|
mothers
my mother is like so evil!!!!!!! Whenevr we r down town in cleveland and we drive past some colored people she locks the doors but she doesnt do that when wer by whites. she is so races. i cant stand her. it hurts me a lot to know that she has a problem with black people. and she yelled at me the other day for wanting a punkish/gothic style and shes like"you do not come from a family of punks or gths so your sticking to aero and other prepy stores" how do i deal with her. sometimes i feel like running away from home. help me!!!!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
Maybe your mother grew up in a home that considered color people different and maybe dangerous. That's not the case today, but your mom may not be aware of that. She's also afraid of you turning out differently than she wants you to. You mom wants you to be preppy and a cute little girl, when all you want is to show individuality. Tell her how you feel and that you think she's holding the reigns too tight.
Tell me if you need anymore advice.
]
You aren't going to change your mom. You can tell her that the race thing is bothering you, but I don't think it will help. The best you can do is to teach your children not to act that way.
Running away from home is not a good idea. It's downright frustrating listening to mom or dad, but it is just part of growing up not to want to listen to mom.
You can do some chores and save up some money and buy your own clothes eventually. It's frustrating trying to get your mom to buy the things you want. You will have more control if it's your money and you are driving. Besides, can't you accesorize a little a be a little punkish/gothish if you want?
]
Your mother isn't exactly evil. it seems that she just has uncertanties about people of color. Although it is wrong, everyone has little things they feel oddly about some people. My mom locks the doors whenever we drive past hobos. Not all hobos are bad people, but she does it to feel safe.
To clarify, punk and goth are two different things. The actual definition of what goth and punk actually are, dont comply with what society has made them seem to be today.
See: My views on "Punk" in my column profile.
Your mother cares about how the public preceves you, I can see that. My mother does the same thing, but I've pushed it to the point where I just let her yell at me, and I wear what I want, and what feels comfortable.
I doubt actual mothers would say "you're sticking to aero and other preppy stores" generally the part about "preppy stores" you're probably paraphrasing, which is okay, because you're getting your point across.
The positive thing is, you aren't a racist, and thats all that matters, as long as you don't conform to your mothers views about those of other races, the world will slowly become a better place. Once you're grown, teach your children not to hate other races, and soon the world will consist of less and less racists. Your beliefs are a start for a better world.
]
tell her how you feel..my mothers kinda racist too and i hate it cuz 50% of my friends are :colored: and i dont look at them any differenlty then :whites:..i think everyone is equal & your skin shouldn't seperate you from one another..but you also have to understand, if your mother is older, like mine, then she was brought up when their was still prej. going on and when they had the seperate schools and the whole mlk,jr thing and yah so she's just tryin to bring you up the way she knows ... all you can really do is talk to her..dont run away..that wont get you anywhere , you;ll get caught and be in trouble..
if you need anything or want to talk, i'm here..i know what you're going thru!!--im dealing with it too..just drop it in the inbox..i'd love to help you..hope it gets better and she understands..xO`lexi
[plz rate]
]
you deffenitly need to talk to her and if she does not listen then just write her a little note. that works a lot with my friends, they write notes to their parents because they wont listen to them. But tell her that you feel unconfortable around her because she is races and that you would like it if she got to know African Americans and gave them a chance and see that they are really nice people...i would also tell her not to judge a book by its cover...they are just like the rest of us...
]
well for sure running away isnt the answer. You do however live in her house under her rules and your just gunna have to except them. Try talking to her about it, tell her exactly how you feel and how much its bugging you. Maybe then she will understand and loosin up a bit. However you cant change her perspective of how she deals with things. thats her way of being.
]
She's not evil or crazy, she's just ignorant. It was how and where she was raised. Parents can be stubborn. Clothes aren't that important when you get down to it, they don't determine who you are. Don't run away, it's far worse when your out there alone. Try to get her to see things the way you see them. If she doesn't listen, she probably never will.
]
YEAH RUNNING AWAY DOESNT SOLVE NOTHING BUT DRAMA OVER DRAMA AND THAT SUXS UNLESS YOUR READY TO FACE ALL THE DRAMA AND STUFF. SO BEST BET IS JUST TO BE STRAIGHT UP TELL HER YOU MAKE YOUR OWN CHOICES AND IF YOU ANNA HANG WIT DIFF RACES THEN SHE NEEDS TO ACCEPT THAT OTHERWISE YOUR GOING TO DO IT BEHIND HER BACK AND THATS HER OWN FAULT IN A WAY BECAUSE SHE WONT LET YOU HANG WIT DIFDF RACES...BEST OF LUCK!
-STEPHANIE
]
you should tell your mom how you feel and running away may sound like a good idea but running away from your problems doesnt solve anything.
]
Wow... you should let your mom calm down after one of those situations happens again and tell her can we please talk... explain to her how you feel that all people should be treated the same that there is nothing wrong with the race...Tell her you don't wanna grow up with so much hate and sometimes you just fee llike running away from home to leave all the races talking behind.please Rate
]
Well, you can't change the way youR Mom views society. HoweveR, with the clothes thing.. just tell 'eR that you would Really appReciate it if she gave you moRe fReedom to pick out youR own waRdRobe!! Hope this helps!! =D
]
I think your mama's crazy... I don't understand why she is racist either, they haven't done anything to her! It's your life and you can decide on what you want to wear! Just have a mother daughter talk with her. Hope it works out! :-)
]
More Questions: |