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i'm a sophmore in high school and have been going out with my gf since september. we go to different schools but they are pretty close only like 20 minutes awayy. she said shae doesnt want me to talk to her friends from skool which is weird, cuz i actually introduced her to friends from my skool. her friends are never around or with us when we hang out but i've met them a few times. is it wrong for her to do that, tellm e i cant talk to her friends? (link)
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It certainly is a little odd.
Have you asked her why not? I think you should tell her that unless she has a good valid reason for the request, you will be talking to whoever you want to talk to.
You might want to reassure her that you aren't a kiss and tell kind of guy. That's the only reason I can think of that might make her nervous about it.
You really need to get to the bottom of this because one partner should never try to pick and choose the others friends.
Good Luck. :)
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My ex and i havent been together for 18 mos. now.
Hes had a gf for over a year, but the relationship burned out as quickly as it started.(they had sex the 2nd night they hung out) Him and i did alot of stuff, but we didnt have sex completely>(I didnt let him go in all the way> we liked each other since 7th grade, but we didnt start going out until our soph. year)We grew to love each other. This last gf that hes been with is as easy as they come(she will have sex with any guy) Shes 16 and has had at least 6 partners that i know of. My ex and her fought all the time. She told me he was an ass to her, but she would always keep taking him back! Its just a vicious cycle. He told me they fell in love very fast. I told him thats not love and that love takes time to grow, and he told me not to tell him what love is because he already knows!!! His version and mine arent the same by any means!! Sex is very sacred to me and i take it very seriously. This girl he cant seem to let go of throws it around like it means nothing to her!
When we were together>he never wanted to be with anyone else, just the two of us. He didnt want to hang out or do anything with anybody>just us two!! He was the very same way with his last gf too, but way worse! All they did was screw all the time! He lost all of his friends because of it. I wanted him to spend time with his friends and he always took that the wrong way, like i didnt want to be with him.
Since hes had her, he looks at relationships so differently now. When he was with me, he told me that hes not like that, and he didnt care if he got any, he just wanted to be with me!
We've hung out 2 times now since they have been broken up. The first time was last Nov. In the 3 hrs we hung out, we wrestled, gave each other back rubs, then he started making out with me. I was cool with that until he asked me to let him "stick it in". I told him no! He asked me at least 4 more times after, and i just kept saying no. I didnt hear from him after that. He told me he made his choice and wanted her back! 3 mos. later after they broke up again...we hung out once again! This time we just cuddled. The things that he was saying to me, i couldnt believe that was him talking! He told me he wants someone experienced, and that he doesnt want a virgin. *Theyre no fun*! (well screwing his last ex must feel like a virgin because he told me she bleeds everytime they do it) Shes been with another guy and he brags to everyone what they do and he talks so much crap about her, but he told me shes easy and thats all he wants. She still calls my ex says she still loves him, goes to his house before going to this other guys house. He doesnt care that she has sex with other guys just as long as he knows she still loves him and he will wait for her for as long as it takes.(just as long as she still gives him what he needs) and im sure she does.
He told me that im not up to par. I have been known to "Kiss" a guy here and there. wow, "kissing" verses "sex".
I thought that guys wanted girls that havent been around! How could he have changed soo much, and think that sex is love?? He can tell me hes in love with her all he wants, but i know, and so does everyone else>that hes in love with the SEX!! If he cared about her, he wouldnt be treating her like shit, and calling her a slut!!
So if any guys are reading this>please help me to understand what love is to them!!
Will rate high! Im sorry this is so long! (link)
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Good guys are interested in more than sex. I think you should forget this ex of yours because you are right, all he can think about is the sex.
Not only that but he then brags about it to anyone who will listen. That is not how someone who cares acts.
To put it simply. People like that have absolutely NO IDEA what love is. They are just one giant hormone.
Sex is a gift you give someone you love. Not just something you give to keep a guy or to be part of the crowd of people who think having sex is the thing to do.
