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having sex with my boyfriend
My boyfriend and i planning to have sex but i'm afraid that it will be painfull. We both are virgin and i don't know what should i do.
I am from india
I'm 16years
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I would say you are young for this decision but that is not why you are here! Being that you are a virgin there is no doubt that there will be some pain but their is a way it could be a little less painful
1. Lubrication
This will make the entrance of his penis a little easier
2. Take it easy
Make sure to just take it slow and not rush into the act
And this wont be about what you asked but i do hope you are sure of this decision and that he is worthy of being your first partner
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Your a virgin and it's going to hurt but it will be replaced with pleasure Also think do you want to have sex this is one of your big moments of your life are you ready for this? If you are remember to use a condom you don't want any children running around do you!
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Sex will be painful for you since you're only 16 and your body is still growing.
Besides that, make sure you're ready. If you really do plan on going through with this, make sure you actually want to lose your virginity to him.
Make sure you're on birth control and using condoms. You don't want to get pregnant so use protection.
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The others have answered your question. I have a question for you.
From what I know of your country and its religious traditions. There is a great deal of emphasis put on a women being a virgin when she married. Have you given any thought of what you are going to do or say to the man who wants you to be his wife if he is a more traditional man and is looking for a virgin?
The real problem here is that this is the quintessential two sided coin. Your boyfriend is the typical teenage male with raging hormones who wants sex. He like all other males in other countries is defining love as lust. Where you define love as it is defined in the dictionary. He may be saying to you if you love me you will have sex with me. This is not love this is lust.
Looking forward in a few years when he is ready to marry he will not look at you as someone to marry as he may see you as damaged if he becomes a more traditional adult male which is very possible.
I urge you to stop and think about who you are and what the culture of your community is before you decide to have sex. I know for a fact, having once been a 16 year old male, that he is more lustful than in love. So the question is for you to decide if having sex now will ruin your chances for marriage later? If you lived here in the U.S. I would be thinking differently, possibly.
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All females have a hymen, a strip of skin alongside one or both sides of the vagina. The skin stretches over time like elastic, but like an elastic rubber band that can rip if you pull it too far too fast, the hymen can tear which causes pain.
But it's not necessary. You can avoid that problem by using lots of personal lubrication. I don't know what they sell in India but in the US we have brands like K-Y jelly, JO lube and Astroglide to name a few. Its important you use one made specifically safe to use with condoms because some oils and lubricants will break down the latex of condom or possibly irritate or give the girl an infection. Along with the lubrication, he must enter slowly, an inch at a time at your okay. It gives you a chance to slowly adjust to his size and have control over the process. The only other thing that can really cause pain is if the boy doesnt take enough time to get you sexually aroused in foreplay first. When the female is not aroused, her vagina length is about 3 or 4 inches long. An average length penis is 5,6 or 7 inches which is longer than the vagina. If aroused, the uterus contracts and pulls upwards, lengthening the vagina to be able to fit an average size penis. The pain that occurs is if the female isnt aroused enough, or the male is too long for her even when aroused and this pain is caused by the tip of the penis hitting too hard against her cervix. The cervix is the entrance to the uterus and is located at the end of the vagina. If you use your fingers, it feels like the end of your nose, like something with light cartilage in it.
Other than avoiding pain, you need to go with the best method to avoid pregnancy. A condom is great against disease protection. But if it rips or slides off, etc...the girl can become pregnant. It is good to have another back up plan such as the girl taking personal lubes.a birth control such as the pill which must be taken daily for a while before sex to build up protection in her body. In the US there are clinics females can go to for any sexual related needs, birth control, infections, pregnancy tests, etc. I don't know what India has but you could check around on that.
Lastly, a person who wants to learn how to bake, studies baking, one who wishes to sew clothing studies sewing, you want to have sex and enjoy it, study sex. With attaining knowledge on it, its more likely that you will have an enjoyable time pleasing each other.
Here's a link to a video to help towards the part of studying.
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First off. Make sure you are both very ready. Also make sure to use alot of lube
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