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Dear YG,
Thank you sooo much for your advice! You made me feel so much better about myself cause you didnt say I was dumb or stupid for smoking and you didnt waste your breath telling me to quit when you knew I wouldn't anyway. Thank you for understanding the way I feel and talking to me like I count.
I want to talk to my mom woman to woman about this but I cant get the words out. I was thinking that maybe if I wrote it down and gave it to her that we'd have to talk about it then and I wouldnt chicken out.
Im so tingly right now cause Im scared to death but im so excited cause im thinking that maybe she would say yes and understand since you understand. This is the biggest thing in my life right now and its so important to me and I want to get it right.
Can I write down what i want to say and send it to you 1st before I give it to my mom because I want to make sure I say the right things and tell her how I really feel. If I can, should i write it in ur advice box or send it to your hotmail email?
Thank you so much!!!!!
**K8e
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K8e,
Sure! Either place is fine with me.
I will be in and out but I will keep an eye out for it so you can get it done soon.
The waiting is always worse than the actual doing it!
karenrickel50@hotmail.com or here. :)
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Ok..well I've been going out with this guy and only a fewp people know, and i didnt want them to know bc when everyone knows then people start to screw up everything and can cause us to break up, so one of my friends asked me if i was going out with this one guy and i said no and named somebody else even tho i was going out with that guy and i lied to him for 3 months and i finally told him and now he pretty much hates me, i've been giving him space, is there anything else i can do? (link)
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If you have a good relationship nobody is going to mess it up. If a problem comes up you listen to each other and ignore all the others.
The problem with lying about who you are going out with is this. The person you are going out with will feel like they mean nothing to you. I mean when you like someone you let the world know it! Telling friends that you don't like that person will make them believe you don't like them. It makes them feel very unloved and unimportant to you.
If you can make him see you now know that, you have a chance with him again. If you can't then remember it next time. :)
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Hi Younggrandma. I read your rule #12 so I guess you'd think I look like a moron because I smoke. I wrote a general question about it yesterday but it got deleted so I guess the mods thought I was a moron to because I want to tell my mom.
I'm 14. My name is Katie and I've been smoking for two years. My mom smokes to. I've tried to quit b4 but its not something Im ready to do or want to do. I like it and I know I'm going to keep doing it. I just dont want to hide it any more.
Since ur older and you smoke and you have kids then I think you'd be able to tell me best how to talk to my mom about it. I want to ask her for permission to smoke in the house like she does.
My question that got deleted was if I should tell her to her face or write her a letter about it.
I'm not a bad girl. I just smoke cigarettes and I'm really not a moron. I just got addicted to something I like thats bad for me.
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K8e,
Ah, those aren't my rules...I actually thought most of them were kinda funny! I don't think you are a moron.
I think it is great that you want to tell your mom you smoke. I think having to sneak around is a good way to start a fire.
I think you need to just sit down with her and talk about it. Tell you have been smoking a while and you just don't want to sneak anymore.
If you don't feel you can tell her like you'd want to then by all means write it down.
Sometimes writing something is a lot easier anyway. You don't have to worry about being side tracked by questions or opinions until it is read.
I think mom will appreciate your being honest. Not letting you smoke at this point will just keep you sneaking one so it really wouldn't do much good to say you couldn't.
I wish I could stop. But, like you I really don't want to...and I think that is the key. So, unlike some I won't give you the speech. You know it isn't good for you same as I do. :)
Let me know how it goes. I hope it goes well. I think it will. :)
YG
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I have to go on birth control because I keep getting headaches and the doctor said that it will put my hormones back in balance. My question is - Will they ask me if I am sexually active and if so, do I have to tell them. When I do tell them do they tell my mom? (link)
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They will probably ask. It is good to tall your doctor the truth about things. They will not tell your mom about it.
Make a list of any questions you may have. You will have to get a pelvic exam (if you haven't already) before they will put you on the pill.
Its a great time to ask anything you are curious about. Write the questions down because you will be nervous (normal)and you don't want to forget anything.
Here is a web site that will tell you what will happen (if you've not had a pelvic exam before)
http://www.coolnurse.com/pelvic_exams.htm
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one of my good friend's father just died of a heart attack on christmas. i left her a message on IM saying i was sorry and that i'm here for her and love her and all that..but what else do it do? has anyone here's parent died? what would you want? i'm guessing she just wants to be with her family. we are sending them a card. should i call her or go see her or..what? (link)
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Give her a few days to be with family.
