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So i work at a salon and ive been there for a year. The company knows i have epilepsy and they said no worries your fine to work here. However, there have been multiple times where ive felt harassed about it. For instance, One time another co worker was doing my hair and she asked about my scar on top of my head. I said oh thats from my brainsurgery i have epilepsy. She then laughed and said oh i heard those people are unstable... a couple months later i had a seizure at my work. everyone was really supportive of me afterwards but then things got weird really fast. my salon manager told me that they were going to cut one of my days down to 4. I asked why and they said oh just because were in a slow time at the moment. I was like ok. However when ive looked at the schedule no one elses hours were cut and im a full timer and i only have 29 hours. the entire time ive been working for the company my manager has told me countless times that im going to be promoted to assistant manager then it was salon manager then it was business leader. Then they decided to make another girl whos only been here for two months the salon manager. I asked the girl when i was going to get my fifth day back and she replied oh well i dont know bc ive been told you can only work 4 days bc of your epilepsy. I was shocked by that answer..I dont know what to do i feel like they want to get rid of me. None of the other girls want to talk to me either:( Do i call hr?
Companies these days have to have loads of paper documentation and a very good reason to lay someone off. If they feel they have someone they later regret hiring for whatever reasons, they are stuck with that employee because the law will most likely be on the employees side.
I worked in a small company 4 employees including me plus the married couple owners. They had need of a new employee and got a gal who did her work but was a heavy smoker and in our small office of non smokers it was disgusting to have to smell her clothing that reeked strongly of cigarettes, and even though it gave some of us headaches, that was not a good enough reason to fire her.
I would say that your employer is trying to make you miserable enough so that you will just leave and that solves their problem.
An employer can change your hours, and make promises to let you be assistant manager but don't have to come through with it. They can do the same to someone with out a disability for something as simple as they just don't like your personality. While they may be discriminating, it's not easy to prove without documentation.
Companies know they need legal documentation of employee performances good and bad. All of this is documented, signed by both manager and employee and goes into an employee file.
You can complain to officials and tell them that you have no restrictions by doctor against working full time and let them know what actual limitations if any you do have.
I used to be a caregiver and have worked with 3 people who had other issues besides epilepsy, and
none were allowed to operate machinery so they were not able to drive. So there should be legal concerns for your safety and welfare as well as the safety and welfare of others. If the safety or welfare of salon clients in your care was at stake and there was some harm that could come to them if you were to have an episode while working with one, then I could see their concern being valid. It could be that initially they were worried about you with the one episode but after they had time to think about it, wondered about traumatic impact it might have on a customer.
So here's another thought along the lines of safety: If you were using any implement of the trade on a customer at the time of an attack, would there be a possibility of injuring them? If all things fell into place timing wise for that to occur, would the customer be likely to file a lawsuit for damages or injury?
These are the kinds of thoughts someone who knows nothing about epilepsy has. They don't know how often it occurs and how severe and that could be a concern. Have they asked you for details about your epilepsy and what they can do to help when it happens. If they know nothing, they could be making decisions out of fear.
It might be better to talk first to an agency that is an advocate for the legal rights of employee's with medical issues or disabilities. They will be more up on what constitutes discrimination or not in your case and be able to tell you whether to deal with human resources at all, or how to.
If you can't find something on line for your city, ask your doctor if they could point you in the direction of an agency that could help with work related issues and unfairness due to your condition.
I know lady bug larvae won't hurt me, and they eat bad bugs. But they aren't good looking, kind of freak me out, and are all over my room. Probably because it's winter, but it's annoying to be reading a book and find little brown bugs crawling on your curtains. My mom finds them and lets them out the window. I'm pretty sure there are still more. My mom says they'll be red and pretty soon, but does that mean I'll have millions of adult lay bugs making homes in my room, mating and eating the junk food I bring in? Will they make more, and my room will turn into a lady bug hotel?
I am posting a couple links. Outdoors, the ladybugs will do the same as bears and hibernate over winter huddling together under leaves to keep them protected, or if you have built ladybug homes to place in your yard this spring, they will get used to their homes and use these to overwinter in hopefully next year. In fall they begin to look for a warmer place to go. The first link on wikipedia also shares a unique way to remove them from the home using a nylon stocking and hose of your vacumn. You can look up how to make ladybug homes on line and what to do to attract them to these homes, like shallow lids with water no deeper than their height and a couple raisens for food.
I think it would be a great project to make a cheap homemade one for now, gather them, put in a couple raisons and some dried fall leaves for insulation and put the ones you collect into the outdoor home. They have memories of where they go to overwinter so it may take some effect to keep doing this before the majority are successfully staying re located.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harmonia_axyridis
http://www.wikihow.com/Build-a-Ladybug-House
http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/how-to-make-a-ladybug-feeder-attract-them-to-your-garden-169681
When it becomes warm enough outdoors during the day, the ladybugs will vacate the house to go looking for the pest bugs they like to eat in the garden. For at night when its still cooler, you'll want to attract them to the ladybug houses.
