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Virginity problems
My boyfriend and I are both 15 and he is always telling me that he wants to eat me out or masturbate with me. I already made it clear to him that I want to wait until we are older and he agreed. But since he agreed to that he is asking about oral sex which I don't want either. We are only 15!!!! How can I tell him that we should wait? f/15
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Chances are your boyfriend agreed with you thinking he will later change your mind. The truth is he does not respect you. He places his desires over you. Your question is, how can you tell him you should wait? Easy. Tell him "I am not willing to take it there yet and if you keep on insisting I'm going to have to leave you." If you stay around too long he may talk you into doing something you will regret.
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Stand your ground, do not give in to him. Giving in to him will make you feel as if you have been raped. From a legal standpoint to the letter of the law if he hounds you into submitting to his request once you have told him no; he is raping you if he hounds you into submission.
The law is quite black and white when it comes to sex and consent. Also at 15 years of age no matter what state you live in and many western countries, you are below the age of consent. So regardless of if you consent or not he could, should your parents find out, be charged with rape even though he is your same age.
Okay that is the law; from the human side of this sex is something to be enjoyed by both parties. If one party is not consenting then it cannot be enjoyed and should not be entered into. Your boyfriend is wanting sex because boys his age are in a sense hard wired from the onset of puberty to find sex. Like you they are experiencing a whole new set of hormones floating through their body. These hormones are what are causing them to seek sex, hence the word horny.
Boys his age also confuse lust with love. They believe sex is love. If your boyfriend is not respecting you enough to stop hounding you for something you are not willing to do then he is more lustful for you then in love with you.
My advice is: If your boyfriend is not willing to respect your wishes then find someone who will love you enough to respect them. Sex is better the longer you wait; for as you mature your body is better capable of appreciating the pleasure that sex can bring. Right now your bodies are capable of sex but not mature enough to fully appreciate the pleasures.
Short answer to your question: Tell your boyfriend No is no. If he can't accept that he doesn't respect you and certainly doesn't love you.
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