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My name is Janelle, nice to meet you all.I'm asian (half asian...) and proud of it; even though I seem to be getting whiter and whiter by the day.
I love to make people laugh, it is my passion.
I like music quite a bit as well.
I listen to so many different genres of music, which is great because I have a huge choice to choose from depending on my mood.
I have a HUGE thing for Female Fronted Bands. I really don't know why, but it's an increasing trend of mine and I don't mind it in the slightest.
I'm pretty damn smart, yet can be rather inarticulate at times.
I'm bad at parking cars.
I probably giggle too much.
I love to write, yet I'm too lazy to do so most of the time.
I fall in love with people I haven't even met, but not really nessicarily fall in love, it's more of a very awkward affection/fondness for that person(s).
I have this horrible tendency to listen to a song on repeat for hours on end without even realizing it. Once I do realize it, I still don't take the song off repeat, or attempt to change it.
I have a hard time trying to tell people what's on my mind sometimes because I'm afraid of how they will react.
I daydream and fantisize about god knows what, often.
I'm wanting to get to know people I don't know too well, better.
I'm becoming addicted to orange juice
I don't like it when people don't believe me when I say I'm sorry about something
I love how beautiful some people look when they cry (not that I'm saying that I like people to be in emotional pain, but that their crying brings forth a natural and vulnerable type beauty)
When I help people with their problems, no matter what they are, I feel that I have a purpose on this earth.
There's nothing wrong with being addicted to Kool-Aid.
You must be literate. If you're going to ask me a question, be literate about it or I will gladly take the time to insult your intelligence. If your feelings get hurt and you IM me, I will continue to degrade you there in harsher ways than I would in reply to your question.
Moral of that story: be literate America!
If you are going to insult me, or the advice I give to you, please at least attempt to at least build an okay defense on your behalf. I am more intelligent and have a higher vocabulary than most college students. I just choose not to use it for the sake of time. Calling me a "faggot" means nothing. I could build at least a paragraph of insulting you by that weak, un-intimidating one word "insult". To help you in your attack towards me, I suggest you don't insult aspects of me that you don't even know about me. If you were to say "you're going to die unloved," you would be wrong. I am a very loved person. Stick with insulting what you know. I only will reply to your insults using the information you have said in your "insult" and what you said prior to such. I suggest you be polite and do the same, instead of infering what you think you know about my life.
Anyone who cant deal with the advice I give them, and what I have to say has a serious case of allodoxaphobia. over 99% of you, don't know what that means, unless you look it up in the dictionary. You all need to expand your vocabulary a bit.
Sorry for forgetting that I had this, I'll use it more often!
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you gave advice to me a while back and told me that my situation was being blown out of propotion well come to find out he had placed a bet on her and i was right all along. She found out the hard way but i tried to talk to her about it.
First of all, this is a statement not a question.
Second of all, I don't even remember what advice I gave you.
Third of all, advice is advice. You can either heed it or ignore it. It's not being forced down your throat. It's also not predicting what's going to happen in the future. All it is, is advice.
alright you probably could kick my ass verbally but theres no way in hell you could kick my ass in real life and words dont mean anything and too bad im actually really smart i just dont care on this computer not like it matters for anything
How do you figure that I couldn not kick you ass in real life? You have never met me, nor know a thing about me. I have taken kickboxing and work out regularly.
Words mean plenty. Without words it would be a whole hell of a lot harder to communicate. You would not have been able to say what you just said to me or try to prove your point or anything.
Most of the internet wouldn't even exist without words, so do not go and say that words do not mean anything.
How smart one is, when determined by strangers, is taken by first impression. I was given the impression that you were inarticulate by the way you typed your question and was given no other reason to think otherwise.
You should be caring because first impressions are everything
hey fuck bag 2 bad im not trying to spell right on this retarted thing i really dont care that much
ooh "fuck bag" what an insulting response. I'm pissing my pants I'm so scared of you.
One of these days you're going to look back and realize what a "fuck bag" you were for typing like a retarded (if you're going to insult something, at least do it the decency to spell your insult right) person.
If you didn't care that much then you wouldn't have taken the time to respond to what I had to say.
