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How can I painlessly commit sucide? I do not want my wife or son to find me so I will most likely kill myself in a public restroom.

After spending most of my adult life as a member of a fire department rescue squad I can tell you there is no painless way to die. As the end nears the pain becomes great and most everyone calls for help or attempts to call for help.

If you want help living write anyone of us and we will help you with that. One suggestion to help live is to call the suicide hotline. It is answered 24/7. Their number is: 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

I cannot think of any problem you may have that we or they cannot find a solution to. So call them or write to us.

13/F I am having some anger issues and i keep forgetting to control them. Every time someone gets on my nerves my blood boils and i can't stand the anger that's in me and i let it out. At school in music kids talk none stop and it gives me a headache when i ask them to stop nicely they tell me to shut up. Than i get really mad and i yell at them telling them to put a sock in it. They keep talking and irritating even more and i get made fun of after that. I get really upset at my self. Also i hit people a lot. Sometimes when i play around and or when kids make fun. I try to stop but i keep forgetting. Once i tried and i actually did stop hitting and being mad at kids in my class but it turned out to be the worst day ever! I thought i would get them to stop if i was nicer but instead i was made fun of even more and called names. It became a habit and i don't know how to stop it. So basically my question is how can i improve myself? and some tips on how to be more nicer? thank you. (please don't tell bad comments cause i don't want to hear them i know i am mean but i am trying to stop.)

If the anger issues are something new; something that has come about in the last year or so. Then the issue is a physical issue brought on by puberty. Something that is as hard to control as trying to control gravity. You have all these new hormones floating around in your body playing havoc with your emotions and your nerves.

Back in the day, meaning the days of your grandparents which I am old enough to be, this was considered a phase. Something you would grow out of. Your parents on the advice of their parents may be thinking the same thing. This would be wrong. Today we know better and your family doctor can help you with this problem.

I would suggest you ask mom to make an appointment with her GYN for you or your family doctor. If you have not been to a GYN, something you should have done or do once you had your first period an annually their after. Explain to the doctor what is happening. There are different medications available to help you control the effects these hormones are having and to help you have a happier time being a teenager.

You won't have to take these medications very long. A year maybe two at the most. Just as long as it takes for your body to mature and get use to the new hormones that will continue to flow through you.

14/f
Hi, my dog is a one year old sheltie and he is my beautiful baby boy. Anyway, he is my family's first dog and it took EXTENSIVE persuasion on my part to convince my parents to get a dog. But we got him a year ago, and he's the sweetest guy. He's completely non-aggressive, would never hurt a fly (he would be SCARED of a fly, that's how sweet he is) and has the cutest little face. We got him when my brother went to college, to help me out with the transition (I am very close with my brother) and my dog has done a great job filling that empty space. However, my mom DESPISES our dog. The reasons why are as follows: He is extremely reactive and barks at everything- its very difficult to walk him because he goes berserk when he sees another dog (but if he has the chance to meet the dog, he is NEVER aggressive. We know it's not out of aggression) so that's the main issue. He barks inside the house if something (walker, biker, truck, or dog) passes by, and it's a loud bark. But this is part of his breed. Shelties are known to be a barky, reactive breed because they were bred to herd sheep and alert their masters if an intruder came into the field. So he thinks he's doing his job. Personally, I think my mom is behaving ridiculously. She said to me that she HATES, HATES, HATES the dog, she wants to put him down, she doesn't care what happens to him, and she hates him. Well, the only thing he does wrong is bark, which is part of his breed. That's it. He doesn't bite, beg or do anything bad. I don't think that's a good enough reason to constitute such hatred- it can get annoying, but nothing more than that. He requires a good amount of exercise, but I can take care of that. I've offered to do a great amount of work for the dog so she won't have to do it all- but I can only do so much seeing as I have to go to school. She complains how she can never do anything she wants anymore because of the dog. All she has to do is a half hour walk with him, then I can take care of the rest after school. So basically, she said she wants to get rid of him and we can't keep him, all because she is overreacting. Here's an issue- I am deeply attached to this dog. I love him soooo much. He's helped me deal with my brother being at college, and he's the cutest, sweetest companion for me. I enjoy playing with him because I want to make him happy. I want him to have the happiest life possible because I love him so much. He is a very deep dog, honestly, and gets depressed if we leave him for too long. He loves us. We're his family, and he loves us. It breaks my heart to think of how much it would hurt him if we got rid of him- trust me, he is a deep, sensitive guy. I cannot even express how much I love this dog, and I will have incredible difficulty speaking pleasantly to my mom if she gives him away. My dad and brother love the dog too, but they seem to be much less passionate advocates for his happiness and well being than myself. Anyway, how do I stop her from getting rid of him??? I love my doggy!!! He's my baby!!!! Thanks, and sorry that this was so long.

