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best friend stelas bf!
hey...this is gonna be pretty long im guessing so ill rate 5's to whoever takes the time to answer this..thanks.
Okay..so i met this guy who i fell totaly inlove for and cared about him sooo much. he knew that i was moving to a different country soon, and it started affecting our relationship badly. one night we got in a fight and were on the verge of a break up after i found out he told people he dindt like me anymore. i called him up and told him im comming to him as a source of it all and i need to know if he still likes me or not, and that i dont want him to lie to me , or fuck with me, just tell me the truth. well that night he never gave me a straight out answer if he still liked me or not, he was really quiet, and every time id cuss he would ask me to stop cussing. but i jsut kept on yellin and crying and tellin him i cared a lot, and i just need the truth, then ill leave him alone if thats what he wants. well he said he had a lot to say but he needs to figure it out nad he'll call me back. i said okay. this was around 11 at night or so. but he dindt call for like 2 hours, and i got worn out and tired so i went to bed. he called around 5, but i dindt pick up cuase i was sleepin and my phone was on silent so i missed it. i keep thinking to waht if that was the call that would fix my relationship with him. the next day, i called him back but he wasnt home. I called my "bst friend" and aksed her what she was up 2, and if she wasnt busy i needed to talk to her (i wanted to tell her hwat happened) and she goes "oh actually im just with ur boyfriend right now nad we're just chillin with some other people" I had NO problem with that whatsoever caust i trusted her completely with everything i had..and it takes a long time to gain trust with me cuase i been backstabbed way too many times..so this gurl had my trust completely, and i trusted my boyfriend and i understood that maybe he needded some time to think things over and stuff..well my best friend, all the guys think shes one of the hottest girls ever, and pretty and perfect and eveyrthing..blah. anyways, my boyfriend calls me from my best friends cellphone later on that night and i pick up and he talks to me and hes like "hey....im really sorry but i dont think we shuld be together anymore..u cna hate me if u want, u hvae every right to, but i still wanna be friends. i really dont want to..i just think this is comming to end.." and i was just like "alright, bye" cause i was really upset!! i mean i loved this boi!! and he broke my heart in thousand pieces!! and so i knew hed be with my best friend for the next few hours, so i called him around 12 am, and i was like "hey..i think i deserve to know why" and he was like "know why i broke up with u" and i said yes so he tells me all this crap about hwo he thought i was somebody else who i wasnt and how he met someone special who is so perfect and amazing and how i deserve better than him and it ended and that he has unrealistic expections of ppl. basically a bunch of BS and he never gave me a real answer. so w/e. it NEVER evven crossed my mind that my best friend was his new special someone!!!!! I found out that she hooked up with him the night we broke up! she gave him head, he fingered her, and ate her out and she gave him a hand job!! ON the FREAKING night we broke up1!!!!!!!! i was like omg r u kidding me.. but when i told her i was hurt she freaked out on me and told my ex that she cant like him cause of me! and so my ex freaked out on me and got pissed cuase supposebly hes in love with my slutty ex best friend..and i still cared a lot about my ex, like damn i care so much for him.so i told her she can do whatever she wants, and to not involve me in it..but i couldnt really get mad at her and let her know how much anger i have, and how betrayed i felt and how i would never trust her again..so i reminaed silent, which was a mistake. now them two are fucking going out, and she lost her VIRGINITY to him. i dunno what to do. i cdant say anything now, but i feel so betrayed bt here. should i still let her know that im realy hurt and i have a lot of anger! cuase when she has problems with my ex and is sad she comes to me and tells me about them and i dont wnt to hear it, he was MY ex!! and when he does cute stuff she tells me and im like how much more unsensitive cna u be? but i just sit there and listen..i dunno. shulld i tell her off and break friendship off completely? cuase i have no trust for her. and baout him, what do i do. cuase even after it all i still love this boi like no other and care os much and really dont want to lose him..even as a friend..i hookked up with him one time after we broke up..and i was crying cause i was drunk and i told him evertthing i felt and we stood infront of the mirror and my make up was completly smirred and we were huggin really tightly and he goes look at us, look at the mirror and we both look, and then he turns his head away, kisses my forhead and he syas i cant look at u this way i cant look at us cuase then its gonna hurt more..and i was way drunk and i dindt say anythin just kept crying. and we just stood there..so i duno cuas ei still care lots about him and i duunno if i shold just act like i dont care anymore and eventually stop..or should i still care for him and talk to him and be friends..cause being friends with him hurts me somuch cuase i see him with her and it makes my heart crash to a thousand more pieces evry time. and also his birthday is comming up soon, and i dunno if i should get him something or not? and if i should..what? hes a bab boi skater type..so u cant really get nice things, and i dont want to get it over done to make him think im obsessed with him.
I AM sorry this is soo long!! but i really needed to elt it all out! thanks for whoever replys! ill rate 5!! xoxoxoxoxo thnaks!
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I think that you should tell your best friend how you feel and let her know that you dont want to be friends with a trashy back-stabber. and the when your ex comes to you and tries to talk to you about everything, tell him how you dont care anymore about what they do as long as you dont get involved in any of it because it hurts you to much and that you cant stand the fact that he is with some one else, especially your ex best friend. You deserve so much more than the both of them. If thats all they have to offer you, then just blow the both of them off totally. Good luck in the future with everything and if you need anything else, just ask.