If you're looking for a fight, keep looking because I can verbally kick anyones ass and you're too easy of an opponent for me.
hi i have a friend and she is nice but is always controlling my life and it is freaking me out so what should i do i mean when i tell her she gets mad at me and stuff but then i have to do what ever she tells me to so ya please help me
love,
she controlling my life
Options
1. Tell her that you aren't her bitch and you don't have to listen to her.
2. Get mad right back.
3. Explain to her what she's doing is stupid and unreasonable.
4. Stop being her friend.
I could go on. But I won't.
ok heres the story: my friend, lets call her becky, well she has had a boyfriend for about 2 months now, lets call him bob. becky really likes bob but then again she can't make up her mind who she likes. she flirts with other guys and like me and her sister and her ex-bf think that bob is using her. bob is younger than her by a couple of months. every time i am with becky and bob they hold each other and crap and i am tired of it.(i'm not jealous b/c i have a bf.) bob makes faces behind beckys back and talks about her and shit and it makes me laugh so when becks asks what is so funny i say bob and then like he totally denies it. something is fishy about him b/c he wouldn't let becky see his yearbook. (btw becky is homeschooled and bob goes to public school. i don't know how to confront becky about this. i tried asking her before but she doesn't listen. i don't know what to do! HELP!
If shes questioning who she likes, then she doesn't really like this bob person. Questioning is the first step to the end of a relationship.
Being younger by a couple of months shouldn't be that big of an impact. Years would be a big impact, but months shouldn't be that big of a deal.
Making face: also not that big of a deal.
Talking shit: a bit of a big deal; talking shit is never nice
As for not showing her his yearbook, that shouldn't matter either. I don't show my parents my yearbook (even though they paid for it) and I don't love them any less or anything. There is nothing fishy about not showing a yearbook.
I think that this situation is mostly being blown out of proportion.
ok so im dating this guy well call him ryan but i used to be best friends with this other guy well call him tyler and me n tyler used to stay up on the fone til like 4 in the mornin every nite 4 a year and he was like in love with m e but i was always to busy trying to make him jealous wen i really did like him so anyways last january Tyler pretty much gave up on me and we decided to be friends but it mademe sick i relized what a big mistake ive made and yea then not that long ago tyler told me he loved me but he likes this other girl wat the hell does that mean and i no me n him belong together wat could i do to get him bak and o yea im dating that 1 guy and weve been goin out for like 3 months and he really likes me but all i can think about is "tyler" but i really wana no how i could get him bak
First off: Your horrid spelling and grammar make me want to beat you with a dictionary. Seriously.
Second of all, he apparently doesn't love you if he likes some other girl. Judging from your poor spelling, you can't be more than 12 or 13. There is a slim to none chance that you'll actually find your "true love" at this age.
You already have someone who you're dating, be happy with what you have. You lost your chance at a couple of months of puppy love. Maybe if you were older and more mature and knew what love was (by the way, talking on the phone until 4AM is not love, just to clarify) and you had a true connection with this person, you should try to fight for it. If he really ment that much to you, you yourself could think of a way to get him back if you knew him well enough.
Let the puppy love you have with him just die already, I guarantee you that you won't end up marrying that "tyler" kid because at your age, you don't know what love is.
I posted yesterday about a guy that I have liked for a long time. I didnt know what to do and im still not sure. He knows I like him.. He Likes another girl but they are not really together. I have like dhim for 2 years now. My bestfriend who is really good with stuff like this said I should just try to let go. If something happens it will happen itself.. But I have liked him to long, And I know that when ever I talk to him I will like him again, and I talk to him every day.
So me and my bestfriend have been talking. and She said I just need to let go. But I said I just needed to find out one thing. If he ever did like me. Ever through out the whole time he has known me. I will say that I dont want an I Dont know. That I need a yes or a no answer. That I dont care. just tell me the trueth.. I will be ok.. and that after we can be friends and Ill let go.. but that I just need to know..
Does this sound to weird of me.. Should I do it differently.. What do I do? Should I even do this? Can you pleaseee help me? anyone..
-please.. Maddie
Honestly I think you should just let him go without all that other crap. He doesn't like you now, he likes someone else. Get over it.
Finding out if he ever liked you will just bring up a false sense of future hope of him maybe liking you in the future causing you to be unable to let go.
Just let him go now before you get things more complicated than they are.
I'm asking this mainly to clear up a misunderstanding between my friends. One of them says that when you give a blowjob, you actually blow. The other says that you suck. Which is it?
hahahahahaha.
your friend needs to watch a few more pornos then, seriously.
