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friends outside a relationship
i'm a sophmore in high school and have been going out with my gf since september. we go to different schools but they are pretty close only like 20 minutes awayy. she said shae doesnt want me to talk to her friends from skool which is weird, cuz i actually introduced her to friends from my skool. her friends are never around or with us when we hang out but i've met them a few times. is it wrong for her to do that, tellm e i cant talk to her friends?
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It sounds like your girlfriend might have something to hide... maybe a past bad reputation... it could even be something harmless like she's afraid that you won't like them. Try to talk to her, make sure that she knows that she can tell you anything, and that meeting her friends is important to you.
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i dont think its wrong...maybe shes just insecure.some girls boyfriends cheat on them with thier friends..so maybe thats what happened and now she doesnt want to give that a chance.I mean if thats what makes her happy then you should respect her for it but personally i would hate not knowing my significant others friends
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well she might think that her friends are prettier than her and that you have a crush on them or pay more attention to them reather than her. but i think its wrong! or her friends might know somethin about her that she dont want you to know and she is afraid they will tell you.
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thats really wrong. shes either ashamed of you. or is playing you. talk to her about it. tell her you dont think its right. be straight.
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yes it's wrong and hypocritical of her to do that. but i think the reason is that he is afraid of losing you and thinks that you might find her friends attractive and all that. but she has to learn to trust you and know you wouldn't do that to her.. right? if you introduce her to your friends, it should be fair for her to introduce her friends to you.
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that sounds like a sign that she is ceating on you.. or something is up anyways.. if you wanna talk to her friends talk to them. she can't tell you what to do!
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You should ash ker why, and if its because she doesn't trust you or something. It could be 'just because' but hey what are you going to do about it. If after talking about it she still isn't willing, then I guess theres nothing you can do. I would definately not try to cross the line and talk to them, guy or girl. She could just be hiding something, but probably not. Maybe she just wants you as her bf and her friends as her friends and thats it. Hope that helped and good luck.
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I have that problem too. But I dont tell him not to talk to them, I just prefer him not to. Maybe she doesnt want her friends to know what yall do or how she feels about ect. I def dont want my freinds knowing some things but there is also a guy i kinda mess with not like that though. I think she is insecure too. But if she wants to keep her life privated like that and yall have been together that long its not fair to the relationship.
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yeah i think its a little weird. I think its a sign of insecurity on her behalf. its sign of her insecurity and jealousy. maybe why shes inisting you dont talk to her friends is because she thinks you will become interested in them? maybe reassure her that your with HER.
try it..see how it works..and get back to me
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It certainly is a little odd.
Have you asked her why not? I think you should tell her that unless she has a good valid reason for the request, you will be talking to whoever you want to talk to.
You might want to reassure her that you aren't a kiss and tell kind of guy. That's the only reason I can think of that might make her nervous about it.
You really need to get to the bottom of this because one partner should never try to pick and choose the others friends.
Good Luck. :)
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