The reason the dog barks when people pass the house or other dogs pass the house is he is protecting his pack. He sees your family as his pack and wants to protect you. His bark is his away of telling people and other animals to stay away.

Our dog, which is a mixed breed, is just like yours. She is very protective of us but would not hurt a fly. Whenever a stranger comes near us she gets between us and them. If she senses danger she can be very protective barking and her hackles go up. She can be quite scary at that time. But that is as far as she will go as long as you keep your distance. The closest she has come to being aggressive is pushing a person away who has come to close to my wife that for some reason she didn't trust. There was no reason for concern but the dog didn't trust her to be that close. We trust her instincts and she just pushed the women back until she was a safe distance from my wife.

A protective dog for a young girl is a good thing. His instincts will tell him when to protect you. Something you should discuss with mom. You should also look into obedience training. He may not stop barking but you, through obedience training, can get him to stop when it is not warranted with a simple command.

Hi. I am about to go crazy because my mom just won't listen to me. She thinks that my hair is too ugly and she wants me to wear clip in extensions. My boyfriend has told me not to. He likes to run his fingers through my hair. He hates them. My mom won't let me leave the house without them and she says too bad for him. Obviously, I'm angry. Before putting them on, she teases my hair so I can't take them off because after she teases it, it WILL look bad! Yet, it's embarrassing when I'm getting it on and he's like "what is this?" and one day he's gonna stay with a strand in his hand. Help! Btw, I'm 21

We have answered this question before. Your 21 an adult. Tell your mother to back off. It is as simple as that. Your mother is trying to control you and you are enabling her by allowing her to do so. Just stand up to her. Let her have her tantrum or fake attack. Just go about your business and let her be. She will get the message as soon as you stop enabling her.

The problem is starting to be you and not her.

Please, a direct answer to question, What is a painless way to committ suicide? Please no advise on help groups and please do not respond with reasons I should continue living.

WE won't help you kill yourself, that is not what we do. We will help you find a reason to live or help you find the people who will help you live.

To answer your question. I have spent most of my adult life with a fire department rescue squad. I have responded to numerous attempted suicides and some completed suicides. The all have one thing in common. Unlike the Hollywood versions they are all terribly painful.

The attempted suicides call for help because it gets too painful. The ones that actually commit suicides we find with masks of pain on their faces all balled up in fetal positions of pain.

Even those who use a gun do not always die right away. Most linger for hours slowly dying unable to call for help.

That is what you have to look forward too. It is easier to live than it is to die.

how do u make a boy wet

You need to read more about sex and anatomy of sex.

Boys do not get wet only girls do. Boys have precum, which really is for helping to lubricate your vagina during intercourse. The precum he emits has semen in it so you can get pregnant from it even if he pulls out before actually cumming. Most boys will not feel he is emitting precum as it does not shoot out like it does when he ejaculates.

If you ever give your boy friend a hand job he may emit some precum while you are doing so. It is not a lot of fluid and if you are using a lubricant and not watching for it you may not notice it.

I'm a single mom of three. Two girls (19,9) one boy 18 today. He won't spend time with me. He stays in his room or hangs out with friends. today is his birthday and he doesn't want to go out to dinner with us. wouldn't travel with us for thangsgiving either. Really worried. He gets good grades and is going to a great university in the fall. He also works. But I fear he's depressed, he doesn't like me or worse...Unfortuneately, Dad isn't a very positive influence. What to do? I love my son. I need to connect but don't know how.

I have to agree with Zane. The late teens and early twenty's can be a very confusing time for males. In many ways they are adults, especially legally though in many ways they are still treated as children. Especially in school and in college as well.

I remember when my son was 18. He had double issues with trying to be an adult. He was in the military. He was old enough to die for his country yet while attending college they tried, unsuccessfully, to treat him as a child. He was never in trouble at school but certain papers would need to be signed and when I refused they said parental signatures are required. When I told them for the next three years the Army had responsibility for him and he was responsible to them and for himself they had no idea how to handle that situation. Schools deal with children and treat them so.