There is no understanding people like that. You also won't get them to see it as you do...not until they grow up anyway. :)
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Im having trouble knowing weather to ask this girl out i really like (a lot). Im 14 years old and in 8th grade and theres this girl a year younger than me in the 7th grade. Im not like the nerdy unsociable kind of guy. I have a lot of friends and i get along with almost everyone. My friend told this girl i like her (i didnt want him too) and i kind of get the impression shes not intrested. i was planning on telling her i like her and asking her out but now i feel funny after he already said something. Shes considered a 'preppy' girl and my friend said she wont go for me cause im to 'skater'. The truth is i normally go for preppy girls and i like them more. Even though i like skating and into punk and shit, i dont know if i should take my friends advice and change my image then ask her or completly ignore asking her out all together. Its a hard decision cause i like her a lot. (link)
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No don't change your image and yes ask her out anyway.
If she is worth the trouble she isn't going to care much what you are wearing. Anyone who can't see past the exterior isn't grown up enough to deserve your time and attention.
Try talking to her and letting her get to know you before asking her out. Start with a simple hi and work your way into a conversation. It may take a little time but it will be worth it.
Oh, and tell your friends you appreciate the help...but kindly butt out! :)
Once you can talk with her you will get the feeling of weather or not she likes you. THEN you ask her out. Patience. :)
Good luck.
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I lost a friend this summer. We just kind of grew apart. We go to different schools and our interests just kind of changed.
That's how it all started. Now, I'm paranoid about losing more friends. I've already had a (not-so-close) friend call me annoying behind my back (She was always kind of mean; and she just all of a sudden started hating me one day. It wasn't a long drawn-out thing). She's two-faced; she's nice to me in person, but behind my back, she's a bi*ch.
I have a friend who has 946379865978978 other friends. I guess I'm kinda jealous of her, because she has a bunch of friends that LOVE and idolize her. Like, I'll be talking to her, and some person will come and be like "Hey!" to her, totally ignoring me. This doesn't help, especially in a time like this.
Why are all of my friendships falling apart? Well, not all of them are, but it sure seems like it. I had so many strong friendships before. I'm pretty confident, and I'm scared of being a person with low self-esteem. I went through that stage a long time ago and I never want to go back.
What should I do? This really hurts! (link)
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Hang on to your self esteem. It isn't you.
Really...It is just getting older. Boyfriends come in to the picture and people just start growing up. Their interests change and not always for the better.
Sometimes other girls star seeing you as competition too. Some of it may be jealousy.
Hang in there. Hopefully they will all get their acts together one of these days. If not then they weren't very good friends in the first place.
It never hurts to talk to to them. Tell them how you feel and how you want to remain friends.
Good luck. :)
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My Best friend, is honestly considering suicide. He's messed up so much in his life. He has cheated on his girlfriend twice, and he even cheated on me when we were dating and he messed up really bad during our relationship, his mom recently died while we were dating and i helped him so much and now, i dont even know how to help him hes so messed up. He does weed around 3-4 times a day he even goes to school stoned. I've tried to get him to cut back and even quit but its honestly useless. His girlfriend found about the 2nd time of cheating and totally bitched him out and wont even talk to him. He IMed me on Aim and tells me he's going to commit suicide and i've been trying to get him to settle down and talk through it i even left him a voicemail, and im just so scared he'll actually do it... PLZ HELP ME I DONT KNO WT TO SAY ANYMORE TO HIM...
THANK YOU IF YOU CAN HELP IM ON THE VERGE OF CRYING BECAUSE I LOVE HIM SO MUCH AND I CANT TAKE ANOTHER PERSON DYING THIS YEAR...
--Kim (link)
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http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/problems/talking_about_suicide.html
This site deals with friends who are talking about suicide.
You need to let an adult know what is going on. He will probably be mad at you, but at least you won't be attending his funeral.
Good luck.
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okay! ahh! so i haven't kissed anyone before. and so one day this weekend the guy i like and me are going to make out. i'm scared, is there anything i can do to prepare? but like eh, how do you? and does it REALLY come naturally?
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I think it will pretty much just happen! But just so you have something to think about, here are a couple of links about kissing tips. :)
http://www.links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm
http://www.partyhearty.com/kissingadvice.html
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So me and this guy had been flirting for awhile. It was like we were going out. It was so much fun. All I want to do this year is have fun which means flirting with guys. So, one day he dropped the bomb and asked me if I wanted a boyfriend I simply said no. Well, he got all mad at me and nothing as been the same ever since. So, just the other day we were online and we got in a little fight. He told me he doesn't care about what I say and he called me a *itch. It hurt my feelings so bad and I can't stop thinking about it. What can I do to forget him or maybe win him back? We have a party this Saturday... (link)
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Sounds like he has hurt feelings.
