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I cheated on him because he didn't show me enough affection
Ok so im 22 and i have been engaged for about 10 months now, and we are always fighting and basically there seems to be no love, for example we dont have sex,( hes muslim) im british so it crosses my mine hes waiting until we are married,but there are no cuddles or kisses i have to ask for them and his tone these days seems to be abit rude, we have a property together and we are not living in it he is still living with my parents with me. I dont know what to do. Also i feel bad because a year before we was engaged he broke up with me we was dating before and in that year i went away to university and met someone else and had passion all the time, and sex and i feel bad and wish that, that never happened, i never told him about the other guy i feel theres no need ater all he broke up with me, Also i cant remember if when we was dating before i was childish and he never showed me affection 2 years ago and im sure that i just met someone else and cheated on him when i was 17. Ive never told him of course but it was probably because he never showed me affection or i never saw him much.
ANYWAY IVE NEVER LOOKED AT ANOTHER MAN SINCE MY ENGAGEMENT BUT THings dont seem to be going well, i mean im feeling lonely he sleeps in a single bed next to me and he never feels he wants to hugg me or anything i mean i dont get the feeling he loves me. What can i do? i feel a slave cooking everyday, cleaning and i have university and i just dont think there is any affection there. Please help
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Are you insane?
You can't marry this man.
Despite being with this man for years, you seem to barely know each other at all! You aren't even certain if he is waiting for marriage because of his religion! That's the kind of thing you need to talk about and be really clear about the thoughts and opinions of your partner.
Dump him. End it. This isn't a relationship, or a partnership at all.
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To be honest if I were in your position I would confront him about your feelings and worries and if you still don't get an enthusiastic response I would end the engagement. I know thats so daunting! But lets think about this. You're going to have to spend the rest of your life with this person. Every day wake up to him, every day go to sleep with him. You're not even married yet and you're having problems plus the fact that you felt so neglected you cheated on him. I mean I'm not trying to push the Disney can't live without each other ideal of love onto you, but all I'm saying is that if you're going to marry someone shouldn't you be at least sure that they love you? I use to live in Egypt and I've seen engaged couples and I'll tell you know I've never seen the woman have to ask for affection. If this is a healthy relationship you shouldn't feel like a slave, you should want to do these things for him. Calling off an entire marriage and starting new with someone else might seem so much harder than just seeing how everything turns out after you're married, but once you're married, you're married. What is the point of just trying out a marriage only to have it end badly with financial problems and custody hearings. You're only twenty two and I'm sure there are plenty of men out there with more similarities in all the categories such as religion and PDA and all that stuff. Please don't take this the wrong way and think I'm telling you to end your relationship just because you're having a rough time. All I'm saying is that if you don't feel there is love, then you won't make it through marriage. Some couple who do have love don't even make it so I'm just saying better your chances against the odds. If you don't even feel comfortable approaching him about the problem then you know somethings wrong because you shouldn't feel uncomfortable communicating with someone who you will be doing just that with for the next sixty or more years of your life... Good luck!!! Hope I helped :/ x
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