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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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Im a 15 year old girl. I went to my friends party it was our last day of 8th grade. Her friend from Michigan city came by. We started talking and he asked me for my number. We are both 15. We've been talking every day since then. Its only been like two weeks. He asked me if i would do a long distance relationship. I dont know what to do can you help me??
Long distance relationships don't work, It's just reality.
You are only 15, You are you and so is he.
I was in a long distance relationship for 5 years and to be honest? I would of much rather have met someone local then to carry on into something that simply wasn't gonna work. I met him when I was 17, The traveling was stressful and before I knew it, It was becoming a pricey habit. Trust plays a huge role. While any relationship needs its trust, Long distance relationships are 5x more harder to maintain.
You see, Being apart in a relationship (long distance) is not a true commitment. You cannot spend one on one with each other and grow a strong bond. Online is fantasy, It is not real. The time will fade, You will grow apart, You will borh mature and find you have new interest. He just isn't the one for you, Even if you both find you have chemistry, It is still not a real relationship. It will not work
I m weak and have been being called that for 20 years I can't take it I'm ready to leave this place nobody likes me I give people my last an I'm always the one being hurt I fuck hat myself
There is a difference here
You're not weak, You are likely sensitive and caring towards others feelings.
If you are referring to weak in terms of standing up for yourself, My friend In this word today we must stand up for ourselves to avoid being hurt. People sometimes take advantage of the ones who are too kind to others. I am not saying become an arrogant asshole. I am saying when it comes to defending yourself we need to learn to stand our ground.
Honestly, It really is a bit hard for me to relate to you. I am the opposite, I have no problem telling someone to fuck off when they have crossed the line. I can relate in terms that my husband is the same way as what I explained.
In life we learn who and who shouldn't be in our lives. We also grow to learn that after so much bullshit from people, We need to up the tolerance for others so we don't get crapped on again. It is a bit hard to give my best too you as there is no detail to what you mean by weak but my advice is to learn to stand up for yourself! Never let people walk on you.
Hello Good day,
I would like to ask something about taking oral contraceptives. I had been using bcp for 3 years now just this month of May I switched to a different brand from trust pills to althea. Because of switching to a different pill brand I took 2 pills everyday cause I'm afraid that I might get pregnant. My boyfriend and I never use condom ever since now I'm just a little worried because usually I have my period on the fourth and fifth day off the pill. It's my sixth day off the pill and still I don't get my period though I'm experiencing some symptoms that it's going to come but still I'm worried. Can taking two pills everyday affect the cycle of your menstruation? Please I need some advice on this. Thank You!
I can only answer part of this question as I am not a doctor.
Anytime you have sex, You are at risk for getting pregnant. It doesn't matter how many pills you take. If you are so worried then why aren't you using a condom? It would be smart to use one!
As far as mixing medications, No.
I don't know the medications your mixing and although each medication has a different reaction on different people, Let me explain something ...
I accidentally mixed pills a few years ago. I ended up slipping into a seizure and my blood pressure dropped. Thanksfully my neighbor was a nurse and was able to flush it out of my system. You never mix medication without a doctors consent as it can be dangerous or even deadly.
Umm My 15 year old son asked me if he could give his Virginity to me And I don't know what to say to him ......
You tell him "No"
Having sexual relations with family is considered incest abd it is illegal and 100% wrong!
This is concerning your son would even ask such a thing, Perhaps take him to a therapist who can help him...
I am a 17 year old boy. I have been with my girlfriend for about 5 months now. When we first started dating, she was really into me but I was still a bit iffy, which probably was a mistake. Since then, she has really fallen in love with me and tells me often, but I don't quite feel the same way. I do love her and care about her a lot, but just don't feel as good about the relationship as I used to. The only thing is, dating me took her out of a deep struggle of depression which included lots of self-harm. She is very happy to be with me, but I am scared that I am her only sense of happiness and breaking up with her will send her back into depression and she may hurt herself, or worse. The one time we discussed breaking up, she cut herself, but then regretted it and told me she would never do it again. But still. What do I do? I feel pressured to stay in the relationship, and I am still not 100% sure if I want it to end.
As harsh as it may sound, She is a burden to you. Her depression and self harm is something that needs to be addressed professionally, You cannot fix it.
You're obviously unhappy and you need to put yourself first, Nit sacrifice yourself for the sake of others. As you hold onto thread, You will burn yourself out trying to put 100% while she is mentally able to give back 50% at this time.
If she hurts herself, The responsibility is not on you. You do not control the minds of others. This girl is clingy, needy and desperate for your attention. This is not a healthy relationship nor independent. Until she seeks professional help, You need to leave the relationship. Allow her to help herself and grow and sometimes people learn when they have no other choice dear.
