I feel so awkward. I just don't want to look like a fool.
Question Posted Saturday August 25 2007, 12:04 am
Heres the deal, I'm 18 and I've never been on a date or kissed a boy. (I know, wow, Never?!?! At 18?!?!) I'm going to be going on my first date soon. I feel so awkward about the fact that I've never dated before, especially since he has. I just want to know, you know, since I'm not in middle school it's not like some hanging out with a friend type of thing. But I've never been able to do that part to get used to dating. And I'm not going to be like, talking about some big forever relationship either. What do we talk about? Should I be like, hanging out, having fun, talking about nothing important. Or like asking him questions about himself or something. Or if I just try to go with whatever come will it be awkward at some point? Just give me some general first date tips I guess so I do feel so nervous about going into it, please.
sizzlinmandolin answered Sunday August 26 2007, 3:34 am: First, make sure he knows that it's your first date ever. That will make it a whole lot easier on you. He won't have any expectations and should be more than willing to help you get through it. My best advice is to treat it like going out with one of your friends. Have a good time. If it gets awkward or you look like a fool, oh well. Life goes on. You'll both probably just laugh it off anyway. Dating, kissing, and the like ARE awkward at first. Remember though, millions of people have gone through it, millions are going through it, and millions have been through it. You'll get through it too. Take a deep breath and know that it's OK to be nervous. He's probably nervous too. It may not be his first date ever, but it's a first date for him too, his first date with you. I wish you the best of luck!
Star_Bar86 answered Saturday August 25 2007, 9:36 pm: You have every right to be a little nervous, it's exciting! Just remember how gorgeouse you are and that he is intrested in getting to know you, so let him know the real you. On a first date, always keep things light and breezy. Don't talk about neggative or too personal of things.
Ask lots of questions about him, and if he's not asking enough about you, he's probably too self centered, sorry, just remember..you're the one he should be pining over! :) So just keep your manners in check, light and breezy, and just have fun! He's just a person and he's probably just as nervous as you are.
One more tip..always end the date first to keep him wanting more ;) [ Star_Bar86's advice column | Ask Star_Bar86 A Question ]
xoMarisox answered Saturday August 25 2007, 7:42 pm: I wouldn't worry about this being your first date. He has hone through it already so most likely he is going to take the lead. He did ask you out after all so he is going to be interested in you. He will prob. ask you questions about yourself and just answer them honestly and be yourself. For example if he is like: "So are you still playing soccer?" Answer him then say "How is football going for you?" You know something like that. Sports are always really easy to talk about with guys- that is if he plays. But you can talk about music, movies, or tv shows. There has to be something you guys have in common. Just act casual and be yourself. He is already interested in you so now you just have to keep him interested. Act flirty and who knows by the end of the night, you may get your first kiss! Don't stress about it though- just have fun! [ xoMarisox's advice column | Ask xoMarisox A Question ]
Razhie answered Saturday August 25 2007, 7:40 pm: Just talk, hang out, have fun and talk about nothing important.
Like you said, you aren't looking for a mate, just someone to date! So you don't need to figure out his views on pre-martial sex, child rearing and fisical planning in one evening. Figuring out what music he likes or what games he enjoys is plenty good enough.
Just go with whatever comes and YES! YES, it will get awkward at some point. I can garentee it. I've never been on a first date that didn't get awkward at some point. If you want, have a joke or a story about friends prepared, but it probably better if you just think through what he has told you and see if you can ask any questions about things he has said. That will come off more natural.
solidadvice4teens answered Saturday August 25 2007, 7:39 pm: Believe it or not you aren't the only person 18-years-old or above that hasn't dated. Furthermore, there's nothing wrong with that. Some people choose not to date until their 20s or because their culture/parents wouldn't allow it.
What you need to do is treat this guy like anyone else and just talk with him about his interests, sports, movies, school etc. etc. Don't volunteer information about yourself unless asked a direct question.
It's exactly like talking with a friend or hanging out except you might get a kiss out of the deal. just relax, go with the flow and you will be fine. if you weren't nervous than there would be something wrong with you ;)
jchu answered Saturday August 25 2007, 7:26 pm: I think it's fine that you haven't gone on a date/kissed yet. If he's dated a lot, then he should know how to act, and would make you feel less awkward.
Since it's your first date, you should be casual about it and act natural. Of course you should have fun on your date too. Ask about his interests, whether it be sports, music etc. and if you find something in common between you both, continue with the topic and you'll be fine. If it gets awkward try switching up the topics.
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