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Hi there ive had a problem for awhile now and i need some help!
(i am a 19 and my ex is 20)Me and my ex were daten for about a year and a half when he broke up with me 4months ago because he said he didtn love me anymore...well the thing is that he dated a girl right after we broke up and then dumped her cuz he said he couldnt be her bf and my friend at the same time which is lame but anyways...we have hung out and talked on the phone everynite seems they broke up and when we hangout we hold hands a lay together but theres times when we are together that he just looks into my eyes and doesnt look away and i love it. they thing is that i wanna be with him but i dont know how he feels there has been 2 times that i have told him how i feel and both times he just lets me down...about 3weeks ago we were at his house layn together talking bout our lives and stuff and he said that theres no other girl that will take my spot in his heart and that he will never love another girl as mush as me and that when he moves to go to school that he wants us to talk everynite. he said he wants everything stay the same and not change when he moves. when he hugs me he holds on tight and last nite i was over there and theres this guy at the gym that likes me and he knows that and everytime i work out my ex is there to and this guy has asked me out a few times but i dont like him that way and my ex said last nite he wants to beat his a** because hes talking to me...if he didnt like me then y does he want to do that. he has been asked to go to partys with some guys at work and he still hasnt gone...theres girls at work that he thinks are cute and he told his best friend he was going to get there numbers and he has an excuse everytime he doesnt ask for it...im the one girl in his phone that he talks to and he still calls me the cute names he did when we were daten...so im not sure what he wants and what i should do!! please help me!! thank you
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He lied to you. He didn't break up with you because he didn't love you. Whether he loves you or not, it's got nothing to do with the breakup. He broke up with you because he is moving. He knows that long distance relationships are hard and he'd rather have a nice breakup than a really sad one. Sure, it's POSSIBLE that you two wouldn't break up, but the chances are small and you'll have to go through a lot of pain and work really hard to stay together especially after being so close for so long. You need to talk to him about this. Tell him that you know he lied to you about why he broke up with you. You two need to talk about the possibility of a long distance relationship and if it is something that you want, tell him that. Things can be worked out between you two if you want them to be. If you'd rather just go your separate ways, you need to start doing that. You can't hang on to him and miss other opportunities around you. Yes, it's okay to talk to him a lot, but no more intimacy. This really is a big decision for you to make and I hope that you are happy in whatever you choose. Good luck!
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Hes going away to school. He may not want things to change but they will. If he can't commit then you will just have to accept that and move on. He can't just leave you hanging, that isn't fair.
My guess is that he wants to be free to date others when he moves. If it is some distance from you then its only natural he wants to do so.
I think he probably does care about you a lot. May even love you. He sees change coming and may not like it but its going to happen. It can be sad sometimes to leave the comfort of what your used to.
You need to talk to him and honestly see where things stand between you. See what hes thinking.
I'm sorry I couldn't give you a more cheerful answer. I hope it does work out for you. But you may need to start thinking about moving on if things don't change.
Good luck. :)
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