As soon as shes up to it she will find your message and contact you in some way I am sure. If you didn't tell her when you emailed the first time, write another telling her to let you know when she feels up to having a friend to talk to. :)
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Hi everyone!
My name is Todd, and I am a 15-year-old teenager. Well, my question is whether or not I should take the next step. Let me explain.
About close to a year ago, I met this girl, Andrea, in my Freshman year, and she and I didn't date, but we were good friends. We were both the same age, but I was about a month older. Through the months, we knew more and more about each other from our last names to what candy we like.
As strange as it seems, I've never had a relationship, much less my first kiss. I am trying to see if Andrea likes me or not, but more than a friendship. Some relationships can be harsh, so I don't want to try that, but I just want to know if she has the same or at least similar feelings that I do for her.
I am always glad to be around her, and sometimes I hang around her more than some of my other friends. I've also noticed that when I am with her at lunch, she wants these other girls at the table to go away, since they're annoying, but I'm not sure if it's just because she wants to be alone with me or something, since she and I usually sit alone.
As far as hanging out goes, she and I have hung out at my home once, and we've seen each other at school. I've been trying to hang out with her more, but she has a dysfunctional family which makes it tough for us to hang out on weekends. She is also depressed, so I try to help her through it.
I have been trying to show her that I love her by telling her that I care about her, how much I do care about her, and by doing things for her, like buying her gifts or getting things for her. Whoa, lot of "her"s in that one. Well, anyway, she never freaks out, but she always smiles and sometimes nods her head up and down a little bit. She might say things like "that's nice" or "thanks", but I never really can tell if she is nervous or anxious. I remember when I told her that I did really care about her, she smiled but she kind of laughed, and she said "I'm sorry for laughing...".
So, I would like to ask if I should take the next step and try asking her out. My parents have said I shouldn't because of her family, and some of my friends have said to go for it, just because she's single.
Thanks for reading this.
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I think its about time to ask her out.
If we all waited for the stars to line up just right and for all the persons family to get their lives together...we'd all be waiting forever!
I don't know the extent of her family's dysfunction of course. Your parents may have very valid reasons for telling you that. They may also just not want you getting hurt.
If her families problems aren't something that will interfere with your relationship, then I don't think you need to take them into consideration. The girl can't be blamed because her family isn't the best in the world.
You already have a good friendship, and other than the weekends being messed up her family isn't affecting that.
Ask her out. Good luck. :)
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WOW!! At first I couldn't beleive your age! You sound like some smart mouthed teenager! That's awsome!
I think it's a comination of you being young at heart, and me being born much older than I truely am. Also, my mom is a lot like you, (at least what I read about you).
Much fun,
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I can be a smart mouth when need be...you betcha!
Thanks for the compliment! I try my best. I've always been surrounded by younger people. guess it just rubs off on you. Keeps me young. :)
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Hello I see some people putting those google search bars in the answeres to questions. how do you do that? Thanks :) (link)
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See the site news. Dangernerd explains how it works there. :)
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I am a student of 10 class, I like a girl of my class she has rejected many proposals even my friend's she says she likes someone else(not to me but to those who have proposed her) shall I propose her after boards? (link)
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Unfortunately it sounds like the girl you have chosen likes someone else.
She probably won't change her mind anytime soon. Hard as it will be to do, I think you should look around for someone who really likes you too.
It may take a little while, but she is out there just waiting for you to find her. :)
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I am atenth class student, my home atmosphere is for medical. I have a little pressure to study medical but my mind is for engineering according to me- What shall i do?
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Since you will have to live forever with whatever you decide to do...do what will make you a happy person.
You may meet with some resistance by not following in the footsteps of the rest of your family. But, nothing is worse than feeling you HAVE to do or be something to make others happy.
What a miserable life you would have!
Do and be what you want to be. :)
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okay i asked a question about being on advienators, people have been saying thing that i didnt find appropiat. Well...people answered the question i asked...they didnt answer it very nicly, most people called me bad things and it hurt my feelings but one person gave me really good advice about it, his name was dangernerd. he helped me relize this site is NOT for children i am 13 and i should be mature enough to handle it, so i am really sorry to anybody i affended, but i still dont know if i should stay on the site, because, now everybody hates me. i need help, what should i do? please i need answers. Merry CHRISTmas!
"kiss kiss"
~3frances
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No one will hate you if you decide to stay.