How can you be an adult if every way you turn someone is try to treat you as child one minute and then when it suits them tells you to act like the adult you are. This is what your son is trying to reconcile.

As for not wanting to be with you and the rest of the family; this is normal for his age. He we change and the time will come you will think about changing the locks on the doors. If you think he is depressed ask his doctor to see him for depression during his next physical, which he will be getting soon to enter college. I would be surprised if he is found to be depressed as you have not said anything that is symptomatic of depression.

As I said your son sounds like a normal 18 year old. Don't press him just let him know your there for him and you love him.

just tell me how to end my life..

You have come to the wrong place for that type of help. If you would like help living call the National suicide hotline 1-800-273-TALK (8255).It is open 24/7 365 days a year. It is free and confidential. There is nothing that can be so wrong as to cause you to wan to die. They can help you with whatever is troubling you so call them.

13 f
i go to a cstholic school i live a great life my dads a dentist my mom doesnt work and i have a lil sister hoo is 10. i was wondering if it is normal for my dad to spank my butt alot and squeeze it and go "oooo look at them buns" in a wierd voice he just spanks my butt and squeezes it alot he is catholic and a dentist but is this molest??? help!!

If someone other than your dad, a stranger or a teacher were to do this to you it would be wrong as he is touching you someplace he should not be touching you; and could be considered molestation.

If dad slaps your but, spanking is disciplining, and gives you a playful squeeze over your clothing, this may be just dad showing love to his daughter. Something he may have been doing since you were little. If this is something dad just started doing then it is questionable. If this is something that makes you feel uncomfortable just say to your dad something like: "Dad I'm a big girl now and you slapping and squeezing my butt makes me uncomfortable could you try and stop."

Boys have the same problem with getting there dads to stop hugging and kissing them. There is nothing wrong with dads hugging there sons. My Uncle use to hug and kiss all of his nieces and nephews until the day he died. That was they way he was. None of us thought anything of it and would have been hurt if he had stopped.

What dad is doing may just be a sign of fatherly affection and if it bothers you just ask him to stop or ask mom to talk to him.

Is masterbating and having an orgasm what sex feels like?

The end result is the same. Though sex with a loved one may last longer and has a much different set of pleasures.

Hello, I read all your pain (and good advice) and I agree. I am a coward, scum and will hurt people who love me and I don't want to. But I can't live any more, I have tried to slice my wrists and it hurts and I was stopped by my partner, now he hides the pills, none of my knives are sharp enough and I don't have a car. I have tried to learn how to tie a noose but none of my beams are strong enough. I know the universe is telling me not to do it, as the only thing left is to throw myself on the train tracks, yes it is a guaranteed way to die, quickly, I don't know about painlessly, but I can't affect another soul with my pain- it's bad enough my son will suffer, briefly, but my partner will quickly erase my memory. He really hates me, but won't let me leave. I am studying Psychology as I am fascinated by what makes people 'tick'. And this man I can't figure out, or leave. I have stopped suicide before because I love my son so much, he is my life and light in a dark sky, but he deserves a better life than a crazy, psychotic mother and a screaming father. I used to be happy and find joy in all things once upon a time and I know if I could leave and still be with my son, I could have a chance for happiness. But if I leave I will never see him again as his Dad is determined to have him and hurt me (I don't even think he is thinking of what is best for my son). My family and friends are sick of the drama and have told me to sort my life out, I can't keep going, coming back only to leave again. I honestly don't think they would help anymore as I have only been back 4 days and they begged me not to return, that nothing would change, that I should get my son and get out...but I had to come back for my son, or he was going to VIC, I live in QLD, and I knew I would never see him again. I had a job, and friends and was starting to really do well in my studies and the black dog of my relationship got in the way- and I gave up everything to be with my son. Unfortunately that means being with a man that resents and hates me, and that has eaten away at my soul. He is turning my 3 year old against me, my son says things like, "stop talking to Daddy, Mummy, he doesn't love you", or " Go home, Mummy you don't live here and we don't want you". I stayed at home to raise him and educate him and love him and give him every thing, but now he like every one else, doesn't want me around. So I have decided to die. I can't just run away, being away from my son, having him growing thinking I didn't love him, would be more painful than my daily life- I couldn't bear it, it's better this way. I won't bother his or his Dad's life any more and my friends and family won't have to deal with my drama. I will make sure no-one finds my body, so as not to cause undue truama- HAVE EVEN THOUGHT OF FRAMING PARTNER, BUT THEN MY SON WILL HAVE NO ONE.- I am so fucked up, so psychologically stressed, exhausted and in pain. So what is the least painful way to die, no mess or stress for anyone? I have heard good things about poison, does anyone know about this? I don't know how much help you can be, because I have decided I am doing it this week, while he is out with my son. I believe in reincarnation and I know I will come straight back to learn all these crappy life lessons again, this time I will not let love guide me- it is all a bunch of bullshit lies-love is not every thing or important, it's just another system of control.

