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My daughter thinks I expect her to be perfect in everything. I don't mean to convey this message. I just want her to do her best and maybe this is seen as wanting her to be perfect. Everytime I try to help her with something or give her advice, I receive a big backlash from her. Again, she tells me I am not her coach or I want her to be perfect. I am just trying to be a helpful mom. Any suggestions?

Parenting a teenager. Been there, done that, have the bruises to prove it.

It is hard for us as parents to remember what it is like to be a teenager. First females are dealing with not just the hormonal changes they are having but the physical changes to their bodies as well. Then the social changes that are happening are piled on top of it. These are changes they have little or no control over so when things happen that they can control the lash out.

Doctors are finding that all the stress, both from the changes that are physical and the social changes, that many teenagers are suffering a form of depression. They call it teenage depression brought on by a hormone imbalance. It is a depression that is more physical in nature even though it manifests in mood disorders as that is the hormones that are out of balance.

Doctors can help these teenagers today with medication and with talk therapy. The medication only lasts a year a so until all the hormones come back in balance. It is a problem of the early puberty years for most teenagers. As their bodies adjust the need for medication generally reduces.

What your daughter is most likely going through is what our parents and our grandparents called a phase. Something we would grow out of and something most of us did. Today's teenager does not have to suffer as we did as our doctors can make it easier on them.

Tell your doctor what is going on then make an appointment for her with the doctor. Have the doctor screen her for depression. You need not and should not be in the room when the doctor examines her as it will be easier for both the doctor and your daughter if you are not.

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I have been married to my wife for 7 years now. I recently caught her in an Emotional online affair. We have been going through months of counseling and have gotten over it. But, she has approached me to say she wants me to initiate sex with more compliments. However, she doesn't like the romance thing. She finds it disgusting. She does like compliments but she seems to want the dirty compliments. I am a usually preoccupied in the daily goings on rather than having sex on my mind. So when she puts me on the spot to say these things to get her aroused, I am clueless as to what to say. She doesn't like the mushy stuff.

I don't think it is dirty compliments she actually wants as much as the dirty sex that accompanies them.

Here are are some ideas: Rent some porn movies and watch them together. Watch her reaction to the action and porn talk by the actors. When renting the movie ask the clerk for suggestions on titles that have the most trash talk or you could end up with some fetish movies that won't provide what your looking for.


Your wife probably wants to hear all the trash talk one hears on the street. This is on its own a fetish of sorts. Some people are into different fetishes just want the idea of the fetish. Others want to actually act the fetish out. This is something you will need to explore with her.

It is possible that after 7 years of marriage vanilla sex on the weekend is just not enough for her. She wants to spice things up in the bedroom. If need to mark on your calendar to call your wife at home or if she works at work, all the better. Tell her something like I will be home at 6 I want you naked, ass up on the bed and I am going to f*ck the living shit out of you. If you come home and find her waiting as requested you just may have hit upon the core of the problem.

Don't tell her in advance, just call her out of the blue. If it works do it again, break the routine you may have fallen into. If it means marking your calendar or Ipad/IPod or Blackberry to remind you then do so. If you love your wife and want to save your marriage this might work.

A routine or boring sex life has ruined many a marriage so try spicing things up and add back the spontaneity. Part of spontaneity is doing something when she least expects it. Like, if there are no children, or if they are parked with the grandparents for the weekend, take her on the kitchen or dining room table while she is preparing breakfast; even if you had sex the night before.

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Would my doctor notice if im taking birth control pills while examining me.... its urgent plzzzz

If you are old enough to legally be prescribed (being over 14) birth control you are also covered under the Federal Law known as HIPPA. This law gives young adults 14 and older confidentiality and privacy concerning their reproductive health.


So if a GYN or Women's clinic prescribed birth control for you there is no reason for your family doctor not to know. In fact your family doctor needs to know. The doctor by law cannot tell your parents. The doctor and your parents can be personal friends ans still that information cannot be told to them or the doctor can go to jail; that is the law.

