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I used to like this guy. But he came off as to jerky for me. But now i am curious if he liked me back.
He points out stupid imperfections about me like my forehead is big.
He tripped me.(idk if it was "playful" or not)
He throws things at me.(pencils,erasers ect.)
When we sit next to eachother he puts his hand on my leg till i move it.
Yells at me all the time
Calls me by a name i absolutly hate(not like bitch or anything it a name like gurtrude or something like that)
Makes an effort to be by me if i am standing up.
Only leaves if i tell him to(when he stands next to me)other wise he follows me around.
Walks up to me makes some rude coment like you look frumpy today and then walk away.
So does this guy like me?
"When we sit next to eachother he puts his hand on my leg till i move it."
That means that he very well could. The rest of it could mean anything. You're really overthinking this. If you get the feeling that he likes you, he probably does. All these "signs" are meaningless. There's no way to tell if he likes you for sure unless he tells you. So why not ask? Asking isn't going to harm anyone. Good luck! :)
I'm on a pretty strict diet & I was wondering what to do about a meal. My family is all getting together to have Pork & Saurkraut with mashed potatos. I'm not quite sure the nutrition facts of it because all recipes are different & what not. Should I eat lightly that day & pick around here & there?? Maybe a small piece of pork, a bit of saurkraut & a scoop or two of mashed potatos?? Any ideas?? I'm basically just watching my calorie intake & grams of fat. I'm not too concerned about anything else. Thanks!!
Just eat the food. It's one meal! One meal isn't going to throw off your diet. As long as you don't completely pig out you'll probably stay within your calorie and fat limits anyway. Even if you go a little over, again, it's one day, one meal. Have a good time with your family and after this one meal go back to your diet. There's no reason to be so hard on yourself. Sure you want to be healthy, but don't get so wrapped up in it that it controls your life because that's not healthy either. Good luck! :)
i kind of had sex for the first time 5 days ago with no protection but heres the ting i finnished but obviously he didnt b/c he was thinking of other things so he wouldnt get excited so he didnt even feel close to finnishing on me, but i was supossed to get my period 4 days ago but inever did i still feel cramps adn my boobs r sore but there r all these risks about his penis being in mine even if he didnt finnish im scared please help me out .!!!
In all probability you are not pregnant. You could be, of course, but most likely you're not. In any case, it is "impossible" to tell just 5 days after. Home pregnancy tests aren't accurate until it has been 2 weeks. The signs that you're pregnant will not start until at least that long. The soreness and cramps have nothing to do with pregnancy and are probably related to your period. They do come late or early sometimes you know. Your body doesn't have a built in calendar. It does what it wants when it wants.
All that said, if you continue practicing unprotected sex you WILL end up pregnant. NEVER have unprotected sex no matter if he's thinking of other things or not. The risk is way too high. His body is being stimulated and guys, especially guys that are young, cannot always control what their bodies do. You may find it interesting to know that you can get pregnant even if he doesn't "finish". Pre-ejaculatory fluids are released and can contain sperm. He won't even feel those. And what if he accidentally does finish? Next time, no matter what the circumstances, use a condom or other form of birth control!!! It's not like it's overly expensive and it's an extremely small price to pay for what it can prevent.
I dont want to do anything extreme, but i havent been exercising that much over the summer and the track tryouts are in three days, i sort of procrastinated, is there any way i can condition myself in three days?
Honestly, no. Sorry, but there's not. Don't overwork yourself in the 3 days left. That will only make you tired for the tryouts and you'll do poorly. Just run a little to loosen up and you might make it through. Good luck.
Heres the deal, I'm 18 and I've never been on a date or kissed a boy. (I know, wow, Never?!?! At 18?!?!) I'm going to be going on my first date soon. I feel so awkward about the fact that I've never dated before, especially since he has. I just want to know, you know, since I'm not in middle school it's not like some hanging out with a friend type of thing. But I've never been able to do that part to get used to dating. And I'm not going to be like, talking about some big forever relationship either. What do we talk about? Should I be like, hanging out, having fun, talking about nothing important. Or like asking him questions about himself or something. Or if I just try to go with whatever come will it be awkward at some point? Just give me some general first date tips I guess so I do feel so nervous about going into it, please.