There are gardeners who will go to gardening shops or order ladybugs on line for their garden. Usually the ones bought are the native variety that don't tend to want to overwinter indoors. But if a gardener doesnt care what type it is, you might be able to give away or sell your ladys to a neighbor for their garden.
14/f Hi, I'm in the 9th grade and since high school has started, my friends from elementary school are becoming distant and I don't talk to them as much anymore because quite frankly I don't like the way they isolate me... But anyways, I've made a few friends so far but they've never quite stuck with me because I'm shy... How do I continue to make more friends if I'm shy?
I know how you feel. I used to be the same way, maybe even worse.
I used to be so shy I wouldn't get up to use the pencil sharpener in grade school because I didn't want the other kids to stare at me. I refused to do book reports for fear of speaking in front of the class. So my grades would suffer. In contrast, my dad was a very friendly extroverted person and always bringing home new friends he had made. Us kids liked it cus these “uncles” would bring candy for us and many had accents from around the world with lots of interesting stories too.
It took until I was about 16 before I decided I was sick and tired of being so shy. I didn't have the guts to just switch behavior and start talking to other kids first, they had to approach me first.
Strange how I never thought to talk to my dad about that and get help from him. So I prayed and asked God for help (He knows each of us better than anyone ) and here's the answers I got. It sure helped me and I know it will help you. You can skip any steps you already have mastered.
None of this involves using people you already know because you already have some comfort level there For this exercise, you will have to drop the teaching, “Never talk to strangers”. Just use common sense and talk to people in public places where other people are around and don't go off alone with anyone. So here's your lesson.
1. Smile at strangers every day as you come across them. When you are comfortable with this, move on to step 2
2. Smile and add saying hello to people you don't know. This is already harder because your mind will be going, "They're gonna think I'm nuts cus I am saying hi and they dont even know me." When you can do this without feeling awkward or shy, move to step 3. Try practicing this with people also other than your age. Kids in school can be cruel so if thats the case, gain your confidence first with practicing on adults you don't know..like whoever you pass on the street for example.
3. Smile and say hi to and then pay a compliment to another person you don't know. It could be telling the grocery clerk you love her necklace. Keep paying compliments to people until you can do so without being fearful of their reaction or simply the act of doing it. Remember, its not a whole conversation, just a compliment.
4. Smile, say Hi, and start a conversation with a stranger. Here's an example. When I'd be at a clothing rack and another woman was there...no matter her age, I would make a comment to her about the clothing. I'd pull an item off the rack that looked awful and say, "What do you think,doesn't this look uncomfortable to wear? It reminds me of one of those fashions just for show, not practical." Or "Even though I am small, I have a hard time finding things in my size, do you have the same problems finding things that fit you?”
Keep trying statements with a question to get responses from a person. If they don't open up and start responding and sharing some of their story or thoughts, then they are part of the 10 % of people who are hermit like and don't like being around people or talking to them. I took a class that taught about personality types and discovered that 90% of people are very friendly but will not start conversation first. If you can learn to start conversation first, in every situation, you will find that the majority of people respond in a very friendly and supportive way. They won't find the fact that you start talking too weird. Once they figure you're a naturally friendly person you will see them willingly respond back and share bits and pieces of information and such.
I was trying to pick ripe but not over ripe melon one time when an older woman was tapping and listening to the melons. I asked what she was doing and she explained that there is a certain sound it makes when not too over ripe. so I learned something. Later we bump into each other in another aisle, and I say, "Well Hello again!" Her response, "Hello again. Do you use coupons?" "Sometimes." "Do you buy this product," she shows me something in her cart, "Yes I do." "Well I happen to have a coupon for a great deal on it if you'd like," and without waiting for my response reaches into pocket and hands it to me. You'd be amazed at the conversation you could have with people and be able to share helpful info with them or vice versa. And sometimes in the conversing you may find people who you have some things in common with and you decide to keep in touch with and exchange cell numbers and /or get their name for facebook friending. Once you are comfortable with talking to one person, then its a small matter to talk to groups of people.
This should help you. If you have any specific scenerios or stuff you want to go over, you may write me. But I cant answer a second response in the comment line. You need to go to my column and write me from there. Good luck dear.
Hi everyone! I am a Jewish girl, so I guess you know why I am asking this question. :( Is there a way to see what your nose will look like after you go to a doctor to get it fixed? I don't want the surgery if it isn't going to be the perfect nose when I am done! Please help me?
With technology there are ways to guess approximately how something might look after, I've seen it done with haircuts. However as in the hair example, some hair is fine, some thick, some frizzy, and it doesn't matter how the hair is cut, it will not produce the exact results wanted.
There is no 100% guarantee you will get what you imagined and wanted in the end. It will be different, but will YOU like it?
You said girl, not woman. I don't feel young folks should be getting plastic surgery and yet so many do because they feel inferior to what the media portrays as the perfect and attractive, sexy woman. Facial structure in teens can still change quite a bit from now to lets say mid twenties and from there to older adult. I still had a baby face in my early twenties. If your mind is set on getting it done, then at least wait until you are older to see if you reconsider. Once I grew into my face, my big 'jewish' nose didn't seem to be as big a deal anymore. Another thing, I gained self confidence too.