Under this law mom can no longer accompany you into the exam room if you don't want her there. This is so you can speak openly with your doctors. In order to properly care for you your doctors need to know what medications you are taking. This includes birth control medications as well as any over the counter medications. Yes the doctor also needs to know if you are sexually active so that your reproductive system can be properly cared for.

If you cannot get mom to wait in the waiting room and you are over the age of 14 tell your doctor you wish to see him/her in private. He or she will ask mom to leave and she must leave or the doctor will not examine you. Then be totally open with the doctor. It is for your own best interest that your doctor be aware of anything that would effect your health. This includes birth control pill and if you are sexually active.

The doctor could counsel you against being sexually active and unless their is medical reason for you not taking birth control pill he or she must continue to write those prescriptions for you. That is the law. If the y refuse you can report them to the medical board for your state.

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My father remarried 7 years ago. She emailed my sister (who was 16 at the time) a really cruel message 6 months after they were married because we did not call her on Mother's day. She ranted and raved about how hurt she was and said that we were no longer welcome in her home. My sister responded by saying that we just did not feel like we knew her very well and we simply didn't think of calling her on Mother's day and apologized. The woman continued to email my sister mean messages until my mom took all of the messages to a family therapist to get advice, and the therapist said my Dad's wife is highly unstable and should not be allowed to communicate with us without someone present. My Mom continued to be nice to her, but then the woman got mean to my mom and my mom didn't yell back, only told her to not communicate with her any more. We hardly see my Dad and have not been invited to stay the night in their house since. The woman also emails mean messages to my gramdma and once threw a heavy box at her from across the room. My Dad just expects gramma and us to continually apologize to his wife. Everyone on my Dad's side of the family dislikes her but acts civil to her when they see her. Grandma just plays along and apologizes when my Dad asks so that her son will remain in her life. Dad seldom calls us on holidays or birthdays and we see him about fours hours once per year, by his own choice.
Now, my high school graduation is coming up... my Dad wants to bring her out, they live in the Midwest, and I know she's crazy so I want to set boundaries so that she won't talk to my mom, my sister, and my younger brother (not my Dad's son) but my mom said that that will create an argument. I don't want that but I will because I'm noting going to condone this behavior. My step-mother emailed my sister today saying that she "wants t rebuild their relationship". What should I do? Help!

I know what you mom has been trying to do and you should be proud of her for doing so. In many divorces the parents fight over the children and use them as pawns against each other. Your mom didn't do this.

As for your Graduation. This is a special day. All most as special as your wedding day. You will want, I'm guessing here, to have your dad walk you down the isle. He will most likely want his wife to come to your wedding to watch him give his daughter into marriage.

While graduation is a special day for you, your wedding day has to absolutely be flawless. If your step-mom truly is looking to rebuild a relationship you graduation could be the vehicle to see how she would act at other special family events.

Should she do something to tarnish this day for you then you know for the future not to invite her. It is a small thing for you to do for yourself, your sister and the rest of your family. I know if I was a member of your family I would be proud of you for doing something like this. It is the adult thing to do in this situation.

Yes this special day could be ruined for you; or think positively it could be a wonderful day and the first day of a new relationship with your dad and his wife. People can change. You can't force them to change they have to want to change. It is possible after all this time she has come to the realization that it is she that needs to change.

Like I said I would be very proud of you if you offered up this special day in your life to see if she has really changed. If she has it will mean a lot to the rest of your family. By the way I am old enough to be your grandfather.

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Hi I am 15 and I really ned some advice. I'm a week late with having my period and I think I might be pregnant. I'm scared of what ill be called at school and I'm afraid of what my family will think. I don't know if I should keep the baby or not... the father is 18 and I'm afraid my mom will think it was rape when it wasn't . I'm so scared I'm not ready for a littl baby :(

First calm down and find out if you are pregnant by taking a home pregnancy test. Stress can delay and even cause you to miss your period entirely. If you had unprotected sex whether you admit it or not you have been stressing over the fact of will you get pregnant.