First, make sure he knows that it's your first date ever. That will make it a whole lot easier on you. He won't have any expectations and should be more than willing to help you get through it. My best advice is to treat it like going out with one of your friends. Have a good time. If it gets awkward or you look like a fool, oh well. Life goes on. You'll both probably just laugh it off anyway. Dating, kissing, and the like ARE awkward at first. Remember though, millions of people have gone through it, millions are going through it, and millions have been through it. You'll get through it too. Take a deep breath and know that it's OK to be nervous. He's probably nervous too. It may not be his first date ever, but it's a first date for him too, his first date with you. I wish you the best of luck!
To let you know, I was 18 when I went on my first date too. Now I'm engaged. Starting late isn't as bad as it may seem. There's plenty of time to catch up. Try not to dwell on it. :)
My boss gave me diamond earrings for Christmas. I am a married woman and he is a married man.
I know his wife thinks this was an inappropriate present. I am torn. What should I do?
Christmas was awhile ago... anyway, if nothing else is going on then don't worry about it. It was just a really nice gift. Keep them! If he's been flirting with you or making other kinds of advances that changes things and you should give them back. It all depends on his intentions, not on the gift itself. If you're not sure about what's going on, ask him. Talking usually clears things up pretty well. Other than that, does your husband know? If not tell him and see what he thinks. His opinion on this matter is important too! If the gift offends him, no matter what your boss' intentions were, tell him you can't accept his gift and give them back.
Does anyone know a good sad book for a boy and girl, im not a reader, so please tell me a good one, and not hard. a book that a middle schooler could read!
THANKS!
"It Happened To Nancy"
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/It_Happened_to_Nancy:_By_an_Anonymous_Teenager
15/f
I know, its really long, sorry. :[
Alright, I don't even know where to begin. I use to live in Seattle, for 6 years. About 8 months ago, i moved to Texas.
but I met a boy in 8th grade. I started falling for him, hard. We were best friends for about 6 ish months, before he told me he liked me. and we were together. I know i'm young, but I know i love this guy. && I know he loves me.
anyways, in the middle of 9th grade, i moved. we both cried, but we decided to have a long distance relationship. So we had one. were still together now. for almost a year already. my parents don't approve of him, and this kind of relationship. But the only reason they don't approve of him is because they found out that he fingered me.
So they think hes one of those guys that are "all about one thing". && hes really not, he respects me. && he came over for 2 weeks. We held hands, and hugged, and my parents freaked out. which is another reason they don't approve of him. && they use to love him before they found out that he fingered me.
They said were too "in love". && I don't know if its just me, but I think thats a good thing. We love each other a lot. Were both willing to wait for each other, shouldn't that be enough? So now, me and him can't talk on the phone as much. I can only talk for an hour today, and over the computer. But i just miss him so much. && I only concentrate on my friends in Washington. Its like, i live in Texas, but my mind is in Washington.
I don't want to go through high school being a "loner" and not having fun. But I don't want to loose him.
I'm sorry this is so long, but I just don't know what to do. =/
Your parents will believe what they want to, but they're very wrong. If he was "just about one thing" he would not want to be in a long distance relationship with you, duh! One of the number one things about relationships in general and sometimes even more so long distance relationships is to not let other's opinions of the relationship affect the relationship. Who cares if your parents don't approve? It doesn't change how much you love each other. It's not like they don't let you communicate with him at all. Sure, it's not fair what they're doing, but that's what parents do and you can't do anything about it. Continue trying to convince them of what you believe, but don't let it stress you out. They will come around eventually or they won't. You can't control that. Just worry about what you can control and you'll feel a whole lot better about everything.
Don't let this scare you, but be prepared for it to get hard. Long distance relationships are very difficult to keep over a long period of time. If your feelings for him are as strong as you say though, it's worth it. Keep reminding yourself that it's worth it and you should be fine for now.
Good luck!
My natural hair colour is black and I was wondering, that if I dyed my hair to any lighter colour like blond or even brown, can I look younger or less older?
I'm thinking that maybe my black hair makes me look older, and not in a good way?
