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What is the best way to deal with a bad roomate?
What is the best way to deal with a bad roomate?
I'm a freshman in college, and my roommate is not the best. (that's the nicest way to put it). She's not a clean person, she leaves her trash everywhere as well as her dirty dishes. She's rude and inconsiderate of the fact that im in the room too. For example, if she has an early class one morning and I don't have one till 12, she'll get up and start making a lot of noise.Throwing things around, slamming books. She does the same when she comes in late from her partying and im sleep. She has also taken up most of the space in the room, which makes me crazy!
Finally, i share a bathroom with my roommate and two other girls, (its a suite-style dorm), and the bathroom is disgusting! The sink is full of God-knows-what, the shower floor is also very gross, as well as the toilet. Sometimes she invites people over. She also made a huge mess when I left for a few days and the restroom was disgusting, thet sink had hair all in it and the tub was dirty, sometimes she has clothes scattered all on the floor. I am at a huge disadvantage because I feel like I'm the only one who wants it clean.
-oh yeah, I'm not a very outspoken person. I'm shy and don't like confrontation. With that in mind please help!
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There are two way too handle this. One is to is to speak to your other roommate and see if this girl is bother her as well. If she is the two of you should speak with her together and inform her she needs to be more considerate of the two of you. I have a feeling this probably won't work but you could and should try.
The second way. Is to inform the what in my day was the resident dorm monitor or counselor. This was the person responsible for settling situations such as this. This person was either a Senior or grad student living in the dorms. It was their responsibility to keep order in the dorms.
Lacking a dorm counselor you or if the dorm counselor is unsuccessful you can go to the student housing office and request a change in room assignments. You will need to explain why and they will probably want to try and correct the situation first. Though at that point I would suggest you stand your ground and insist on a new room assignment if one is available. If need be call your parents and bring them into the problem. After all they are footing the bill and will have a little more power to bring to bear if need be.
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I think you have two possible options.
The first involves a steep learning curve for you both I'm afraid. You could confront her about her behaviour, explain how uncomfortable it makes you feel, affects your work, social life, etc. She might not realise how irritating her attitude is. You're the best person to explain it to her, as you're the one most affected by it. It doesn't have to be nasty or argumentative, just firm and determined.
The other option is to tell whoever is in charge of your living conditions. You would have to take photographs of the mess and explain the difficulties you're having to get it sorted.
Hope this helps, let me know how you get on?
Best wishes X.
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