I can attest to the fact that throwing yourself in front of a train does not always kill. I am a member of a fire department rescue squad. About 12 times a year we respond to what is classified as suicide by train. Only 2 or 3 of them actually result in death; dismemberment, the loss of an arm, hand, leg or foot yes. Lots of broken bones and painful injuries but not always death.

I'm not sure where QLD is or what VIC is. If you live in the United States or Canada please call 1-800-273-TALK (8255). This is the National Suicide Prevention Hot line and is answered 24/7 365 days a year. They can and will help you with whatever problems you are having. You could also call RAINN which stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National, Network; their number is 1-800-656-HOPE. It sounds like you are living with an abusive husband. The call takers at RAINN are trained to help you leave him and can help you with finding the legal help you need to get away from him and hopefully take your son with you.

There is no reason to kill yourself because you are being abused by your husband. Even if you do not live in the U S there are agencies like those I offered through the civilized world to help you. You have access to the Internet all you need to do is search for them. Do so and be there for your son so he does not grow up to be like your husband.

After 15 years together my wife has told me she does not love me. We have 5 Children ages from 6 to 16. I was and still am totally stunned by this. As in every relationship we have had our ups and downs, but on the whole things have been good (or so it seemed.I worked hard to provide and give my family everything they wanted.I am not a drinker, gambler,drug taker, womaniser or abusive I do not even smoke! I really do not know what to do. She says she loves me and cares about me but is not in love with me any more. I have tried to explain that all relationships go through these phases, and that it will pass. We have a commitment to our children. To make it worse my wife has just been diagnosed with MS. I realise MS can be OK for some people and allow them to carry on as normal, but I
fear she will need help at some point. She has been unwell now for the past2 or 3 years, and I wonder if this is dragging her down. She will not admit to being depressed. My wife is 39 I am 46. Any help or suggestions very welcome. thank you.

I'm not a doctor. My unprofessional opinion is that your wife is aware of the debilitating effects of this disease and the toll it will have on you and the children. I believe what she may be doing is in affect falling on her sword to save you and the children from being torn apart in having to care for her as the effects of her MS take its toll on her.

Your wife would not be the first MS suffer to think this way. My brother in-law is also an MS sufferer. He and my sister sat down when he was first diagnosed an came up with a plan they both were comfortable with for when the time came that he could no longer care for himself. I am not aware of just what that plan is. What I do know is that until that time they are living their lives together and they are happy and that is what counts.

After 15 years of marriage and 5 children with no other problems, I see no other reason for her sudden claim of not loving you. My advise is counseling for both of you. First to better understand this disease and to better understand the effects it will have on her and your family. How will it progress. To that end I also recommend you go to the National MS Society website to find out more about this illness. Their website will help you find a chapter in your area where you will find additional help in dealing with MS. The URL is: http://www.nationalmssociety.org/find-a-chapter/index.aspx

With the help of a qualified therapist knowledgeable in MS. You and you wife and later with your children can work on what is the best way to care for and help your wife through this illness. With today's advancements in treatments your wife can live a long an fruitful life. It would not be out of the realm of possibility, depending on the type of MS she has, that she could live to see all her children grandchildren.

In short, you first need to become more knowledgeable in her illness. Then you all need to learn the best way to help her and care for her.

To start off with, I'm not a dad... but I'm prepping myself for the day.

My question revolves around this article I read tonight... and I would like to get opinions from real world perants, or, well, from everyone willing to state whever they have kids or not and their reasoning behind it.

Would you consider manipulting your child into doing something that you want them to do?

This is a strange question as the word manipulation and the way you are asking have different meanings.