Generally speaking, people that dye their hair look older. I'd just leave it be. A lighter color most likely wouldn't match your skin tones and it would look stupid anyway. I love black hair, I think it's really beautiful. It's not going to make you look older...wrinkles and stuff do that, it may make you look more mature maybe though and that's a good thing! Leave it how it is! :)
any tips for starting a new school year? like a resolution so theres no drama through out the school year im going to 8th grade /... now what do i do to make more friends not cry all the time and stop being alone... and anythin... like personality? be louder.. or what??
what does humble mean in a person? dop people like it? or theyd like loud and wild better?
thnks
Sorry to say, but there's no way to avoid drama in 8th grade. It's 8th grade. The best thing you can do for yourself right now is stop stressing about things. There's no reason to change yourself or try a different approach on anything like that unless you are personally dissatisfied with yourself. You can't control how other people act so don't worry about it! Just go to school with confidence and you'll be fine. Don't even think about it. Good luck! :)
I'm going to be going to high school from 8:45 to 1:00, starting August 27th. Then, I will be attending Cosmetology school from 5:30 to 9:30, starting September 4th. For an hour or more after high school I will be with my boyfriend and working on homework for both schools. I wont be attending either school on the weekends. I'm going to be waking up at 6 every other day to work out for an hour.
Will this eventually overload my body and cause me to become exhausted? I don't get stressed out very easily, so I'm not worried about my mental condition, just my physical.
I think you'll be just fine. It's not like you won't be getting enough sleep and eating KFC every day. The only problem I can foresee revolves around the fact that you have lumped your "homework" and "boyfriend" time together. Unless you really discipline yourself, it's near impossible to get your homework/studying/etc done to the degree that it should be with your boyfriend there. Your boyfriend will be a HUGE distraction. Budget that time very, very wisely and carefully or separate it! I really suggest separating it somehow. Do your homework in the library at your school before going over to your boyfriend's and try not to rush through it. Better yet, don't hang out with your bf every day! School is more important and you can hang out with your boyfriend on weekends. Other than that, a healthy diet is all you need to keep from getting sick, exhausted, or having to exercise much for the time being. You don't have to go all out on some crazy diet, just eat healthy. Good luck. :)
okay, i'm looking for a DEAD honest answer. and i promise i will rate you really high if you do truly give me your honest answer & back it up.
i have a guyfriend, 'z' & i just got his sn like yesterday and we started talking last night. i guess you could say we're 'friends.' but i'm not really sure. def. not close enough for me to tell him who i like. well, i really want my crush (s) 's sn. well 's' i'm pretty sure likes me, but i can't just ask 's' straight up what his sn is. so i was thinking of maybe 'z' could put me a chatroom with him. but idk if i can trust 'z' enough. should i just ask, 'hey, z, do you have s's screen name?" wouldn't that be super awkward? wouldn't 'z' know that i like 's'?
please help! & don't just say, "JUST ASK HIM! WHAT COULD HURT?" tell me WHY i should ask 'z' what s's sn is.
Well, if you like 's' and you want to date him sometime, 'z' is going to find out that you like 's' eventually, as is everyone else when you start dating. If you want it to be less awkward, make up some sort of reason why you would need to talk to 's'. A homework question, a joke that he told that you can't remember the punch line to that you thought was really funny and you wanted to use, a rumor that you wanted to confirm or disprove...just basically something that 'z' couldn't answer for you. It doesn't matter if you actually talk to 's' about it or not. It's just a way to make asking 'z' for (s)'s sn a little easier. Good luck. :)
ok i am usually good with my bros and siss but my younger one is a pain in the neck. my life seems to be the center of her life and she keeps butting into it. it got to a point where she went and bot those something for idiots books to teach herself about computers and to hack into my emails. i'm generally a good girl but last semester i kind of let go of the rope a bit and had fun, for the first time in my entire life! i'm over 21! but my parents are extremely strict... and i mean really really! i am not allowed to date until i am like married... (i know it sounds weired but you get use to it where i come from) anyway so i went out dancing one night as a farewell thing with the rest of my frnds who go their seprate ways and i never told her what i did. we live alone. i just sed dinner. the thing is she knws details! and i never ever told anyyyyone about it right.... the only ppl who knew are the friends who i was with and they hate her existance because she'd ruined our vecation in LA when we went on a college trip and i had to take her with or i wdnt go (it got so nasty she yelled and screamed infront of them called my parents and started shouting there are boys everywhere -they already knw that! thats not the case but its the fact she screamed infront of my frnds that was so bad!) anyway so now she knws that i got a bit wild that nite of dancing (nothing slutty or anything i just danced and hung out with my frnds...that wild :s) ..... the onlly person i emailed was my bestfrnd about that nite (she lives in japan) so i cdnt exactly call her (coz my sis eavesdrops) and i thot email was safe. i changed all my paswords after she told mum and dad about another thing (i told them the truth about it and i was very straight forward so she dsnt screw around! i got punished for it and i won't be finishing my education because of it but at least the heard it from me you knw??) but the fact she senses i wast afraid of her is i think what is driving her to find new info on me! i mean whats the matter with her! and why is she on my case!
