Member Since: August 18, 2013
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First off, I want to explain that I love my boyfriend very much. He is an amazing man, I care about him a lot, and I know he has both of our best interests at heart.
Before we ever met, both he and I had committed that we would not be involved with any partner sexually before marriage. It is clear that even though he is a a grown man (22), he wouldn't have very much experience with orgasm, and of course I don't know much about it either.
The other day, we were at a park sitting close together, and kissing a little. We were sitting there talking and such for a long time, but when we had gotten up, he noticed he had a wet stain on his pants...which he was super embarrassed about and explained to me it was an "accident" and that he really really likes me so sometimes its difficult.
Now I know this is really embarrassing for him so its awkward for me to talk to him about it, but I do have questions. Is this normal for guys to experience? Is there anyway to stop this? Is there something I am doing that is causing this? Will he ever grow out of this? Will he ever be able to last during sex? He says sometimes it happens and he doesn't even notice...does it count as a orgasm then if he isn't FEELING it?
I love this man so dearly and I want him to be happy and healthy. I hope someone can answer my questions! (link)
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Just so you know masturbation in order to avoid unwanted ejaculation is silly. If you are concerned about pre-marital sexual stimulation for moral reasons then masturbation is also problematic. The Catholic Church teaches that sex is saved for a marital relationship therefore masturbation is inherently wrong for any reason. If unintended ejaculation occurs that is not morally wrong or anything to be embarrassed about, it is normal. You should work together to minimize pre mature ejaculation. As long as you are not intentionally ejaculating outside of marriage or intending to bring your partner to climax, then you dont need to worry. From what I have read it is very common in situations where experience is lacking and it is easily overcome.
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