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"Se Soltanto sapesse"
^ whats that mean
thanks! (link)
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If it only knew :)
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I'm a 22 year old girl and my 24 year old boyfriend and I have been going out for nearly 5 years. I wasn't initially attracted to him but when we got talking I noticed he had a different, positive way of thinking which appealed to me. He was only 19 at the time but he had set up his own business at 17, had a strong desire to make money and was full of remarkable ideas. I had never talked to anyone around my own age who was so focused on their future and wanted the same things I did. He gave me a different perspective of looking at the world which then in turn lead to me starting my own business a couple years later. We both enjoy the fine things in life and are set on reaching our goals of being successful and having financial freedom so we can live the 'high life'. The problem is that when we first met we were all over each other at every opportunity, sex was a big part of our lives. We were living together not long after we met but had to move into my mums house for 6 months, 3 years ago when we were both having financial difficulties. Having sex regularly became a bit of an issue but we still got by. When he moved out we lived separately for a while and we found we still didn't have regular sex. I wasn't really as interested anymore as it felt routine and I was too familiar with all his moves. We'd already done most of of the sexual things we'd wanted to do together throughout our relationship so to me it seemed hard to spice up. My boyfriend wasn't bothered by it, he just wanted sex with me in any way, shape or form. We have now gone from having sex a few times every day to once a week then once a month to not at all. In my mind it is because there is no longer any lust. He has given up on initiating sex because he knows I'll reject him. Over the last year he's gained a beer belly and although he has never been overly fashionable I find his constantly casual clothes, never changing hair and carelessness with his appearance is getting to me - although he's not unclean. I'm no longer sexually attracted to him anymore and even though I had thought our personalities complimented each other so much that we were meant to be I now find myself picking on parts of his personality that never bothered me before. I still love him overall but I'm not sure if I was ever inlove with him. We still hug and talk to each other but only give each other a peck on the lips and no longer have sex. I do want sex but with someone who makes me swoon. Someone who is sexy, stylish, artistic and deep - things I think my boyfriend lacks. If we broke up and I found someone with these qualities would I then be satisfied? Or would I be sacrificing a valuable long-term love with someone who treats me like a princess and wants the same future? What if I got my hot guy fix then realised I'd done the wrong thing, would I ruin what I've got. My boyfriend thinks that I'd discover that I can't find my ideal and that we're meant to be but by then he says it would be too late. He'd be with someone who loves him flaws and all and wouldn't want me after I've been with another guy. We live together so it's not an easy decision to make... Perhaps we need a break? Perhaps we should stay together because this is what relationships are like after 5 years or perhaps I should start a new life but is it possible to find long-term happiness with my 'dream guy'? I'm so confused and don't want to hurt my boyfriend because he's also my friend but I need some lust in my life. Help!!! (link)
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OK. Let me give you the perspective of one who has been married for 30 years.
You are young. You have time to go in search of your one true love if that is what you want to do. Does the perfect man exist though...nope!
Really, if you want to move on do so. Now is the time.
Now, on the other hand as far as the current relationship goes....
It seems to me that you both got so focused on work that you let your romance go by the wayside.
Are all those good qualities you found in him when you first met gone? Probably not. You have probably changed too. Everyone who starts out young in a relationship does.
If you want it to work out you are BOTH going to have to work hard to make it. It can't take just one person trying, it has to be both. And you have to seriously want it to work.
The past is history. Old relationships that didn't work out, weren't meant to. They always seem better looking back on them than they actually were in reality.
You two have to start working on the damage. I am not talking about his weight. That's important but not as important as other things. More than half of anyone's attraction is in the way they treat you and the way they see you and the world.
Its in your head. An attractive guy that treats you like shit is no good for you. The attraction is purely physical and will be gone in a heartbeat.
The can't keep your hands off each other thing never lasts. People have to get out of bed and on with their lives! So I don't think its meant to last forever like that. Its just the hook that gets you together initially.
But what keeps a couple together when the kids are sick and you've had no sleep, when the rent needs paid and you haven't a dime...well, that's something a little deeper inside a person. It really doesn't care so much that the partner is slim and trim and has the chiseled physique of Adonis. It is simply that they are there beside you, supporting your efforts, helping you out, a shoulder to lean on. You know they aren't going anywhere no matter what gets thrown at you, and you trust them with your life. That's the love you want to look for and find.
Is it the guy you are with now? Only you know that for sure.
If its him, stop questioning it and accept it. Let him know you feel the same. Cook him a nice dinner, get out the candles and some nice music, put on something sexy and get the romance back on the burner.
