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Suicidal?
I'm really in love with my bf(21 and im 20). we have been dating 3 years off and on. but are long distance.
since weve been so off and on i feel like i cant trust him. i dont mean with other people. hes never been with anyone else. i just mean with him going away for weeks without hearing from him.
recently i left town again and told him i really didnt want to be used and was nervous about having sex if i wasnt gonna hear from him. he assured me that he was so in love with me and would make the distance easier.
Its been 3 days now that i havent heard from him..i know eventually i will hear from him but this is such a tough time in my life that i really wish i would hear from him sooner. (he doesnt have a phone)
Ive been feeling really lonely lately and feeling like if i dont find someone who treats me better i will always feel this way. but i cant move on because i want so badly to be with him i almost always put up with it.
Im just kind of wondering if anyone else had a similar situation: where they feel like the person they are with isnt fully there? they feel like theres nothing they can really do cause the pain of walking away is so hard? and if they lose them then everything will be lost? :/ I know this is super depressing. but im just trying to be honest so i can get some good advice :[ thanks for your guys time!
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I can relate to your pain, and it's really excruciating. When my exboyfriend didn't call me for days (he claimed he didn't have a phone) I would feel such dark despair and awful longing. After a few times of dealing with it, I asked myself if it was worth it to stay in the relationship if he never made himself available to me. Everyone suggested that I break up with him, but I didn't have the heart to do it because I was so deeply in love. I highly suggest that the next time you talk with him, you tell him exactly what you feel, and if he isn't understanding I don't think it will work out. You need lots of love, and he should be there for you. My ex broke up with me out of the blue, and it was excruciatingly painful for me because I ignored all the warning signals. Ask yourself the same question I did. If he was really in love with me would he be there for me so little of his time? If indeed he is in love with you, then he'll understand you, and try to work out a solution. Either way, telling him how you feel will be beneficial to you both. Good luck :)
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As women we tend to love hard and quick...even if it is with the wrong man. Walking away from someone we love can feel like our heart is being ripped out of our chest, however, we must love self first. You say you put up with it. If you do, expect to continue getting hurt. This man seems to have another life. (Frankly, you may be the other woman.) If he loves you he will make every effort to contact you. Also, trust is something that is important in all relationships. Both parties must trust and also do everything they can to be trusted. It doesn't seem like you two are on the same page. If you want to stay brace yourself for more pain. I hope you make the right choice.
P.S.
And wear protection, you are worth it.
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How come he doesn't have a phone!!!!!:O,HOW CAN YOU LIVE LIKE THIS?I have a boyfriend who lives in the same town I live and we cannot be in peace if we're not comunicated all the time!I couldn't keep my relationship if we didn't have the essential comunication,so have him get one or give him one as a present,as for the distant issue,I'd suggest that you try to find the way to handle with it 'cuz there's nothing you can do about it,if you love him you're gonna have to accept all the 'consecuences' of it,I mean,the difficult things to deal with when you are in love with somebody,for example my boyfriend works the whole day and I have to cope with it even though I don't like it,so get him a phone,try to build confidence which is the hardest thing in a relationship and enjoy being in love with each other bc at last it is worth it when there's true love!!!and it's not depressing what you wrote,it's a reality that most people in love have to deal with every day:)
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