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Hey whats up Im Jon and yes that is me in the pic... anyways, im am the big brother to any and all friends in my school and out. I am a flirt butt im so nice that by the time a girl starts to like me (like that), she wants to just be friends. Its sucks sometimes butt its an honor. I love to help people and I love to fun. Most of the time I have fun helping people.
Im 5'10, 140 pounds. I have blue eyes, adn dark hair with a mustache and a goatee. Im a sophomore and I play soccer, lacrosse, basketball, and hockey. Ive been through alot of situations so just hit me up and ill help ya out... peace peace!

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ok, so i have a ton of guy friends, and i never have any trouble talking to them or anything. but theres this one guy that i have a crush on, and i cant look at him when i talk to him! i dont know why, i can talk to him fine, but i avoid looking at him, which makes me look stupid! what can i do to make myself look at him? i can talk just fine, but the looking is the problem... thanks!!

if its that you cant look at his eyes... and you like him... you need to invite him over to your house or somethin as a friend...

if its that you cant look at him period... you need to just close ur eyes while hes talkin... and then lift your head to his level and open them... it sounds weird but it'll work...

either way... that faact that you cant look at him is probably cause you like him so much, butt you dont want to show that you do in front of his friends or ur friends... maybe in fear of rejection, whatever... invite him over and get to know him better.... and let him know how you feel

-jon

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Ok I have a problem! I like these two guys but its very confusing. One i've liked for two years and the other turned me down last year but now he says he likes me. The problem is, I like guy2 but he has a bad reputation. I dont know if i want to trust that, cause i'm not that kind of girl. Guy1 is like totally perfect in everyway but is sort of a player. One day it seems that he likes me but the other its like whats her name again. If I had my choice i would choose Guy1 n e day. You have got to help me! how do I know which guy is really into me for ME! Thanx Jon.

aiightt well uve already gotten rid of guy2... so level out the good things and bad about this guy1... yeah hes a player butt u can decide if u wanna bang him or not... just play it out and make a decision based on what U want... peace peace

-jon

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Ok, theres this guy who is my friend and who has been hanging around me but like in a wierd way. He gives me "happy embarassed" looks and likes to sit by me at lunch. My friend told me she thought he liked me, but he denied it. Do you there is any possible way that he really does like me. I really need to figure this out. Please help.

PS. He also flirts with me alot alot alot!!!!

yeah it sounds like he likes u... hell sounds like crazy shit i would do... if u like him, "hit that" in ghetto terms... talk to himand get to know him as well as possible and if its meant to be itll work out... if u dont like him... thats a whole different story

peace peace

-jon

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I am in love with this guy i used to be dating. him and my best friend are really tight. sumtimes i think too tight. I got dumped for her, but they never went out again. when they first were together Marie cheated on Logan. but Marie (my friend) and Logan (my X) are still very tight. I love marie to death but all she does is talk about Logan. she got dumped 3 weeks ago by her boyfriend she was with for 9 months. i know she loves him and only loves logan as a friend. but sumtimez i cant help but be jealous. Im not positive if Logan still like marie. But when i think of how hurt i was when i got dumped i cant help but blame marie too!! i feel like a bad friend that and i really want Logan back... please help me!!

let him know how u feel and ask him in a civilized way if he has or or had any feelings for marie... ask him what u have to do to make him happy because u kno that just being with him will make u happy.... and know that theres a chance u may lose a boyfriend or a best friend or both pending on how considersate they are to their freind... peace peace

-jon

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For the past few monthes i have gone through a lot. Family problems, friend problems, school problems...etc etc etc. All i have really wanted is someone to hold me and be there for me (to put it plainly i really want a bf) Just so he can be there for me to tell me its ok. Friends are great to have and all but i want someone to hold me when i need them. My problem is i can't seem to get guys to like me. My friends say i am really pretty and i have everything it takes to get a guy. But for some reason i can't get a guy. Could someone please tell me what to do? :-/

What the fuck dude i have the sam,e exact problem... all i want is someone to cuddle with on the couch and chill with on long night... not lookin to bang some girl for a night... lookin for someone to call my own... god damn... aiight look... just play it low for like a week nad veiw the surrounding guys in the atmosphrere... start talkin to one who u think could work, butt dont show too much affection towards him... if its meant to be itll work out... good luck... hit me up sometime on aim or somethin peace peace

