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Life is an adventure but Life doesn't come with user manuals for everything. School subjects do little to prepare us. Its no wonder we all need helpful advice sometimes. Blessings to you!
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I want to know if there is a place where I can live. I don't want to stay in my house anymore and I'd like to live on my own. Please, help me I'd like to know where to go. Also, staying with other family isn't an option.
Do a search on the computer for your state using search phrase 'safe house for teens in_____' and put your state, or search under 'safe haven for teens', or 'emergency shelter for teens'.
Since you have chosen to not disclose any more of your exact situation it is hard for us to suggest anything more. There may be other solutions possible but we don't know without more info. You have the right to keep it to yourself but that also limits anyones ability to help you.
I wish you the best.
I'm a bisexual female and my best friend (Who is also female) is straight. I met her about a year ago, but we didn't become close until about a month ago. Well I think I'm starting to like her. She knows I'm bi.
Today she told me she would turn bi for me and that actually gave me a little bit of a hope. Anyways, what should I do? I don't really want to ruin our friendship but I like her.
One of the worst things a person can do is change who they are naturally in looks, behavior, personality, etc... to keep or win the love of another.
I know it sounds like a very loving caring gesture, real sweet. But a people can not turn on or turn off something about themselves. She's not bi. That means she is not wired to be sexually aroused by females or have a desire to please them and be pleased by them. So yes she can force herself to do it with you. And probably won't be grossed out by it, but her heart will not really be in it.
When a person makes changes in themself for a partner or best friend, a couple things can happen...The person making the sacrifices can easily pretend to like something or be someone but it takes real lifee energy to keep 'acting the false role'. I am not kidding, thats why most people who put their best front out when dating, after a while become totally exhausted with the pretense and the fake mask slips and the real person shows if they were hiding something. She may do it for you because she cares about you.
I am not saying dont give it a try, just warning you to expect to not be fully satisfied because this will never come as close to the real thing of two people passionately drawn to each other sexually. This is a poor substitute. But the best way to learn dear is to go through it and experience it. I only worry about what damage it may do to the relationship you worry about ruining because I have seen relationships ruined when one person made radical changes for the other on the impression that they were doing it to save the relationship and keep from ruining it. Only after a while, not instantly....the relationship couldn't handle the strain on one or both of the people. I changed who I was to please a husband when newly married. Instead of being happy, after a while he began to despise me because I wasn't being my real self. It ate away at him that I wasn't really what he wanted, I was just 'going through the motions.
If you both attempt this and start to know stress or disrespect for each other, then you will have to drop the sexual part of the relationship and go back to being regular friends. And if that can't be done without you being miserable then, it comes down to parting ways as friends and never seeing each other again. I can't predict how you both will be able to handle it emotionally but the examples I've laid out are the most common reactions and scenerios.
When I get up from sleep my boobs pains a lot.
Is this just one time it happened, or its been on going for a few days, or its been like this for a month or so? You havent said much. If you are a young teen girl, it could be because they are developing still and can be tender, or you are about to have your period and tender breast and puffiness to stomach can occur just before it comes.
If you only feel it just when you wake up from sleep overnight and not at any other time, maybe it's related to being pregnant. I've read before that some women who are pregnant will notice this symptom most often when first rising after sleep. How true that is, I don't know. If there's a fever accompanying it or you feel other symptoms, it may be time to go for a general check up to your doctor.
I'm sick and tired of the looks and pain my stepdad treats me like I'm the devils child and my mom acts like she doesn't care I've been told all I do is cause pain I'm stupid I'm worthless and no body cares about me I just can't handle this anymore I haven't seen my mom in over seven months and the last time I did she hardly talked to me. I don't know what to do anymore it just hurts I can't go even a month without having a mental breakdown about them or once thinking that what my step dad is saying is right . I'm 15f and live with my real dad and stepmom
Besides here, who else have you told?
I know nothing of your situation. It could be true as you say but then we are too far removed to know anything about the adults involved to know if all 3 have some real serious issues of their own, or if its something else. If something else, it could be how you are interpreting whats happening but the intent from the parents is not actually what you are perceiving it to be.
Often teens struggle with self worth, self image. I remember that age. I struggled with that and was shy too. The world is a harsher place today than when I was young, many teens suffer from depression. It could be that you have been depressed for a long time and haven't known that depression is what is causing you to feel this way.
If you are actually being told what you say is being said, that is verbal abuse or bullying if you will, coming from the parents.
I know that schools are on the watch for bullying and will not tolerate it, although verbal abuse can be hard to prove if others aren't around to witness it.
I would say the best thing to do is talk to other adults that know you and are in a better position to know what to do for you. Have you talked to any aunts or a grandma about what is happening.
What about your teachers or counselors at school? Do you have a church you attend, and could talk to the pastor? You should take your feelings seriously, no matter what is causing them, if the parents are at fault or not, because kids who feel as you do, end up either going down a bad path or trying to commit suicide and neither is a good thing at all. So you need to talk to some adult who can at least begin to try to figure out what the situation is.