If the reason you are having it done is because you feel that with your current nose you are not as attractive to men, think again. What one person considers to be a "too large" nose is actually a matter of personal taste, same as one's preference in the hair color or height of someone in the opposite sex, etc.
Two popular actresses right off the bat that come to mind are Barbra Streisand and Sarah Jessica Parker, both with large prominent 'jewish' looking noses. It never stopped them from being considered beautiful.
What men find more attractive in woman than their looks is self confidence. Their are happy and content with their looks, they know what they want out of life and what they want in a guy and they won't settle for less. They have a great mind. They know they won't appeal to 100% of the men out there but they know they can catch the eye of a good majority of them.
I have the jewish nose, am in my mid fifties and still catch the eyes of many men no matter where I go.
My vote is that you keep the beautiful nose you've been given. At the least, study makeup tricks to make it appear smaller such as when you want to wear your hair up and don't have the hair down to keep things in balance.
I've read that Anne Hathaway has a large nose but it doesn't stick out because she has overly large eyes and thick eyebrows to balance things out.
Find ways to create balance and you'll be fine.
My boyfriend and i planning to have sex but i'm afraid that it will be painfull. We both are virgin and i don't know what should i do.
I am from india
I'm 16years
All females have a hymen, a strip of skin alongside one or both sides of the vagina. The skin stretches over time like elastic, but like an elastic rubber band that can rip if you pull it too far too fast, the hymen can tear which causes pain.
But it's not necessary. You can avoid that problem by using lots of personal lubrication. I don't know what they sell in India but in the US we have brands like K-Y jelly, JO lube and Astroglide to name a few. Its important you use one made specifically safe to use with condoms because some oils and lubricants will break down the latex of condom or possibly irritate or give the girl an infection. Along with the lubrication, he must enter slowly, an inch at a time at your okay. It gives you a chance to slowly adjust to his size and have control over the process. The only other thing that can really cause pain is if the boy doesnt take enough time to get you sexually aroused in foreplay first. When the female is not aroused, her vagina length is about 3 or 4 inches long. An average length penis is 5,6 or 7 inches which is longer than the vagina. If aroused, the uterus contracts and pulls upwards, lengthening the vagina to be able to fit an average size penis. The pain that occurs is if the female isnt aroused enough, or the male is too long for her even when aroused and this pain is caused by the tip of the penis hitting too hard against her cervix. The cervix is the entrance to the uterus and is located at the end of the vagina. If you use your fingers, it feels like the end of your nose, like something with light cartilage in it.
Other than avoiding pain, you need to go with the best method to avoid pregnancy. A condom is great against disease protection. But if it rips or slides off, etc...the girl can become pregnant. It is good to have another back up plan such as the girl taking personal lubes.a birth control such as the pill which must be taken daily for a while before sex to build up protection in her body. In the US there are clinics females can go to for any sexual related needs, birth control, infections, pregnancy tests, etc. I don't know what India has but you could check around on that.
Lastly, a person who wants to learn how to bake, studies baking, one who wishes to sew clothing studies sewing, you want to have sex and enjoy it, study sex. With attaining knowledge on it, its more likely that you will have an enjoyable time pleasing each other.
Here's a link to a video to help towards the part of studying.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WVL_GudwAOI
I am traveling and I need to mail something, but I don't want to get stuck downtown in a major city I don't know. Is there an app or a site that lets you find a mailbox near you?
I've done this before when new to a city. I just did a search for Location of mailboxes. (or put US postal mailboxes) in CITY, STATE. You should get a list of addresses where there is a mailbox you can drop off letter. If you have a package to mail that won't fit in a slot like a letter, then do a search for locations of US post offices in city, state. You put your city and the state.
And then I took the addresses I wasn't sure of where those were and put them in Google maps with the address of where I was currently at and got to see which were closest. Maybe not as easy as an app. I dont know if an app exists...but my way worked for me.
I'm pretty young. But when I grow up I wanna be an actress/dancer/singer etc. I know it's pretty ambitious, but I think I could make it. I understand it's a lot of hard work, but I love acting, and singing, and dancing. Some people say I'm good at it. Other people look at me enviously. Theatre is my passion, but, I'm a normal girl, with a normal family and normal background. I live in a town with nothing REALLY special about it, I'm not that rich, or popular (not that I care about popularity I DON'T) so, is it possible for an average girl to be a big time star?
Is it possible? Yes of course it is. Famous people come from all sorts of places, small towns, farms, etc... How they got from small town to Hollywood, I can't say but heres a link with stars and the towns they are from.
http://perezhilton.com/galleries/the-simple-life-celebs-who-lived-or-grew-up-in-small-towns/?id=386510#sthash.FDPb6hY0.dpbs
http://www.teen.com/2012/06/10/celebrities/celebrities-from-small-towns/
Can you buy guns on-line? If so, where do you go to buy them?
put in a search for 'purchase guns on line" and you will get several hits.
