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I think I'm pregnant and I'm only 15
Hi I am 15 and I really ned some advice. I'm a week late with having my period and I think I might be pregnant. I'm scared of what ill be called at school and I'm afraid of what my family will think. I don't know if I should keep the baby or not... the father is 18 and I'm afraid my mom will think it was rape when it wasn't . I'm so scared I'm not ready for a littl baby :(
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hi well im guessing your really stressed out which too much of stress can cause you to be late, when i was scared and stressed i would be a couple days late so dont worry but i would just to be sure get a pregnancy test. i hope your not. ill be praying for you!
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First calm down and find out if you are pregnant by taking a home pregnancy test. Stress can delay and even cause you to miss your period entirely. If you had unprotected sex whether you admit it or not you have been stressing over the fact of will you get pregnant.
Our bodies are finely tuned, woman's more so then men's. It does not take much to cause this fine tuning to skip a beat or two and cause problems such as missing a period. So first find out if you are pregnant.
Now to answer some of the questions you brought up. Your boyfriend being 18 is an adult. You being 15 are, by law are under the age of consent. Now some states do have some rules in place to protect him and some don't. Depending on where you live he can be charged with Rape. It is called Statutory Rape because he is an adult and you are under the age of consent. That's going to be up to your parents as to if he is charged.
Yes, mom and your family will flip out. That's what parents do in this situation. By law though mom, dad and no one else can force you to do anything concerning what to do about your baby if you are pregnant.
Being 15 you are now covered by a federal law called HIPPA, the Health Information Personal Protection Act. This act specifically covers children ages 14 and up for their reproductive health giving you privacy and confidentiality. By privacy this means mom can't force you to have an abortion nor can she stop you from having one. It is your choice.
Hopefully you are not pregnant. While I personally, for just these reasons, think you are too young to be having sex. This law also allows you to ask your doctor for birth control medication. Your doctor must prescribe this medication unless there is valid medical reason not to. Then if you want you can ask for a birth control device.
You are also old enough by this law that mom or anyone else can't be in any medical examination room without your expressed written consent. Everything that transpires between you and your doctor, whatever is said and whatever examination and treatment done stays between you and your doctor. Only upon written consent can it be released and only to those parties you consent too.
So if you are not pregnant consider getting on some type of birth control and always make the boy wear a condom. While the condom does not protect you from all STDs it does offer some protection and is a second form of birth control.
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Hiya sweetie, quite the pickle you're in eh?
well, my advice? take a pregnancy test, NOW. You could be stressing so bad that you're making your period late ! I was fourteen when i had my little girl. I'm fifteen now, and it's hard sometimes. But I know i made the right decision, my friend got her baby girl aborted while i was pregnant, and seeing her that depressed is hard.
You made the choice to have sex with an 18 year old, now you have to face the consequences. It sucks, but it's also a fact of life.
I had the option to give my girl up for adoption, but i didn't. depending on your home life, where the kiddo will be raised and how, and if YOU are ready to grow up, maybe thats something you should be thinking about. Because truly, most 18 year olds aren't ready to become parents with a fifteen year old.
But of course, this isn't something to worry about until you're sure you're pregnant ! good luck, let me know if you need some more information or advice.
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first of all ignore that other person who was basically an asshole from the first sentence. you are not a bad person for "opening your legs" as they put. But before you even freak out. FIND OUT YOU ARE PREGNANT. you might be getting hype over... well nothing. which is fine that you are cautious, but no need to stress if you don't even know. so go find out first.
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Some people would say, "Maybe you should have thought about that before you opened your legs. All teenagers who are 'ready' for sex, should also be ready for the responsibility that comes along with it."
Most of it is true, but hunnie, I'm not downing you at all, sweetheart. I'm really not. I've had my fair share of pregnancy scares, first thing you want to do is stay calm. The more you stress the more it'll delay your period, okay? Now, have your periods always been regular, or have they often been a little late?
If they have been regular, than take a home pregnancy test. Any brand will do; take it first thing in the morning. That type of pee is the most accurate. You can buy one at any age, and they have some for $1 and some up to $10. Although, you get what you pay for. All of them will work the same; but to give myself a bit of ease, I bought a more expensive one.
If it comes back negative, and your period is still late, than don't freak out. Have you been stress? Working out? Weight gain? Bad diet?
Those things can make your period late, along with other things.
Have you talked to your boyfriend about it?
If you are pregnant, personally, I am against abortion. Like I stated before, if you are ready for sex, than you should be ready for the consequences that come with it, like a baby. There is always adoption. Why kill an innocent baby's life because you and your boyfriend had sex and wasn't cautious about it? Its not the baby's fault, ya know?? Many people have many beliefs. I'm almost 20 years old, and even I'd be scared to tell my parents at my age; its normal. I wouldn't mention it until you knew 100% that you were pregnant. If you really want to know accuratly, than go get a blood test done at a clinic, or at your doctor. Its confidential. Your parents will not have to know about it.
If you do turn out to be NOT pregnant, than please use more caution to use condoms, and even talk to your parents about getting put on birth control. They shouldn't be mad, they should be happy that you are being mature, and responsible.
If your parents don't know that you are sexually active with your boyfriend, and you want to keep it a secret, tell them that you want the birth control just in case, one night things go too far, atleast you'll be prepared. Please remember that birth control will not prevent you from getting pregnant, but it will make the chances less likely.
I wish you the best of luck, and if you need to talk, I am here for you, and I will not judge you.
I'll be praying that you aren't pregnant, because like I said I'm 20, full time job, and going to college, and I couldn't even imagine a child right now.
Please don't heistate to talk to me, okay hunnie?
Good Luck, babygirl.
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