Our bodies are finely tuned, woman's more so then men's. It does not take much to cause this fine tuning to skip a beat or two and cause problems such as missing a period. So first find out if you are pregnant.

Now to answer some of the questions you brought up. Your boyfriend being 18 is an adult. You being 15 are, by law are under the age of consent. Now some states do have some rules in place to protect him and some don't. Depending on where you live he can be charged with Rape. It is called Statutory Rape because he is an adult and you are under the age of consent. That's going to be up to your parents as to if he is charged.

Yes, mom and your family will flip out. That's what parents do in this situation. By law though mom, dad and no one else can force you to do anything concerning what to do about your baby if you are pregnant.

Being 15 you are now covered by a federal law called HIPPA, the Health Information Personal Protection Act. This act specifically covers children ages 14 and up for their reproductive health giving you privacy and confidentiality. By privacy this means mom can't force you to have an abortion nor can she stop you from having one. It is your choice.

Hopefully you are not pregnant. While I personally, for just these reasons, think you are too young to be having sex. This law also allows you to ask your doctor for birth control medication. Your doctor must prescribe this medication unless there is valid medical reason not to. Then if you want you can ask for a birth control device.

You are also old enough by this law that mom or anyone else can't be in any medical examination room without your expressed written consent. Everything that transpires between you and your doctor, whatever is said and whatever examination and treatment done stays between you and your doctor. Only upon written consent can it be released and only to those parties you consent too.

So if you are not pregnant consider getting on some type of birth control and always make the boy wear a condom. While the condom does not protect you from all STDs it does offer some protection and is a second form of birth control.

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My boobs have been sore for the past week or so now really bad. Wearing a bra hurts it's the inner bottom of them, and on the sides so if your looking at me, it's the bottom of each boob and on my right boob it's sore on the bottom up to the left side and the left boob on the bottom up to the right side. Idk why this is. I just can't wait to like get my bra off each day because of it. I'm not on my period or anything, idk what it could be.
Please help.

17/f

None of us are doctors so from a medical stand point we really cannot advise you if there is something medically wrong. From what you have written I believe that since you are 17 and still going through puberty and still growing; yes even your breasts are still growing and changing. It is very possible your are wearing the wrong size bra's.


I read a report not long ago that said most women today are either wearing the wrong bra or are wearing them incorrectly. Now being males I'm not to sure about the last part


What I do know is that a relative of mine is the VP of sales for a major manufacturer of ladies apparel and he agrees with that report. His suggestion is that all women should be properly fitted for their bra's especially teenagers all through their puberty years. Women should be refitted as they go through life and have children, gain and lose weight.

You can be properly fitted at major department stores in the ladies department. Call them and find out when their fitter is available and be properly fitted. Their is usually no charge as they expect you will purchase the needed new bra's while there; although you are not obligated to make a purchase. Some ladies specialty apparel stores also employ fitters or use the manufactures fitter on a promotional event day.

If being properly fitted does not correct the problem then you need to see a doctor. But you said the pain is relieved by taking off your bra. That leads me to believe you are wearing the wrong sized bra and cup. So try being properly fitted.

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Hey friends. At the beginning of the school year I met this guy. He seemed kinda odd, but he's autistic so I figured that was why and we became friends. Well, as time went by, I realized that he's actually REALLY FRIGGIN CREEPY. He found my phone number on the Internet. He says creepy things to me. One moment he'll be frighteningly affectionate and the next he'll be all miffed at me and I don't know why. He never lets me out of his personal bubble and never stays out of mine. He genuinely scares me and makes me uncomfortable and other people too. Should I report him? I need advice. (note: I HAVE asked him multiple times to leave me alone or give me some space)

Autism and Autistic people can be really hard to understand. There is not enough space here to educate you on this subject. I can though understand how you feel.

I don't feel this boy is out to hurt you. Autistic people are generally very loving and kind although when they get confused or if you get in their defined space they can become combative.