Hi, im 15/f
I have never had a boyfriend, kissed anyone, or done anything. I'm a normal sophomore girl I just haven't wanted a boyfriend until now and it's getting crazy. I feel like it's my hormones because I get weird feelings.. But now most of the day I'm daydreaming of having a boyfriend and kissing, snuggling and all that. i also don't find blow jobs gross like I would give one to him after a while. But I do find sex terrifying and I wouldn't have that though. No guy has come into my life yet, and i just want him to already.
I never had a boyfriend in high school and other than not attending any dances or prom, I don't feel I missed out on anything. After high school, I met someone and got married at 20.
Statistics say that in the early teens dating never lasts beyond 5-6 months at the longest anyways.
Your hormones are responsible for how you are feeling. As was suggested, get comfortable with your own sexuality.
Your sexual debut is a series of events that certainly need not start with finding a guy for sex. Its not about losing anything, certainly not virginity, its about gaining through self sexual discovery. Sex with a guy ,that should be the final step, not the first. Get familiar with yourself, what you look like down there, self teach: touch yourself, starting viewing instructional videos on how females organs work and how they achieve orgasm. most schools have no sex education classes or do not teach enough to really be helpful now-a-days. I have a couple videos I love to share that are helpful. Theres also a you tube channel Sex+ by Laci Greene, she's college age, has worked with planned parenthood in producing videos and now has her own place with instructional short videos on anything and everything about sexuality, sex positive ideas, and dating and relationships. I highly recommend subscribing and watching her videos. Heck, I even learned something about new products on the market for periods from her.
Remember, this is a process of many little steps taken over time. However studying right now is one of the best ways to invest your time and learning of ways to self pleasure.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WVL_GudwAOI
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BnEJ6bcVFsI
Laci Green You tube link:
https://www.youtube.com/user/lacigreen
okay im 14 and I have a bf' he is my age. we dated for 4 days them broke up because he had something SERIOUS going on and he didn't want me involved. after it was solved we got back together and it will be 2 weeks in a couple of days. he cares about himself and hunting but he is the sweetest thing ever. I feel like I love him to death but over the phone he is ignoring my messages and calls. I never do that to him. why is he doing this to me??? thanks
You're at the age when people only begin to learn about relationships. since there's no class to take or school to attend where Relationships 101 is offered, basically for most of humanity it is learn by experience, also known for some older people as the school of hard knocks... so there will be lots of mistakes, assumptions made, bad choices, hurt feelings, broken hearts that come with this way of learning.
The best way to find out the answer to your question is to learn how to ask questions, do so politely without being a pest about it.
This is a time of your life when you are only beginning to learn that girls and guys have differently ways of acting, different ways of understanding and thinking and communicating.
What he is doing may be normal to him but you see it as something being wrong. Not all guys are keen on using phones to text or call when it comes to girls and prefer to talk to them face to face. It might be that they dont realize why but subconsciously they're more comfortable that way cus they are relying on body language from the girl to help them understand her better or the tone of her voice, rather than just rely on texted words. I know texting is popular today but with little experience in relationships yet, it might make sense to do more of your communicating with him in person and always set and agree upon the next time you meet to spend time in person together other than school. He may also have ADD so his attention is distracted by too many other things if you are not right there with him.
So ask him if he likes texting and likes to use the phone a lot. If he doesn't, ask if there's a better way for you to stay in contact with him.
At his age he isn't likely taking a relationship with a girl as seriously yet as girls want. Right now he is trying to just plain old figure a girl out. You have the same thing to learn, how to figure out guys. there are many basics aside from personality differences, that are going to be the same in a guy. If you tell him you want to learn how to understand guys better so could he please explain...... and make it a question in general not what happens to you. Example: when a guy doesn't answer any text calls from a girl ever, what does it mean? He gives his answer and then you can ask, "Do you feel the same way or do you feel differently. " It's like being the interviewer and gathering information about a person. Hope this helps. If you get conversation going, you'll likely find out what he's thinking, that he is or isn't still interested and know better how to understand him.
