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My mom wants to get rid of my dog
14/f
Hi, my dog is a one year old sheltie and he is my beautiful baby boy. Anyway, he is my family's first dog and it took EXTENSIVE persuasion on my part to convince my parents to get a dog. But we got him a year ago, and he's the sweetest guy. He's completely non-aggressive, would never hurt a fly (he would be SCARED of a fly, that's how sweet he is) and has the cutest little face. We got him when my brother went to college, to help me out with the transition (I am very close with my brother) and my dog has done a great job filling that empty space. However, my mom DESPISES our dog. The reasons why are as follows: He is extremely reactive and barks at everything- its very difficult to walk him because he goes berserk when he sees another dog (but if he has the chance to meet the dog, he is NEVER aggressive. We know it's not out of aggression) so that's the main issue. He barks inside the house if something (walker, biker, truck, or dog) passes by, and it's a loud bark. But this is part of his breed. Shelties are known to be a barky, reactive breed because they were bred to herd sheep and alert their masters if an intruder came into the field. So he thinks he's doing his job. Personally, I think my mom is behaving ridiculously. She said to me that she HATES, HATES, HATES the dog, she wants to put him down, she doesn't care what happens to him, and she hates him. Well, the only thing he does wrong is bark, which is part of his breed. That's it. He doesn't bite, beg or do anything bad. I don't think that's a good enough reason to constitute such hatred- it can get annoying, but nothing more than that. He requires a good amount of exercise, but I can take care of that. I've offered to do a great amount of work for the dog so she won't have to do it all- but I can only do so much seeing as I have to go to school. She complains how she can never do anything she wants anymore because of the dog. All she has to do is a half hour walk with him, then I can take care of the rest after school. So basically, she said she wants to get rid of him and we can't keep him, all because she is overreacting. Here's an issue- I am deeply attached to this dog. I love him soooo much. He's helped me deal with my brother being at college, and he's the cutest, sweetest companion for me. I enjoy playing with him because I want to make him happy. I want him to have the happiest life possible because I love him so much. He is a very deep dog, honestly, and gets depressed if we leave him for too long. He loves us. We're his family, and he loves us. It breaks my heart to think of how much it would hurt him if we got rid of him- trust me, he is a deep, sensitive guy. I cannot even express how much I love this dog, and I will have incredible difficulty speaking pleasantly to my mom if she gives him away. My dad and brother love the dog too, but they seem to be much less passionate advocates for his happiness and well being than myself. Anyway, how do I stop her from getting rid of him??? I love my doggy!!! He's my baby!!!! Thanks, and sorry that this was so long.
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Hi, I'm 13 (f) and I have a corgi. I have the same problem as you. My dog is super sweet and friendly to everyone, and he's just the loveliest dog ever. He's really well-behaved and he, too, only barks when he sees moving objects like cars and bicycles. My brother and I have been begging our mom to get us a dog for a really long time, and my mom finally said yes a year ago.
My corgi is now a year old and very well behaved. He adores everyone he meets. He even loves my mom a lot, who constantly ignores him.
When I go to college, my mom said that she wants to get rid of him because she can't stand dogs. I thought that my brother and I would be able to convince her (my mom hates my corgi so much she doesn't let him indoors) to keep my dog, but it's no use... :(
Recently, I was playing with my dog outside and it started raining. My corgi is extremely scared of the rain and thunder, so he started shivering and curled up in his usual spot outside. I tried to calm him the best I could but then my mom started screaming at me for playing with my dog.
She then went berserk and started screaming really really loudly because my dog suddenly rushed into the house (due to his fear of the rain) and started climbing up the stairs. Now my mom really wants to get rid of my dog and I'm scared for him.
My mom's screaming and actions made my dog really scared and I really hope that we'll be able to keep my dog. My mom constantly talks about how she wished we never had a dog, and refuses to walk him, talk to him or touch him. My brother and I are extremely close to our dog and he means the world to us, vice versa.
My advice to you is to listen to whatever your mom tells you (except if it's to give your dog away because I now heartbreaking it is to hear those words). If she tells you to take out the trash, do it. if she tells you to walk your dog NOW, do it. You have to prove to your mom that your dog really is good and you should find a way to get both of them to bond.
You could start by just showing pictures of him to your mom, or talking about his good behavior on a particular day. (sorry for the crappy advice, that's all I can think of at the moment).
Best of luck!!
I do hope both of us get to keep our dogs :)
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I think. possibly, if you take him to the vet, she/he might suggest some ways to control his barking. He might react well to ocedience classes for instance.
I don't know if there's something similar for dogs, but cat owners can buy a pheromone spray, that stops the animal getting stressed out over things; maybe there's a dog version too? As your dog is usually so amenable, perhaps his barking is instinctive as you suggest, but also he might be afraid of noises that he can't see the cause of, so he barks unnecessarily. Another cause for his barking could be that he's a young dog, trying to establish his territory.
I also think your Mum has something else that's bothering her, not just the dog, maybe she's fed-up of doing all the housework on her own, but does it because that's her 'job', the dog is the straw that breaks the camel's back, sort of thing. Could you explain to her, quietly and without any drama, in a 'family council' gathering, how much your dog means to you; give her chance to explain how she feels about life in general. You might find a way to please everyone, a difficult thing to achieve, especially in a family where tensions can be high, but you might win in the end.
Hope this helps, let me know how you get on?
Best wishes XX.
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The reason the dog barks when people pass the house or other dogs pass the house is he is protecting his pack. He sees your family as his pack and wants to protect you. His bark is his away of telling people and other animals to stay away.
Our dog, which is a mixed breed, is just like yours. She is very protective of us but would not hurt a fly. Whenever a stranger comes near us she gets between us and them. If she senses danger she can be very protective barking and her hackles go up. She can be quite scary at that time. But that is as far as she will go as long as you keep your distance. The closest she has come to being aggressive is pushing a person away who has come to close to my wife that for some reason she didn't trust. There was no reason for concern but the dog didn't trust her to be that close. We trust her instincts and she just pushed the women back until she was a safe distance from my wife.
A protective dog for a young girl is a good thing. His instincts will tell him when to protect you. Something you should discuss with mom. You should also look into obedience training. He may not stop barking but you, through obedience training, can get him to stop when it is not warranted with a simple command.
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I understand it took me forever to get my 1st dog try before walking him wear him out by playing and take time out to train him not to bark use behavioral technics and maybe get him used to a couple other dogs might help u could go to a trainer also
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