You can talk to him. Explain that you weren't rejecting him all together, that you value your friendship with him.
Explain you want him as a friend, you just at this moment in time do not want to date anyone. Not just him but ANY guys.
Hopefully, he will understand what you mean and all will be well again. He just simply is feeling hurt and rejected right now.
Good luck! :)
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ok.soo i had sex kinda not for long at all or nothing.first time,no condom.besides noo period what would be first signs of b/n pregant just in case. (link)
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Here is a sight that contains all the signs and symptoms of pregnancy.
There is LOTs of good information on this site so, take a look around! :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm
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k yeah. i was just wondering. can you still get STDs from sucking on your HUSBAND'S penis? there really is no way to avoid sexually transmitted diseases from doing that.. right? no matter if youre married or not? well just wondering and would appreciate it if people would respond. thanks (link)
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If he has herpes you can get that. If hes your husband though I'm pretty sure you would know if he had it. Because unless you used a condom all along you would have it too. It is one of those STDs that stay with you for life.
It is the only one I know of that can be caught orally.
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Hi, you gave me so adive a few days ago, my question was the one where my period hasn't come on the 13 like it usually has and i just stated like 7 months ago and you told me that it was totally normal that it was irregular unless i was sexually active which i am definatly NOT and a few people said i should go on birth control? I don't get why and someone said this....
This happened to me. Go see the period & woman doctor (get a woman it's more comfortable). and you may need to take pills to get your period back on track. It happened to me cause i was simply irregular and that happens to all girls, but it was mostly cause i wasn't at a good weight (overweight at your doctor weight range) and that had my period go on and off. If it continues with you by no weight loss in fthe future it mat cause cancer in your vagina if it's a matter of weight problems or just needing pills for it. It's fine if you go see the doctor and see what's going on soon.
in there she said that if your overweight then this is likly to happen and i'll admit i'm not the thinest but i'm not really un healty i just have a little bit of baby fat and i'm actice because i play soccer but anyways i'm just really scared and freaked out and worried that i need to go on birth control (but i'm not sexualy active) and she also said i shouldn't lose weight and i'm trying to and i'm just basically freaked out and is that all true? do i need to go on Birth control. i just don't know what to you please help me lol
sorry it was soo long (link)
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You don't have to take birth control pills. You don't have to lose weight either.
It is true that the pill can help regulate your period a bit. But it is not necessary to do so. That is done more often for older women.
Being overweight can also cause your period to stop. But, we are talking a whole lot more than a few pounds of baby fat!
You really have nothing to worry about. You are normal as normal can be. It can take a few years to be anyway close to being real regular. And, like I said some are never 28 days on the nose!
To further set your mind at ease, here is a web site that should be of help to you. Be sure you read it all because the first part is for those who have had their period for a while. But, the info is good for you to know.