Hello, I am nineteen and work on a staff in my dorm hall at my university. I am one of eleven other desk receptionists. However, I only really get along with 2 of them because the other ones all came from the same hall last year so they're kind of cliquey and they spread rumors and start drama a lot. The two people that I get along with is my roommate and a hockey player whom we'll call Jake. Every time I'm at the desk and Jake is in the building, he'll come and sit with me. Last night, I worked 9 pm to 1 am, he sat with me after he got back from his game around 11:30 and then when I was done at 1, the next person came down and Jake left with me, I walked down his hall because I didn't know if he wanted to continue our conversation or not, I stopped at his room and he told me to hang tight in his room and he'll be right back, he had to go take his contacts out. Neither of our roommates were at school this weekend so we both had empty rooms, he came back from the bathroom, grabbed a sweatshirt and I thought he was going somewhere so I went to go up to my room but he followed me. He came up to my room, sat on my floor and we just talked. About everything. Why he doesn't get along with his family. His passion for hockey. My love of my major. Where we personally wanted to be in 4 years. What kind of jobs we wanted to pursue. He finally left my room at 3:00 am. There are other instances where I kind of think that he likes me either more than he likes most people as a best friend or like likes me, because I was out with friends earlier watching a movie and he texted me and asked where I was, I told him I was off campus but asked what was up. He was at hockey practice but needed Advil because he got into a fight, he wanted me to get into his room (which is by pin, we aren't supposed to give out our pin codes, it breaks university policy) and get him Advil and meet him outside with it so he can just run and grab it and get back to practice. I asked my roommate if he texted her and she said he didn't. There's another time when I was friends with another guy on our staff, we got into a huge fight because I found out that he was telling everyone else the things Jake and I bitch about. Well, one night this blabber mouth wanted to talk, which I thought meant he wanted to explain himself and apologize, so after work one night, I told Jake I was going to talk to him and Jake asked if I wanted him to go with just in case because last time I got into a fight with this kid, I started crying and Jake said he was going to beat the shit out of him for making me feel that way. I told him I should be okay but keep his phone on him. I didn't have to text him but after I got back to my room that night, I found out that my roommate and Jake have been texting about me, he asked her if I was back yet and she said no but she was getting worried, she didn't like seeing me cry earlier and Jake said "yea, it was terrible seeing her like that." That same night before I had work, a few friends wanted to go to Applebee's including my roommate so she asked if I wanted to go and at this time, she was coming back from work, Jake and I were in my room talking, I said to him that I'll go if he goes and he said he'll go if I go so my roommate asked me and I said yes so we both went. I know you're going to say now that he seems like he does like me but he really is just a gentleman to everyone. When my roommate dresses up, he tells her she looks nice but when I wear something nice, nothing. She said she thinks it's because I dress up everyday that it's nothing out of the ordinary for him to see me dressed up where as she wears yoga pants or leggings frequently so it's new for him to see her like that. My roommate also doesnt have her license so Jake said over break, he's going to teach her how to drive and even take her to her test because he'll be 21 soon. But he prefaced it by saying I can be there too to help as well. Meanwhile, as this is all going on, he is "talking to a girl" in another hall that is a freshman. He said two days ago to a mutual friend that the whole whatever was going on is over because she told Jake she didn't have feelings for him. However, afterwards, she texted him and said that was a lie, she was just scared because he's too nice for her and she doesn't know how to take him. So he does talk to me about her sometimes which is basically what makes me question this whole argument that he is just a best friend type of situation. Anyway, please just let me know what you think, if he likes me or not and what I should do. Thanks!
Thanks for all the details. It is good to know all the different scenerio's and situations.
Jake might simply be the type of person who prefers friends of the opposite sex. I for example prefer relating to men over women.
If this is the case, then Jake will likely all his life be supportive of and willing to uphold and strengthen a female which may include being in their company and being a friend to them, complimenting them, wanting to know their hobbies, goals or desires so he can help encourage them, and always willing to lend a hand where a males help may be needed. Guys like this are not in the majority. I have a husband like this and have not yet met another guy who is as supportive of, building up and encouraging of females as he.
I had to laugh when you said the one girl was afraid because she was confused by him being too nice to her. My hubby showed me right after we met on a dating site, some of the answers he got from other females. Quite a few wrote that he was too good to be true, guys aren't that nice and perfect, or told him he was full of BS or some other such comments. Thats how rare this type of guy is.
Problem is that it makes it harder to tell if the guy is really interested in a particular female more than the others if he treats all the same.
So you have to look for subtle clues.
Just talking to you about other girls does not mean he is attracted to them romantically and have an interest deeper than a friendship. Remember, if females are more likely to be his friends than males, this would be the same as another guy talking to you about his male friends.
In the process of being a friend to many females, he will come across someone he has interest in. Perhaps that is you. I am guessing that since he considered your feelings and didn't want you to think there was anything else going on but driving lessons when he offered that to your roommate, he invited you along. He did not have to invite you. It couldn't be to have you for company because he would have to be focused and interacting with your friend to help coach for driving. So the only reason for you to be present, would be that he wants you to see that this is strictly him being friendly and helpful, nothing else. He may have talked to the freshman girl but in his mind, a possibility of a relationship with her is over in his mind no matter what because someone like him will need a female who is secure in herself and have a good self image and not jumps to conclusions, or gets jealous easily. Asking you along on driving lesson, is possibly to show you that you have nothing to be jealous about.
A guy like this may think he is leaving good enough clues to let you know how interested he is in you and because of who he is and what he is like as far as his conduct with females, he will wait and allow them to make the first move romantically such as to cuddle or kiss. I had to kiss my husband when we met the second time cus he was not making a move for me. But once he had that initial confirmation from me, he moved easily into the next phase of being romantic and when I gave him a clue by what I said that I was ready to go further with him, then sexual.
I could be totally wrong about him being this type of guy but he's got to be at least something in between. I am not sure about him not complimenting you as easily, tho the compliments came more once I had made the first moves. I used an occasion of him giving me back something he had fixed for me to move over to him and give him a quick kiss, not the romantic kind but thank you kind to show i really appreciated what he had done. I used whatever kind of flirting I could do that involved some kind of touch. I shall post a link to a site with suggestions on that.