Gotta work on it every single day.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do. Forgive the rambling...I'm prone to it too. :)
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do green tea pills work. what are a list of diet pills which help you burn fat?
i am a size 6 and i want to go down to a size 4 i already eat healthy and sorta exersize. (link)
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No diet pills work. Trust me I have tried them all.
Step up the sorta exercise and it will be of more help than any pills. :)
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SO I'm 13 and I weigh 176 lbs. It's really un healthy but my mom says I'll grow out of it. Yeah I guess Im growing but I drink like 4-20 oz bottles of water and I also drink some juice (not alot). When I go to bed at nights I feel extrememly bloated. Oh and sometimes I don't urine alot so I jus drink some cranberry juice or take the cranberry capsules. So I was thinking that I could take a dewitts...the water pill to make all my urine from all the water I drink flush away...does anyonw know if it's safe to take the water pills at my age?...and if not is there anything that will make me feel less bloated from the water I drink. Thanks alot...because I'm sure at least 5-10 lbs of my is from water! (link)
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Don't take water pills unless they are given to you by your doctor. They are dangerous if taken unsupervised.
I really don't think it is the water that is making you bloated. Might make you slosh around a little but shouldn't make you bloated.
Now the fruit juice may be giving you some gas build up or something. I think you should maybe try cutting down on the juice and see if that doesn't help you out some. Maybe drink it earlier in the day :)
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I have minor acid reflux if that has to do with this:
When I turn over in bed suddenly sometimes a get this odd feeling in the center of my chest. It feels like a bubble popped in my heart. It doesn't hurt, but it feels SO odd. What could this be? Should I tell my doctor about this? (link)
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You should always tell your doctor about any changes you experience, even if you consider them to be nothing.
Is it your acid reflux? Probably, but no one can tell you for sure but your doctor. To be on safe side call his office and ask his nurse. You can call and ask a question without going in for an appointment. If they want to see you they will let you know. :)
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How do you survive a horrible haircut that is short and curly? My hair is shorter than my brothers, and im a girl. Skool is tomorrow and we cant wear headgear. I look like a man, so what do i do? (link)
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Hats. Really cool funky hats! :)
*****Edit
Sorry about that. :)
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There's this guy calling me and he knows my name..and he's like haressing me! It's scary..the thing is, he's hiding his number...and it's so freaky because he keeps calling back. He's also using this voice changer thing so he sounds like a robot...aah iddk! Is there anyway I can find out who he is? My cellphone says it's "private caller". Ughhh I mean this guy obviously is someone who knows me..but who?? It's weeirdd (link)
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Tell your parents first off. Have them call the police.
Unless the police need you to keep the number for some reason, call the phone company and have your number changed.
It may be someone you know, but it may not be. Err on the safe side, okay?
If it is someone you know then they need a good scare. Something like this is really not anything to joke around about.
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hi please i need help i have school tomorrow, and i used jergans a self tanner before i went to bed yesterday and when i woke up today it was half on my arm and half off all uneven everywhere so i don't know what to do. i placed more tanner on the half that was'nt tanned but i don't think it is working. and my stupid friend put some on my face and you can tell because my eyebrows are darker and stuff. so i don't know what to do to make sure that it looks even .. help
i will rate high to ANY answers promise...
thanx (sorry its so long) (link)
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OK it took a few minutes but I have hopefully found some help!
Go to this website and hopefully you will be able to get at least the majority of it off.
Good luck! :)
http://www.sunless.com/application/getting_it_off.php
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Ok, so I like this guy. But, the thing is, I dont see the point of liking anyone is, if they dont like you back, or they do and you totally think they dont. I've liked guys, but, I dont see what the point of liking them is, if they dont end up liking you back! It doesnt make sense, because I just get hurt, from liking them so much and them not liking me back. I know, your probably going to say, i have a while until I get a boyfriend etc. but, I just hate having to like guys...it just...brings me down. I told myself to stop liking someone that I liked for 4 a long ass time, and I mean a long time, I started crushing on him when I was like 12. But, I've been telling myself to just stop liking him, so i dont talk about him with friends or anything. Now, theres a new guy, he goes to a different school, I met him somewheres, and i got his email. But, im scared to talk to email him and stuff because I know he probably doesnt like me....ugh....any feedback on this?
thanks.
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You need to get some self confidence going girl!
Liking people may not make much sense but you won't get anywhere if you don't try.
Email him! Whats he going to do? Not answer? Big deal. If he doesn't you move on to the next guy. No more time wasted on him.
If he answers then that's great! You keep writing, maybe go out. Alls right with the world!
Go on give it a try. Does he know you have his email address by the way? If he does then he must have liked you enough to give it to you.