I would suggest you speak with your parents. If you know where he lives and he is bothering you at home and at school then your parents have a choice. They can speak with school administrators and let them handle the situation or they can speak directly to the boys parents.

I do not think this is a matter for you to report or try to handle on your own. I believe this is a matter better left to your parents and older adults.

While they are working on a resolution you should try to avoid him if you can. When you can't just be as nice as you can so he remains calm in your presence.

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My boyfriend and I are both 15 and he is always telling me that he wants to eat me out or masturbate with me. I already made it clear to him that I want to wait until we are older and he agreed. But since he agreed to that he is asking about oral sex which I don't want either. We are only 15!!!! How can I tell him that we should wait? f/15

Stand your ground, do not give in to him. Giving in to him will make you feel as if you have been raped. From a legal standpoint to the letter of the law if he hounds you into submitting to his request once you have told him no; he is raping you if he hounds you into submission.


The law is quite black and white when it comes to sex and consent. Also at 15 years of age no matter what state you live in and many western countries, you are below the age of consent. So regardless of if you consent or not he could, should your parents find out, be charged with rape even though he is your same age.


Okay that is the law; from the human side of this sex is something to be enjoyed by both parties. If one party is not consenting then it cannot be enjoyed and should not be entered into. Your boyfriend is wanting sex because boys his age are in a sense hard wired from the onset of puberty to find sex. Like you they are experiencing a whole new set of hormones floating through their body. These hormones are what are causing them to seek sex, hence the word horny.


Boys his age also confuse lust with love. They believe sex is love. If your boyfriend is not respecting you enough to stop hounding you for something you are not willing to do then he is more lustful for you then in love with you.


My advice is: If your boyfriend is not willing to respect your wishes then find someone who will love you enough to respect them. Sex is better the longer you wait; for as you mature your body is better capable of appreciating the pleasure that sex can bring. Right now your bodies are capable of sex but not mature enough to fully appreciate the pleasures.


Short answer to your question: Tell your boyfriend No is no. If he can't accept that he doesn't respect you and certainly doesn't love you.

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My boyfriend and I are both 16 and want to go out more. Except he is 100% deaf. So movies are out( no captions). Any great date ideas. We already spent last night learning how to sign umm....... Dirtier stuff. Any good ideas?

Have you thought about or tried going bowling. Being deaf would not or should not interfere with bowling and anyone can bowl just don't worry about the scores if you've never done so before. Do you live near an amusement park if so and affordable that could be fun.

Find out what his interests or hobbies are. Then based on them you can come up with things to do on a date. Say he is interested in photography. You could go to a photo gallery to look at the works of some of the area photographers. Take nature hikes so he can take pictures. Let his hobbies and interest guide your ideas.

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Okay so I'm 16/F and a junior. My boyfriend is 18/M senior. We've been dating since halfway through the summer before my freshman year. Ever since we've been together we've always been crazy. We both drink and party and he smokes (pot) occasionally but usually not. However, it's different now. He is an extremely baseball player and has a scholarship at a D-1 college. He has chosen not to drink or smoke or party because he can't risk getting caught and ruining his chances at the college hes playing at. And I have definitely cut back too. But I still wanna party, for like, the social part. I definitely don't get smashed anymore but I do drink when I go out (I also have a sober ride and friends with me). But lately my boyfriend has been getting mad at me. He says he doesn't feel comfortable with me going out without him by my side (I guess I never have done that before) but I can take care of myself and control myself. He says he doesn't like it cause he's worried some guy is gonna get me extra drunk and "take advantage of me". Being 5"5 and a 100 lbs it doesn't take much to get my hammered but like I said, I haven't gone past tipsy and mildly drunk for a long time. And I don't go out often, most of the time I'm hanging out with and it's not like there's a party every weekend. I'd say it's only once a month or two months. I think it's mayb him just missing being able to get crazy and what not... But I don't know. We fight about it a lot but it's the only thing wrong with us. I really love him and we both see us lasting a long time but I'm not doing anything that affects him and I like going out with my friends! What should I do??