You might try having a talk with him on what you have observed about how he treats females in general and ask questions to get some confirmations if indeed he is this kind of guy. Then you can jokingly say that you are glad to have come to know him as a friend but that the only problem with him being like that is that it's awfully hard to know when a guy like that is interested in a girl as more than a friend.
See...here you are telling him what the situation is for you while the wording is not asking him directly. It is up to him now to tell you that he really likes you. With the type of quality time you've had together from your story, he could easily know by now if he wants to be in a relationship with you or not. The situation is how you discover this.
So if he confirms he is the type of guy who prefer
female friends over males and that it is in his nature to be supportive of and uphold all that is in the females interest, then you'll have to decide whether you come to the point of asking him straight out if he's is happy just being good friends with you or if maybe he's hoping to take it further. It might help to be touching him in some way to let him know you are interested, whether touching his hand or shoulder as you ask. Little things like this do not go un-noticed in a male like this.
Or just rely on flirting by touch to see if you get a response from him. Here's the link on that
http://www.wikihow.com/Touch-a-Guy
Well I'm 13 and I'm craving sex like real dick I'm tied of using my pointing fingurs I want to feel my body Aginst a males body some times I even want to do a female these feelings are going on lately what should I do?
These feelings are something everyone experiences going through puberty. Your body is still going through changes and is not fully mature yet so it is best to wait before having sex with a partner.In the meanwhile, your sexual debut is a long process that starts with discovering all there is to know about your sexual organs, giving yourself orgasms
If your mindset is to not wait until you're older but find someone for sex now...then you can't go off half prepared for it. You must be prepared ahead of time for protection against STI's and also against pregnancy. Unfortunately, our brains are not as mature as our bodies and won't be mentally and emotionally mature enough to be able to handle all the situations that may come up with becoming sexually active. But a sex positive clinic can be of help in any training, checkups needed and contraceptives and condoms. Planned Parenthood is the most widely known one in the States, but there may be some clinics by a different name where you live. Do a search on line for your area.
In the states, young teens can be seen by someone at a clinic regarding their sexual health and reproductive issues without parental knowledge and there are laws that protect your privacy so there is no disclosure to your parents of what goes on between you and the clinic.
Ok so I have no idea where to start with this its a mess. I'm 15 sophmore in highschool, female, and as far as relationships go I am highly unstable. So I have a boyfriend and our relationship has been up and down mostly on my part since I'm bipolar and he hates it. One minute I'm yelling at him and cursing him out the next minute I wanna make out and another I want to cry alone in a corner. Ugh what's wrong with me. Today he "broke up" with me and I almost broke down crying but then he said he was only joking (it wasn't funny). He also didn't eat lunch with me and instead with one of his female friends alone. He didn't tell me but I knew and I kinda went into his Facebook messages to confirm it and apparently they didnt do anything but he intends to keep it a secret. I know it was wrong to do such a thing but I couldn't help it the temptation was strong. Ive taken him for granted for too long and I want it to work out but he probably doesn't even like me anymore. I don't know if I should talk to him. Thinking about this is making me physically sick. Please help.
Are you just labeling your behavior bi-polar or have you been diagnosed by a doctor?
If you haven't seen a doctor for your mood swings, then it's important to get in and see one.
If you have been prescribed medication and it isn't helping, again see your doctor and perhaps theres something else he can prescribe. You also need to be receiving therapy regularly from a psychologist.
It may be that your boyfriend has given up on you. It is quite a lot to handle for a human of any age, being in relationship with someone who is bipolar.
If the boy was never told that you are bipolar, then at the point you both became real interested in dating, that was the time to tell.
There are articles on line that talk of 'effects of bipolar on relationships". Just put that into a search. Here's a couple I found to get you started. Once on medication and in therapy, there is still something you can do, getting familiar with warning signs, and taking steps to manage it, and warn the other person as mentioned in this next link.
http://www.webmd.com/bipolar-disorder/guide/bipolar-romantic-relationships-dating-and-marriage?page=2
http://www.livestrong.com/article/23099-effects-bipolar-disorder-relationship/
Even if you are not truly bi-polar and it's more of having a temper and learning how to control it, or perhaps the hormones of puberty still having emotional effects on you where you find yourself more easily getting angry, more emotional and weepy then knowing and understanding what is going on and what you have to do to conquer it is something every female usually has to go through.
No matter what is the cause of your behavior, if it is that serious, it will effect more than just dating relationships in your life, but family members, friends, and fellow students, teachers and later, boss and co-workers. So it is a good thing to learn now what measures are helpful to take when you know you're about to lose control. A counselor is best set up to help with that.
If you are getting professional help, it would be good to let him know, if you are getting counsellingI know you feel bad about how you treated the boyfriend, but right now, you have nothing encouraging or promising to tell him so rehashing what has happened won't help. Saying you are sorry for the umpteenth time won't mean much either. But it's up to you whether to talk to him or not. If he really liked you but couldnt handle the mood swings, then once you are treated and responding positively to treatment and counseling and using techniques recommended to monitor and control yourself, he and everyone else will take notice for there will be a big change in your behavior.
