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i need to help her
i was talking to my gf because shes been upset a lot lately and has been talking about suicide. i tried to figure out why shes been so miserable and its because its her best friend is thinking about suicide. at this point i have no idea what to do. she wont let me talk to her friend but at the same time told me not to worry and just to foget about it...suicide isn't something you can just forget. so should i tell her parents even though she told me not to? what can i do? i love her too much and i dont want to lose her =(
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You poor thing. This is a very difficult situation to be in and I feel sorry for anyone in this position.
It's very easy to let a friend with a problem drag you down with them and I don't mean that in an insulting way. Misery is infectious and if you spend a lot of time around someone who is miserable, however honourable your intentions, you may find you end up the same way.
What you really need to do is sit your girlfriend down and have a serious talk with her about this. You have to make her understand that in order to help her friend, she needs to be in a fit state to help herself first. If she spends all her time focusing on her friend's problems, she'll pick up too much on what she feels and she'll lose grip with anything positive in her life.
Next, try to get her away to do something fun. Insist to her that it DOES matter, that you WON'T forget it and that you love her too much to stand by and let her destroy herself. There's no doubt in my mind she will insist she is 'fine' but this clearly means she isn't.
Having been in exactly the same situation myself some years ago, I can tell you that this can get very out of hand and the only thing you can do is make her see sense now. So remind her what LIFE is about and make her forget about death for a while. Also see if you can persuade to her to go to a counsellor so she can get the problems and upset out of her mind for a while. Then you need to do whatever you can to make her live again. Eventually, she will come round.
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Talk to a trusted adult quickly. It can be a school counselor, your parents, or her parents! Just tell someone. You are right, suicide is NOT something you can just forget. Don't listen to her when she says to not tell her parents, you can DEFINITELY go against EVERYTHING she says, because it could mean saving her LIFE.
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I think you should tell her parents. Even if she may get mad at you, it will save her life. Don't waste any time and tell someone, quickly!
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Pray for her. No person has the ability to change somebodies heart, but God. He will not let you down. My mothers father committed suicide and she was worried he would go to hell, but as we know God does not exist in time. So if we pray for him now even after he is dead God could forsee that then and We can be at peace knowing that for a God who does not exist in time the moments from when the bullet left the gun until the bullet hits his head is an eternity in which her prayer from the future was answered and Her father could have lifted his heart up saying "Oh God help me". Trust in the power of prayer. God is a dear friend who we always neglect, but is always near us. Fast for her. It does not need to be seriouse but give up little pleasures and say God I am giving this up and accepting this discomfort as my sign of love for you please dont give me any special graces but apply them all to my friend who needs you. I promise everything will be ok.
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Hmm. Talk to her about it. First you should let her know how you feel. I think in this situation you need to tell her parents, or even someone at her school like a guidance conselor.
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Definately do what you can to listen to her and be there for her. Take her out to a movie or something to have fun more often. Does she only tell you about this? If she doesn't, let your friends know and her friends know about this and ask them to do what they can to help. Call her parents and let them know - if they don't know about this now then thats probably the best thing you could do. Hope that helped and good luck.
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You probably should tell her parents or someone who will listen.
Here is a web site on what to do if friends threaten suicide. I'm sure you will find the proper steps to take in the article. :)
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