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Boyfriend ejaculates while kissing or cuddling?
First off, I want to explain that I love my boyfriend very much. He is an amazing man, I care about him a lot, and I know he has both of our best interests at heart.
Before we ever met, both he and I had committed that we would not be involved with any partner sexually before marriage. It is clear that even though he is a a grown man (22), he wouldn't have very much experience with orgasm, and of course I don't know much about it either.
The other day, we were at a park sitting close together, and kissing a little. We were sitting there talking and such for a long time, but when we had gotten up, he noticed he had a wet stain on his pants...which he was super embarrassed about and explained to me it was an "accident" and that he really really likes me so sometimes its difficult.
Now I know this is really embarrassing for him so its awkward for me to talk to him about it, but I do have questions. Is this normal for guys to experience? Is there anyway to stop this? Is there something I am doing that is causing this? Will he ever grow out of this? Will he ever be able to last during sex? He says sometimes it happens and he doesn't even notice...does it count as a orgasm then if he isn't FEELING it?
I love this man so dearly and I want him to be happy and healthy. I hope someone can answer my questions!
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Just so you know masturbation in order to avoid unwanted ejaculation is silly. If you are concerned about pre-marital sexual stimulation for moral reasons then masturbation is also problematic. The Catholic Church teaches that sex is saved for a marital relationship therefore masturbation is inherently wrong for any reason. If unintended ejaculation occurs that is not morally wrong or anything to be embarrassed about, it is normal. You should work together to minimize pre mature ejaculation. As long as you are not intentionally ejaculating outside of marriage or intending to bring your partner to climax, then you dont need to worry. From what I have read it is very common in situations where experience is lacking and it is easily overcome.
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Adviceman hit it pretty much on the head. It's not all that common unless you're a virgin with no sexual outlets like masturbation.
It's not even necessarily an orgasm. Men secrete precum when excited pretty commonly, he's probably just getting excited and leaking a bit. Satisfying himself sexually before he goes out with you will probably go a long way towards solving the problem. Having sex will probably fix it entirely.
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If your boyfriend is truly a virgin then what is happening is normal. What you may not realize is that while cuddling there may be enough frictional contact between you two that he is experiencing enough contact with his penis to either have some precum ejaculation, which he would not feel, or actually have an orgasm and ejaculate.
I think I can say with a great deal of certainty that what you are experiencing has happened to most all men at one time or another. It is something that will happen when sexual tension builds.
Your boyfriend not you can keep this from occurring while with you by masturbating before a date. There is nothing wrong with masturbation. It is normal and a safe way to relief sexual tension. According to a recent survey 85% of the population masturbates. Masturbation or mutual masturbation as it is called is part of sexual foreplay.
Most religions do not condemn masturbation, they while not openly condoning it so not consider it a mortal sin as you are led to believe. This includes the Catholic Church. The Church, Temples, Mosques and other religious settings teach children along with there parents not to masturbate. Why I don't know. It is not sinful and it does relieve sexual tension. Relieving sexual tension which is part of puberty should help keep children chaste longer, one would think.
So my suggestion to you is that while this is normal, you suggest your boyfriend masturbate before a date.
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The most important thing is not to blame him, show frustration or make it a big issue. It would seem the only problem here is that he's easily aroused by you and his sex drive is really high. In a way it's flattering but in others embarrassing for you both.
One thing he could try is self-pleasure immediately before the date as that will lower hormonal surges and arousal so perhaps when he meets you this won't happen at all or easily. If it continues have him see a urologist and discuss the problem as they will have ideas on how to lessen the liklihood of sudden ejaculation. They deal exclusively with the function of sexual organs and emissions, urination etc. I doubt it's a health issue but it's something that needs to be curbed though.
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