Where can I look online for ferrets for sale in my area? I live in Warren County, NJ. I'm specifically looking for a male white ferret but I'm pretty lost on how to go about looking for one online because I've never really done that before.
I've been browsing Craigslist but I'm a little hesitant to use that because of it's bad rep and because I'm unfamiliar with it. And I'm not searching the correct works in google because my searches gives me nothing that help me.
Thank you!
I would do a search for 4H clubs in your area. They will have shows from time to time. I did this when we were looking for two guinea pigs. You may not have to wait for a show. I did the same when we bought dwarf bunnies for the kids. We'd won the large fancy bunny cage in a raffle. Then went looking for bunnys. The 4 H family raising bunnies didnt have any upcoming shows but we could go to their house to pick them out. They called to let us know when they were old enough. So you may want to get your name out to a few people who raise ferrets since you have something specific you are looking for. And they can let you know when they have one born if they don't have a while male ferret currently.
15/f, could a girl answer this please :)
Well, I've had my period for almost 2 years now and I've never used a tampon. When I'm on my period not too much since i exercise a lot, i just don't go swimming when I'm on it. When i had practice and i got it i just went swimming anyways because i almost passed out trying to put in an extra slim one. I can't relax my muscles and i feel light headed and the feeling of trying to put it up there its the most grossest uncomfortable feelings ever. How am I ever going to be able to use tampons or have sex when I'm older?!
It sounds like an issue of just having a hymen thats tight and your not feeling comfortable with your sexuality. And when not comfortable or you find it gross, it's easy to tighten up muscles out of fear or revulsion.
You will have to get over your distaste of discovery of your genitals and touching yourself, and getting intimately familiar with yourself if you want to ever get a tampon in, let alone be comfortable with sex and actually enjoying it later on.
I am giving a link to a video,"You cant pop your cherry"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qFojO8WkpA
In it, Laci explains the hymen using props which I found very helpful in getting across the concept of what a hymen is and so on. The empty toilet roll has a stocking over one end with a hole smaller than the circumferance of the toilet roll in the middle of the stocking. The hymen can be stretched so that the opening to the vagina is larger. If a baby can pass through the vagina/birth canal and not be hung up by the hymen that should explain that it can be stretched quite far. But you should take a look with a mirror and try to feel with your fingers. There are rare cases where the female instead of having her hymen around the circumference, has a strip of it connected at both ends going down the middle in effect causing there to be two very small openings to the vagina, openings too small for a tampon to go in and apparently it is very painful to even try.
It's called a Septate hymen. It is easily removed by a Dr. and the procedure doesnt hurt and you recover quickly without any after effects. But it would be good to know that this isn't the issue. If you're not sure, it might be time to go for a Dr. visit.
If it's not septate, then you will need to get comfortable with exploring your body and using your fingers on yourself daily to stretch it out, starting with one finger, then graduating to using two and three, a tampon should go in fine by then.
I highly recommend watching others of Laci's videos, they are very good educational but also entertaining bits, just click next to her name on "165 video's" and you'll be at her main you tube page. Subscribe and enjoy learning at your own pace regarding anything Sex positive.
Hello so I brok up with my bf because I thought I needed to focus on my education, I stopped liking him and now were friends but no he's dating my close friend and I dont why but I feel this were swollen feeling in my heart is this normal
If you liked him before and had feelings for him, it likely you still have feelings for him because when it comes to matters of the heart, it can't be turned on or off easily as using a light switch. It's very difficult to just 'stop liking or loving' someone because you're determined to do it.
So yeah, it's normal to be feeling something, whether it's hurt, jealousy or feeling left out.
If you are determined to focus first on your education, then use distractions as has been already suggested.
im in 8th grade. im really tall and skinny. I believe I am 5 "7". both my parents are super tall. im flat chested. but all the females on my mom's side have large breast. including my sis. she is like a C or D. my dad has medium to big breasts. So... everyone in my grade has bigger breasts than me. and I haven't gotten my period yet. should I be worried? will my breasts grow?
14 is the average day today that girls get their periods and some get it as early as 10 and others as late as 17 or so. So if I were you, I wouldn't worry about the period not being there yet. If you don't have it by time you turn 17, set an appt with the family Dr. for a checkup to make sure everything is okay.
As for breast size, I am not sure any person can expect 100% to genetically end up looking like the closest family members.
Genetics can be a very strange thing. Somewhere, way back in your family line there had to be some flat or smaller chested women, no matter their height or weight. When I was a teen and babysat, I had a family with 3 kids, both parents and grandparents brunette, but the son was fair blonde, the girl a carrot top redhead and the baby brunette, and it was checked, those really were their kids. So somewhere way back in family history there was someone with different genetics than relatives known.
In case you end up not growing much more late in your teens, I want you to know that women with real breasts of varying sizes and shapes and different nipples and sometimes two different sized breasts, have come to terms with their shape and size and are happy and have devoted boyfriends and husbands who love their breasts just as they are. Women with small breasts have said they had no trouble breast feeding later. Here is a link to a site where women share photos of their chest at different ages and many are older teens and college age. Plus they share what their guys have to say. Forget what Hollywood and models chests look like...those are the exceptions to what is natural and real and never mind those with implants...they look fake and too many women end up with scarring and problems.