http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/menstruation/a/menstruabnormal.htm
If you have more questions, you are welcome to drop one by anytime. :)
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I have taken tests that show I suffer from moderate depression, moderate anxiety, and am most likely suffering from OCD, it is recommended that I get therapy and treatment. I don't know how to tell my parents how I feel depressed, I would rather tell someone (like a therapist) who has never been involved in my life about my problems. The reason I am afraid of who to tell, is because I don't have many options. If I screw up, that'll be my chance, down the drain. My parents divorced when I was four, I was very poor living with my mother growing up, I could live comfortably with my dad. He got married a few months after they got divorced. The day they got divorced they fought in court over me until I was about 10 or 11. I have three siblings, I feel like the older two don't even care about me. Let's say my name is "stacie". Everyone calls me stacierella, like cinderella. Everyone says I'm like a little mommy to my siblings, I do more than their mother does for them. I am in the grade I am supposed to be in, I am homeschooled, and it's a VERY BIG burden to get everything that I need to done. When I tell my friends that sometimes I want to kill myself, they say, "Stacie, don't kill yourself." and that's it. I am constantly asked at my dad's house if I have an attitude-which makes me EXTREMEMLY annoyed. My stepmother is nice sometimes, but I feel more like a servant to her than a step daughter. (I am writing another question about her.) I am not allowed to show my anger, like everyone else does. Just every week I am more about to kill myself than think about killing myself. I feel like nobody would even care if I died. I don't have an absolutely terrible life, I've got friends, I look good, well...I got an iPod for my 13th birthday. Does that count? Basically, I have four families (I got two from my stepparents), Each family either doesn't know or eachother, or only about one or two get along with anyone out of my four families. I have 45 people in my family, and I don't like about 25 of them. The people I trust to tell are : My dad, who will think those tests were not accurate, and defend everyone who I am mad at, or upset with, he will definitely (I am 100% sure) defend just about everyone, I don't really feel like I should tell him (or, he will try to talk to me himself, or just say he will get help, and I don't get it for a looooooooonnnnnggg time). My mom, who is VERY religious and will probably just say everything will get better OR make a humongous deal about it and get upset if my dad doesn't cooperate, and she will probably show me some scriptures and stuff. My friends, I have four new friends I barely know, I have a best friend (I just talked to her, I ended the friendship, but we might be able to work out our differncec, she has been such a good friend, for five years, I might see her this weekend) who I need to talk to and try to explain my life to so she can understand why certain things were going on (by the way I haven't seen her in two months, and her dad is wants us to see eachother and thinks I am being raised wrong), and my two other friends who are two years younger than me. The rest live far away and I don't see them much. WHO DO I TELL????!!!! (sorry this was so long, just need everyone to understand how difficult this is for me :( (link)
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Don't apologise for a long question. Having details is much better than having none!
Your choice believe it or not, is pretty easy.
Who is going to pay for it? If your dad has insurance that covers you, then he is the one you need to get through to.
You need to get him off alone. Tell him everything. Including thoughts of suicide. Tell him you want to seek professional help because you just can't deal with it any longer.
Hopefully he will get you some help. I think maybe having an adult to tell these things to will be a big help alone. So any way you look at it it is the right thing to do.
If he says no the first time...keep after him until he hears you.
Good luck. :)
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I am waaay too overweight, but I can't seem to get it off. I've tried counting calories combined with exercise, and I had to get down to 900 calories a day to lose weight, and even then it was less than a pound every two weeks.
The only thing that has every worked for me is the South Beach diet, and it worked really well. The only problem is that I kept getting really sick on it. I was dizzy, lightheaded, and nervous all the time, and I kept throwing up and having diarrhea.
I went to my doctor, but he doesn't believe me. He says that it's not possible for me to have such a hard time losing weight.
So here's my question. Can anyone tell me any medical reason that I might be having trouble losing weight? I'd like to go to the doctor with some suggestions, because maybe he's missed something. Also, can anyone suggest why I might've gotten so sick on South Beach?
And finally, has anyone had any realy success with any other diet that I might try? I don't mind dieting or exercising, so I'm open to anything that works!
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Do you by chance have a family history of thyroid problems?
See if he won't do a TSH test on you. It is a blood test and will check to see if your thyroid is working properly.
That may not be your problem of course, but I sure got the run around before they found my problem.
You also want to be careful that you don't skip meals. If you don't take in enough calories you throw your body into starvation mode. Then it doesn't matter what you eat...it will turn to fat. That's what my doctor told me, for what its worth. :)
Good luck!
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my body has been itching like alot... first it will start on one of my arms and ill scratch!!i just got my nails done so it helps alot!! first off let me say i dont have poison ivy or anything else from outside or anything.... so anyways ill scratch it and it will burn a little for like a couple seconds and then ill have to scratch it again!! now thats just on my arm and then ill scratch my thigh and it will do the same then it was on my face,hands,legs! its like the same feeling every time!! i dont know what this is or what is causing it.... most importantly you have to know im not elergic to ANYTHING! and i dont do drugs! none what do ever!
does anyone know what this could be and how i make it stop its not all the time but its most the time!!
thanx i rate 5's for good answers
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Lotion, lotion and more lotion!
I get this every year at this time. The heat drys your skin. Hot showers and even the cold all play havoc with your poor skin.
