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me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months.... and we met at church camp where i asked jesus into my heart for the first time.. and that totally changed my life.. but then when we got home all reality came back.. i had used to be really bad.. such as have sex and drink... and well now i stopped all that and my boyfriend is really religious... and he found out about all that and he told me that when you ask jesus into your heart the first time all your sins from that past are forgiven... and he told me he loves me for who i am now and my past doesnt matter to him.... but now.... we were like in my pool and he get touchy feely.. and im not like that anymore.. we still didnt do anything or anthing. .but it scares me cuz i think that he might try to do something i dont want to.... and also... people sign his buddy profile guest boook telling him lies about me haveing sex with a 21 year old and stuff like that... and he still worries.. and ill tel lhim they arnt true.. but it still bothers him.. i dont know what to do... and my parents are leaving for a week and ofcourse me n him are ganna hang out... i just dont wanna do anything that we will regret... and i dont know how to tell him that without embarrasing him.... please help me!!!!!
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well 1st i wanna say tat its awesome how u changed ur life and how u accepted Jesus into ur heart.. well 1st just bcuz ur both religious and all doesnt mean u cant b affectionate.. it doesnt mean u have to have sex but being touchy feely n all isnt bad.. but if it bothers u be honest wit him and tell him how u feel and im pretty sure he'll understand since he noes ur past.. but make sure u let him noe tat ppl talk syt.. n if ur gonna b in a relationship tat it should b based on trust n honesty.. tell him to trust u and not to believe wat other ppl say.. but just leave it all in the hands of God n he'll do wats rite! gud luk.. xoxo angie
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Its nice to hear that u are religious and u realize doin certain things is wrong... im sure he realizes too... but you guys still have horomones.. so u need to have a talk wit him and be like i really wanna do stuff wit u but i cant cuz i wanna be a better person and i know u do too... & about people signin his g-book be like haters will always talk shit and try to break us up... tell him he needs to trust u cuz you've changed... and u can prove to him that you've changed by not doing stuff wit him...
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It's hard to practice self control, but at some point you have to trust yourself too. If you are having problems, pray about it.
If your boyfriend is listening to other people's lies, you can't do much of anything except ask him to trust you. If he doesn't trust you, you don't have a relationship.
It is ok to kiss and things, just know when to stop. It will take practice to get used not doing all the bad things you used to. You are human, and you will make mistakes. I have been there, and I have a loving boyfriend who treats me well. We still cuddle, and we still kiss.
Just think about what you are doing before you do it. I would suggest not tempting yourself by having him over when your parents aren't home.
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Well if your boyfriend is concerned about all the things you've done in the past, I doubt he's gonna come on to you like that. Why would he be all touchy feely? I don't understand. But he's being a good guy since he loves you for who you are. Don't have sex with him or anything, because that's a really indepth thing to get into and should be talked about first. Tell him that you're not into that stuff! Talk to him online if it's really that hard. Hope I helped! PS - real men love Jesus. God bless dude!
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WOw, I know how that is. Suprisingly, I've gone through pretty much the same thing (meeting the boy when I asked 4 Jesus, I used 2 b bad, the boy is very religious, the boy getting touchy and so on). Anyways... it sounds like this guy really cares about u if he's willing 2 not look @ all the stuff that has gone on in ur past. With that, plus with him being religious, if sumthin starts 2 happen that u don't want 2, just tell him "no." I truthfully think he'd respect u if u felt like things were going 2 far. Let me know how everything works out and good luck with him!!
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Girl I have been in the same boat ! I asked Jesus into my heart about 6 months ago and it changed my whole life. You should sit down with your boy friend and tell him that you think the two of you should pray about it and try to wait to do sexually stuff when you get married. If he loves you and cares about what God thinks he will totally understand ! Also congrats on giving ur heart to Jesus he is soo awesome he is the friend that will never let u down ! Feel free to ask me questions anytime ! :)
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confront him and say i know i have done stupid things in the past but i have changed, im not into those things anymore, like sex, i want to wait.and tell him that he should believe what you say and not the rumors.. that will make him believe you & trust you & it will tell him that he & you wont be doing anything that you will regret when you parents are away, good luck and tell me how everything goes.. <3HalEy*
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Congratulations! Asking Jesus into your heart took a lot! I'm proud of u...=)!!!I'm not sure how old u are, but u might be old enough to kno wut's wrong from right! right?well anyways....Your boifriend seems to be a sweet kidd, but he's having doubts bout u, because of your past! well when he says "it doesn't bother me" not then, but when someone starts rumors bout u havin sex wit a 21 year old, he'll think bout it, cuz he know u had sex b4! well wut i think u should do, is talk to him, tell him how u feel, tell him bout how much u changed, N care for him, be like" [his name]I kno u've been hearing things bout me having sex, it's not tru! i told u i've stopped when i asked jesus into my life!(( N tell him how awkward it is)) N for u havin second thoughts or doubtin me, it hurts" so on, N so forth! Your boifriend touchin up on u? well if u really feel dat uncomfortable, confront him, n tell him! if u don't it might get even worse or u juss might dump him for this stupid reason! u kno wut i mean?in a relationship, no one should worry bout anything, besides eachother, if he thinks dat ur doin things dat's not appropriate, then he doesn't trust u! trust is one of da key in a good relationship!U won't embarrass him! Juss tell him "i don't want to do anything dat we'll regret when my parents are gone! because....."he'll understand, i hope *lol*make your boifriend feel like he's da man of da world, not by takin dat extra step((as in havin sex)) but like tell him how u feel, make him feel like he's wanted, n dat ur da one who really do care for him....so he won't doubt bout ur feelings, do u kno wut i mean? but i hope i helped, if u need anything else juss dropp by my inbox! GOOD LUCK! take care
-Phuong
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