she is tooooo conservative she doesnt even wear tshirts coz she thinks showing your shoulders is a sin. and she is so rude with everyone and she thinks the only right way is not associating with anyone "wrong". my parents are like her and i am even shocked to say abit lesser than her! (but not so that i could talk to them rationally) i wouldnt be surprised if she was in some kind of terrorist group later in the future! i mean one of my closest friends is gay and the other a lesbian and she attacks them like no tomorow! and pretends not to see them when they pass by. i tried to open up to her but but she attacks me and i don't want to get beaten emotionaly all the time already my parents do that as is.... plus its not like she is unhappy! she likes how she lives (and if you ask me she lives miserably she refuses to go to classes coz she says she shouldn't go out alone!) i don't know what to do! i mean i want my parents to trust me but i don't want to live like her! i get good grades i am well like by almost everyone i knw.... i don't knw what to do!
and i can't find out how she is finding this info on me! and i don't even know why she is doing this! she's nineteen for heavens sake shouldn't she get a life!
please tell me how to handle this. (talking to my parents isn't an option because they'll think of what i did as wrong and forget how she got the info and how she butts into my life! and so is talking to her) honestly i need help i don't my fiance to think i am a weirdo like her. and my parents don't help either.. she is willing to make up stuff to make him angrey at me... i dont know what to do! :'(
sorry this is long but i don't knw who to turn too...
i need a plan i seriously need one with out having to sacrifice myself or what i did to get here! i just need to shut her up until i move away and my older siblings become her problem!
The issue here isn't your sister actually. Just about every sister makes problems for their sisters. The problem is actually your parents. You can't have people controlling your life this much at your age. Your sister isn't doing anything but being inconsiderate of you. Your parents are completely controlling you and it's completely unacceptable. When it gets to the point where you can't finish your education it has gone wayyy too far. You need to finish your education by any means necessary. That's really important for your future. My advice for you is to take legal action and become independent from your parents. When you are independent, they won't be able to control you anymore. It may be hard emotionally, but you are at a point in your life where you need to start making decisions for yourself and become an adult. If the reason you can't continue your education is because your parents cut off the money, being independent would help there as well. Only your financial information would be included in how much financial aid you would receive, so that you could afford it. It's time to grow up and if your family is preventing you from doing that, leave them. They are not looking out for your best interests anymore. The world is very different from when they were kids. You know what it's like and you know what you need to do in order to succeed. Take control of your life. You're 21 and you have a fiance! You're old enough to make it on your own and your fiance can help you. Good luck.
I'm talking about the home version game Dance Dance Revolution Extreme 2. I know that it is a great way to exercise because you are definitely moving a lot. Now, on the workout program, you input your weight, dance to a song, and then they tell you about how many kCals you burned. Now, here is my question: If I eat popcorn and consume 200 calories, then go burn 200 kCals on DDR, did I burn off that popcorn? Now I know that its just an estimate but roughly, is that about correct? Or is kCal a different amount than Calories? I tried to look it up on google but I didn't understand anything.