Put lotion all over a couple of times a day. No special kind...any will work great. :)
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Last night I found out a friend of mine, whom I haven't really spoken to in awhile, has been diagnosed with cancer and might die. He's left college to live with his parents so he can get treatment and I'd like to write him a letter of support but what do I say? I don't want to make him uncomfortable and I don't want to be morbid, but I do want him to know that I care about him and wish him all the best. (link)
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The worse thing you can do is pretend it isn't happening.
I think you should write, or call or go visit. Tell him what you are feeling. Don't be afraid to use the "C" word.
What tends to make people feel uncomfortable is when people pretend nothing is going on. They feel unable to talk about it...and they need to talk about it sometimes. Let him know you are there if he wants to talk. :)
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ok so lately after i dry then straighten my hair and go to brush it and its really staticy and starts like sticking up..is there anyway to stop it from sticking? thanks so much!! (link)
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Dryer sheets. Like bounce for static cling!
I'm not kidding, they really work. :)
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18/f. I was molested when I was little, and every once in a while feelings from that time surface and I get very upset and depressed. It's not so often - maybe once or twice in a year, but I don't want that time to keep haunting me for the rest of my life, I want to move beyond the past. Does anyone have any advice on how I can do that? (link)
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They call what you're going through during those times Post traumatic stress.
I am sure a doctor could help you through it.
There were so many web sites on the subject that I didn't choose one for you. But you may want to punch it into your search engine and find all kinds of information. :)
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We live on a farm in rural Minnesota. We are a 3/4 mile from the county road. We live on a dead end road. There is a zero crime rate in this area. My husband insists on keeping our doors locked at all times. I hate this and feel I am being locked in as there is no way in the world that anyone ever comes to our farm. To me, this is abuse. What do you think? I also say that it is cruel to lock me in when I have arthritic hands and opening the locks could be a problem, especially if there was a fire. (link)
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Unless your husband doesn't let you out of house at all, and forbids your leaving when and if you want to I don't think it is abuse.
Never assume because you live in a crime free rural area that it could NEVER happen to you. A crook could commit a crime totally unseen and get away before caught...Its getting more frequent all the time.
Chances are it won't. But I don't think being cautious in today's world is a form of abuse either.
I am sure if you researched it a bit you could find some more arthritis friendly locks to keep you both happy and feeling secure. :)
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i was talking to my gf because shes been upset a lot lately and has been talking about suicide. i tried to figure out why shes been so miserable and its because its her best friend is thinking about suicide. at this point i have no idea what to do. she wont let me talk to her friend but at the same time told me not to worry and just to foget about it...suicide isn't something you can just forget. so should i tell her parents even though she told me not to? what can i do? i love her too much and i dont want to lose her =(
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You probably should tell her parents or someone who will listen.
Here is a web site on what to do if friends threaten suicide. I'm sure you will find the proper steps to take in the article. :)
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/problems/talking_about_suicide.html
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well. i just turned 13. Like, 2 days ago. Ive been getting that white stuff in my underware for a while now. I would say like 4 months. I dont have alot of pubic hair. Can you get your period with out having pubic hair? Does it come after you get it ? Or do you have to have it before? Also, am i close to having my period? Im not sure. And im worried i might get it in the middle of school or something. Okay, one last question. If you get it during school, is it definately going to leak through? Or is there a chance it might not. Thanks so much if you can help me !!! (link)
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You can get your period at any time. Hair or not!
It will come soon as well.
Talk with your mom about your fears of starting at school. Maybe you can have a pad in your purse or somewhere just in case.
If all else fails, a paper towel or TP will get you home. :)
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i am 17 years old and i am a women. i hae this guy friend who has tryed to get me to have sex with him. but everytime we wore going to i told him a started my period and i need to get home to change my clothes. but i really want to have sex but i am scared that i will get pregant. since i am not on birth control. so what should i do (link)
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There is nothing wrong with being afraid you'll get pregnant. More should worry about it actually. It would be a very life altering situation.
The best advice I can give if you are going to be sexually active would be to get on the pill.
It is probably the most trustworthy thing to use.
Also, make sure he wears a condom even if you are on the pill.
However, if you still don't want to have an intimate relationship with this guy, there is nothing wrong in waiting a while longer. It doesn't make you strange at all. :)
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