It's not like you're trying to inflate anything.
Anyone who thinks you blow during a blowjob needs to take sex 101 or something before even attempting to do anything sexual. seriously.
is it possible to get a guy to like you that barely knows you..i mean i have been talking to him more and he knows my name and what not..but like what are some signs that a guy likes you, and what are some ways thats you could get him to like you.
Congratulations on him knowing your name.
I know that must be a big step!
Because as we all know, as soon as a guy knows your name he'll jump right into a relationship with you. /sarcasm
How you could get him to like you: how about letting him have a chance to get to know you first. Youth now a days are in such a rush to jump into things. If only the world would tone it down a bit
Janelle has returned!
What, you'd think I wouldn't notice? I check this page everyday! - K'
Haha, thank you for your warm (re)welcome!
I finally cleaned out my bookmarks which finally made it easier for me to find this place again.
I'm going to try to answer as many questions as ornery as I can before I have to go on vacation in 2 days.
.:Janelle
hello everyone im a 13 year old female and i weight 81 pounds that may seem small but its normal for my family for example my mom weighs 109 she weighs less then most of my friends but anways im joing east lynn pop wanrer cheerleading and since this is my 1st year doing it im on c squad with the 5th graders and some of them weigh 65-70 pounds and i need to weigh that to be a flyer and since i was a flyer last time for my school i would like to be a flyer again i only drink water or diet coke which have no calories and i dont eat anything that is 120 calories or more im also actice i do cheerleading for my school and dance 3 days a week and also track when its in season i also do work out tapes daily i want to loose at least 11 pounds so i will be 70 pounds i also use my moms work out machines sometimes too i run around the block too im going to start jump roping too i even keep a chart too with the date day calories and weight on it i also dont eat breakfast either so does anyone know how to loose weight besides those things ill rate high if you tell me anything but what i said or join a gym or weight watchers or another diet thing like that p.s sorry for the longess but thanks for reading it i apprecaite it
this question disgusts me, honestly. a 13 year old who weighs a meer 81 lbs who doesn't eat breakfast and watches calories.
im tired of people who live in america. Everything revolves around weight. The growing obesity problem to aneorexics and bullemics.
disgusting.
where are some good places where i can download music onto my laptop?(it doesnt have to be free)and how does this work? if i want to listen to downloaded songs do i have to go on the website or do i not have to be on the internet? im asking because for my sweet 16 im thinking of doing the music from my laptop. is it continuous play or do i have to manually click the song? can i plug big speakers into the laptop? thank you for your help...5's to everyone somewhat helpful
The download program that I use is Soulseek. (www.slsk.com I believe the website is) it's best to use if you're into obscure bands because there is bound to be someone who has those songs.
Depending on your media player, depends if you have continuous play. There ususally is a function that you can click called "repeat" and you can repeat your playlist.
For a party, I wouldn't suggest putting it on continuous play, I would rather choose songs that matched the mood of the crowd. But that's just me.
You can't really hook up giant speakers to a laptop, but if you buy speakers with good enough sound quality you should be fine.
okay, im in love with the guitar.. i just learned to play it and im like obsessed with it! anyway do you guys know any places that i can get it for cheap? like.. 80 or under?
I would suggest that you just save your money up to try to get a decent one.
If you were somehow magically able to find one for under $80, I guarantee you that within a couple of years (depending on the style of music you play, and how frequently you do so) it would be a piece of crap and you would have to buy a new one, or pay more than the guitar is worth in repairs.
It's better to just save up and get a durable one that will last you a long time. Trust me on this one, I found out the hard way.
They call you Janelle, huh.
Who's "they"?
And what do you call yourself?
"they" are the people who call me Janelle. But I respond to many other names as well.
I usually dont call myself unless I feel like being lame. It's weird talking to yourself on the phone.
Well, ok my b/f moved to Oregon like 1 month ago and we are still goin out..coming up on our 11month anniversary. I miss him sooo much and i dont know what to do. There's this guy at my new skool that likes me and i donno if i like him...but i kinda flirt with him. I think that i do that cuz i miss flirtin with my b/f..even though me n my b/f talk every night..my heart aches all the time. I really donno what to do..i love him and yet we are so far apart. I dont wanna loose him :`(
You say that you only flirt with that new guy, because you miss flirting with your boyfriend; yet you talk to him every night? It seems to me that you have the opportunity to flirt with him whenever you want; yet you are choosing to flirt with someone other than your boyfriend.