One is easy to remember:
http://www.gunsonline.com/index.php/
Each state has some different regulations regarding sales of guns. Some have waiting periods, some require proof of having taken a gun safety course as a prerequisite to making a purchase. I believe all purchases must be registered so a gun can be tracked to its owner in case of its use in something unlawful. So on line purchasing wouldn't be a way to side step that.
Well I ended up cutting my own hair to make it equal because I had one side which was longer than the other apart from that it was very damaged , extremely !! The front is way too short than the back I think I messed my hair up and iv been really down about it ( cut my hair today ) , would it grow back the same length? I want my hair to grow back quickly too ah please any advice
Everyone's hair regrows at different rates. I've not heard of a way to speed it up. I am sure you can do something to make sure your hair grows at its own optimal rate what ever that is. Don't stress the hair by over washing like every day with shampoo. Its okay to get wet in shower by try for using shampoo less as it strips the hairs natural oils which make it healthier. Try shampooing every other day or every third day as I do. Unless you have extremely oily hair, this is very do able.
Massage your scalp all over with fingertips, really pressing hard enough to feel a tingle all over. This encourages blood flow to the hair follicles. Try not to use heat on hair or as little as possible. Make sure to eat as healthy as possible and take vitamins.
These are tricks to make it grow faster but to be real healthy so it will grow as fast as possible for your body.
Regarding the cut you have now, with higher in front and lower in back, theres nothing wrong with that. I used to cut my own hair to look like that on purpose, an angle cut that started at or just below my jaw line and went downward at an angle towards the back. If you think the angle isn't a smooth straight line which is hard to do on yourself and get it even on each side, and you're trying to save the money of having a professional do it for you, then try a beauty school, they need people to be subjects for the students to work on. Just let them know you don't want it shorter, just a few snips to make the angle cut more smooth. Then stop worrying and let it grow back on its own.
http://www.ehow.com/how_6608566_massage-face-rid-acne.html
i was looking online for acne remedies and i was eager to try this because its quite new to me and i want to see if it works but i dont understand the instructions :(
*can someone explain how it might work?
*can someone explain how to do it with images or possibly a video?
*thank you :)
p.s in the link there are instructions on how to do a facial massage to get rid of acne :)
I looked under acne massage but it isn't found separately because any kind of facial massage will help. One should be energizing and encourage good blood flow to the head and face. So heres a video on that.
http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-give-yourself-an-energizing-facial-massage
I believe that we have problems throughout our body when the lymphatic glands are not working well enough to remove toxins from the body. There are massages that address massaging the lymph glands, that should help with any face related issues.
And for the actual lymphatic massage, I like the video by a non professional because she made it easy. I followed along and my face was tingling with blood flow after just a few strokes when she recommends 25 reps on each piece. So its not complicated or time consuming and this is probably the best massage you can do for acne. give it a try and let me know how it goes for you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Tqbfz_HBWc
After such a massage, drinking lots of good water is important. And along with this, a healthier diet is important as well. There is no such thing as one technique or change that will get totally rid of acne, but several different things.
I am writing a story, and I have cast the villain as a German girl, but none of the names I have tried sound right for her. Can you give me some German names you think are villainous, or point me to like a complete list of all German last names? Pretty please? :)
Here's a listing of German surnames and English meanings.
http://mayageddon.tripod.com/German_Surnames.html
It might be easier to come up with the English words to describe her and then translate to German for a unique but sinister name.
For example, the name of the Famous cartoon Ogre, Shrek is tranlated in German to scare. Because that was his job as an ogre, to scare people.
Here's a translator
http://translation2.paralink.com/English-German-Translation/
The translation for example of the word 'villainous' to German is "schurkisch". pronounced shirk-ish. So have fun and play with it.
I have been in a relationship with my wonderful boyfriend for over 3 years. I am still very very in love with him. BUT, i am in love with Demi Lovato. She makes me question my sexuality. Sometimes when I masterbate I think of her, and I dream about her constantly. Yes I know she is a singer, but if she ever wanted to hook up with me I would do her in a heartbeat. I've watched porn ever since I was 10 and I always watch lesbian or gay porn. IDK why. I've always been attracted to boys ever since i was in pre school but I did experiment on girls in the 4th grade. Before I got into a relationship with my love, I used to look girls up on Facebook and check their profiles. I love my boyfriend so much, but i'm scared that I'm bi. And if I am, I'm scared to tell him. Please help me. Is Demi Lovato just an extreme girl crush?
If it was only her, then I would say it was a crush on her as you guessed. However you did state that you've always had a fascination, strong enough to not just glance at girls but look them up on facebook and check out their prhave great ofiles and the watching of lesbian porn.