I'm going to take the parental point of view on your question mainly because I am a parent, grandparent actually.

Your boyfriend, for some right and wrong reasons is correct. If you get drunk, a little or a lot someone could take advantage of you. You should see the number of letters we get from girls just your age, taken advantage of at parties because they were drunk. The legal definition is they were RAPED. Whether you call it rape or being taken advantage of you will not like it and you will never be the same.


There are reasons teenagers are prohibited from drinking alcoholic beverages. As a retired firefighter I can tell you for us having to pull drunken teenagers out of torn up cars is the worst part of our job . Actually second to worst, pulling dead teenagers out of wrecked cars is the worst.

As teenagers you are not mature enough to handle the effects of alcohol. Heck some adults are not mature enough and we end up pulling them out of wrecked cars as well. The worst teenage drunk driving accident I was at we thought a plane had crashed. The driver was going so fast that when he hit the brick wall everyone was ejected from (we think some were even wearing seat belts) the car and no one was fully intact. We had body parts in the tree above the car. Gross you out; I hope so for it did us.

Could this have happened with an adult, sure. But it happens almost every weekend; we end up with some teenage driver having an accident and when we get on scene if the driver is alive an unhurt they are in handcuffs and in the back of the State Trooper or local PD car. It's sickening and avoidable.

There are ways to have fun with out smoking weed or consuming alcohol. Your boyfriend is finding that out. He has a goal in life and doing stupid things can ruin his chances at that goal. Yes, juvenile offenses are not suppose to follow you into adulthood but some do. An alcohol convictions along with dope convictions do. So does being raped. So listen to your boyfriend. You don't need to get hammered to have fun. The consequences of this type of fun can be deadly.

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i have very regular period n this time missed it...today is 3rd day n hvnt had yet.having a headache also.pregnancy test showed negative.wat could it be

There are a lot of reasons for a period being late or missing it altogether. Stress is the leading cause of missing a period, followed closely by the taking of antibiotic medications, illnesses and greater exercising.


If you had protected sex then your chances of being pregnant are slim. If you had unprotected sex then your chances of being pregnant are of course greater.

If you do not get your period in the next 7 days take another pregnancy test. IF it is still negative then see you Gynecologist for a checkup as there may be something physical that needs to be corrected.

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Well my dear boyfriend wants to buy a vibrator for me to use when having sex with him,wtf?Out of the blue he comes up with this.What does it mean?He has a nice and huge p****,so why does he wanna get this thing?I'm not saying I don't like sex toys though,but this is a bit weird,help?

I agree with solidadvice4teens you need to talk with him to find out why. If you have ever read any of my answers to question such as yours you will know I am very big on communication as the key to a good sex life. If you do not talk to each other you will never know each others wants, desires, likes or dislikes.

His wanting you to use a vibrator during sex falls under the categories of "Wants, Desires and most likely Fantasy." Every one has sexual fantasies, men's fantasies seems to be stronger them women's. Most men what to watch two women having sex; it is probably the biggest voyeuristic turn on for men.

Your boyfriend probably, and I am guessing here, wants to watch you masturbate with the dildo. This would be a voyeuristic turn on for him. there is nothing wrong with this AS LONG AS YOU CONSENT. It becomes WRONG if you find it wrong and DO NOT CONSENT. Nothing two CONSENTING partners do while having sex in the privacy of ones bedroom is wrong. It becomes wrong when one partner is forced to do something they don't want to do.

This is why you need to TALK WITH HIM AND NOT US... He and only he can tell you why this is important to him.

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I think that I am depressed, but I am only 17 years.old. The reason for my blues is because nothing seems to be going right. My mom keeps grilling me on what career to be: doctor , lawyer, etc. To be honest I don't want to be anything , I just want to sleep. But i am considering French, I do very well in it. But my mom keeps nagging me on my speech in French , she keeps questioning my ability to speak it fluently, in her opinion if I cannot speak it fluently by the time I graduate then I should give up! But can anyone fully speak French or any language by graduation? Then she kept grilling me on my attire, I wear pants, and shirts, but I hate dresses, skirts, and heels! She keeps saying that i should dress more girly?! But girls can crossdress abd still be feminie . I like wearing boys clothes I feel so empowered, but I still like men, I am not gay, I do not want to go to prom, I hate parties! My mom is making me depressed and feel discouraged and confuse on what to do with myself. I keep thinking about suicidesbd death, I feel more insecure and inner demons are driving me insane?! How can I make everything right and gain confidence in myself?

