it that dry been in the ground effect. Hope I helped!! xxx
Hi. Im seventeen and i finally found a good guy. He and I have been seeing each other for about six weeks now and were doing great. He always as his friends tell me that I am the first girl he actually likes and cares about. I have met his parents (a first for him) and his friends adore me. We hang out usually four times a week and we have a great connection. I am just worried why he has not asked me to be his girlfriend. We are currently exclusive which I know, but we are not in a relationship. I am his "girl" but not his "girl friend" how do I know if he wants to ask me out? Any signs? Or what if he just wants a "thing?" I am trying to be happy with what I have now, because he is amazing, but I think i am going to say something by the three month mark. Any one care to help?
Define seeing each other? Just going on dates and stuff? Maybe he doesn't know that you need him to ask and he thinks you guys are already dating/ going out. I mean his friends adore you, his family approves and you hang out four times a week plus he tells everyone about you? If he was just testing you out or having a "thing" with you, why would he bring you back to meet his family and tell all his friends about you? If a guy just wants to have a thing he wouldn't introduce you to all these people, he'd keep you around to have fun. I think that if he doesn't ask you by the three month mark you should definitely ask if you're going out or what is exactly going on between you too. I mean it's already been a month and a half of this seeing each other four times a week and meeting family members and such and if he hasn't gone out with any other girls I think its safe to say that you guys are basically dating. I would even ask him when you get to two months or two months and a half because if he really likes you as much as you say, he's not going to stop seeing you because you want him to define what your relationship is. Good luck! Hope I helped! x
im 16/f. my boyfriend is 15, and he had his first heartbreak almost a year ago. he cant let it go and told me that it always hurts when he sees them together and cant forget no matter how hard he tries they were together for 6 months. we've been going out for almost a month and he told me that he finally found someone better to love(that would be me).. i know it takes time and stuff, and i know that he really likes me...but i really cant handle this feeling. i feel kind of sad because of it. i mean its been a year already? dont you think hed let it go by now? i feel so hurt... what should i do. i cant talk to him about it because ive done that before and dont like bringing it back up.. please give me some advice :(
I think you should just let this go. Even though he still hasn't completely gotten over his ex it sounds like he is starting to really develop some feelings for you. I think that instead of constantly worrying and suspecting that he wants to go back to his ex, you should just be there for him and show him the difference between his ex and you. He was really hurt by her and the scar is obviously still there so that gives you an up side against her because you haven't broken his heart and you make him forget about her and feel happy. I think it takes time to get over your first but if you start getting angry when he talks about her or brings her up he's going to start keeping his feelings and thoughts to himself and when he can't come to you for advice or to be cheered up your relationship will fall apart. I use to tell my ex boyfriend that I didn't mind if he wanted to talk about his first and how hurt he was and because he was happy he could be open with me we talked about everything and we had a really strong relationship. It ended because of long distance issues other wise I think we would still be going strong today. If you are the supportive caring current girlfriend then she becomes the evil ex girlfriend and eventually his fledging feelings towards you will become stronger and stronger and he will associate his mended broken heart with you. Everyone thinks back to their first love occasionally but the important thing is that he's with YOU now not still on the fence about whether he should get with a new girl or not cuz of his ex. Good luck! Hope I helped :/ x
I'm thirteen. my period started a year ago, and i still lose it for months at a time. i didn't have it once this summer.I am a virgin. Is something wrong with me?
No this is normal. When girls first start there period it is not as regular but when you get older it will gradually come every month. Lots of my friends didn't have a regular period for the first two years after they got it but not it comes every three to four weeks. If you still experience sketchy periods after two years I would talk t your mom or doctor about it and get a check up. For now though, its perfectly normal and you don't have to worry about it. Hope I helped. Good luck! x
my boyfriend and his family are moving back to england at the end of the year weve been going out for 3 years now and i dont know what im going to do im 18 and a part of me is saying i should stay home another is telling me go with him. this feeling of him leaving is tearing us apart hes my bestfriend and my boyfriend and i really think we were going to have a life together. i was going to just go to a two year colluge for nursing so i dont really dont care where i go i want to be with him so bad and he literally can not stay because of finacial reasons. but if anyone has advice on what i should do or if i should go and if i do then explain how to start planning my future.
How close are you two? Do you think he also has thought about having a future with you? I think you should discuss with him where he sees your relationship going if you two are really that serious and close. If you don't think he'd feel comfortable talking about spending a life with you then I don't think you should move to England and change your life to fit his future. However if he is open to talking about your relationship and the options there and you don't care where you go anyways I would definitely move there with him. England has lots of great schools and its a new culture that you would get to experience with your boyfriend! Plus if you've been dating for three years it would be a great way to move your relationship on to a new level and continue it without having to possibly break up because of long distance. I think it really depends on what he is thinking because as much as you care about him and love him, there is no point moving there unless he is ready for you to go with him and he loves you enough and you two are in that mature stage to talk about spending your lives together. Hope I helped! Good luck! :/ x
ok so i broke up with this boy and got back together with him.. and he is my current boyfriend.
but just several days ago i was at this movies night were you dont sleep. and well this guy started holding my hand and stuff under the sheets.. i told my bf the next day.. i think the other guy likes me and well i dont know how i feel
to top it off my ex like completely flirted with me today on the bus.
i feel horrible for my bf cause of all that is happening.
what do i do??
im not completely into my bf.
I would break up with your boyfriend. Obviously you broke up with him before and now that you got back with him you don't even like him that much. If you were truly happy with him you wouldn't like it when you flirt with other guys. It's better to break it off with him now then when you've been in the relationship for even longer and things get more intense. It's worse to keep leading him on then to dump him again. Your boyfriend shouldn't be someone that you kind of have feelings for. Also think about why you got back with him. Out of guilt, or because you were lonely or really because you missed him? If I were in your situation I would let my feelings develop with someone new because it seems like you're dragging some kind of old romance with the boy you're with now and you don't even know if you really like him. Good luck! Hope I helped :/ x