-jon

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iight i need some advice on what to do here...iight...i known this boy since i was 9 years old..he lives down the street from me and he was best friends with my brother..know im 16 and he is 17..im best friends with his sister and my mom is best friends with his mom...well me and him have been real close for along time..like i used to go out with him when i was little and i used to mess with him alot like all the time and all that...well he has been with this girl for about 3 years know..but they broken up alot and stuff...well me and him still mess with eachother..and he is my first true love..he gave me my first kiss and i feel like its time to move on..but i just lost my virginity to him...but his girlfriend has no clue..and i dont feel bad about it because i wouldnt have wanted to lose it to anyone besides him b'c i know we both care about eachother and love eachother..everyone says we should be together( like my friends i talk to about it) but i just feel it wont work out because of the family relationships...everytime i see him i just wanna jump him...and i just want him so bad but dis broad/girl is in my way..but i know he loves her to...what do i do... i need help? i wanna move on but i dont know how...what do you think i should do? Desperate

ok i had this girl with me for a long time and i havent had anyone since her even though she stabbed me in the back... you need to think and plan out what u want to do... u could move on, forget about the love you share with him... and be like me in sayin that if is meant to be itll work out in the long run... or you could pressure the situation, try and go back with him... have the tension of his ex on your ass all day and break up over somethin stupid... go with ur heart, go with ur gut, butt make sure ur decision makes u happy... and make sure ull stand behind it... peace peace

-jon

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i like making comics. what are some good tips for writing and drawing them? thanx! =)

First off... its not always the best idea to look at other comics for ideas... they get stuck in ur head and then u think about using something... comics are something to be unique in so one day right before u start to draw... clear ur haed and then the first thing that comes to ur mind... draw a comic about... whether it be a french frie or a girlfriend problem... or a girlfriend that looks like a french frie... whatever... peace peace

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hows it going everyone
i'm training for a military parachuting course and it's really physically demanding. anyone got tips on training long distance running?
and how often i should workout at the gym?
thanks alot.

Theres this thing that I do with my football friend called jackrabbit running... you do a forth of the lap walking... a forth of the lap jogging, and two forths sprinting... when we distance run... we go to the track and time ourselves on 4 laps(1 mile) and then work on beating that time throughout the week, which is about everyday... than the next week we'll run towards 6 laps, and add 2 laps each week... we do this in the summer to prepare for sports... by the end of august we'll run about 20 laps in a decent amount of time... water water water when it comes to drinkin... water constanly until about an hour before the harder stuff where u need the most energy... than u drink like gatorade or propel, or even the energy drinks with the least amount of sugar and most amount of water nutrients and energy supplements...im not big on the protein shakes or what not... with the gym schedule... set up a full weekly scheldule of running and exercising and gym time... and while at the gym, work on the claves, hamstrings, ankles, thighs, quads, and knees for extra strength... hit me up for extra info if needed... peace peace

jon :-b

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My boyfriend is currently in the military, and I was wondering about mailing different types of care packages and fun gift letters instead of boring ones... Does anyone have any great ideas of easy and fun things I can send to him? Or any sites that could help a little. Thank you so much!

well its not really a great idea to send just him stuff and not the other people in his area so its a good idea to send like alot of gifts like razors, or stationary things, or stuf like gum and juice mixes... its hard to find the right gifts and once my dad got some tasty cakes and a candle from home, and because he didnt have enough for everyone, the troop got to eat the tasty cakes, and he had to eat the candle... sware to god... he laughs at it though... ANYWAYS, if its something love related u wanna send, make a card... dont by one, reminisce about the young days of making your own card and do one for ur boyfriend to let him kno u still care no matter where he is in the world... write him something to live for like a poem... and make sure u let him kno u love him alot... theyre over there doing god only knows what, and anything from the outside world helps them get through the day, some things more than others... peace peace

