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Why is sex so important to my EX??
My ex and i havent been together for 18 mos. now.
Hes had a gf for over a year, but the relationship burned out as quickly as it started.(they had sex the 2nd night they hung out) Him and i did alot of stuff, but we didnt have sex completely>(I didnt let him go in all the way> we liked each other since 7th grade, but we didnt start going out until our soph. year)We grew to love each other. This last gf that hes been with is as easy as they come(she will have sex with any guy) Shes 16 and has had at least 6 partners that i know of. My ex and her fought all the time. She told me he was an ass to her, but she would always keep taking him back! Its just a vicious cycle. He told me they fell in love very fast. I told him thats not love and that love takes time to grow, and he told me not to tell him what love is because he already knows!!! His version and mine arent the same by any means!! Sex is very sacred to me and i take it very seriously. This girl he cant seem to let go of throws it around like it means nothing to her!
When we were together>he never wanted to be with anyone else, just the two of us. He didnt want to hang out or do anything with anybody>just us two!! He was the very same way with his last gf too, but way worse! All they did was screw all the time! He lost all of his friends because of it. I wanted him to spend time with his friends and he always took that the wrong way, like i didnt want to be with him.
Since hes had her, he looks at relationships so differently now. When he was with me, he told me that hes not like that, and he didnt care if he got any, he just wanted to be with me!
We've hung out 2 times now since they have been broken up. The first time was last Nov. In the 3 hrs we hung out, we wrestled, gave each other back rubs, then he started making out with me. I was cool with that until he asked me to let him "stick it in". I told him no! He asked me at least 4 more times after, and i just kept saying no. I didnt hear from him after that. He told me he made his choice and wanted her back! 3 mos. later after they broke up again...we hung out once again! This time we just cuddled. The things that he was saying to me, i couldnt believe that was him talking! He told me he wants someone experienced, and that he doesnt want a virgin. *Theyre no fun*! (well screwing his last ex must feel like a virgin because he told me she bleeds everytime they do it) Shes been with another guy and he brags to everyone what they do and he talks so much crap about her, but he told me shes easy and thats all he wants. She still calls my ex says she still loves him, goes to his house before going to this other guys house. He doesnt care that she has sex with other guys just as long as he knows she still loves him and he will wait for her for as long as it takes.(just as long as she still gives him what he needs) and im sure she does.
He told me that im not up to par. I have been known to "Kiss" a guy here and there. wow, "kissing" verses "sex".
I thought that guys wanted girls that havent been around! How could he have changed soo much, and think that sex is love?? He can tell me hes in love with her all he wants, but i know, and so does everyone else>that hes in love with the SEX!! If he cared about her, he wouldnt be treating her like shit, and calling her a slut!!
So if any guys are reading this>please help me to understand what love is to them!!
Will rate high! Im sorry this is so long!
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Ok chick, Im sorry but that is nothing but a J-E-R-K!!! He's a loser & you don't EVEN need to be around him. All he's looking for is a nice piece of booty & he doesn't love you or her because if he did, he would care & respect the two of you more. But his little slut probably brainwashed him & told him that he didnt need to be with you because you dont put-out & I couldnt respect you more. You just didnt need this guy & my best advice is to just kick him to the curb because he is not EVEN worth a glance. But I really hoped I helped but you just seem like you can & should do way better than that!
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Mabye he's rebounding, he probably still loves you and is going for who ever will give him false love the easiest because he's desperately trying to get over a recent heartbreak (you?)
and he's being mean to you because he's in denial about his lingering feelings.
but it's just a theory...
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Well, he feels like after a year and a half you should be comfortable enough to do it with him. Its ok if you dont want to, its differnt than anything else he could have thrown out.
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wow he sounds like a loser for sure! one of my ex's that is like one of my closest friends now, tells me all the stuff that he does with the girls down where he moved to. i just dont let it bother me. you have to do the same. dont let it get to you. he doesnt seem like 'your type' so when you too hang out dont get so 'physical'. make a friendship with him and let him figure out the hard way that theres more to love besides sex. <<333 kalie
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hey, nice guys care about way more then sex. he is like a sexual predator that needs to calm down. just forget about him. there are plenty of other boys out there they are better and care more about sutff then sex. cait ♥
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Good guys are interested in more than sex. I think you should forget this ex of yours because you are right, all he can think about is the sex.
Not only that but he then brags about it to anyone who will listen. That is not how someone who cares acts.
To put it simply. People like that have absolutely NO IDEA what love is. They are just one giant hormone.
Sex is a gift you give someone you love. Not just something you give to keep a guy or to be part of the crowd of people who think having sex is the thing to do.
There is no understanding people like that. You also won't get them to see it as you do...not until they grow up anyway. :)
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