Were you influenced by watching lesbian porn? I don't think so. In my lifetime I've seen a lot and can say that as a straight female, nothing has been able to sway me from finding just straight males sexually attractive. I have even experimented with another st araight female to give each other pleasure. I can say there was a certain satisfaction in being able to do so when so many men I find have a problem doing the same. But did I have a deep desire inside sexually of being attracted to her and wanting sex with other females? NO, and neither did she. We could do it cus we were close enough, trusted each other and were curious. It is possible to be pretty much straight but at some point one female comes along and you only develop some of those kinds of feelings for just that one. I've heard that from others. Usually though, if a female is bi-sexual, she is attracted to only one male and can be attracted sexually to many females. I had a girlfriend like that once. She was married and took me and hubby to a club where people of any sort of sexual orientation could meet each other. It was mostly bi's and straight people. I got a chance to talk to several of the husbands over dinner while their wives were busy dancing with other females and being sexual on the dance floor, the men were not into other women and made that clear as I was just chatting. They came along to be supportive of their wives.
So honey, its nothing to be embarassed about. Its part of who you are. Pretending to be something or someone you are not isn't going to last for long and the strain of pretending is very stressful to you. I must advise you to find a way to be truthful and tell him if you are in love as you say and there seems to be a possibility of a long term future with him. Surprises like this later are harder to deal with. But then some of the gals I got stories from, didn't really acknowledge or discover this about themselves until after they were married.
For some reason, guys find the idea of two girls together sexually a great turn on. I don't think there are many men who would have a problem with it. They might be surprised and need a little time to get their minds around the idea, but if you are okay with yourself being that way, and not apologetic but just being factual, sharing the actual facts, he should be able to handle it.
It would be a rare thing for a guy to feel jealous of you being sexual with another female. Another male, yes. A female, probably not unless he was very insecure to begin with.
If you are still a teen and not an adult, you don't have to say anything quite yet as far as I'm concerned cus you're both not adults yet nor moving out to live your own lives. When you are 20 or so and still feel the same way and are still together with him, then have the conversation. And of course tell him the sexual attractions are there, but that you have not met any girl and had an actual physical relationship with her. But the possibility is there and you need him to understand that it most likely will happen at some point in the future. Some women are bi-curious. And once they've have their experiences, they discover it was more curiousity than actual sexual desire for female that had them going. But that's an important thing to discover.
Why is it so popular for girls to look constipated or like they're eating their sweater/necklace, or make a duck face in pictures? Or the ones where they take their smartphone and stand infront of the mirror, taking pictures looking at the display of their smartphone and not even at the camera? I understand that you maybe want your full body to be on the picture but why look at the display when you're taking it?
Wherever I go, I see these pictures on facebook/instagram etc.
I personally don't know why they're so popular. I mean there is nothing really beautiful about making a weird face, like you're either smelling something bad or have to go to the bathroom.
Yes, some of these girls do have a pretty face, but why make these weird expressions instead of just smiling or at least have a normal facial expression? ._. I don't mean to offend anyone who does this but where did this trend come from and why is it so incredibly popular?
Why is it even considered to be attractive and what's so attractive about it? Maybe I'm just weird and can't see it .. When I'm hanging out with friends and have this sort of facial expression I get asked if everything is okay with me. So why is it so incredibly normal to take pictures like this? ._. This is a serious question, I don't mean to rant but I'd really want to know where this came from.
Well, for one thing, if it wasn't for the technology of today that put cell phones with image taking abilities in them, we would not have this phenomenon.
Before camera phones, was the digital camera. I never thought to take a 'Selfie' as a self taken photo on cells is called, at least never thought to do it with an actual digital camera by just holding it out as far away as my arm could go. My digital camera had instructions which were difficult to follow and remember to use the timer and then go pose in place to take a photo of yourself.....the original selfie that was taken by yourself but using a timer not your finger on the button. Now I had done that but found it frustrating, never got quite rightly centered in the photo and took probably 25 shots and came away with 4 I felt were artistically pleasing to the eye and a very flattering representation of me. It was a very time consuming process and quite frustrating for me. I am in my fifties and husband and I have taken selfie shots of the two of us to post to show family, us with the woods we were hiking in or recently in a snow flurry. There was no third person to take the photo. If there was, I'd go for that but I use it to record a piece of our life. In fact, we'll take several and hubby who isn't photo-genic to begin with will toss out certain ones as not 'postable to facebook'. We always use the ones in which we look the least goofy or weird but still looks like us, not the most flattering angle shot maybe but still a good representation of what we really look like. I know only a few people use it more artistically as I do. I am one of the few who want it attractive as you do. I and hubby are both very artistic people. So we have to like our finished piece and see some value in it beyond it just being another quick instant shot of ourselves.
Here's one really good article on selfies and how and why the writer believes it came to be so popular.
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/10/20/sunday-review/my-selfie-myself.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0
It has actually been said that selfies help with young girls self esteem. I know that some people might have harsh comments on a selfie photo but when I see the comments on my facebook page of someones selfie, the majority are always extremely positive. Low self image and comparing theirselves to the images portrayed to us of celebrities in the media, those are unrealistic. We can never obtain those looks. So when girls can feel comfortable and good about themselves when posting the 'duck face' type of photos of themselves, I say that's a step in the right direction.
The next step would be as they become adults is to feel good about themselves, and confident before ever getting facebook, twitter or instagram feedback on themselves.
Can it become an addiction for a person? I suppose it could. Anyone can over do too much of anything. However overdoing selfies, I don't find as harmful as over doing drinking or pot or gambling, etc.....