One cannot love another if they don't love themselves. A relationship tends to fail if one partner depends to much on the other. In this case, You are her way out of avoiding the fact that she needs help. We can care about someone but we can't allow ourselves to be dragged down either as you have a life of your own to live. You could be off wirh someone eles who is fun, happy and isn't a burden to be around. Sounds like you should find her and not allow yourself to be held back. Fact is, There is no nice way to leave a relationship. A part of life is pain, People grow apart and we go our separate ways. Sure, She may be hurt but she will eventually get iver it. Perhaps this is what she needs in order to focus on herself. We can prolong the pain or we can end it. Choice is yours my friend
My boyfriend talks for hours with a girl..she is in of his age and they are 2 years older than me..what should i do?
Talk to him, It's okay to have friends but to ignore your own relationship is wrong.
A relationship needs boundaries, Talking for hours sounds like he may have developed or already have feelings for this person. YOU are his girlfriend abd should be his main priority not this "friend". Talk to him and let him know your not comfortable with him excessively talking to someone and it makes you feel insecure. If he can't respect that abd back off then you need to move on.
İm from turkey,15 years old and male,i'm finishing 9th grade this year.İ just loved a girl and wanted to close to her,i knew he has a boyfriend but i just think like i can wait until they break up (even if it takes next year).İ just stared to talk with her abit,get her number and started to message for 1,5-2 hours for 3 days.She even started to talk with me when im too shy and i cant,i wasnt talking with her friends,iust with her.İ tough my self she understanted it and she loves me too,but than she said she's gonna delete whatsapp because of a error and gonna install if she wants,i was like ok,we can talk at school too,after that day we talked abit,like"how was your exam ..." after few lessons her class has gone to a museum,i couldnt talk at launch.But after that day she just act like she doent evn know me,i was really suprises(i couldnt even talk to her because she was like she dont want to)later that day a 10th grade came near me (hes my friend also but he talks with their girl group alot) and ask me if i love her,that just shocked me because he wasnt supposed to kmow this,i said yes because i tough everyone knows it and theres nothing to do.İm not sure everyone knows it but something makes me blieve it does,after whole 9th grades watched a film,when we are exiting the room(i prefer to exit last) a guy pointed me and made a heart with his hands and laughed at me.İm not trying to still get her,because i learned ehat should i do,But i want to learn things, why did she do that'what was she thinking and why did she selected this way ? also please say other things that you think i should know or you should say to me.Thanks
You are not respecting the fact that she is in a relationship with someone. You may if been smothering her without realizing it. If you want to be her friend then respect her space, Don't text her all the time. This girl has a boyfriend and you are coming between her relationship by being clingy. If you continue, She will end up resenting you for it. Let her come to you abd if she doesn't, Then she is not interested in being your friend.
I have a boyfriend we have been together about a 9 months and he's the first boyfriend that I have felt secure and comfortable with I'm 16 coming 17 and really in love with this boy and we want to take it to the next step but I'm not sure that I'm ready to loose my virginity what shall I do? Shall I wait?
You're not ready
If you were, You wouldn't be debating.
If you feel in anyway you are not ready, Then you should wait. Wait until you are 100% sure and ready. Doing things based on the fact that you been with someone for awhile isn't the right reason.
Yes, You also have my respect for thinking things through also. High Five! ^
Ok, so there's this teacher at school (who I guess I quite like...) and I'm really desperate to know what he thinks of me... Basically,
1. He always compliments me on my intelligence (oh, you're the best student I've ever taught) and sometimes my looks (he told me I looked pretty at a school party for instance).
2. I'm always welcome to go and sit in his classroom (be it after school or at lunch time) and he'll happily sit and chat about pretty much anything. Normally, when people go in his room he keeps the door open but when it's just me and him he always goes and shuts the door...
3. He gave me one of his old books as a present and wrote an inscription in it for me. He told me that he's never done that before and won't be giving away any more to anyone else.
4. He's always really nice to me but also jokes around a lot and is comfortable making fun of me.
5. He's leaving soon and has said I can add him on Facebook (he literally told me exactly how to find him) and that he wants to keep in contact.
I don’t know if I’m thinking too deeply into this, or trying to imagine something that isn’t there so please help!
If he were flirting or attempting to make a relationship out of this then yes, he would need to be reported. My opinion on the Facebook thing is if it were me, I would never add a teacher, boss, manager to my Facebook. Facebook is where people post stuff and its a personal thing that should be kept that way. I am sure he is nice but remember you are his student and should be kept strictly that way. You are better finding friends your own age, A teacher is supposed to be a role model and a mentor not a best friend.
Facebook is YOUR private and personal thing. Keep it that way. Sometimes we need to know when to distance ourselves with people and you have a valid reason.
