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I'm totally fuckin' confused!!
First of all, i think that you give really good advice, but their is one thing that I desagree with. A couple of the girls asked if they should shave down there and you say shave, I think that if they want to shave the should but, if they are shaving for their boyfriends they shouldn't if their boyfriends truly love them they won't care if they shave or not. That is just my opinion but u kno. Anyway I am a 14 year old female,and I need to know sumthing, I am goin out wit a drug dealer, he gets himself in trouble everyday n has almost got himself killed acouple times. I love him tho and I know that he loves me. The only problem is I'm scared that one of these days hes gonna get me involved n then I will be the one almost killed. I want to kno if I should stay with him or not? I have another guy who likes me too. He is not into drugs but he lives 4 hours away, he loves me with all of his heart, we were together once but the distance was just to much we rarely got to see each otha, i mean once or twice a year and we only love 4 hours apart. I feel the same about the two fo them. They both want me to lose my virginity to them. I know u think I am too young but I have been wanting to lose my virginity (to the guy 4 hours away) for a long time but now I am goin out with the drug dealer and I really don't want to dohim cuz hes had so many sexual partners n u don't knwo what he has/might have.I really love the drug dealer but I was with the otha guy for longer. Who do I choose and should I lose my virginity to either one? Thanx for the advice beforehand. Lata Dayz!
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Alrighty--Just to get things straight, I don't remember ever giving that kind of advice about the shaving. Maybe I did, but I'm just a psycho loser who can't remember things. Moving on--The guys. First let's start with the drug dealer. Now, I know you like Mr. Dealer a lot, but I don't think you'd really enjoy spending all that time with him if you guys got caught doing something (like selling). Now, if I were you, I'd voice my concerns to him, something along the lines of "Man, I love you very much, but if you get me involved with anything that you do, then I can't be with you anymore." Something like that. It's not really a threat, more like a promise :). Yes, you will wanna be with him through thick and thin, but you havta look out for yourself, as well. Now onto the little thing about your virginity and the other guy. You're right, I do think that you're too young, but that's not my place to say. It's your life, your choices, and I will fully support you with whatever decision you make, just because that's what we were born with, Free Will. Now, to me (and I'm hoping to you), virginity is something special, and you'd want to lose it with that special someone. The guy that lives 4 hours away may be that special someone, but I don't want you to have any regrets. Like, if you guys do have sex, you won't be able to see eachother that much because of the distance. That's basically the only thing that I'm if-y about. But, if you do choose that you want Mr. Dealer, then maybe you should try to get him tested before you really do anything with him. Better safe than sorry, right?
Hope I helped!
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Thanks. Shaving is totally up to the shaver. Its kinda fun the first time, but anyway.
Drugs and guys who take them are bad news. They break your heart. You could get into trouble too, and it can permanantly screw up your life.
The worst part is when they get thrown in jail, and you have no idea what happened to them. You go visit them, and you feel like a heel. You can care for them all you want, but they care more for the drug than a relationship. You can try to change them, but its very hard.
The guy four hours away. He seems nice. Remember that you won't see him as much as a usual couple, and it will take extra energy to keep it going.
And now for the big V speech. Having sex just to lose your virginity is not as fun as you think. There is the worry of STDs that can kill you or hurt your ability to have children later. The pressure is huge, I know. You have to be prepared for the worst. If you were pregnant, what would you do? Do you have the money to support a child and the care you both will need? Even an abortion costs money, and may affect your health. You will feel connected to whoever you have sex with, and it will be much harder to leave. This could leave you open for mental and physical abuse.
If this doesn't change your mind, please get all of the facts from your doctor or and some protection. The doctor can't run to your parents unless you are having an abortion.
Please wait at least until you are in a committed relationship because they may just get what they want and leave you with the consequences. I hope this helps.
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