-jon :-b

ps... see if he has an e-mail address that u can send him letters to

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hey im going to the movies with this guy i really like and he likes me too...we hold hands, make out n kiss n stuff like that all the time but we dont go out because we dont see eachother enough to be bf/gf...so we are kinda friends with benefits but we act like we go out...heres the problem...its so boring just kissing and holding hands all the time..i like him sososos much but i wanna do this to turn him on..im scared to kiss his neck bc hes taller then me and i dont wanna mess up n slober on him! ew!..so in the movies i want to do something with him but not handjobs or nothing because i dont wanna seem slutty or easy...wat can i do to get him horny and turn him on n posibly give him a boner?

aiight look... if i was in the movies with a girl, most likely id wanna watch a movie... grant it i would like some play, but like u said, no handjobs or anything like that... something i like though is cuddling... and that can lead to rough cuddling as i call it... sit with him somewhere away from the other people if u can... and just take his arm and put it around u and lay on him... than as the movie progresses, maybe rub his stomach area and complement him like "Oooh" and when he says what, just wbe like, "nothin, just feelin ur six pack"... let him get all confident... than u can move at ur pace by u kno feelin his leg or my favorite, just out of nowhere grabbing his chin and pulling it towards to to kiss him... then just be like, sorry, i just had a need... if hes intrested, he'll come back for more, if not, hes either gay, or shy... good luck... peace peace

-Jon :-b

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does any one know any easy tricks to do ona wake board?

It depends on how good you are... and how long you've been on the board... one of the easiest ones is walking the board where u start from the back and walk the length of the board to the front... or a tail whip... peace peace

-Jon :-b

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I've known this kid for about.. well a long time. We've been friends for longer than my crush on him. We usually talk a lot online, but this summer we haven't talked.. once.. at the beginning of the school year (nov-03) I told a close friend of mine that I liked him. She promised not to tell him, but she asked him out for me. He said no and I denied the whole thing ever happened. Now I'm messed up since the LAST song of the LAST dance he asked me to dance (I said yes, duh) Now I don't know what to do.. I would ask my other verrry close guy friend, but that would be akward. I haven't talked to him, so I don't know what's been going on with him.. (my crush) Wow.. this isn't breif.. >:) -Confuzzled

Aiight... obviously if he asked you to the dance or to dance with him, he likes you better than all the other girls... the worst answer to askin someone out... NO... theres nothin worse than that... so go for it with him... start a convo with him and ask what hes been up to to show that u care... and when the times right, tell him you like him... i kno u wont believe me, butt some guys are shy, so definitely wait forthe right time, like when u guys are just hangin out together maybe watchin a movie... and play ball... peace peace

-Jon :-b

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i dont know what to do. i have dis boyfriend but we NEVA hang out! like NEVA! and i cant call him cuz i dun got long distance (he lives like 20 minutes away but in the same state) so he only calls me once a day, which sucks. i miss being single, but if i tell him hell think ima hoe! i wanna go back ta school and not have ta deal wit a boyfriend in the beginning, i juz wanna have fun wit all mah guy friends and girl friends! and ima flirt.. i admit it, but i cant help it, im not a hoe, i only flirt... i really need help. shud i dump him? and if i shud how shud i say it? i really need help ova here...

italian_diamond

Aiight... my number one rule when it comes to a relationship... dont play around, or lie... if u dont like him, and u wanna be single, dont stay with someone just to make sure hes happy, or jsut to make sure he doesnt think ur a hoe... if u know ur not a hoe, than thats all that matters... and in the long run, itd be better if u just told him the truth rather than waste his ime pretending to like him as much as he thinks u do... peace peace

-Jon :-b

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I need an idea for a date. I don't know they guy real well, we've only talked 2 times. So i want to get to know him, and i'm kinda nervous that going to a movie would me akward. Please give me ideas.

Dinner... sit down and converse on what each likes and dislikes are... have some dessert and all... then go to like a miniature golf place and see if hes a fun guy to be around... save the movies for a rainy day... also, maybe, if hes a good guy, invite him over to let him know without telling him that u like him, butt not enough to get him in the bed on the first date... peace peace.