If you have the need to do that, its a beginning sign that the relationship wont work out because you're already having trouble staying faithful. Flirting with others is the first step to cheating.
Take a good look at your relationship with him right now, is it worth having a long distance relationship? can you and him both commit to not seeing other people while distance is an issue?
this is going to be a test of how strong your love is, and if you care about this guy, I suggest you not fail it.
I was just browsing around and noticed your column. You seem quite intelligent and you and I seem to share the trait where we can't stand it whEn ppl tIpe liEk thS!
So, congratulations on standing out to me in the midst of everyone else on this site. Your correct spelling, grammar, punctuation, and capitalization are unfortunately rare. Why can't the internet have more people like you?
I guess this needs to end in a question. I would have used that last question but it seems I am still typing. How about this: Where in Texas do you live? Just curious. I rarely see anyone from Texas outside of the Metroplex or Houston. Then again, that does account for around 2 million people.
A person who can spell has asked me a question? *gasp!*
That is uncommon as well. I've been making my somewhat literate friends ask me questions to keep me busy.
As for your second question (It's always best to answer multiple questions out of order. It keeps people on their toes) I live in Austin, Texas; The wonderful capitol of it all (yes, I did use the right spelling of the word capitol for this scenario).
Yet I actually figure that it’s only wonderful because of the astounding live local bands that are around.
As for your first question; I figure that the illiteracy rate amongst those using the internet has a major negative correlation with age. For example: A 40 year old who has worked in a 5x5 cubicle all their life, would probably know how to properly spell, and/or punctuate in comparison to a 12 ½ year old (because people of that age, must insist that they are X amount of years, and then some. What also pisses me off about them is that they have the need to say such things as “well… I’m almost 13” To them I say “Well I could say I’m nearly 21, yet it wouldn’t make it true; I have 6 more years until then, but in MY eyes, I’m nearly 21” and of course, being NEARLY 21, doesn’t make it legal for me to drink yet, now does it? It won’t convince the cops of anything except a minor in possession of alcoholic beverages. But enough about that, I’m going off on a completely different subject) who has the need to type unnecessary letters, or words that don’t exist, or not fully spell out things because the person who’s reading it, apparently “understands” what they’re saying, only because it’s the “PUNK RAWK” thing to do. None of those children know what punk is/was. They weren’t alive then. I can’t say that I was either, yet I’ve actually studied the field. And to clarify for about the fifty-billionth time: NOTHING YOU HEAR ON “KISS FM” IS PUNK. Not yellow card, or good charlotte, or avril lavigne, or pretty much anything you hear on the radio is punk. Unless you have a kick ass classic rock station.
Again, I’m getting off topic. Erm. The moral of the story is… DON’T BE ILLITERATE OR TYPE IN PINK FONT. IT KILLS BRAIN CELLS.
P.S. I blame those “733t” lamers who thought no one could “un-crack their code,” yet 7 year olds did and continue to talk like that to this day, because they’re so “h4x0rz”
p.p.s. (or is it p.s.s.) I know I didn't fully answer this to the extent of my capabilities, yet I have to get some more Kool-Aid now, or my consciousness will have a great downfall
Yeah. My aunt has a pool, right? And, being the guy that I am, I'm really open to different forms of masturbation. So one of my homies sort of casually mentioned pool drains, and I was like.. "What the hell?" But he explained that, if you swim down to the bottom of your swimming pool, the drain has enough suction to really pull on the ring of muscle around your asshole. I dunno, he said it felt good. I was laughing at him, but... What can I say? I was curious! Now back to that bit about my aunt having a pool. We were invited over for a barbecue/swim, and all my little cousins were running around like crazy. But I kept thinking about it! I wouldnt get in the pool, even when they asked me to play with them. But when all the little guys went inside to eat, I sneakily climbed in. Oh, what an idiot. Nobody was watching anyway, right? Right. Everybody was upstairs on the other side of the house, so I was all alone. I swam down to the bottom of the pool, kind of freaked by all the gross crap growing on the bottom (they rarely cleaned it, y'see). But, aha! There it was. The drain. I was feeling kind of silly, but I remembered what my friend had said, and I carefully positioned my buttocks over the giant drainage hole. Phew! Needless to say, it felt GREAT. I was pretty surprised. I dont even know how long I was down there, and I dont know how I managed to