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I am overwhelmingly in love.
I am in love with a boy. I have been in love with him for the past 3 years. Yes i know i am in love. Now I am 100 percent sure.
I see him every day. We do a sport together. We are on a team together. We are a small team, and we are all like family.
I am 16. He is 16. I don't know who he likes. He had really liked a girl on our team, and they went out, but she broke up with him. He was depressed for a day, but he is back to normal.
He is the kind of boy who doesn't like to show he likes a girl. He is pretty touchy feely with all the girls on the team, including me. (but like a brotherly kind of thing, he will "fight" us, "pummel" us, and cuddle with us. I love him)
The girls are his best friends. I am not however a very close friend of his. I am a "friend." When he is with the other girls he will do all the things listed above (pummel, play fight, cuddle) with me, but only if there is at least one other girl with me.
When we are alone, he is very silent and not at all touchy feely. If I ask him a question, he will give the shortest possible answer. Almost like he is a little afraid it seems like to be alone together.
I am confused on what to do. I have tried multiple times to forget about him, to move on (I've tried dating guys, etc) but I just can't. I love him. He's perfect. I think we will be perfect together.
Please tell me what to do. I am really grateful to you if you have read this whole thing. I know it gets tiring after a while to read these "i like a guys what do i do" questions, but I really think this is important. This is not some guy I have a crush on that will evaporate in a few months, this is someone I am in love with deeply.
I also forgot: he seems to be teasing me a lot more lately (in a good way). He will sometimes be the one who starts talking to me first lately. While we are fooling around at meets he will do some optional things like putting his arm around my shoulder when he put it somewhere else (or on someone else).
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i say go for it you will never know unless you try he could be the one but your to scared to try to find out and maybe hes just shy so u gotta be the one to tell him how you feel good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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STOP making excuses! If you love him as much as you say you do, none of that should matter. You think everything is so complicated. It's not! Don't you think that he is coming up with the same excuses you are? He is NOT going to go for it without something from you. He's human too. Go after this guy or you will really regret it forever. I'd rather be a little embarassed or feel a little awkward for awhile than lose my chance with someone that I like as much as you like this guy! There is no valid excuse in the world you can come up with not to try. Take a risk girl!
You can't love someone until you have been with them. Don't get all mad at me yet and tell me how wrong I am. Hear me out. Love is a deep emotional two-way connection that takes a long time to develop. You think he's absolutely perfect. He's not. Love is more than just intensely liking someone, dreaming about them, respecting them as a person, wanting to be with them, or thinking they have a great, compatible personality. Love isn't a fantasy. Right now, you're infatuated with him...and that's okay! It can be a great feeling actually, but it's not love yet. If you want to make it into love you'll need to do something instead of sitting around waiting for something to happen that won't. Love doesn't just happen. Love is a lot of work, but it's definitely worth it. Here's my advice: try dating him. Don't just sit there and wonder if he likes you or not. Make a move. Let him know that you like him. He seems kind of shy. He's not going to make a move himself and maybe he doesn't like you yet. Make him like you. The easiest way to do this is to tell him that you like him. I mean come on, if you know that someone likes you, you view them differently and you start to like them at least a little bit too if you didn't before. If you think he's so wonderful and perfect, it is worth the risk of being rejected for the chance to be with him. Don't try to hint anymore. Do or say something obvious. It's the only way to get the ball rolling and it's the only way to either be with him or move on. You don't want to keep saying "what if" forever. Be bold. Good luck...I hope everything works out. :)
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