Hope to hear that he emailed you back! :)
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Sorry this is so long! Okay, I'm 13 and i'm a female. So I've had this boyfriend for about 3 and a half months now and I really like him. We're both in the school play & at first I was so happy that I would get to see him so often. But, after a while, it seems like he is always hanging on me. Like, the first 10 times it was cute, but now it's just kinda like, "i need my space." My friend told him and he said he was gonna back off a little, but I'm still not sure, and when I am with him, just me & him it seems like all he wants to do is makeout. Also, there's this other really sweet kid in the pla who I flirt with all the time and he definitely flirts back. Like, he's my "best friend" and all.. but I'm not sure what to do! Help? (link)
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If the hanging is bothering you then tell him about it. Don't rely on a friend to do it because he needs to hear it from you. Just politely tell him you would like him to settle down a bit.
If he is the same age as you...well, 13 year old boys with raging hormones do seem to be quite the horn dogs. Its normal. Just tell him to settle down on that too.
He is probably pretty new to having a girlfriend and just isn't quite sure what to do. You have to tell him so he learns.
As for the other guy, if you like him better then break up with your current guy and pursue him. Be aware though that a lot of people flirt without meaning anything by it.
Good luck with whatever guy you choose! :)
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Hi there ive had a problem for awhile now and i need some help!
(i am a 19 and my ex is 20)Me and my ex were daten for about a year and a half when he broke up with me 4months ago because he said he didtn love me anymore...well the thing is that he dated a girl right after we broke up and then dumped her cuz he said he couldnt be her bf and my friend at the same time which is lame but anyways...we have hung out and talked on the phone everynite seems they broke up and when we hangout we hold hands a lay together but theres times when we are together that he just looks into my eyes and doesnt look away and i love it. they thing is that i wanna be with him but i dont know how he feels there has been 2 times that i have told him how i feel and both times he just lets me down...about 3weeks ago we were at his house layn together talking bout our lives and stuff and he said that theres no other girl that will take my spot in his heart and that he will never love another girl as mush as me and that when he moves to go to school that he wants us to talk everynite. he said he wants everything stay the same and not change when he moves. when he hugs me he holds on tight and last nite i was over there and theres this guy at the gym that likes me and he knows that and everytime i work out my ex is there to and this guy has asked me out a few times but i dont like him that way and my ex said last nite he wants to beat his a** because hes talking to me...if he didnt like me then y does he want to do that. he has been asked to go to partys with some guys at work and he still hasnt gone...theres girls at work that he thinks are cute and he told his best friend he was going to get there numbers and he has an excuse everytime he doesnt ask for it...im the one girl in his phone that he talks to and he still calls me the cute names he did when we were daten...so im not sure what he wants and what i should do!! please help me!! thank you (link)
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Hes going away to school. He may not want things to change but they will. If he can't commit then you will just have to accept that and move on. He can't just leave you hanging, that isn't fair.
My guess is that he wants to be free to date others when he moves. If it is some distance from you then its only natural he wants to do so.
I think he probably does care about you a lot. May even love you. He sees change coming and may not like it but its going to happen. It can be sad sometimes to leave the comfort of what your used to.
You need to talk to him and honestly see where things stand between you. See what hes thinking.
I'm sorry I couldn't give you a more cheerful answer. I hope it does work out for you. But you may need to start thinking about moving on if things don't change.
Good luck. :)
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Well i like a girl and i dont think she would like like me back but i want to ask her out...What should i do to make her like me more or something? (link)
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If you are nice to her and talk to her every chance you get then she will get to know better.
If she talks with you and seems to enjoy it, then you probably have a better chance of her saying yes when you ask her out. Its easier to say no if you don't really know the other person very well!
So take some time and she will like you just fine. :)
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I like this guy who is kind of a teacher at my college. Is there a rule against dating the staff? (link)
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Yes there is usually a rule against the staff dating students. Teachers anyway.
So, I guess it would depend on what "kind of" a teacher he is. :)
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okay well im 14 and hes 16.
so i really like this kid, we'll call him steve.
okay well like me and him have been friends since like the summer.. like we didnt talk as much as now so thats why i think he might like me too cause hes always talking to me when he didnt as much before and like he gets really like not upset but kidding sorta when i make fun of him playing around.. like he'll say dont hate =[ i (link)
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I think he probably does like you.
I don't think you should rush things though. Continue to talk and be friends for a while and see what develops. Right now you have such a good thing you don't want to scare him off.
If a dance comes up or something like that and you want to ask him to it, go ahead. Just don't TELL him how you feel for now. See how it works out. :)
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well i really need help...
one night i was babysitting and i brought a friend cuz we had to do a project. Then i brought her back and we were all hanging out...
now she helps me watch them and one of them wants her only to babysit and the other wants just me or both...