hold my breath so long, but... I started to notice something. It felt like a bag of rocks in my stomach all of a sudden. Oh, but it felt so good! So I ignored the sensation. But then there was a sharp yank, and all my breath escaped into the water in bubbles. Something was most certainly wrong. I pushed away from the bottom of the pool with my legs, propelling myself up to the surface, but-- Oh, fuck. Something had me! I flailed and squirmed and sucked in a huge wash of water into my lungs before turning to glance down. There was this strange rope of tubing stuck in the drain, and it was stuck to me! So I reached down, giving it a tug. OUCH! I gasped for air, desperately peering up to the surface. Those werent tubes. THOSE WERE MY INTESTINES! I was freaking out. I was stuck, and the drain was sucking up my guts like a kid would eat Twizzlers. I could feel them leaving my stomach, escaping out my ass. --There was nothing else I could do. I grabbed on, pulled myself down, and sunk my teeth into the fleshy tentacle. I could FEEL it, strangely enough. Blood was filling the pool with dark spirals, and it didnt take long at all for me to gnaw my way free. Instantly, the remainder of my intestines sucked back inside me, like a tape measurer! And the rest.. Down the drain. But I didnt really want to worry about that part. I swam to the surface, gagging and coughing, more concerned with the thought of what I would've done if anyone had seen me. So, its been two days now since my intestines were stolen from me, and I havent eaten or drank anything yet. I'm kinda scared. What should I do, Dr. Janelle?
--Gutless.
Dear Gutless,
I suppose I should start with the beginning of this.
It's healthy to be open to different forms of masturbation. If you don't try it you'll never know how it feels, right?
There are some thing, however that you might have to think about before doing. Like your situation. If you had come to me with your situation before your intestines had been sucked out, I would have suggested using the hose that is attached to most vacuum cleaners. Depending on the power of the vacuum, determines the amount of suction you can get. But it seems a little bit late for that.
I'm quite surprised you aren't exactly dead from this whole ordeal. Humans have quite lengthy intestines, yet that isn't re-assurance enough to not worry about what may be going on inside of you. I suggest you go to a doctor before you decide to eat anything. Who knows how much intestine is missing? If you have to shit, it just may end up floating around your body and kicking it old school with your kidneys and liver.
If you don't feel comfortable going to the doctors, I suggest buying a replacement intestine, and use the vacuum cleaner idea I suggested to cause your intestines to come out again so you can sew your newly purchased intestines back on. If your intestines get sucked out to the point where they're entering the vacuum cleaner, at least you can retrieve it easily. All I have to say is, although they sell almost EVERYTHING at wal*mart, body parts isn't their specialty. Try going to a warehouse store like Costco, they have everything you need in bulk, so if you ever lose intestine again, you'll have extra stored from last time (make sure to keep them well refrigerated/frozen)
In the meantime, I suggest you work on your sewing skills.
Dear Janelle,
I'm 14 and I'm pregnant...but I don't know to do, or if I should tell my parents. Can you please help me?
The first thing you must do, is make sure the father of this baby knows what he has help create. If you decide to keep this baby (at least until it's born), you will have to tell your parents, it will be obvious that you are pregnant in a few months, plus you wont have to be hiding it from them. The stress you probably go though in hiding it from your parents would be unbearable.
You have many choices in this situation. You can have an abortion, Have the baby and give it up for adoption, or have the baby and keep it.
I know teens who have had abortions and those who have kept their baby.
Depending on how long you've been pregnant, will maybe alter your decisions of whether you should get it aborted or not.
The baby's heartbeat begins between the eighteenth and twenty-fifth day.
Electrical brain waves have been recorded as early as forty days.
I suggest you go to http://www.abortionfacts.com/ to get more information on this situation.
If you were to have the baby and keep it, your life may be "tied down" because of it. It would be harder to persue your dreams and goals because your baby needs constant care, and until they are 18 they are in your responsibility.
The person I know who kept their baby, has 2 sons. She is only 15. She's had trouble with child protective services before, for various reasons, and ended up fleeing the state with the two, to escape the cps for as long as she could. but she loves them with all her heart and would do anything for them. They are the two most important people in her life, and she's fortunate every day that she kept them.