Heres the site dear:
http://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php
I was looking at some things on my Iphone 4 and saw some old text messages from my ex on the spotlight search. I was in awe because I thought I deleted those messages
but apparantly you can see them on the spotlight search :/ lets just say it was a bad breakup and everytime i see his name i get bad memories. I searched on google for
hours trying to figure out how to delete text messages on my hard drive but the only thing i found was deleting EVERYTHING on my phone (restoring it) but I really
don't want to do that because i have so much music and it would take forever to put it all back. (i've had to go through this awhile ago and it wasn't fun)
So my question is.. is there any way i can delete this text messages permanently? remember- they are on the hard drive. they aren't on the actual text app screen. like
i deleted it from the texting app (where the texts are green and gray) i deleted those but the texts are still on the hard drive/spotlight search. anyway i can delete
these without deleting everything?
PS: in case you didn't get the clue, it was a bad breakup. meaning i dont want to text him and get the past texts up in order to delete them. i tried deleting his
number but they still show up! help!!
Sorry, I don't own an iPhone so I'd have no idea. Repost for all to see. Maybe someone knows. Might be faster to walk into a store that sells iPhones and ask the clerk to tell you how to erase.
Im 19 now but i was sexually active when i was 15. Ive only had sex with one guy i wasnt sexually active for almost 1 and a half years and i have a new boyfriend he fingered me and almost 24 hours later i was bleeding and ive already had my period he has really short nails and i was wet. Is it possible that my last partner didnt pop my cherry.?
It could be as simple as the 2nd guy being larger than the first guy and the hymen had more stretching to do.
The hymen isn't a skin that totally covers the vaginal opening as one may think so theres no popping to do.
The best visual I've seen is a gal use an empty toilet paper roll, hold a stocking over the end to represent the hymen and then cut a smaller hole with scissors in the center of the part of stocking covering the opening of the toilet paper tube. In inserting anything into the tube, nothing is stopped because of the remaining stocking, the stocking stretches to accomodate whatever is being inserted, same as the hymen does. If it is stretched faster than it has time to loosen up and stretch to a new size, it can tear and bleed. Its been said that widowed wives who went years before finding another man, found their hymen had shrunk up tighter again. Its nothing to worry about.
i've been a binge eater and bulimic for years, but i never recognized it. My best friend did and she tricked me and made me go to a shrink... it was confirmed there. After a long time, the shrink finally told me, that subconsciously i had started when i started realizing i was a lesbian. Around the time the shrink told me, i started falling in love with another best friend... a guy. Is this just a reaction where i don't accept the truth, and why am i so afraid to follow this when the guy had asked me out before? is it because i dated his sister?
i've been his best friend since i was two... i really do feel like i love him, because throughout the process finding the issues i was hiding, the best friend who found them for me left, but he stayed. i have confirmed over and over that i am a lesbian, but i feel like i only need his love to survive now.
I'm not that good girl, i have an attempted suicide on my list of things done, and am trying to play my problems down for everyone... but my friend is just confusing the process of finding myself.
Why and what is happening, and what do i do?
I really like what storageanddisposal told you. Our sexuality can move and change as we do and we change quite a bit from our younger years to our older years. I will also say that being sexually attracted to both males and females is normal.
A friend and I did a study of bi-sexual women for fun and to learn. What we discovered is that almost all, lets say 95% of the women had some kind of traumatic event in their past which caused them to not trust men as easily. Perhaps verbal abuse, emotional abuse, physical or sexual abuse, rape, abandonement, etc. and they found they were more sexually attracted to females because subconsciously women seem to be more "Safe".
However all of them had one or two men in their lives who were the exception...they were guys that made the women feel secure and loved rather than threatened in insecure. One was usually the boyfriend or husband. So it was a sexual relationship.
But as was already stated, there can be many different kinds of relationships and attachments.
It could be more of an emotional thing.
Don't try to label yourself to fit an accepted sexual preference in society. Yes, gays and lesbians are more accepted now. Bi sexuality is known too but very little talked about and Asexuality is practically unknown or understood in society. It doesn't matter what society or your peers think of you, it matters how you view and like yourself. I had to get over a fear of people when I was younger and that followed me into my 30s before I won the battle of fearing what other people were always thinking of me.
As for finding yourself, I believe that is something that can span a lifetime, finding new discoveries about yourself. But yes, some basics will be there already that you need to discover, things that I believe can't be confused by who you care about.
For example as a child and a teen, I had a creative side to me, I was very giving/sharing, even if it meant very little cash left for me, I was giving emotionally to others by being loving, nurturing and able to sympatize. I had some spiritual beliefs. I knew deep down I was meant to marry and fall in love with a man. I was heterosexual. All those things are still part of who I am today.
i have done things along the way, made some discoveries such as trying swinging, and polyamory but found in the end that who I am, how I am wired to be, is monogamous and married. Some things about you at core will always be there, a part of who you are and other things are waiting to be discovered yet. There is no right or wrong way to be as a person, thats why we are all unique. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you can relax and look forward to getting to know yourself, knowing that you will not find anything wrong. Bulimia or attempted suicide does not define who you are. They are coping mechanisms, cries for help or escape mechanisms but have nothing to do with who you are at core.
