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Diamond Earrings
My boss gave me diamond earrings for Christmas. I am a married woman and he is a married man.
I know his wife thinks this was an inappropriate present. I am torn. What should I do?
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I don't think you should accept an extrodinary gift. Your married and he's married. I bet you understand that this was an inappropriate present, no matter how nice it is. Half of you want it because it's beautiful, but you understand this isn't for you. Accepting this gift will give him the wrong sign. Just give them back to him and tell him you can't accept it and walk away. You don't need to explain or anything.
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Okay, don't listen to dancedance42 because, as you probably know, your boss can't lower your pay or threaten to fire you because you returned a gift. It's against the law and it could cost him his own job.
I think it's an inappropriate gift if there's an inappropriate relationship going on. If your boss makes it clear that he wants more than a professional relationship with you then return the earrings and tell him you're not looking for another man in your life. Make it clear to him that you are strictly professional with him. If he continues to act in an inappropriate way ask to be transferred or find another job.
Maybe talk to him about why he thinks you should receive such an expensive gift. Tell him you feel a bit uncomfortable with it, if you do.
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Christmas was awhile ago... anyway, if nothing else is going on then don't worry about it. It was just a really nice gift. Keep them! If he's been flirting with you or making other kinds of advances that changes things and you should give them back. It all depends on his intentions, not on the gift itself. If you're not sure about what's going on, ask him. Talking usually clears things up pretty well. Other than that, does your husband know? If not tell him and see what he thinks. His opinion on this matter is important too! If the gift offends him, no matter what your boss' intentions were, tell him you can't accept his gift and give them back.
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You should DEFINITELY return them.
Tell your boss that you are both married and you don't think its appropriate to accept a gift like that. You should also consider looking for a new job, because now things will be awkward around the office, and he might try to use you returning the earrings against you. (Lower your pay, threaten to fire you, something like that)
I hope I helped, and I'm sorry about your situation.
xxtiffany
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I agree it's not quite an appropriate present.
Is there an inappropriate relationship?
If there is, return the earrings and find another job. Fooling around with the boss is a dumb idea, at best.
If not. Accept the earrings (as I'm sure you already have) and express your gratitude, but tell your boss in a friendly but firm manner, that the gift was too much, and you'd be much happier with something smaller in the future.
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