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Long Distance Relationships.
15/f
I know, its really long, sorry. :[
Alright, I don't even know where to begin. I use to live in Seattle, for 6 years. About 8 months ago, i moved to Texas.
but I met a boy in 8th grade. I started falling for him, hard. We were best friends for about 6 ish months, before he told me he liked me. and we were together. I know i'm young, but I know i love this guy. && I know he loves me.
anyways, in the middle of 9th grade, i moved. we both cried, but we decided to have a long distance relationship. So we had one. were still together now. for almost a year already. my parents don't approve of him, and this kind of relationship. But the only reason they don't approve of him is because they found out that he fingered me.
So they think hes one of those guys that are "all about one thing". && hes really not, he respects me. && he came over for 2 weeks. We held hands, and hugged, and my parents freaked out. which is another reason they don't approve of him. && they use to love him before they found out that he fingered me.
They said were too "in love". && I don't know if its just me, but I think thats a good thing. We love each other a lot. Were both willing to wait for each other, shouldn't that be enough? So now, me and him can't talk on the phone as much. I can only talk for an hour today, and over the computer. But i just miss him so much. && I only concentrate on my friends in Washington. Its like, i live in Texas, but my mind is in Washington.
I don't want to go through high school being a "loner" and not having fun. But I don't want to loose him.
I'm sorry this is so long, but I just don't know what to do. =/
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Your parents will believe what they want to, but they're very wrong. If he was "just about one thing" he would not want to be in a long distance relationship with you, duh! One of the number one things about relationships in general and sometimes even more so long distance relationships is to not let other's opinions of the relationship affect the relationship. Who cares if your parents don't approve? It doesn't change how much you love each other. It's not like they don't let you communicate with him at all. Sure, it's not fair what they're doing, but that's what parents do and you can't do anything about it. Continue trying to convince them of what you believe, but don't let it stress you out. They will come around eventually or they won't. You can't control that. Just worry about what you can control and you'll feel a whole lot better about everything.
Don't let this scare you, but be prepared for it to get hard. Long distance relationships are very difficult to keep over a long period of time. If your feelings for him are as strong as you say though, it's worth it. Keep reminding yourself that it's worth it and you should be fine for now.
Good luck!
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If you really love him, stick with him. Things that are meant to be will find a way of working themselves out. My boyfriend moved all the way to England over a year ago, and we've been together for two years, so it is possible to make these sorts of relationships work.
As far as "being a loner and not having fun" goes - why would that happen? Just because you don't have a boyfriend at your school, it doesn't mean you still can't have a fabulous time with your friends! If anything, it creates less drama.
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you can TRY to keep your long distance relationship. most times it dont work though. you might eventually fade away from one another. you might not think so now. plus relationships with the couple living within blocks of one another is hard enough, nevermind a long distance one. you just have to beware of other girls back where he lives. thats all i would worry about. because right now im having a problem with my boyfriend myself and he lives only a couple blocks from me. well. goodluck. but dont worry about your parents by the way. they dont know what you feel or what you think. if you love him, thats your situation, not theirs.
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