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Dear Janelle,
I'm 14 and I'm pregnant...but I don't know to do, or if I should tell my parents. Can you please help me?
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The first thing you must do, is make sure the father of this baby knows what he has help create. If you decide to keep this baby (at least until it's born), you will have to tell your parents, it will be obvious that you are pregnant in a few months, plus you wont have to be hiding it from them. The stress you probably go though in hiding it from your parents would be unbearable.
You have many choices in this situation. You can have an abortion, Have the baby and give it up for adoption, or have the baby and keep it.
I know teens who have had abortions and those who have kept their baby.
Depending on how long you've been pregnant, will maybe alter your decisions of whether you should get it aborted or not.
The baby's heartbeat begins between the eighteenth and twenty-fifth day.
Electrical brain waves have been recorded as early as forty days.
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If you were to have the baby and keep it, your life may be "tied down" because of it. It would be harder to persue your dreams and goals because your baby needs constant care, and until they are 18 they are in your responsibility.
The person I know who kept their baby, has 2 sons. She is only 15. She's had trouble with child protective services before, for various reasons, and ended up fleeing the state with the two, to escape the cps for as long as she could. but she loves them with all her heart and would do anything for them. They are the two most important people in her life, and she's fortunate every day that she kept them.
If you were to have your baby, and give it up for adoption, that would be the hardest to do, yet probably your best bet. Once you have bonded with this little life within you for those 9 months, you wouldnt want to give him/her up. yet to insure a better life for your baby, that would be the best thing to do. other families could provide a better life for it at this time than you could, seeing how youre only 14.
There are many risks during teen pregnancy such as miscarage, yet this is really your choice in what you do, not mine.
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I want you to look at all those children, who's parents had the choice of abortion, and didnt give up their child.
An abortion will haunt you for the rest of your life, knowing that you ended the life of a small being, who could be the next president, or someone to find a cure for cancer. That is probably the worst choice in this. It may be the easy way out, but nothing good has ever come from the easy way out.
This baby's life is in your hands. I have given you all the information that I can. The choice is up to you, and I hope you make a good one.
EDIT: here are the methods of abortion. Read these. Once you do, I hope your heart realizes this isnt the way to go.
<b>Suction Aspiration</b>
The method of abortion most commonly used in first trimester abortions. A powerful vacuum suction tube is put into the dilated uterus. The suction tears the soft baby apart and removes it from the uterus.
<b>Dilation and Curettage (D&C)</b>
The dilation of the cervix which permits the insertion of a sharp surgical instrument will be used to dismember the baby's developing body.
<b>Dilatation and Evacuation (D&E)</b>
Used after 12 weeks, this method is identical to the D&C method except that forceps are used to twist and tear away the body that now has calcified bones.
<b>Salt Poisoning (Saline Injection)</b>
Used after 16 weeks. A long needle is inserted into the mothers abdomen into the baby's sac. The baby breathes in swallowing the deadly toxin and is poisoned. The mother delivers a dead or dying baby.
<b>Prostaglandin</b>
Hormones, developed by the Upjohn Pharmaceutical Co., are injected into the amniotic sac to induce contractions. In an article about this method, one of the complications listed was 'live birth'.
<b>Hysterectomy</b>
Similar to a Cesarean Section, this method employed by abortionists almost always results in a live birth. The baby is left to die by neglect or direct art.
<b>Dilatation and Extraction (D&X)</b>
By pulling on the baby's legs with forceps, the legs arc delivered, followed by the torso, arms and shoulders. The baby's head 'usually' remains inside the uterus. Using blunt-tipped surgical scissors, the baby's skull is pierced where a suction catheter is inserted to extract the 'skull contents.' Fetal brains and organs are used for fetal 'tissue' experimentation.
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