Should you decide you aren't mature enough to handle it yet, nobody will blame you for that either. Not everyone matures at the same rate so, don't think you should HAVE to be mature enough to handle it because you are 13. I'm sure DN didn't mean that at all.
Some of the questions we get are pretty upsetting even to those if us old enough to know how to handle it. Mainly because we KNOW the younger ones won't necessarily take our advice and experience to heart.
A lot have to learn things for themselves.
It can be a tough job sometimes and really does take a certain amount of maturity. You are mature enough to apologise in case you offended anyone. That is greatly appreciated. Thank you for that.
Honestly though, if you are struggling this much over the decision, you may want to wait until you are a little older before jumping in answering questions. Think about it a while. :)
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Hello everyone,
I am going to be getting a bird (cockatiel). I was wondering if anyone has had this breed or another breed of bird and can lend me some tips! Also I am bilding a bird-perch and I am having some trouble with thinging of home items to use. Like (strings, wood, ect.) Or any other ideas. So if you answer these questions I would mean alot to me. Thank you.
(ps: any websites ((dont tell me to google, yahoo, other engines to search it)) and dont put anything rude or mean in the answer)
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I have a cockatiel! Her name is Jett! I also had one named Calliope who I lost last year. They are great pets.
Mine don't do a lot of playing with things. Jett likes her bell. She has a drift wood perch she hangs out on and a rope she will rarely climb on.
Most books advise against using mirrors if you want it to stay people friendly...though they do like them if you don't plan on handling them much.
If you haven't already picked one out, get a hand fed bird. That way you will be able to let her come out and hang around with you. The others can probably be trained, but it does save you the trouble.
Jett will just hang around on my shoulder most of the time. Unless you like bird poop in your hair...make it stay off your head. They love being as high as they can get so your head is where she will WANT to be.
They like bells. Jett is always giving hers a sling. Then she sits real still with her head under it until it stops making noise.
She loves sitting on the shower when someone is in there. Every once in a while she will climb down on a shoulder and join in and take a shower herself. Mostly though she like the steam of it.
A shallow pan of water now and then is fun for them to play in. It may take a while for it to get used to the pan though. Just make it warm water...stick you finger in it and pretend you are having a great time. They act like babies. :)
Neither of mine talk/talked but I have heard those who do. It isn't something I worked with on mine though, so if you want to try you might get it to say something.
Watch your books if you let it out. They love to chew paper. Books are a favorite. I have I don't know how many books with little chew marks on the corners. Homework would be heaven!
Another important thing if you let them out. If you have big windows...like I do, make sure the curtains or shades are pulled. It will not know it can't just keep flying and will run into the window. They can easily break their neck that way. Also watch ceiling fans...make sure they are off. Jett loves sitting on the ceiling fan and heads straight for it.
DO NOT let it get outside. Rumor has it they will not land and will fly until they die. Don't know if its true but why chance it.
There are certain vegetables you should never let them have. Broccoli and cabbage are two that I can think of. They have no way of getting rid of the gas these cause and it will kill them. Just be sure and read up on it or ask a vet which are safe before you attempt to feed them vegetables.
Jett loves potato chips, peanuts, cereal and will
die for ice cream. Calliope never cared for it but Jett LOVES it. They probably aren't supposed to eat people food either but they love some of it.
Don't let it out of its cage when you first get it home. Let it get used to its surroundings first. When you do let it out. First thing it will do is fly around sometimes into walls. Best to let it out at night when you have some control over the light. If it goes where you need to rescue it, turn the light off. It won't go flying off in the dark and you can go retrieve it.
Most birds don't like getting picked up with your hand around their wings. Just stick your finger up to its chest and it will usually climb right on.
Should your bird latch on to your finger and not let go (this is mostly the parrots) do not shake it. Get to the sink and stick it under cold running water. I'm not kidding. It will let go.
I also want to add that I have NEVER had to do this. As a rule she doesn't bite. If she does it doesn't hurt.
Thats probably more info than you wanted. Enjoy your bird! :)
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what do you think is the longest someone should be grounded for for sneaking out and swearing and there parents. my friend wanted me to ask because she did that and she doesnt think its fair how long she's grounded for. thanks. (link)
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Until she is 21.
No really, I think I would have given mine a month of grounding.