Thank you!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Calorie
Calorie with a capital C, such as Calories listed on foods are technically kilocalories (kCal's). A calorie with a lower case c is 1000 times smaller than a kilocalorie. Measuring things in Calories makes it easier so you're not dealing with so many 0's. So, yes you would have burned off the popcorn. The game isn't going to be 100% accurate though of course in determining how many Calories you burned.
If you're trying to lose weight, don't eat the popcorn in the first place. It's not so easy as just burning off the junk food that you eat. You're trying to burn off the fat that's already there. If you just burn off the extra Calories you eat (that isn't used for energy), it does no good for you. Try to eat healthier and cut on the snacking and you should see results if you spend a lot of time on DDR. Just be patient. Contrary to common belief it can take a long time to lose weight if you're doing it the correct way. :)
I have a problem about searching for colleges.
I've tried google and ask.com and specific college searches, but they're all keyword-searches.
I just need to find a college that accepts CLEP and has a gymnasium for gymnastics.
I don't want to compete in gymnastics, but I like it and want to continue doing it whenever I can when I get to college.... so a college with a gymnastics area (like in the movie 'Stick It'.... it's a high school academy with a full gymnastic arena)
and I'm going to CLEP out of as many courses as I can, so it has to accept CLEPs....
I'm not sure how to search as specifically as I need to....
also, it doesn't really matter what the state is...
I just want a pretty college.... California or Hawaii maybe lol.
any help would rock!
thanks
Try using FastWeb. It can be really helpful for college searching and for finding scholarships that you are eligible to apply for. When I used it a few years ago it was amazing. Hopefully it's still the same and I hope you find what you're looking for! :)
http://www.fastweb.com
I am in love with a boy. I have been in love with him for the past 3 years. Yes i know i am in love. Now I am 100 percent sure.
I see him every day. We do a sport together. We are on a team together. We are a small team, and we are all like family.
I am 16. He is 16. I don't know who he likes. He had really liked a girl on our team, and they went out, but she broke up with him. He was depressed for a day, but he is back to normal.
He is the kind of boy who doesn't like to show he likes a girl. He is pretty touchy feely with all the girls on the team, including me. (but like a brotherly kind of thing, he will "fight" us, "pummel" us, and cuddle with us. I love him)
The girls are his best friends. I am not however a very close friend of his. I am a "friend." When he is with the other girls he will do all the things listed above (pummel, play fight, cuddle) with me, but only if there is at least one other girl with me.
When we are alone, he is very silent and not at all touchy feely. If I ask him a question, he will give the shortest possible answer. Almost like he is a little afraid it seems like to be alone together.
I am confused on what to do. I have tried multiple times to forget about him, to move on (I've tried dating guys, etc) but I just can't. I love him. He's perfect. I think we will be perfect together.
Please tell me what to do. I am really grateful to you if you have read this whole thing. I know it gets tiring after a while to read these "i like a guys what do i do" questions, but I really think this is important. This is not some guy I have a crush on that will evaporate in a few months, this is someone I am in love with deeply.
I also forgot: he seems to be teasing me a lot more lately (in a good way). He will sometimes be the one who starts talking to me first lately. While we are fooling around at meets he will do some optional things like putting his arm around my shoulder when he put it somewhere else (or on someone else).
STOP making excuses! If you love him as much as you say you do, none of that should matter. You think everything is so complicated. It's not! Don't you think that he is coming up with the same excuses you are? He is NOT going to go for it without something from you. He's human too. Go after this guy or you will really regret it forever. I'd rather be a little embarassed or feel a little awkward for awhile than lose my chance with someone that I like as much as you like this guy! There is no valid excuse in the world you can come up with not to try. Take a risk girl!