Everyone ...if they were honest can find at least one thing if not more that they dont like or arent really keen about their looks, and many have found themselves wishing they were better at something because they percieve someone else to be better than them. It's not that someone is better, they have their own uniqueness. For example: Think about hearing a new song on the radio and the first thought that comes to you is, "oh, that sounds like such and such band or singer" and at the end when they announce the artist, you find you were right. the reason is, the singer or band has their own unique style of songs and voices that make them different from others. Different is good. Life would be boring if we were all exact carbon copies of each other. And yet we strive so hard to be just like others and try to measure up to some ideal that is not even real or valid in the first place. Finding yourself is also about loving yourself, just the way you are. I hope you are able to do that dear.
So there is this boy at school who I would say is fairly shy around girls and I'm not sure whether he likes me or not (I like him a lot..). Basically I always catch him subtly looking in my direction and staring at me when he thinks I can't see. He also kind of comes over to stand with me when we're waiting to go into a lesson. About 2 months agp he asked me to go to the prom with him (I said yes) but apparently it took him about three weeks to pluck up the courage to ask. His friends tease him about me and him an awful lot and say that we're a good couple and make heart shapes at us.. Whenever this happens he gets annoyed with them and calls them things which are not very nice. I don't know if he likes me because he's never asked for my number, we don't hang out outside of school (although his friends have invited me to go to the cinema with them) and recently he's stopped replying to facebook messages I send him :( I'm confused as I think I'm sending pretty clear signs that I like him and I'm not sure what to do now?
Considering his reaction towards his friends, there is a chance he is either embarassed by their teasing, or he is afraid of a girl putting too much emphasis on the fact that he is spending time with her and consider him a romantic- boyfriend and that puts too much quality tutorials, but it’s good to know if we’re on a right path! Stay tuned for more winter-related projects!
unwanted type of pressure on him to be and act the way his friends or how he guesses a girl might want him to act.
He is interested in you if he's constantly looking at you, comes to stand near you and of course has asked you to prom. He just doesnt know how to handle the extra attention all kids give to each other if it looks like you are hanging out with and dating someone.
Some of the best relationships start with a guy and gal becoming best friends like you and your girlfriends. Maybe you could let him know you'd like to be just friends with him for now, no romantic dating, maybe at a later time. And ask him what he thinks of that. He can still take you to prom though if he wishes.
My guess is he doesn't want his friends to see him together with you which is why he wont invite you to somewhere they are going to be. If he's willing to be a friend, then ask if he'd like to come to your house, just him and you to watch a movie, listen to music or hang out and talk like you would with girlfriends. Perhaps in time once he is used to hanging with you as a friend, he may be more comfortable being seen in public with you.
So recently, the biggest trend is making money which has been around since the beginning of time. On Instagram, everyone is starting to sell things from shorts to bows to shirts etc etc. My friend and I have decided we wanted to make a store and sell such things. I know how to screen print for shirts, but not sure how to distress shorts or anything. I need help getting everything put together to really start it off, like I need designs and everything. But basically my questions is: How do I design shorts? (with studs and patters) and also, how would I go fourth with putting the labels on the back of the collar and/or the bottom of the item?
Going to a large fabric and craft store will be a good place to ask questions and get some ideas. They may even sell a product that helps give the worn look.
If you are naturally a creative person, what is it that catches your interest craft wise, if not working with dressing up clothing, then you might want to focus on something else, like decoupaging things, embossing gift cards, jewelry making, etc... and again a craft store in a good place to go to just get ideas. Thats what I do. If I am wanting to make some homemade gifts for Christmas, I go to a craft store to get ideas. It's the season of craft fairs held at churchs and schools. I have gone and seen things for sale that I went home and made the same or improved upon. Thats also a great place to get ideas.
I am very sorry for the length, but please at least read some of this and give your advice. I know this isn't going to make any sense. I care for my dad, but I don't like him and don't respect him at all. I don't think he's a very good father and I think he's a terrible husband.
He actually made me afraid of marriage at one time because I dreaded ending up with a man like him. Everyone outside of our family likes him because he is overly nice and fake to everyone when he's out in public. He acts like this amazing guy to everyone else, and probably did to my mom too when they were dating, but once they were married, he changed. It was like he had her trapped then, so he could be himself around her. I grew a fear of marriage because of that and felt that I'd be better off remaining single because I didn't want to fall into a trap like that.
He's such a jerk to her. He talks down to her, calls her cruel names, makes inappropriate jokes about her, loses his temper with her over nothing and screams like a crazy person, and he does things to make her mad. For example, her birthday sucked this year because she had to go to a funeral. All she wanted was to come home from the funeral and watch some movies that she had on our DVR, but my dad erased them all. This may seem small, but it made her mad and he does things like this all the time, so they add up.
He's also a hypocrite. He can smart off to her and talk like he hates her, but if she does it even a little bit to him, it's war. She has to take all the bs he gives her because if she stands up for herself, it's also war. He gets mad, tells her that she took whatever he said too seriously and feels like HE'S the abused one. I could go on all day about what a sucky husband he is, but these are the basics. I resent the way he treats my mother.