It depends on the parent though. Whatever they say goes. Best way to get the time shortened is to take the punishment without argument. :)
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ok well every January our home school group has a talent show. We have bout 130 people in the group and thier are alot of families that particapate in it. see, i dont really have a talent?!?!? i mean i play piano but so does everybody else! and my family AND my friends all same i am really funny so i thought, stand up comedy? no, what if nobody laughs?!?!? so...singing? (I am a good singer.) but wait, no, what if i hit the wrong note or something? well u get the point, what should i do? anybody got any ideas??? i have no clue so tips would be great...please dont say anything sarcastic like farting through your under arm, i am seriously in need of advice. Merry Christmas (link)
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How about doing all 3 things?
You might be a little young but have you ever seen Dana Carvey do the Chopping Broccoli song on Saturday Night Live?
How about Adam Sandler and one of his goofy songs?
You hit a sour note...nobody would care, its Supposed to be funny! It would get laughs.
If you really want to show off, make up your own silly song. Play the piano along with it.
You will do great! Good Luck. :)
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Whats The Legal Age To Have Sex
Thanks
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This site gives the legal age of consent for all the states. :)
http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/qanda/blageofconsentchart.htm
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When I first came to my school last year I had a crush on this guy who is three years older than me. He was also giving me nice looks and smiles from across the room, so I thought he liked me too. He then told my brother that he liked me a few months later (after the flirting), but then I was over him and didn't care much anymore. Now, a year later, I have been talking to him on the phone about this girl he's having problems with because she won't go out with him. He seems A LOT more mature when we talk alone then with other people. We talked on the phone for hours the other night, not just about his girl problems but also his family and other serious things. He really makes me laugh and I have a good time with him when we talk. I'm not sure if he's liking me back or anything because he's into a girl that's older then him and who is SOO much prettier than I am. Any advice on what I should do? (link)
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I don't think you've lost your chance.
You two already seem to be pretty good friends. Keep it up. Talk every chance you get.
If the girl is older than him and not wanting to go out with him I don't think you have to worry to much about her.
Just be supportive for the time being. When he finally gives up, make your move. Let him know how you feel.
Good Luck & Merry Christmas. :)
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i made out with a boy when i was younger and i really regret it. i try to keep it a secret and told the boy that i wanted to keep it low. the boy didn't respect my opinion and said that he had already told his friends and some of mine. how do i try to keep this from getting furthur. his parents and my parents are close friends and i come over his house sometimes. everytime i come all he wants to do is makeout and keep my younger sister from knowing.sometimes its hard to say no to him. i need help on what to do.!!!! (link)
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You have found yourself a bragger.
Best bet would be to stay away from him. He wants to make out with you and then announce it to the world and make himself look like a big man. Regardless of your feelings.
In my opinion that makes him a very small and ignorant child. Totally immature.
You can do better. If its hard to say no then avoid being alone with him. If he insists...tell your mom why. That will take the wind right out of his sails. :)
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Hey Guys, This Has Really been bothering me and I don't know what to do. I Knew what sex was when I was about 6 years old. I'm 13 Now. But I'm Worried that I wasn't Raised Right. I mean Most Kids don't even know what Making Out is When their like 7!! But I Knew! Was I or Am I Normal??? No SmartAzz's About This....Thanks (link)
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Don't let it bother you.
Some parents don't hide the facts of life from their kids and some do. Either way is fine.
Kids do seem to grow up way to fast these days...but that just a sign of the times.
So long as you aren't out there sleeping with every guy you know or being totally irresponsible with your knowledge...you were raised just right. :)
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Okay i need advice, i dont know if i should stay on this site or not??!?! everybody keeps asking questions like the questions "shower" and "18+" and this isnt very good to perants! so this is to YOU PEOPLE!!! the sick perverts in this world who are too pethetic that they have to ask things online!!! should i stay on the site? i need advice on this one. (link)
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If you feel you can give some people good advice then stay. If you can't then you are not obligated to stay.
You do not have to answer or even read any question you are not comfortable reading.
There are all kinds of people using the site. Not all of them are 13. Older people need advice too. You won't have the life experience to answer all the questions asked.
Best bet is to stick to categories you are comfortable with. Stay away from those you are not comfortable with.
I know that sometimes there are questions in the wrong category. If you see one just ignore it.
Weather you stay or not is up to you. Just don't write questions or give answers cutting people down that don't think the same way you do...and you will be OK.
Read the FAQ located in the blue box on the right. There is lots of useful information in there. :)
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MY VAGINA IS PURPLE...what does that mean. is it normal. it just turned purple like an hour ago!
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If your vagina is really purple I think you'd better go tell your mom.
Its definitely not normal.
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