You can't love someone until you have been with them. Don't get all mad at me yet and tell me how wrong I am. Hear me out. Love is a deep emotional two-way connection that takes a long time to develop. You think he's absolutely perfect. He's not. Love is more than just intensely liking someone, dreaming about them, respecting them as a person, wanting to be with them, or thinking they have a great, compatible personality. Love isn't a fantasy. Right now, you're infatuated with him...and that's okay! It can be a great feeling actually, but it's not love yet. If you want to make it into love you'll need to do something instead of sitting around waiting for something to happen that won't. Love doesn't just happen. Love is a lot of work, but it's definitely worth it. Here's my advice: try dating him. Don't just sit there and wonder if he likes you or not. Make a move. Let him know that you like him. He seems kind of shy. He's not going to make a move himself and maybe he doesn't like you yet. Make him like you. The easiest way to do this is to tell him that you like him. I mean come on, if you know that someone likes you, you view them differently and you start to like them at least a little bit too if you didn't before. If you think he's so wonderful and perfect, it is worth the risk of being rejected for the chance to be with him. Don't try to hint anymore. Do or say something obvious. It's the only way to get the ball rolling and it's the only way to either be with him or move on. You don't want to keep saying "what if" forever. Be bold. Good luck...I hope everything works out. :)
ok well my parents have a huge rule about boyfriends and Sex. but ive had a boyfriend for months now and im thinking about having sex with him. What do you think i should do should i do it...i really cant figure this out on my own.
If you can't figure it out on your own you're definitely not ready. If you want to evaluate things for yourself check out this website. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/sex.htm
15/f
So on satuday may 5th, i had sex with my boyfriend
that ive been with for a longg time. Now it went fine. I lost my viginity to him and he lost it to me. Now we did it in the woods which is strange but we arent supposed to be doing it and it was fine i didn't mind. So he left his pocket knife out in the woods that day. A few days later him and his 2 friends went out to the woods to get it. His friend lets call him Jay saw the condom and accused my boyfriend lets call him Ryan. He refused because we promised eachother we wouldnt tell anyone that we did it. If certain people found out somehow it would get to his brother and we would be forced to break up. Blah Blah but that not important. When "jay" and "ryan" and lets call the other guy "joe" were out in the woods jay said there was a hole in the condom. Now this was 3 days after we did it and we left the condom in the woods. We thought jay was trying to be a pain in the ass and get a reaction out of us but we had to ignore him because he couldnt know we did it. So i didnt care anymore. Then ryan told me he was still bothered by what jay said. now im scared because if there was a hole i could be pregnant. im not buying a test to dont try that. i know im supposed to get my period this week or the beginning of next. if i dont have it in 2 weeks then theres deffinatly something wrong. I hate to sit and wait though. Im getting the symptoms that i usually get a day ahead of the day i get my period. But what if its not that. I had these pains last nigth and all day today. Which is not normal. Maybe i should just wait. But is there anything i can do to tell sooner? If im pregant im fucked! my mom would kill me and "ryan". And reminder pregnancy test arent available for me wats so everr.
Please help me
Sorry it was soo longg
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You won't get pains from being pregnant only a week after conception. These pains are totally unrelated to pregnancy. My guess is that Jay just made it up. Taking a home pregnancy test now is useless. It'll only work 2 weeks after you had sex. Just wait for your period to come. It will. Good luck and next time, check to see if there's holes before and after you have sex to help you feel better and not have to go through this again. Good luck. :)
My body temp is always around 96.7 when it's supposed to be 98.6. My body temperature has never been normal! Is my body temp. considered low and can it affect my health in any way? Also WHY is it so low?
I`m really scared =).
Did you get this information from a doctor or are you measuring it yourself? Maybe your thermometer is off. If you got it from a doctor and nothing was done about it, it's probably not that big of a deal. Plus, if you did get it from a doctor WHY didn't you ask the doctor? We aren't all doctors here on Advicenators. Only a doctor can answer these questions so ask a doctor! If you haven't seen a doctor get to one right away! There's no way that you can know that you don't have diabetes or another dangerous condition if you don't get it checked out! Good luck.
mY EYBoARD iS So mESSED Up WHAT Do i Do HElp!!!!!! im Copy & Pasten letters lol HElp mE PleASE! =\
PS i Dont normally tyPe lie this =\
Ok...do you have a Dell? If so to their website and there's a place where you can chat live with a technician.
If you have a laptop restart it. If it's a desktop computer, first try unplugging the keyboard and plugging it back in before restarting. It probably just needs to be reset. If neither of those things work you'll probably have to contact customer service of the company that you got the computer from. I hope it starts working soon! :)