You raised an interesting serious question and I enjoyed putting in my thoughts about it.
Piece of advice from me, some one who finds most selfies stupid, dorky etc.... just skim over and ignore them. You don't need to make a comment if you find them disgusting. My niece has recently colored her black hair fire engine red, purple, and other colors and keeps re dyiing it and posting selfies of the results. I personally find them hideous so I make no comment at all.
I only comment on any I find personally attractive for my tastes. Everyone has different tastes in things. Thats a given. I only comment on ones that I like because I want to be truthful and also give supportive or uplifting compliments. If I can't say something that will be positive, then I follow the advice from Walt Disney's Bambi movie in which Thumper says that his mom said, "If you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all."
How do you find out what your last name means? There is a girl in my class from Germany and another from Ukraine and they both know, or say they know what their last name really used to mean a long time ago. Can a Canadian find out what their name meant back through history, or is that info gone forever?
You can do the research yourself on line. Put in the name and see if you can find first a country of origin. Perhaps the name is connected to the French language, or maybe somewhere from the UK, English, Welsh, Scottish and once you discover country of origin, its easier to do a search under just names of that country.
Some of it is obvious, such as a last name of Miller means that somewhere way back in time, ancestors of yours earned a living by running a mill and grinding grain all day long. Others who have last names reflecting their occupation are Smith for a blacksmith working with metals, or Wheeler, for a person who used to make wagon wheels.
In some countries people used to pass on the first name of the father as the last name of the child. This is called Patronymic's. And other versions of that exist. I believe there are some countries that still do that. An example might be a father named Donald McNeil has a son whom he names Kevin. Kevin's last name would be Donald.
I particularly like how some names evolved from this practice such as son of (dad's name here) in the case of Dads first name being Evan, the childs last name was ab Evan meaning of Evan. In later times the a was dropped and the last name became Bevan or Bevin. The study of history of names is very fascinating.
Here's a link to dictionary example of this.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/Patronymic
I have had opportunity to study Welsh history lately and find that by the 1600's most people decided they would no longer give dads first name as the last name of the children. Now they had to decide what last name to take for the family. Sometimes they decided dads current last name would also be passed on to the kids. Other's decided to choose a last name from the area they lived in. So some last names were the names of towns and regions.
If you find you are having difficulty finding where to start your search, then ask your local librarian for help in sources to browse through.
For a computer search try the phrase "Origin and history of the surname (Put your last name here). You may have to break it up into two pieces such as an example of the name Einfeld. In German, ein means one. And feld means field. So the name is One field. Perhaps an ancestor wasn't a very rich farmer and only owned one field.
Some names translated can really have you confused as to how they came to be such as actor Arnold Scwarzennegger. His name (another german name) literally translated as said means Black Negro, but in todays more politically correct language, "Black man". Makes me wonder if somewhere back in his lineage there is also some Black blood.
Have fun doing your research!
Hi! I'm a teenage girl, and i'm in my first serious relationship. He is a great guy, but i'm confused... He was kissing me once and started kissing my neck and then kissed me again with more force, and i got this really weird feeling in between my legs, like it felt hot down there. What does that mean?! I'm confuse,d i think i know what it is but i'm not sure. Please help
His kissing of you was turning you on. When a female is turned on, whether it ever leads to sex or not, her body is going to go through some changes to prepare itself just in case.
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You will feel tingly or hot. Whats happening is that your parts down there are becoming engorged with blood just as the males penis does. You also can feel wetter there and some of the lubrication your vagina is creating can leak out and dampen your panty. This is all normal.
No one, not parents, not schools do any sex education anymore it seems. So I can understand your not knowing and being confused.
But Hon, this place of knowing next to nothing about your own sexuality let alone his, is a recipe for disaster such as becoming a pregnant teen. I am not saying teens shouldn't explore or have sex but they need to be fully informed before going down that road.
I suggest you do some self studies on learning first about the female anatomy and the physiology of it. Then learn how a female becomes pregnant and learn about the male anatomy.
For example, do you know anything about your hymen, the real facts about it? Do you know the proper care for your vagina when it comes to cleaning? There's a load of important things to study up on and learn if you don't want any problems or any unneeded worries about what your body is going through.
If you do want to get started, let me know, I can share some web links and you can always try the library for books on the subject. If you contact me, go to my column and write me from there.
For exam
I am obsessed with an old movie from the 80s. "The Last Starfighter" which they showed on tv last week. I loved it so much I stayed up until 3am when it was going to be on again! The last time I bought a dvd of an old movie like this it was very bad quality and had no extras except the trailer. Does anyone know if this is a good version they put on DVD and does it have enough special features to make it worth getting, or should I just stream it on Amazon when I need a fix?
That is a favorite of mine too. I know that the qualities of sharpness and such in filming have changed greatly. They can only enhance older films so much from the original. It probably depends a lot on the particular movie itself. Just because an old movie that used to be in VCR tape form is now being put on DVD form doesnt mean its going to be a better quality.