-Jon :-b



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I don't know where to begin with so much going through my mind and my heart except to get directly to the point, which I'm sure you would appreciate. How do you stop loving and caring for someone that means so much to you when you don't even know how the relationship ended to begin with? I guess that's a pretty wide open question huh Doctor? Can you even relate to what I'm talking about because to tell you the truth I am so baffled at this point, things in my everyday life aren't even making sense to me anymore. It's like I'm just going through the motions everyday, but at the end of the day not really remembering too much of anything except the constant, nagging pain in my heart, which is really unbearable. I am an adult female who thought she had a pretty good thing going with an adult male. THOUGHT being the key word here. No, everything was not always perfect, but what is? Nothing major that we couldn't handle. We seemed to make each other happy in all kinds of ways that you may not even be able to imagine. I still do believe that the love was mutual and not just one-sided, but maybe I was wrong. He told me he loved me and I believed him. Shouldn't I have believed him? Isn't that what love should be based on, trust? I actually "felt" the love and caring that he had for me so I know that it wasn't one-sided. I totally trusted this man, with my life, literally. We had constant, daily communication that one day just abruptly came to a halt. And I do mean a screeching halt! Not a halt on my part either, but his. With no explanation in any form he just no longer shared any type of communication with me whatsoever. What's that all about? We had a little communication problem the night before everything ended and I was in a position where I could not make him fully understand what all was taking place, no I was not with another man or anything remotely like that, I was just in a position that made it impossible for me to talk at that moment> Let me stop there because I know that's not making sense to you. However I never got the chance to tell him what the whole deal was. And it doesn't look like I ever will. That was the last night that I ever talked to him. I love this man so much more than I ever thought that I possibly could love someone and I know that we would have been so good together and I know that he knows that too. What's the problem then you might ask? As I stated before, he will not answer any of my calls, he no longer calls me, and I don't really know what to think. I do know that he is a very open minded caring person and this just isn't like the man I fell in love with to not let me know what the problem is, so what do I do? Please don't tell me to just simply ask him what happened because like I said, he will not take my calls or contact me. How can anyone be that cold-hearted? He has totally broke my heart, broke my spirit, and yanked my soul right out! The biggest problem that I have is not understanding what happened! Surely you can understand that? He has to know that doesn't he? You can't possibly be in constant contact with someone throughout the entire day, every single day, and then one day just stop all communications and not expect them to question what the hell happened. Obviously he just doesn't want anything to do with me, that's a no-brainer. But until he tells me so and tells me why, how can I ever have any closure with the relationship, or even have any peace for my ever so confused, battered, busted up heart? I miss him terribly. I guess I got that point across pretty well already. On the flip side of this sad, but true story - Right in sync with him just totally ignoring me, this is unreal, but true, all of these men out of my past and some that have been trying to go out with me or come into my life all called in a one-week period. Sad, but true, I'm just not interested. How can I be even remotely interested anyway when nothing has been resolved with him. I will not be interested in anyone in that same way again because I know in my heart that he is the one for me, I know it, and he knows it too. Or maybe not? How do I find out what went wrong when it's impossible to ask anyone a question when they simply won't talk to you? Now how cold is that? Doesn't everyone deserve that much? I know they do, and yes, I know people don't always get an explanation even though there always is one. I don't know how to make you understand that he is just not that "typical" person that just leaves people's hearts hanging without an explanation, or maybe I just have him figured all wrong. Am I a total fool? If so then I'm a fool in love. If that is the case and I am to never get an answer, how do I go on? I can't keep walking around everyday crying, in a freaking daze, with real pains in the pit of my stomach as well as my heart. All of the people who know me know that I smile all the time and am for the most part a happy person always trying to bring a smile to others. But since that day, they all ask me where my smile is, where's that sparkle in my eyes, where's my spunk, where's my love for life? I'm not going to get it back until I know what happened. What do I do? How does one stop loving when they don't even know what went wrong? How do you ever get your mind, heart, and soul "together" again? How do you ever trust again? How do you stop the very real pain? I am a grown woman and this was not a little crush. I took it very seriously as he told me he did too. I did things for him that I had never done for anyone else to try and please him, which ultimately pleased me in doing so. As you can tell my thoughts are all over the place. And like I said I don't see how I can "pull myself together" without answers. This is really, really rough and I don't think he gets that or he would talk with me, right? What to do? How to cope? When does the pain stop? Why did this happen? Why can't I get any answers? How to trust again? When I commit to something or to someone, I really try to give it my all, which is why I get hurt so easily. That, I can answer.