For instance: If I am trying to get my child to do something that is in his or her best interest; is that manipulation or proper child raising. If I am trying to get them to do something they don't want to do that they really don't need to do such as playing a sport, then that might be considered manipulation. Playing a sport though could be considered in the child's best interest on one plain even if the child's interest or more academic or musical. If it is being done so the parent can live vicariously through the child then it is truly manipulation.

Sometimes what you may see as manipulation is being done as the parents feel is in the child's best interest. Like beauty, manipulation is sometimes seen in the eye of the beholder.

As to your question: When it comes to having a child do something that they need to do, that is in their best interest. Then yes I would use all my powers of persuasion to get compliance. Including forcing a child to comply.

I have never forced my children to do anything that was not necessary or in their best interest to do. School work, chores around the house and other things expected of a properly raised child, yes. Everything else was their option.

Hello! For high school, you are required to do a certain amount of community service hours to graduate. However, I don't just want to serve food at a homeless shelter and hate doing it like other kids do. My main interests are foreign language, history, and science, and I was wondering whether there are activities that I can participate in that I would enjoy. Also, I'd like to mention that I'm not just doing this to graduate from high school or get accepted into college, but I want to contribute more to my community. Thanks for all of your help in advance.

Would tutoring or mentoring younger students in those subjects be considered community service. Possibly doing so in a shelter for families that are homeless or at the Public Library. You might inquire about this.

my husband works and i stay at home. he says there is no reason why the house should not be clean and laundry be done etc... he refuses to help in any way says he pays all the bills and
i am responsible for everything else. if its not done, i really get yelled at and im about to have a nervous breakdown

I have a feeling there is more to this story than what you have written.

I do agree with your husband that if all you do is sit around the house all day and watch television then you are not doing your fair share. Now if children, especially young children are involved the dynamics changes considerably.

Infants require a lot of attention, still there is time while they are sleeping to straighten up a little. Of course during this time it gives you a chance to sleep as well to make up for your missing sleep. If this is the case you husband could be more tolerant and clean up after himself as well.

If you are a soccer mom then your husband may have somewhat of a reasonable complaint. There should be enough time while the children are at school for you to clean, do the grocery shopping, pay the bills & other things needed to do if you and prepare nice meals for the family. You also have the right and most likely the need for some outside activities. These activities should not be so all encompassing as to come before the needs of your family.

If any of what I have written is more to the point then the first thing you and your husband need to do is to sit down and discuss just what is the problem. If the problem is child car then he needs to know just what that entails and how much time it takes of you. Ask him to spend his day off taking care of the infant(s) or being the soccer mom. Walking a mile in your shoes can be very eye opening for him.

If it is your outside activities that are keeping you from taking care of your housework then you might possibly benefit from some time management classes. Most community colleges or high schools offer these types of classes.

Since I am disabled and my wife works I tried to help out by doing some of the house work. I made up a schedule where I cleaned a room a day and since I like to cook and I'm good at it ,I also tried preparing meals making a weekly menu. Unfortunately it took a toll on my injuries and I was unable to complete a task that I started which actually made more work for my wife. It was a good schedule and would have worked if my injuries would have allowed. I settled for making the least amount of mess for my wife to clean up after. I straighten up the bedroom and the living room each day as these are the two rooms I am the worst offender at messing. You could try getting your husband to do the same if child care is the problem.

36years why is my vaginal always wet? please help.

You have asked a very subjective question. What is wet to you may not be wet to someone else. If you are wet to the point that you must wear a pad to keep from soiling you panties and clothing. Then I suggest you discuss this with your Gynecologist as you may have some type of infection.

It hurts to go to the bathroom and I've had this problem before 6 months ago, I went to the doctor and they had to look at me and then they gave me some powdered white stuff to drink. I'm not comfortable with a doctor lookin at me though. Now it hurts to poop and it stings
A couple of days ago when I try to poop there was kind of a lot of blood, but there isnt anymore, it just stings and hurts. What can I do to get rid of this pain?

I agree with Zane; you need to see a doctor. Not being able to move your bowels can be life threatening. It is what killed Elvis Presley.

The type of doctor you need to see is a specialist. I'm thinking the best specialist to see would be an Internist. An Internist is a non-Surgical Doctor who specializes in diagnosing illnesses through advanced testing. The type of tests your family doctor may not think to order.

You could look at the family practice doctor as a doctor who looks for the obvious cause, looking for the pickle in the pickle barrel. While the Internist looks for the non-obvious cause, or the Herring in the pickle barrel.