I am a 15 year old, I've looked everywhere for a summer job. for babysitting or Animal sitting(NOT cats, snakes, spiders, nothing venom)and I need a job to start saving up for something important!!!! please give me a website or a link and I'm from Tucson, Arizona Thank you
At 15, You should be able to get working papers to work at fast food places.
McDonald's, Burger King, Subway etc.
If not, You could try working on a farm?
Many people nowadays don't seem to be looking for babysitters. Doesn't seem to be as popular as it was used to be as many would rather have family watch their children then hire a babysitter.
What about doing chores around the house for an allowance? Mowing lawns? You could even try to make jewelry and sell it?
He is 15 and I'm 16. He's a solid Jehovah Witness and very closely follows doctrine. I really fell in love with him. I would always be thinking about him and hanging out with him and texting, calling, video chat. We live fairly close. I got the courage to tell him I was bi and loved him at the same time, he was shocked and needed some space. I saw some hope in his voice though. I'm 80% sure he's straight, although religion might cause him to hide it if he is. I want to have a strong relationship forever and can't live without him, he means the world to me. I'd take a bullet for him. My teen "love" hormones are also very high. I'm a little confused because he's family.... What should I do? How do I keep him as my BFF, and still have "fun" with him? Any other comments?
Having sexual encounters with family is considered incest, This is a crime.
There is NO hope and there shouldn't be, He is your family.
You need to respect that, Back off and be his cousin or loose him altogether.
Hello, so I am just curious if anyone has found any strategies that work a little better when trying to break up with someone.
I have tried for a year and a half to make my current relationship work mostly because I am too nice and partially because my boyfriend has serious issues with depression and I wanted to help him. But he hasnt been able to get better in fact only worse so it is not time to end it.
Except I'm a chicken. We are both 21 so young and I personally have only broken up with one other person in my whole life. As far as I know I am the first relationship hes had. We dated for two and half years. We have amazing history like the best time of my life with him. So it makes it harder, sad and the worst part is I don't want to hurt him.
So I'm wondering what I can do to soften the blow, we are on a break right now because I told him I need time to think and he is going crazy. Texting me every day, telling me things will be different, begging me not to break up with him, that I am the only person for him, that I am the person he wishes he was and knows he can be again (because we were so similar when we met, but he completely changed when he went into depression). I tell him were just too different to be together and he shouldn't be with anyone right now. But he is telling me all these things that I know he feels and I don't want to hurt him so badly and ruin his opinion of women. Hes begging me right now not to leave him so does anyone have any tips on what to say when I do break up with him to make it less painful? Anything youd like to hear that would make a breakup better?
I know it will hurt regardless, but any tips?
You are clearly not happy from what you have written
Things can't just magically be different, He needs to be willing to help himself. In a period of 2 1/2 years you should hace a pretty good idea of whether ir not to believe he will change.
I suffer from severe depression, I am married. I have been with my husband for more then 5 years abd still today I am seeing counselors and on anti depressants.
My point is, No matter how long or convincing he wants to
Be someone who suffers depression will always be difficult to be around to some degree.
As far as breaking up being hard to do, Someone once told me that sometimes ending it is better then prolonging the pain. Meaning, It hurts more in the end to wait if you know something isn't right.
For you dear, You need to put yourself first. You are entitled to be with someone who can give back as much as you give. We cannot allow ourselves to be sucked into things tgat cause us misery in the end. Your boyfriend may not truly be the right one fir you. Are you happy?.... Do you want to meet someone eles? You decide. From and outsiders view though...you sound ready to move on.
I am a female, 19 years old and I have a male cousin who is 18 years old. My cousin asked me if I have a boyfriend and I told him no and then he asked if I have ever had a boyfriend. I found this a little odd but I think that's just because him and I have never really talked about that sort of thing before and we haven't seen each other in like 3 years. Is this weird at all?
He may of not had ment anything by it and if he did, no! That is incest and it's a crime.
16 yr old Female, UK
My Music teacher is 49. I am 16. I help out in some of his lessons, for younger years. We talk all the time. He tells me funny little stories about his family, and he tells me about his difficult past, personal stuff... but he has always seemed such a closed off man.
He calls me Professor Jane (Jane is not my name, but I don't want to put my name on here), and I call him by just his last name (like smith, rather than Mr. Smith)
I resently left school (year 11) and he wrote a funny limerick about me (teasing me) in my leavers book, and I know he didn't write in anyone elses. He gave me his number, in case I needed it for my exam revision.
We argue, like allot, over all sorts of silly stuff. Like, the other day, we argued about the best Dr from Dr who, and its like real arguing.
He tells me stuff about the school, like stuff about private teachers meeting. I consider him a very good friend.
I suppose this is not a question, more a situation, and I would like your opinions on it?
Thank you
x
As this may all seem innocent, It is inappropriate.
