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My boyfriend looks at other girls
Me and my boyfriend seem happy with each other. Like he always talks about us being together forever and is always making future plans. I like that bc that is that the kind of realationship that i want, but he lives about 40 min. away from me and the seeing him thing isnt really a problem (i dont want to see someone everyday, i get kind of annoyed by that) so that isnt the issue. I am just worried about him doing stuff behind my back... like he checks out other girls INFRONT of me and talks about them near me too. He says wow their hot and stares them down.. stuff like that. So that kinda scares me. I talk to him about this, but he says that he isnt gonna ever do this to me and that he likes me too much to go for any other girl. Should i belive him?
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I like Razhie's answer. Let it be known that I too am this guy, and will point out hotties to my girlfriend. She's a good sport about it and we'll both give them a 1-10 rating. Of course, in the interest of fairness, this means I must rate any guys she points out. I think under different circumstances, I'd make a great wingman for her, and vice versa.
At any rate, I wouldn't read into it. I'd be more worried if he were silent about it. That could entail built-in guilt about the cheating he actually is doing.
Probably not though.
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Love doesn't make you blind, but it should keep you from being rude.
Checking out other attractive people around us is something that we can't quite stop, and it's important to be mature and understanding.
It's also fair to ask your boyfriend to be mature and understanding and keep some of his comments to himself when he is out with his girlfriend. You don't need to him keep a running talley of every hot girl who walks by - it's not wrong or evil of him to notice, but it's rude and childish to be regularly commenting aloud.
You SHOULD believe him when he says he isn't going to cheat, because the truth is, if you like and respect him, you've got to believe him. If you can't believe him, you can't be in a relationship with him. Part of being in a relationship is assuming the best of your partner. He says he wont. Trust him.
You might still get hurt in the end but at least you'll have been honest and respectful. If you truly can't bring yourself to believe him, you probably shouldn't be dating him in the first place.
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yes, unless you have lost your trust in him, then you have nothing to not belive him for.
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Trust him but dont let it get out of hand...!!!!
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Ha, My boyfriend duz the same thing. He only does it to mess with me, But when I tell him and ask him about it he says he would never hurt me and I take his word for it..So dont worry too much about it. Boys are going to talk either way, Just be glad he is doing it infront of you. Cuz alot of friend I got they are my friendz (BOY Friends like people that are boyz I hang with..) They do alot of that and have girlfriends! So its normal, but if you dont feel comfortable with it then mayb you should conversate with him!
-Stephanie
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yes you should. every guy is gunnna check out girls, although i would be a bit worried to. Especially if hes talking to them. But as far as him saying their hot, it just lets you know hes comfortable with you being around and that its kinda letting you know that other girls are hot but hes with you! (get it?) hope so lol good luck.
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you should believe him until there is a reason not to. and if him checking out girls sincerly bothers you, you need to say that to him straight up. and he shoud stop. but some guys tend to do this because they honestly do not know how to act around their girlfriends. good luck.
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No; I wouldn't. That's COMPLETELY disRespecting you!! If he can't even keep his eyes off of otheR chicks... theRe is noooo way he can handle being togetheR "foReveR". Looks like his futuRe plans will not hold out. I say you have a seRious talk with him and tell him how it makes you feel when he does things like that to you. Let him know how much you would appReciate it if he had a little moRe Respect foR you. If he continues his pooR behvior.. I'd dump 'em. You deseRve sooo much betteR than that.. and obviously being with him won't supply the happie life you want. Best wishes!!
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you know what... guys do that... even married guys... because, while we may be married, we're not dead. We have eyes, we see hot chicks... <--joke, I swear...
The issue I see here is that there is some level of insecurity about your relationship, and you need to figure out what that is. Is it him, or is it you? Now... in all honesty, him saying "wow, she's hot" is a bit over the top... one would hope he'd have more tact than that.
If he's giving you his word that he's true to you, what more can you ask (ok, other than ask him to stop it with the "wow, she's hot" comments - that's a matter of respect)...
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I'm sorry! but, i wouldn't! hope things work out!
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