Both are good doctors and both have their place in medicine. When your family doctor(s) exhausts their search for an answer to a problem they should refer you to an appropriate specialist to continue the search for an answer.

There are many reasons for your problem. Straining to move your bowels is not good. You could harm other organs or further hurt your bowels. The bleeding is a sign that should not be ignored In straining you could have torn a vein, like a bloody nose, or something more serious. You need to see a doctor and I'm suggesting you see an Internist.

how to make suicide in home

Please call 1-800-273-TALK (8255). This is the National Suicide prevention Hotline. It is available 24/7 with trained volunteers who will talk with you as long as you need them and help you find professionals in your home town to help you.

Suicide is not like it is portrayed in the movies or on TV. In general one does not just go an lay on their bed and die. As a firefighter I have responded to too many attempted suicides and can tell you it is always painful and generally messy.

What ever your reasons are for wanting to die, there are many more reasons to live. I know of nothing that you may think is so earth shattering that you can't go on living that cannot be made right or fixed.

Life can be hard at times but death is final and it is never the answer to ones problems.

okay so my nipples reeally started hurting about 2 days ago. usually this happens before i start my period but its still 2 weeks until then. me and my boyfriend had sex but we used a condom and it never ripped or anything o: but im still scared that i might be pregnant cause i think he forgot to wash his hands before he fingered me once or twice after touching his penis after he came :s
i put lotion on them yesterday and it started burning so i think that they also might just be irritated but im not sure. what else might it be? and are there high chances of me being pregnant? ._.

I don't think your pregnant, at least to the point of having symptoms of pregnancy. If you think you may be there is still time to take the plan B pill.

As for your nipples hurting; it is just possible your boyfriend was too rough with them. Did he suck, bite or pinch them during sex. If so that may be the problem. It has only been 2 days and if he was overly aggressive to your nipples during sex, then your bra may further irritate them as well. if they continue too hurt for more than a few more days you should consider seeing a doctor.

If the problem does turn out to be your BF being overly aggressive then you need to teach your BF how to treat your breasts and nipples during sex play and sex. I've been thrown out of the men's' club for saying this. Men/boys need to taught how to make love to a women.

Women/girls have to teach us what they like and don't like. Some women are more clitoral than vaginal. Those that are need to tell their boyfriends and show them how to excite them. The same goes for boys. The need to show their GF's how and where they like to be touched. There are some men/boys that have very sensitive nipples and like to have them sucked and tweaked. How are you to know this about each other if you don't communicate and teach each other.

What is the best way to deal with a bad roomate?

I'm a freshman in college, and my roommate is not the best. (that's the nicest way to put it). She's not a clean person, she leaves her trash everywhere as well as her dirty dishes. She's rude and inconsiderate of the fact that im in the room too. For example, if she has an early class one morning and I don't have one till 12, she'll get up and start making a lot of noise.Throwing things around, slamming books. She does the same when she comes in late from her partying and im sleep. She has also taken up most of the space in the room, which makes me crazy!
Finally, i share a bathroom with my roommate and two other girls, (its a suite-style dorm), and the bathroom is disgusting! The sink is full of God-knows-what, the shower floor is also very gross, as well as the toilet. Sometimes she invites people over. She also made a huge mess when I left for a few days and the restroom was disgusting, thet sink had hair all in it and the tub was dirty, sometimes she has clothes scattered all on the floor. I am at a huge disadvantage because I feel like I'm the only one who wants it clean.

-oh yeah, I'm not a very outspoken person. I'm shy and don't like confrontation. With that in mind please help!

There are two way too handle this. One is to is to speak to your other roommate and see if this girl is bother her as well. If she is the two of you should speak with her together and inform her she needs to be more considerate of the two of you. I have a feeling this probably won't work but you could and should try.

The second way. Is to inform the what in my day was the resident dorm monitor or counselor. This was the person responsible for settling situations such as this. This person was either a Senior or grad student living in the dorms. It was their responsibility to keep order in the dorms.

Lacking a dorm counselor you or if the dorm counselor is unsuccessful you can go to the student housing office and request a change in room assignments. You will need to explain why and they will probably want to try and correct the situation first. Though at that point I would suggest you stand your ground and insist on a new room assignment if one is available. If need be call your parents and bring them into the problem. After all they are footing the bill and will have a little more power to bring to bear if need be.

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