Anything besides strictly student/teacher relationship is inappropriate. To leave his number? To discuss personal issues? No, He has crossed his boundaries.
As a teacher he has authority over his students. When you take on a job, You leave your personal life out of it.
He is a teacher, A role model. This man is not your friend nor is he supposed to be.
You need to report him
Hi, so I'm a 15 year old female. My boyfriend rescently went to another state for family issues. He was there for about a week, so we didn't get to see eachother alot, only talk. When he was there he started txting this girl that goes to our school. They sexted and sent nudes back and forth. We kinda went on a break because he claimed that he lost his feelings for me. When he got back we were still on a break/ broken up. He made out with the girl that he was sending nudes to. This was a couple months ago but I still can't let it go. It bothers me so much, were still together now, but he didn't tell me about all this, I had to find out about it. I have no trust in him whatsoever. I was wondering how I would be able to forget this, and regain my trust in him. Because he has moved on from it, I haven't.. And it really bothers me. Thanks
You shouldn't trust him
He betrayed you. As much as it hurts to hear, To some degree you were cheated on.
A week? No, A week is far to quick to just claim you both took a break. He gave it a title so he can stay in the "safe zone"
Sweetheart, He had feelings for someone eles for awhile. You don't just one day decide you are going to send nude photos to someone randomly unless you have feelings for tgat person. This is not a healthy relationship for you and someone who would betray you in that way certainly isn't someone to be in a relationship with... You are best to find someone eles who appreciates you.
ok so me and my boyfriend love eachother very much but it doesn't seem like he shows it at all and hes still friends with hes ex and doesn't want to stop talking to her and says I don't trust him what should I do??? it feels like im second best
An ex is old baggage that should not be in someone's life unless there are children involved.
While we never have a right to tell someone who they can and cant be friends with, An ex is not going to help your relationship nor your avoidance for drama.
You talk to him, If you must you give him the ultimatum.
I firmly believe apart of moving on is leaving the past the past. Perhaps to some aspect he still has feelings for her he will never truly admit too. Given an ultimatum will show his true fate. For you, Except it or let him learn the hard way
I am really scared that i peed in bed last night its first time in my life after I left wetting bed in the age of 12. I am quite healthy I don't take any medicines I don't drink wine I don't know what to do I am ashamed of telling it to others.actually last night in my dreams I went to my uncle new house but in dreams when I reached there I felt that I need to urinate badly so I used my uncle bathroom and did a lot of pee but it happened in real and I got up immediately and found my bed wet.
Do you drink anything before you go to bed? From now on I would make sure you visit the bathroom before you go to sleep. If thus continues I would schedule an appointment with a doctor.
I rented Bioshock Infinite at Redbox on PS3, and it had 2 games; Bioshock and Bioshock Infinite.
I clicked on Bioshock and it just started installing. Why us there 2 games? I don't have Bioshock, nor is it in my PS3. Only Bioshock Infinite is.
Do you guys think they hacked the game?
P.S. Bioshock is installing right now.
Sounds like the disc was replaced or someone swapped Bioshock Infinite with Bioshock. :-/
im 13 male im sick of masterbating if any girls are intrested plz make a comment.
This is not a dating site
Also as a minor, This is illegal as the age to consent in many places is 16.
Now please consider the dangers of engaging in sexual activity over the internet.....
So I met this guy on a website specifically for writing your own stories, but there are forums where you can chat to other people. They're nice people, honestly.
Anyway, I started talking to him and we have a ton in common. The first night he asked me about my secrets, and thinking I'd never talk to him again, I told him everything. And he listened the whole time and he didn't judge. He cared. And then he told me some of his secrets. And i listened and cared and didn't judge.
A couple days after that, we were talking about relationships and love and he suddenly asked me who i liked. I didn't even think he cared. I tried to dodge his question, because in truth, I had started to like him as more than just a friend. And i know thats weird because it's moving so fast, but i honestly don't care. You love who you love.
So near the end of the bombardment of questions he shot at me, he said, "Obviously it's me." And i said, "How?" and he went on to explain how defensive i was of it and how the answers kind of described him. And then he told me he liked me back,and i was so excited.
Until he said he wanted to keep it a secret and not tell anyone.
Honestly I still want to be with him, even though he wants to keep our relationship a secret.
But there's a problem. See, he lives in England and I live in the States. That kinda complicates things. I just wish he didn't live so far away.
I want advice on how to handle this and if i should even attempt a relationship. Please? Anything would be helpful.
Oh and I'm 15, a female :)
You don't love him, There is a big difference between love and being flattered. This kid you have met through a website.
A person cannot truly know someone by talking to them over a computer. One says a lot by engaging in conversation in person as we appear differently between the two.
Also, This kid lives miles and miles away from you. Realistically, It won't work.
He is a potential online friend, Even so be careful just how much information you give out to strangers.