If you were to have your baby, and give it up for adoption, that would be the hardest to do, yet probably your best bet. Once you have bonded with this little life within you for those 9 months, you wouldnt want to give him/her up. yet to insure a better life for your baby, that would be the best thing to do. other families could provide a better life for it at this time than you could, seeing how youre only 14.
There are many risks during teen pregnancy such as miscarage, yet this is really your choice in what you do, not mine.
http://www.abortionfacts.com/life_or_choice/babies/babies_saved_by_prolife_work.asp
I want you to look at all those children, who's parents had the choice of abortion, and didnt give up their child.
An abortion will haunt you for the rest of your life, knowing that you ended the life of a small being, who could be the next president, or someone to find a cure for cancer. That is probably the worst choice in this. It may be the easy way out, but nothing good has ever come from the easy way out.
This baby's life is in your hands. I have given you all the information that I can. The choice is up to you, and I hope you make a good one.
EDIT: here are the methods of abortion. Read these. Once you do, I hope your heart realizes this isnt the way to go.
Suction Aspiration
The method of abortion most commonly used in first trimester abortions. A powerful vacuum suction tube is put into the dilated uterus. The suction tears the soft baby apart and removes it from the uterus.
Dilation and Curettage (D&C)
The dilation of the cervix which permits the insertion of a sharp surgical instrument will be used to dismember the baby's developing body.
Dilatation and Evacuation (D&E)
Used after 12 weeks, this method is identical to the D&C method except that forceps are used to twist and tear away the body that now has calcified bones.
Salt Poisoning (Saline Injection)
Used after 16 weeks. A long needle is inserted into the mothers abdomen into the baby's sac. The baby breathes in swallowing the deadly toxin and is poisoned. The mother delivers a dead or dying baby.
Prostaglandin
Hormones, developed by the Upjohn Pharmaceutical Co., are injected into the amniotic sac to induce contractions. In an article about this method, one of the complications listed was 'live birth'.
Hysterectomy
Similar to a Cesarean Section, this method employed by abortionists almost always results in a live birth. The baby is left to die by neglect or direct art.
Dilatation and Extraction (D&X)
By pulling on the baby's legs with forceps, the legs arc delivered, followed by the torso, arms and shoulders. The baby's head 'usually' remains inside the uterus. Using blunt-tipped surgical scissors, the baby's skull is pierced where a suction catheter is inserted to extract the 'skull contents.' Fetal brains and organs are used for fetal 'tissue' experimentation.
dear janelle,
if i grew a penis would you still love me?
-penis girl
Of course I would still love you penis girl. An extra ligament growing off of you wouldnt change my love for you. It would just be like growing another toe. Although disturbing, my love wouldnt be altered.
Plus I heard those are fun to play with.
My advice to you: If your penis doesnt seem to be growing like a normal penis should, dont bother calling wal*mart to buy a new one. They dont sell them there. Ive asked.
my mother is like so evil!!!!!!! Whenevr we r down town in cleveland and we drive past some colored people she locks the doors but she doesnt do that when wer by whites. she is so races. i cant stand her. it hurts me a lot to know that she has a problem with black people. and she yelled at me the other day for wanting a punkish/gothic style and shes like"you do not come from a family of punks or gths so your sticking to aero and other prepy stores" how do i deal with her. sometimes i feel like running away from home. help me!!!!
Your mother isn't exactly evil. it seems that she just has uncertanties about people of color. Although it is wrong, everyone has little things they feel oddly about some people. My mom locks the doors whenever we drive past hobos. Not all hobos are bad people, but she does it to feel safe.
To clarify, punk and goth are two different things. The actual definition of what goth and punk actually are, dont comply with what society has made them seem to be today.
See: My views on "Punk" in my column profile.
Your mother cares about how the public preceves you, I can see that. My mother does the same thing, but I've pushed it to the point where I just let her yell at me, and I wear what I want, and what feels comfortable.
I doubt actual mothers would say "you're sticking to aero and other preppy stores" generally the part about "preppy stores" you're probably paraphrasing, which is okay, because you're getting your point across.
The positive thing is, you aren't a racist, and thats all that matters, as long as you don't conform to your mothers views about those of other races, the world will slowly become a better place. Once you're grown, teach your children not to hate other races, and soon the world will consist of less and less racists. Your beliefs are a start for a better world.