I once saw a documentary on movies and how they are saved or preserved. There is a vault or perhaps several vaults where the originals of any movie ever made are archived. I would suppose that copies made from movies are going to be in whatever condition the archived version is. It was some time ago so I don't remember many details but conditions of the vaults are carefully controlled so that older films don't deteriorate and I believe that pretty much all the reel to reel old films have now a master copy in DVD version to save the film for generations into the future.
If you buy any DVD's make sure there is a return policy if you don't like the quality. Unless something went very wrong in the making of the copy you had, they're all going to be about the same quality. I can usually tell the decade of a movie by the style of dress and the quality of the film. Watching online is a good way to see any favorite older movies. Thats how I watch all my movies. We don't own a TV cus we don't watch anything else.
Hi, I was wondering... (I'm kind of embarrassed) How can you tell if your boyfriend is turned on besides an erection? What are the signs while hes kissing etc. Thanks!
Teen boys are plagued with many many erections all day long for no particular reason at all. And then there are the times that the sight of a pretty girl or being near her, talking to her is enough for an erection, so you can't count on an erection meaning that he's really into you and likes your personality and spending time with you. It can mean he is turned on sexually by you.
However, you may not be able to count on that for sure with some men once they get a bit older. I've read articles and I know from experience that many men who didn't have erections were still turned on by the female. It may be that he needs a more emotional connection before his body follows suit.
You are mentioning an obvious sign of a guy being turned on such as wanting to kiss and touch you. Other signs while kissing? Do you mean to think that a guy could be kissing the girl and not be turned on? Nope. A guy is not going to even want to kiss a girl if he is not physically attracted to her. Guy's are into faking passionate kisses or anything else like that.
If its the subtle early signs that a guy might be attracted to you that you want, then let me know by going to my column and writing me from there.
Whenever I want to pay for him or get him something he says no or pulls out his money before I can. He buys me gifts, chocolates, flowers and stuff and always wants to pay everything for me. A Couple of times we even had arguments that he should let me pay sometimes but he tells me that he loves me so much and I mean a lot to him and its his responsibility to take care of me. I felt so sweet about it but I feel bad at times that I am wasting his money.
Once when we went out I picked up a shirt for him and before I could take my purse out he got the billing done with his card. The other day we went out with a couples dine out and in the end they all shared the bill but my bf payed for both of us, I felt so embarrassed at that time. I feel like I should pay for something when we go out, but he always wants to pay. We both are students and both of us have part time jobs.
I'm not sure if I am doing the right thing by telling him no when he asks or should I just graciously accept when he offers. I don't want to continue saying no if it is making him feel less manly?
There's women with issues lots worse than yours, consider yourself lucky that this is the worst of it.
Reality is. . . men get paid more than women in almost every job. Thats just the way it is, so it is much more practical for a guy to cover most if not all costs incurred, as long as he can truly afford to pay for everything.
He may have been raised this way, that if there is a female who is very special to you, you take care of her in all ways and never let her pay her way. To protest this would be to question the way his parents raised him.
With most married couples, the finances are no longer mine and yours but ours and it doesn't matter whose income contributes more, they decide together on what major purchases are made, decide together on a budget and pay out of combined funds. There is no reason why an unmarried young man in love can't do this for his girl. Maybe he's practicing for later when he's married.
And now this brings me to the fact he said he loves you. All people have a dominant way of showing another person how much they love them. There are 5 major love languages. I will post a link here. It might be something you want him to look at. If you decide that the "Giving of Gifts" is your main way of showing love, let he know. If so, this is one instance in which I would highly suggest to him that he allow you to surprise him with an occasional gift you purchase him to surprise him, or for birthday, valentines day or something to add to a collection he had, lets say he collects baseball hats, or books on wars in history. Its not what you spend on him that counts as gift giving as a love language, it's the thought behind it and it would no longer be a gift if he insists on reimbursing you the cost of the gift. That is a no-no in this case. You may want to pick up the book and read it in any spare time or to each other. This is helpful information to know for this relationship or if it so happens, for any future ones.
http://marriage.about.com/cs/communicationkeys/a/lovelanguage.htm
Hey guys, I'm 19 and female. My best friend is 20 and male. I went out the other night to a party (please spare the whole speech about that). I texted him and asked if he wanted to meet me at the party because I just wanted him there, he said definitely so I told him the address and he met me there in about ten minutes. He called me to let me know he was there and I went outside to get him, I hugged him to say hi and he hugged back. I brought him inside, he got a drink and we were hanging out. He went off to talk to some guys for a bit and when he came back, I was making out with some guy. He let it happen and everything but when I get drunk, I get a little emotional and I'm going through some weird stuff right now so I'm known to have panic attacks. So, I started crying. My roommate told me that he was the only one who could get me to stop crying and having a panic attack. When I did stop crying, he would take my hand and just be there for me, talking to me and telling me everything was okay because he was there. My friend that I went out with that night has a GoPro and he likes filming parties at school because he's making a montage video of his freshman year. We were later looking back at some footage he took and there was one that I don't remember but my best friend was just holding me, I was in his arms and his hands were down on my waist. It looked like, to us, that we were the only two people in the room. My roommate also told me that he had to carry me out to the car when we left because I couldn't walk. (I was a shit show that night, I already know, don't judge me). He then walked home because there wasn't room for him in the car and when we got back, he was waiting there and got me inside and upstairs.