I really need help on how to make the oldest one like me again...
i dont even know what i did!
PLEASE HELP
love heartbroken (link)
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Easy answer but you may not like it.
Don't take your friend with you when you babysit.
The kids are just picking favorites because there are 2 of them and they can each have their own personal sitter. Take away the option. :)
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ok im 15/f. my bf now we have been dating a little over a year, and i love him with all my heart, i would do anythin for him in this world we'll call him FRED.well we broke up for like 2 weeks and i dated a boy (bob)and i broke up with him because i couldnt stop thinking about fred. my dad dont let me see fred or talk to him but now that we are dating again i have been in such a good mood and everything like that. me and bob got along good and were good friends now but the other day he asked me to go to prom with him what should i do??? is that considered cheating if i would go with him or is that wrong or what(going as friends)? (link)
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Does your boyfriend Fred go to a different school? Just wondering why he didn't ask.
You could go as friends. Fred may not be happy about it though if he finds out. You should probably tell him beforehand if you are interested in keeping him as your boyfriend. Decide from there.
It isn't cheating if Fred gives the okay and nothing happens between you and Bob. :)
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I like this guy, and we get along great, but me and his best friend just do not get along! I want to eventually date him, but i'm afraid that his friends may influence him otherwise... what should I do? (link)
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His friend might be jealous if he thinks you may take time from him and the guy you like. Your girlfriends may feel the same way at times if you should date your guy.
If the guy you like is friends with him, he must have some good points. People seem to hang out with those who are like them in a lot of ways. Find his good points and try your best to get along with him. You could be right, he may not date you if his friend bad mouths you.
You may want to ask your guy why his friend doesn't try and get along with you more. Maybe he will say something to him. That would be a big help.
Good luck. :)
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I asked a question similar to this to the pool but, in my opinon, you are one of the best columnists on this site so I wanted to ask it directly to you.
So I like this guy. And last night at the dance we danced. I was happy lol. I really want to go out with him. But, of course, there are some problems.
I'm scared. I really don't want my heart broken. I know if my friend told him to go out with me he would. But a different friend went out with him several weeks ago. She later found out it was only because he was forced to. I'm scared to be played like that.
Also two of my other friends like him. One really likes him, but she's one of the people who told me to dance with him. The other one claims she only likes him a little bit. I told her I liked him and she said she could tell. She doesn't really care that I danced with him or anything. But I'm worried that she might care if we went out.
What do I do? Yeah, dumb middle school drama. I just need some advice right now. (link)
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Thanks for telling me! You know I didn't even notice! A year, wow.
You know how long its been since I dated? Eons. I'm rusty but will see what I can do.
I think you take it a little slow. Talk to him whenever you can smile at him a lot and basically just try to get him to notice you. You danced with him last night so he knows who you are now...if he didn't before.
It really doesnt matter how many of your friends like him. He will date who he wants and hopefully that's you, right? Not that you want to upset your friends or anything but that just the way it is. If he dates one of them...you won't be able to do anything about it either. Lets hope that isn't the way it goes!
Once you have talked to him a few times and he sees that you're a nice girl, with luck he will ask you out. Or, go out with you should you get brave enough to ask him out!
Good luck. Hopefully the pool has something better to add. :)
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hey guys i need some halp me and my x-girl friend are going to a school dance tonight well i like her alot but i broke up with her the last time because she was really controlling and did not want me to go any where or do any thing like on new years i wanted to go to a party with some of my friends and she did not want me to go she thought that i should go to the movies with her well it is new years you should be hangin out with you friends right? so i dont know if i should go back out with her or not can u give me so advice (link)
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If you really like her you can try again.
Just be sure you discuss the control issue with her up front and let her know what you will and won't tolerate.
It is important that you spend time together, you do need some time apart with friends too though. Make sure you let each other know about those times well in advance so that the other can make different plans. Also, be sure and let her know that you still care, even when you need some time away with friends.
Good luck. :)
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ok im 13. i wear a 34 DD. yeah im not fat either. just huge boobs my mom is almost an E! yeah so i need help. my boobs they are big bu they kinna sink and they have the cleave i want my boobs to not sink and much and get like pushed up... my mom wont by me a push up bra either.. soo how can i make my boobs like perfect so when i wear a low cut shirt boys will ... heh you knoww.. (link)
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I think the boys will "heh you know" anyway!
Those perfect boobs all the models have are mostly due to a good photo touch up person. Very few women, in reality, have the "perfect" boobs.
So don't worry about them. They will be fine. :)
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