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First of all, that is SO messed up that your best friend did that SO MESSED UP! Lol that even pisses ME off!! I had a similar situation happen to a boy I was totally in love with- we had been going out for like a year. And he betrayed all my trust. The simplest answer and the most helpful one will also probably be the hardest one to take-I suggest you don't talk to this girl anymore. She is NOT a good friend-look at what she is DOING to you!!! Also, this boy...that moment you had with him when you were drunk..it sounds like a moment I had with my ex...it is the last time I ever saw him. Don't let moments and memories consume you. Move on from him, because he just isn't right for you. I would really like to talk about this more cause I really think I can help you with this...I have been in SUCH a similar situation and it REALLY shattered my heart and made me feel horrible. You can e-mail me at Gummibear4054@aol.com.
-Amy
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hey!
omg ur situation is soo crazzy! i think ur ex AND ur ex bestfriends are TOTAL DOUCHBAGS! you should fuck them both! forget about em you DO NOT DESERVE THAT! i mean i cant believe what uve been thru you need to move on and pick some TRUE ass friends cuz i know if i was you i would soo cut somebody up! ur a strong girl keep ur head high n forget the trash u step on cuz thats all they are!
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this is alot like what happened to me and i am crying thinking about it .i am always imaging whats it could have been like if she did nt steal him and i cant really get over him, i really starting to think i never will, but its how life is boys are gonna break your heart and it fuckn sucks!!! but you know what you sound like you really do deserave better then that shit, as in him and her there both losers and you should unassoite yourself with that kinda shit!!!
i sersiosly hope you feel better,
if you need to talk more my sn iz pixierebel75
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hey gurl well let me tell u something u need 2 tell ur trashy friend how u feel about the whole situation and if she blows up on u tell her u dont need a friend like that anyways. u shouldnt care for ur ex b/f at all dont talk 2 him dont even buy him a b-day present he so doesnt deserve it. so let ur friend know what u think of her and ur x's relationship and if ur x trys talking 2 u let him know that u dont want nothing from him not even friends b/c of the fact u cant stand 2 see him with some1 else. hope i helped PRINCESSKISSES1
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i don' think you should be friends with her, after all she stole your bf. she doesn't deserve someone like you.you can get your ex a gift if you want, i wouldn't cuz i would be pissed off at him and wouldn't want n e thing to do with him or his new gf.
Good luck
-Stephanie
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i think you should break it off with the girl not because she stole ur guy though break it off because of how she lost her virginity to him and things... my bffl stole a guy i loved after we broke up but it wasnt as bad as yours and dont get the guy a present just try to win him back from the other girl..thats as much advice as i can give to you...
- hope i helped-
xox-christie
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i dont think u should be friends with that whore b/c if she would do that to u then she really not ur friend and tell her that it hurts u real bad when she tells u stuff about him just tell her u dont want to hear it!!! and for ur ex i no it hard b/c u stil have strong feels for him but after a while it will be ok!! u could stil be friends with him if he wants to be just watch that that whore dont ruin anything!! hope i helped!!!
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wow...thats so horrible for both of those people. First off, with your "best friend" tell her you can't believe she went and betrayed you like that. She's suposed to be your "best friend" yet she basically didnt even consider you on the night you two broke up. And tell her your really not interested in their relationships, because your still not over him, so if she wants to go tell someone about him then she can choose someone else. As for your ex boyfriend, i definitly wouldn't get him anything for his stupid birthday. Unless you want to get him something that would make him feel like REALLY bad, like something from an inside joke between you two and then right like "member this? wow we had some fun didnt we? too bad you dumped me like a pile of crap for no reason" or i duno something like that, you could probably think of something better to write. Or, if you want to piss off your friend, if you have like a really cute picture of you n your ex then get that n frame it and give it to him, or else you could like by a box of condoms ( as a JOKE!) and say something like "i was saving these for our time" or like " i wish we couldve made it this far" Which will probably get your friend mad.
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Omgsh, I think I felt a little tear runnin down my cheek during that. That must of hurt so bad. Well, I wouldn't get him a gift or anything. And I wouldn't even be friends with her anymore. I'd tell her how you really felt and just break off the friendship. I know it sounds forward but look what she did and you know that she knows how much you cared about him and how much that hurt you... I mean then why did she do it? True friends could control theirselves in a situation like that and be there for them. (No need for 2nd chances there.) And for him, I would try to stay away from him as much as possible. I know this isnt easy because you still love him so much. But maybe you could go to the mall or somewhere and try to meet some guys. It might make you feel a bit better. I really hope you feel so much better. I'm sure it hurts but try to be strong. Love ya.
- LIVEY
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wow .. thats completely wrong of both of them to do.. dont get him a birthday present, he doesnt deserve one from you. As for your "best friend" i think you should tell her how you really feel. I mean you're supposed to beable to tell friends everything thats on your mind right?? Just tell her that you dont appriciate her telling you every nook and cranny on their relationship and that you'd rather not hear it because you're not completely over him and you dont know when you will be. And if she wants to discuss something that hes done it would be nice if she didnt bring that shit to you. And that you're really upset about her betraying your friendship .. hope that helped <3
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I wouldn't even give that guy the time of day. I hope the idiot didn't get your "friend" pregnant. Go out with the money you would have spent on "Mr. Sensitive" and buy yourself a day at the spa or something nice. If you insist on getting him something, black or dead roses would be completely appropriate.
As to whether to talk and make up with your friend, why? She knew that you cared for him. I would spend some time thinking as to why you are attracted to people who hurt you. Maybe you can make a new one that wouldn't stab you in the back.
All I can say is that I am sorry this happened to you, and I am glad you haven't hurt anybody: yourself or someone's property because it isn't worth it.
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