Signed; Desperately Seeking An Answer

Alright... one... when as deep a trust and faith is built between two people, such as in your situation, it is very easy for one half of the relationship to NOT want to tell you of something they did BECAUSE of the level of trust that you have together... for example, lets say he cheated on you... he is so ashamed after the fact that he cannot gather himself together to tell you what he has done... therefore he looks for an alternate escape... total exile. He hears you say you cant talk at the moment and sees his chance to escape... now, by calling him, you are telling him that you definitely still care even though he has made the mistake of cuttting opff connections with you... and with every call he receives from you, comes the love you have shared with him for however long it may have been. One thing I have grown to understand is that if it is meant to be, everything will work out. At some point he will let the fault he has made go by, and he will contact you and make sense of teh broken-heartedness he has casued. In the mean time, it is a smart idea to just lay low, in my opinion. Let him have his space. Butt in one final attempt, write a letter to him explaining all of the feelings you have displayed here, and whatever else you are feeling that you can or cannot release here. He HAS to check his mail... and curiousity kills the cat, he WILL read it. The day after you send it, call numerous times and try to get an answer. If he still continues to ignore you, stop completely. Once again, curiousity will overcome him, and he will call you to find out if you are ok. By the looks of it, this is something deeper than a sudden silence... something that has to be felt by all members of the party, you, and him. And if it is at the level at which you claim it to be before the sudden loss of conversation, than he will be back, and this my friend, just abump in the road of a long and helathy relationship...

-Jon

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ok another question...i really like this guy, but hes 2 years older than me, and he likes another girl...but at first i thought he liked me, cuz he would kinda flirt with me, but i dont think he does anymore, and my friend told him i like him but he doesnt believe her...what should i do?

let him know the truth... a guy will doubt that someone likes them sometimes until the actual person tells them... so tell him u like him and see where u go from there... if u let him know ur intrested, he wont just ignore u, he'll kno and he'll appreciate u can tell him urself... peace peace!

-Jon :-b

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ok me and my best friend got in a huge fight for nothing now all we're doing is bi***ing after each other and well I don't know I want to stay friends but from the looks it's not going to well I don't what I should say to make it stop got ne suggestions??

lots of love cutie_babee

Aiight well for one, if u guys are good friends itll blow over... however certain fights do result in a long silence pending on what the fight was about and all... peace peace


-Jon :-b

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Hi see I was on My New Honda Motorcycle and I slide and wreck, it didn't hurt that bad but when ever I walk I have to limp, whats wrong.
Im a gurl age is 15 and a Champ of raceing

It might be a nerve making u limp like that... thats just a guess, butt i HAD TO HAD TO HAD TO answer a question from a Biker Gurl... peace peace!

-Jon :-b

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im getting new rims on my car (cuz someone at school f'd mine up) but i cant decide what would look best on my car, if anyone has any suggestions let me know cuz i have no idea, oh and i have an 02 trans am so no like 24s or anything, im think i wanna go with 18s, thanks

glad i could help... seems like uve already decided... BUTT if it were me, id get stock size rims, just REALLY shiny... peace peace

-Jon :-b

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How do you know that you're in love. I've liked this guy since the beginning of the school year and my friends think he likes me back. He's had several girlfriends but the "dating time" never really lasts long. Lately I've been thinking about him a lot and everytime a hear a song...I automatically think of him. What is love? And how do you know that you're in it?

Love... love is a strong word there boss... i mean, its a symbol of ur affection towards one single person... and from the sounds of it, u "really like" this guy... with the whole dating time thing... it may just be cause he doesnt have the girl he wants or the girl with the same intrests... and if u think about himm that much without knowing how he feels... get in there and take a shot... just be straight and be cool... I do have to say though that u kno ur in love when u wake up in the morning, and u think of him, and when u go to sleep at night, ur thinking of him, and when he feels the same way... tell that boy u love him... peace peace!

-Jon :-b

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