I don't have a good relationship with him because he favors my sister. The universe revolves around her and I'm usually invisible. My sister's a good sister and wants a good relationship with all of us, but my dad wants the two of them to live in their own secretive little world together. At times when we're all together, he makes me and my mom feel like tag a longs who are intruding on his time with my sister.
He's also judgemental. We are Christians and since Nov. 2nd of last year, my relationship with God has changed dramatically for the better. I'm much closer to him, but this summer, I tried to leave our church. I just didn't feel like a Baptist anymore (it was a Baptist church). I went to another church at first, but then decided to research different denominations and decide later what church to go to. My dad judged me for not going to church even though when I was a kid, he didn't go for years. He judged me when he thought I was lying to him when he lies all the time. He's definitely not a man of his word He doesn't see the need to do what he says he's going to do, he breaks promises, and he doesn't hold up his end of deals and never intends to. Yet he's the only one in the family that he's sure is going to Heaven and he stands in the kitchen and almost arrogantly sings, "I'll Fly Away" while he cooks. I don't mean to sound like I'm judging him now, but I find this so arrogant. I typically love being surrounded by other Christians, but my dad acts so high and mighty, but ignores parts of the Bible when convenient.
One on one time with my mom is awesome, one on one time with my sister and almost anyone else is too, but one on one time with my dad is different. Sometimes we bond, but sometimes it's like we don't know each other. Even when we do bond, it never lasts long. Something always happens quickly to screw up our relationship again. I know this is wrong, but lately I've wished that I had a different dad and have even had a specific guy in mind. I don't know if my dad and I will ever be close. I actually enjoy it when he goes on business trips or goes to see his relatives for a week or so. My mom and sister do too. Am I a bad daughter for not being able to bond with my dad?
Oh Honey, I ache for you cus I know what its like. Its like you were describing my ex husband. He treated me as yours treats your mom. He didnt pick favorites out of our 3 girls tho.
We were also a "Christian" family and he fooled people outside the marriage.
A person like that will make living with him peaceably, and having a close relationship impossible because there is no way to meet such a persons unreasonable expectations. If Jesus were to show up in disguise in normal life and find a way to join the family, Dad would be unhappy with him too and pick on him or find ways to hurt him and distance himself. The problem does not lie with you.
YOU are a good daughter and have been making the effort to have a good relationship and bond with Dad. However there is a thing I want you to understand...a quote about relationships between a couple in love but I believe it applies to all relationships even Father- daughter. It goes like this: Happily ever after doesn't happen because we wish it so, it only happens when both parties put in maximum effort to make it so. That rang a bell with me cus I was the only one putting 100% effort into my marriage, however he put in next to nothing, and treated every family member in a way as to drive them away from him.
As to how you are feeling about lack of interest in church and wanting to find what you do identify with, you didnt state your age. Even if you are living at home but legal age of 18, you should be allowed to make your own decisions as to where you attend to worship. We did that for mt oldest when she wanted to go elsewhere.
The issue is deeper than what doctrines we agree with or not, but our perception of what the heavenly Father is like compared to our earthly example. When our earthly example is messed up, and we have no male fatherly example in our life of a good Fatherly role model, our very beliefs are questioned and some people lose their faith entirely. It is never Gods 'fault', each human gets a choice in the path they take. The path your dad chose should not reflect back on God.
If you think its wrong to wish you had a different dad, my daughters feel that way too. One went so far as to give a Fathers day card to a guy I was dating after I left her dad, and in it she wrote that she wished that he had been her father instead.
There is nothing you can do to change your dad for the better. Do what you can to stay out of his way, if it means not feeling like he is anything other than the sperm donar to your life, that is his fault, not yours. As a parent he needs to earn your respect by being the kind of parental role model that is loving, humble and yes as humans we all make mistakes but a parent who is willing to admit that and ask forgiveness teaches us how to do the same. You're not asking for perfect, just a closer loving closeness with him but for some reason he doesnt want that with anyone.
Be careful if looking to build a relationship with a man as a fatherly role model, for there are many older men who prey on younger girls seeking a fatherly love when on their minds is sexual love. That is not the remedy for your problem.
Ok. 13/F. For the past year and a half, I've been getting heaps of discharge on my undies. Its really heavy and I have to put toilet paper in so it doesn't soak through or anything. I don't have my period, but this has been going on for a couple of years so I don't know if its a sign or not. I guess I'm asking, do all women get this, is it usually this heavy, and why is it everyday? All answers appreciated.
Yes, its a sign your body is normal and getting itself ready to start having a period. As to when it starts differs with everyone. This discharge is your body's way of doing a normal cleansing of the vaginal area every day. So my advice is to start wearing pantyliners. Toilet paper is too flimsy.
Panty liners are made for this purpose...for the days of discharge and the days of spotting on period. This will stay with you for life.
One more aside, never douche because it washes away all the good bacteria that is part of this cleansing system, allowing bad bacteria to grow which can result in getting infection called vaginosis. Just plain water is enough.