Now, all of this, you might be thinking "wow, girl, he totally loves you." Well, he's got a girlfriend.. yea, weird, huh? I was talking to him the other night and he told me that he didn't tell his girlfriend anything that happened that night because she is already intimidated by me and he doesn't want her to get upset at what happened and he said out of common courtesy to me, he won't tell anyone that wasn't there to see it themselves.
All of my best friends said that night was so weird, I was with him all night and when I wasn't, I'm told that I was asking for him. They said it was weird, too that he was the only one that could make me feel better. My best girl friend has diagnosed anxiety so I know she would be able to talk me down from a panic attack but for some reason, he's the only one that I wanted that night and he was there for me all night.
Aside from that night, he still is always there for me. We hang out in my room all the time, we have weekly applebees dates where we go for karaoke night, we also have weekly tv dates where out favorite show comes on and we can't fathom watching it without each other.
Please, tell me what you think about this. My friends and I think it's weird that he wouldn't just explain to his girlfriend that I got drunk and he took care of me. They also think it's weird, like I said, that he was the only one to make me feel better and that when I did need him, he was there. I even texted him the next morning that there was no amount of apologizing that I could do to make that night better and he said "you did nothing wrong, you were fine, I had fun, the night was great, don't even think about apologizing." My friends think we exceed best friend behavior but even if we do, he has a girlfriend so, it's like, nothing can go beyond that.
Please tell me what you think. Thanks.
First off, I'm glad adviceman49 said something about cramming many people in one car, more than there are selt belts. From an experience of sliding off the highway to end up car on its side in a ditch, due to ice even while going slow and being careful, I can say, you just never expect something like that. We we're all wearing seat belts. My preschooler and kindergartner were a little scared but one year old in her car seat was still sucking her thumb oblivious to what happened. Park elsewhere, bring umbrellas if needed and walk...get a little fresh air and exercise...its good for you. Or have the drivers go back for the cars and drive them up to the entrance of the place for their passengers to get in.
So what do I think about you, and best friend and what other friends are saying? I get a lot of girls writing in who have a male as their best friend but have similar issues. Some feel jealous when he starts dating. For others the guy is crazy about her, always has been, but she has relegated him to the 'friend zone' and hasn't picked up on the clues that he has feelings for her. So he eventually gets himself a 'girlfriend' for dating but is only half hearted in the relationship cus the one he wants he doesnt have.
What do these types of relationship have in common? Often its the fact that neither felt the fireworks or sparks the moment they first laid eyes on each other. So they think there is no possibility of romance, just friendship. However some relationships have love that grows slowly over time. My question to you is, are you 100% sure that you don't have feelings for him or him for you. You both may love each other and not realize it.
Remember, I am just supposing and imagining here:
Imagine if a week from now your best friend married. His wife now becomes one of his top priorities, there are usually 3 top priorities for a guy, among them his job, school, family, guy friends, sports/exercise and his girl or wife. Job and school are usually the priority along with his girl. That means friends, even best friends take a lower priority and if he ever had to move due to a job, you might not see him at all anymore.
Lets say this was for real....SO
Can you live with that?
Would your world be dull and lonely and fall apart without him around?
If so, you might be in love. He may mean more to you than you are willing to admit. More than best friends.
Your friends are seeing something that you are not. They might be just playing matchmaker cus its fun. But often, its a feeling, an energy, between you two that others are picking up on that makes them notice in the first place.
Don't let yourself use that fact that he has a girlfriend, to keep you from looking deeper at this.
His girl friend may be a serious thing, but she may just be there to pass the time for him. Obviously she knows you are the best friend. She knows a good thing when she see's it. So she latches onto him but she picks up on the same stuff your other friends sense so she knows that you are competition even though you don't know that.
So what possibility could a guy have for not sharing this piece of information with a girlfriend, lets say,even if he shares everything else? I am guessing he wouldn't if he thinks saying something would bring up a fight or make her upset. It could take just a look in her eyes or on her face when he's mentioned you before that tell him she would be jealous or angry so it would be stupid to mention his helping you out that night and risk stirring up a hornets nest.
You could try to have a talk if you realize that you do have deep feelings for him. You won't know if there could be romance if you don't do something and try by flirting, and you could ask if he has feelings for the other girl. You dont want to be kicking yourself in the future for never finding out one way or the other.
can anyone sugest a good killer name i need one for my story
My idea is to look up the names of prisons or their locations to use for names.
A good first name might be after the prison San Quentin.
And variations would be Quenten, Quinton, Quintus. I actually know someone whose first name is Quintus. So it stands out as being different and folks from hearing the names of famous prisons may easily make a connection in their mind to someone bad.
You can do an online search for more prison related names by doing a search for "prison names" or 'famous prison names'. Good luck.