Parents, can't live with them can't live without them. Speaking as a parent; moms over protectiveness is being unfair to you. You sound like any typical 17 year old male or female.

It is unfortunate that high school does not truly prepare you to do much more than go on to college. If you do not wish to go on to college there are not many choices open to you. This is what parents worry about and what mom is fixating on. Mom is also somewhat homophobic concerning your manner of dress; ignore her. Your style is your style not hers.

You are depressed. Whether you are clinically depressed or suffering from teenage depression or normal depression everyone suffers from time to time, I am not qualified to say. You need to see your family doctor and have the doctor screen you for depression. There are medications that can help with clinical and teenage depression that will allow you to feel better. In all three types of depression talking with a therapist should be of great help to you as the conversations are totally confidential and you say whatever you need to say and get better advice than we can give you.

As for being 17 and having a real direction as to what you want to do with your life upon graduation? Buck up your normal; about 50% of all teenagers have no real direction. They go off to college either following a liberal arts major or a major suggested by their parents. In the third year of college they change direction and finally chose what they want.

Have you given any thought or spoken to any Military Recruiters. The military is a great opportunity to try out a potential career choice and get paid while attending some college course. When you leave the military you will have money to finish your education. Just a thought to offer.

My advice: See your doctor and be screened for depression. Find a therapist to talk to. In all other respects your a normal teenager an mom is just being a mom. Try and swinging with her being an overprotective mom. The therapist can help you greatly with that.

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First off, I want to explain that I love my boyfriend very much. He is an amazing man, I care about him a lot, and I know he has both of our best interests at heart.

Before we ever met, both he and I had committed that we would not be involved with any partner sexually before marriage. It is clear that even though he is a a grown man (22), he wouldn't have very much experience with orgasm, and of course I don't know much about it either.

The other day, we were at a park sitting close together, and kissing a little. We were sitting there talking and such for a long time, but when we had gotten up, he noticed he had a wet stain on his pants...which he was super embarrassed about and explained to me it was an "accident" and that he really really likes me so sometimes its difficult.

Now I know this is really embarrassing for him so its awkward for me to talk to him about it, but I do have questions. Is this normal for guys to experience? Is there anyway to stop this? Is there something I am doing that is causing this? Will he ever grow out of this? Will he ever be able to last during sex? He says sometimes it happens and he doesn't even notice...does it count as a orgasm then if he isn't FEELING it?

I love this man so dearly and I want him to be happy and healthy. I hope someone can answer my questions!

If your boyfriend is truly a virgin then what is happening is normal. What you may not realize is that while cuddling there may be enough frictional contact between you two that he is experiencing enough contact with his penis to either have some precum ejaculation, which he would not feel, or actually have an orgasm and ejaculate.

I think I can say with a great deal of certainty that what you are experiencing has happened to most all men at one time or another. It is something that will happen when sexual tension builds.

Your boyfriend not you can keep this from occurring while with you by masturbating before a date. There is nothing wrong with masturbation. It is normal and a safe way to relief sexual tension. According to a recent survey 85% of the population masturbates. Masturbation or mutual masturbation as it is called is part of sexual foreplay.

Most religions do not condemn masturbation, they while not openly condoning it so not consider it a mortal sin as you are led to believe. This includes the Catholic Church. The Church, Temples, Mosques and other religious settings teach children along with there parents not to masturbate. Why I don't know. It is not sinful and it does relieve sexual tension. Relieving sexual tension which is part of puberty should help keep children chaste longer, one would think.

So my suggestion to you is that while this is normal, you suggest your boyfriend masturbate before a date.

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My boyfriend (24) and I(19) have been dating for over a year I am in college and his a banker... When I was in high school I stole someone's money because I was soo broke I had just lost both parents at that time and I had nothing, I was caught and made to apologise and return the money... Well every thing ended that was about six years ago... Now I am in this relationship and my boyfriend comes back from work really pissed, he came straight to my house and sat me down asking me questions about what happened 6yrs ago, I told him everything but he didn't say a word to me he just left my house, its been 3days and he hasn't called or replied my text messages I love my boyfriend so much and I don't want to loose him. What should I do.

You lost your parents at a very young age for this you have my condolences.

You were 13 when this incident happened, a young adult maybe, still a child in most peoples eyes especially in the eyes of the law and the courts. You gave the money back and apologized. I believe this was fair given the circumstances.

If your boyfriend, who at 24, is truly an adult at this time, is holding this event against you; he is being quite shallow. Givin the world of things you could have done to rebel for the hurt you were feeling you did none of them. What you did was what you felt you needed to do to survive. Of course I don't know the full circumstances of the time but still regardless it is understandable and mild considering what you could have done.

My reaction to what your boyfriends reaction to this news, old news at that, is to shun you then you don't need him and you can do better. You're 19 and as my mother always told me'"Their are plenty of fish in the sea". My advice let him go and bait your hook and go fishing again. The next guy you find will most like be a better guy than this one is.

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How could ido that to them if there my family, all of our times arent bad. Idont know ijust dont know what to do.

I'm not sure who you are as I answer a lot of questions. But if you are who I think you are you do what has to be done to protect yourself as your reason for writing was an unacceptable alternative.

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i lost my baby girl..after that mind changing shit happened, i can hardly sleep.. when i do i have nightmares and i re-live that day over again. i dont eat right- i have and still continue to loose weight.. i become emotional, i shut down.. i also get physically sick when i talk about it and on top of that i feel as if i were screwed with and that i am being driven into insanity by the inncodent. it feels as if part of me just left

My condolences on the loss of your child.


You are suffering grief depression, which is normal after what has happened. You need the help of a qualified physician and therapist to help you through this.


There is no shame in the suffering of depression or suffering depression from the type of trauma you have gone through. There is also no shame in getting the right type of help to get you through this.


I'm sure your daughter would not want you suffering this way at her loss. So please see your family doctor. Ask for the name of a qualified doctor to help you. Then contact that doctor and learn how to cope with your loss.


I know what you are going through to a certain extent having recently suffered the loss of someone I was very close to for almost 40 years. This loss has left a big void in my life. We all suffer grief differently and we can all use the help of a professional when that grief effects us as yours is.

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i work with a guy he has girlfriend he wants me to meet his family we've never dated what does it mean?

I could be reading a lot into this but;

It just might be possible that he likes you as a person. He wants you to meet his family because he feels they will like you and maybe another family member, brother or cousin will like you and he can fix you up with him.

Like I said, this is just a thought. It is also possible he and his girlfriend aren't getting along and he wants his family's impression of you before he asks you out. Sort of a road test before buying the car. This may not be the type of man you want to get involved with.

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Sorry if this is in the wrong section.

16 male

So i had sex for the first time last weekend, it was great but when i orgasmed i felt a different feeling on the tip of my penis. It was very very very sensitive and tingly like, normally when i masturbate i get a very intense feeling.

I wore a condom and finished in that and maybe that is why? I will be wearing condoms for awhile because i don't want a kid and i want to be safe but i don't like the very sensitive feelings i get by wearing one.

What can i do to fix this or is it normal or what?

any help is welcome!

Thanks

Your normal.

Keep using condoms, make sure you are wearing them correctly. Condoms are only 85% effective in preventing pregnancies. This is based on the fact that if not worn correctly they can leak or can break.

Condoms do not protect against all STS, so make sure you know who you're having sex with and that she is STD free. If your not 100% sure do not have sex with her until you are both tested.

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